"When she no longer serves you, she no longer deserves you"

Make of it what you will.

@olayiwola4u, I remember back when I was in school and serving in the media unit of my campus church, so many unbelievable miracles happened to me that I still can't explain up till today. I remember i survived hell week with only N10 in my wallet I was feeding, taking transport to school and church, and yet that N10 still remained in my wallet. It was just unbelievable. Every time I board a bus, someone will either pay for me or the driver will take me to go. Anytime I want to buy food or snacks, someone will either pay for me or the seller will just give me for free.

I remember on Sundays, there used to be scarcity of bus in the bus-stop close to where I live. I will look from my window and see hundreds of people at the bus-stop waiting for bus to come take them to church. What I do is just dress up for church and then pray. I command and summon buses right now to come take me to church in the name of Jesus. Once I arrive at the bus-stop, there will be lots of buses everywhere I remember not having money to carry out my project. I was dead broke with no where to go and no one to ask. I closed my eyes and prayed and cried to God. After the prayer, I declared the week "Goodness week" and asked God to show me his wonders. Throughout that week, I was doing good and helping the people around me in the little way I could, I was also fasting from morning to 2pm.

Alas, on the 7th day exactly, I received a bank alert of the exact amount of money I needed for that project We serve a great God. I also remember when we went for an outreach to the motherless babies home. On our way back, we were in the bus and suddenly I started to speak in tongues for about 2 minutes and then stopped. It didn't take another 5 minutes and we had an accident. The driver lost control of the brake and we were approaching a crowded market bus-stop. As God would have it, he was able to swerve out of the road and hit the wall of a bungalow. By God's grace, we were all saved. No scratch whatsoever. I remember One week after my exams, I was frustrated because my life wasn't going as I wanted, my results weren't pleasing either and I was dead broke and feeling empty, but then I decided to pray not for myself, but for others.

I told God that even though I don't feel satisfied by myself, I was letting go of my personal wants and praying for the needs of others around me. I fasted for one week and was praying rigorously for my family, friends, neighbors, course mates, etc. At the end of the fast, I heard a voice loudly, "I Will HELP YOU" in reference to Isaiah 41:10, and as they say, the rest is history God'd hands have been mighty upon my life since my school days. And to make it surprising, I've not been the best of myself. I've gone astray many times, done so many wrongs, lavishing in sin, but God has been faithful with his promise up until this day. Sometimes, I'm tempted to ask him, Why me? I'm not even worthy to be blessed based on my recent lifestyle, yet he continues blessing me. He is steadfast and his word is yea and amen.

Sometimes, when I tell people these testimonies, they either say I'm lying or just laugh it off. These miracles have strengthened my faith and belief in God, and whenever I go astray, I always have it in mind that there is God up there who's always watching over me and calling me back home. I hope I can shed all my bad habits and lifestyles that have entangled me ever since and just come clean to the table of mercy. God help me through Jesus Christ his son, Amen.

Kenplay:

Can you do me favour? remove your shoe and put in your head as you run out of my thread. This tread is for people who have deep thought to see where am coming from and not shallow mr sabi sabi like you. 1..2..3..YOU CAN RUN OUT NOW

For god's sake, you are a kid. You can't think deeply, you can't manage your emotions, you can't do anything for yourself. How then can you manage the women in your life? Cry cry baby

Kenplay:

You are not mentally sound, trust me when I said it.

No, it's you who is not mentally sound. Trust me, by the look of it, you sit down in the corner of your room and make a definitive statement about someone who's probably thousands of miles away from you. Please see your psychiatrist. You are exhibiting clear signs of psychosis.

Kenplay:
At this stage of my life when am still on the journey of my dream is when I thought am suppose to find a true lover who will be with me and enjoy the fruit our labour in the future but the opposite is the case because ladies am meeting and dating are all after the here and now, even the ones that pretend to love you will start showing you their real character after few moment in the relationship.
Am not poor, I can provide the basics of my life and even for my siblings but I cant call myself rich for now because am still young and building my future.

I dont think I will ever love or be committed to any woman if I become rich and successful in the future because when I needed true love must have past by. I may just have baby mamas, sex mates but not any lady I will ever call a lover. Even if I eventually marry I wont be committed to her because I know she never came into my life when I was still struggling.

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

I'm just here shaking my head at your childishness. You are just making a permanent decision about a temporary matter. And the worst of it all is that you want this your childish rant to get more exposure on the front page Talk of more childishness!

iLegendd:
@Undissputed, you're right. Though, we can't lose our money.

If we do, I dey go Hushpuppy grand mama house go cause trouble. Lol.

Nothing concern the puppy with this issue

The thing is, the sky is falling. This world is coming to an abrupt end...or a restart

In the face of the WireCard AG money laundering issue, WireCard AG (the company responsible for holding Payoneer funds and issuing their debit cards) has filed for insolvency.

What does this mean?

This puts our Payoneer funds at risk. There is the possibility that we'll all lose our Payoneer funds

If you can, please stop all withdrawals to your Payoneer account and follow the news on the WireCard AG issue as it unfolds.

iLegendd

Meditation is key or just hustle hard, find a good damsel and get married

Left at 25 and witnessed the world at a whole new level. Nothing beats experiencing the world your own way, developing the way you want and creating your own worldview.

DeHumbleTboy:


Over 4k friends, male account.
8 yrs old account.
Price 5k.
I will look for A moderator to be a middle man in this. Cuz am not going to release my password for you without payment and I don't think you're going to send money without confirmation. So I will get a popular moderator to receive the money from you. When he confirmed your payment then I will release the password to you before he send me the money. Agreed?

If you need escrow, use vesicash and play it safe.

You didn't put price. How much for the black and brown ones at the top?

I just read a thread about a guy who met a girl he thought was a player/gold digger. He bought a phone and other goodies, expecting love in return but was left disappointed.

All I have to say to @goodysb is that "all is fair in Love and war"

This means that any behavior you get from a guy or a girl in the context of "relationship" is tenable. They have the right to behave however they please to you no matter how you reciprocate.

You can be the best boyfriend in the world, but your girlfriend has the right to behave however she pleases. She owes you nothing.

In the same vein, you can be the best girlfriend ever, respectful, decent and resourceful, but your boyfriend has the exclusive right to behave however he wants towards you.

You either take it or leave it!

When going into any relationship these days, you have to prepare for war! Don't let your significant other to outsmart you. Stay woke. Like in boxing, the ref will tell you "protect yourself at all times."

The only person in the world whose attitude and behavior you can trust and control is yourself.

That is why I'll always tell guys to only date a lady who can take care of herself. Level up guys and stop feeding the leeches. Go for your class.

Finally, @goodysb, the girl in the picture did you no harm because all is fair in love. This is the blunt truth.

Selah.

platorepublic:


Son of a bitch and wasted sperm talking
If I catch you

Go and die. Poverty stricken kiddo.

platorepublic:



You are curse for spilling out rubbish. Idiot

When human beings are talking, a wretched foetus like you is supposed to keep quiet. Go and fix up your life you f00lish impoverished vagabond child.

teekay2cool:


Are you just being foolish on purpose? Your opinions are truly yours but they simply don't make any sense. Yes, we have the rights not to pay due to loan recovery method harassments because even CBN has instructed banks to extend loan repayments for their clients for a year due to the pandemic. So the loan apps doing the harassment are operating illegally by carrying matters into their own hands.

Victims being harassed clearly didn't know the viscous schemes they were falling into else they would have stayed clear. Being a victim myself I have put it upon myself to see the end of every loan app that is operating illegally like Sokoloan and 9credit.

It's a shame engaging with a poor disgusting person as you. Goodbye.

Numero9:
If trustworthy, and shares similar business mindset like me, then why not?

Trustworthy? Yes. But has an employee mindset right from our school days.

teekay2cool:


Get off your self righteous horse or simply shut up. You clearly haven't been in this tight situation that's why you are spitting trash.

People making complaints here are obviously suffering from the effects of the pandemic and the loan companies are not being considerate. Nobody said they are not going to pay but the recovery method is just not acceptable considering the circumstance. And loan companies do not have the right to harass you that way, even worse after settling the loan they still beg you to come and take another loan.

A well-planned organisation should always have a contingency plan incase of crisis and pandemic that's why the likes of Carbon and Quickcheck are still thriving.

Loan companies like Carbon and Quickcheck are very professional and put the condition of their clients into consideration, which is why people rush them. Unlike Sokoloan, 9credit and co... they are just outright scavengers.

The way you are talking sounds like a representative of Sokoloan sef

This is the kind of $tupid mentality many Nigerians have. For you to leave your family and friends and go take a loan from a loan shark, then you should be ready to bear the burden. Even though the world is at a standstil at this time and you are being hassled by the loan companies, that doesn't give some of you the right to say that you wouldn't pay back because the company is harassing you. If you don't want to be harassed, then don't apply for a loan from these loan sharks. Look to your family, friends, church, mosque or local cooperative societies. Just don't be broke and silly at the same time.

Can you employ your sibling in your own business?

For example, an elder brother that is underemployed but has a history of being entitled.

The responses on this thread just shows that Nigerians deserve the thieving leaders they get. Bunch of entitled and ungrateful thieves everywhere. No matter how small an amount a company loans to you, you have the obligation and should have the conscience to pay back. If you don't pay back in time, the loan company has the right to harass you until you pay. Saying that you wouldn't pay because the company isn't polite in communication or the amount is chicken change is a stupid narrative. If millions of Nigerians borrow 5k each and default, where do you think the company will get the funds to help others? This country is cursed!!

If you can't research for a legitimate online business by yourself and seek resources to help you achieve success in the business, then you shouldn't be in business in the first place. GO AND GET A JOB! With millions of Youtube videos and business blogs preaching several online business opportunities, I wonder what hinders you from seeking your own journey. You better help yourself before you are scammed of your capital.

A wise man once said these words:

"If you want to steal from a bank, own a bank"

"Investing in a business where you have no control (e.g buying common/ordinary shares) is the most stupid mistake I've seen with many wannabe investors today"

"The bank's job is to create derivatives of derivatives from your deposit. If you can do the same with your money, then you should have no business with bankers"

"Bank theft and inflation are not the only problems you should be concerned with, when you trust the bank with your money, you'll always have to deal with the fear of loss of money and missing out on big opportunities to utilize your capital"

Price?

Nice ride, too pricey. 2m should do it

I am actually looking for es330 . Can you do 1.5m for this?

Virgo01:

If you are doing that, make sure there is no mention of coronavirus in your book.

I'm not in that niche. Just telling what I observed. Thanks for the heads up though.

ugolinze123:

0075553262 Access bank
Thanks and God bless

Sent. Stay safe.

ugolinze123:
The only 1k I had my hopes on was reduced to #783 with out any notice or even a debit alert...what kind of a country is this for God's sake ..getting it out of the ATM now is a problem. Which kind wahala be this one

This kind thing can pain eh/ send me your aza let me help you top up to 1k

oteneaaron:


You did well OP.

I am working on something too.

Thank you sah.

You can write about "boosting immunity against widespread virus infections"

Exploit that niche as much as you can and you'll see your earnings grow this period.

duality:



Is this an attack on the male folks, or what exactly are you saying here?

I don't know the thread that informed this write up, but your weak attempt in defense for females, shows you were not ready to be objective, balanced and forthright.

You attribute the irresponsibility of a female to the male. where will the change now come from.

The only thing right, is you asking men to up their game and don't pick from the low hanging fruits.

But then you didn't even encourage the ladies to up their game to fit into that acceptable strata you claim your siblings belong to. Soon they will all be low hanging, in some ways.

I agree that the bar for what responsible men should be, has reduced because of the societal decay, no desire for hard work, people now major on the minor things, the sex traps and people who know nothing, bringing children into the world and continuing the cycle.

However, it will be most unfortunate if we build and accept a social construct, in which crass stupidity by the females will be excused and blame put on the male folks.

The good guys may soon find it difficult finding the good ladies you talked about and even vers vasa because it will become weird to be good and have strong principles.

Please, hope you get my point

It's all about context bro. I didn't encourage the ladies to up their game, yes. I was only addressing the guys in this post and not the ladies. Maybe, I'll write one to the ladies in another post.

However, the way I see it, the ladies are already playing their roles. They are already giving love, companionship, and the little assistance they can offer to men in their relationships. The only thing is, today's men have become weaker, irresponsible, and have failed to see the reality of the times we're in. Many of us are now condescending to the lame act of comparing everything about ourselves with women. I think it's high time we start "Manning" up.

stifej:
Write anything on Corona and get ur book blocked!

There's something called discretion. Do your research and see what others are writing about. It is selling hot now.

To all Amazon kdp publishers who have interest and competence in the health niche.

Due to the Corona virus pandemic, the "Disease & Physical Ailments" niche is hot right now. As in, very hot!! All over the world, Grandpas, Grandmas, mummies and daddies are pulling out their credit cards on Kindle and reading everything they can about preventing Corona virus. From wearing facemasks and keeping their hands clean, to boosting immunity and learning about the disease trends.

If you can write on Corona virus and anything related, please go and start researching, writing and publishing now and boost your earnings. Just said I should let you all know that don't know.

Happy earnings.

I made a previous post questioning what today's men bring to relationships, which I think isn't much different as compared to the women. However, some mediocre minds think it fit to say I'm SIMPing or Asslicking. What's my gain? Lol.

So, I want to use this post to share some facts showing that women are as valuable as men in relationships today. I believe every partner, both man and woman, can bring enough value to the relationship if they are right for you.

First off, let's address the issue of money in relationships.

According to a statistics from the Nigerian bureau of statistics, skilled/unskilled employment (labour force participation) for men and women in Nigeria currently stand at 71.4 and 65.1 respectively.

You can see that the difference is waivable, but if you look closely(see attached infographics), the stats shows that in the south, there are currently more "labour force participation" from women than men. The overall difference in participation is owing obviously to the massive non-inclusiveness of women in education and employment schemes in the major part of the north.

So, in the ideal case with all conditions being equal, if you even out the number of working women in the south, you'll conclude that "women hustle pass we men" in Nigeria. That nullifies the assertion that only men can bring money to the table in any given relationship.

Except you are dating a school girl who is still a dependent, the stats shows that many of the dateable Nigerian women out there have income just like you, so what is your advantage as a man? What do you bring to the table apart from money and sex?

Both of you have disposable income, both of you have working sexual organs. Now, what else do you bring to the table as the man?

I'll conclude that:

1) "making money" is no longer an advantage for men in this age and time. Women too have access to the same resources

2) Unlike before, there's no more workplace/employment monopoly for men. Women are fast gaining pace in the labour market

3) If you think every woman is after your money, then you need to reorient yourself and build your self-esteem

4) If you are dating a woman who you feel brings nothing to the table, then it's probably because you are dating at the bottom end of the pile. You probably like them naive, so shut up and enjoy your naivety in peace.

5) Just like we have deadbeat men, we also have deadbeat women as well. People can be lazy, irresponsible and entitled irrespective of their gender.

Women offer much more than sex in relationships.

I remember back in school when my dad had a horrible financial challenge. It was a very shameful experience that almost brought us to our knees. I

was really struggling to feed once a day at school and some of my siblings at home had to go for "compulsory holidays" at my uncles so they could

feed. But you see my mum, that woman stood like an iroko tree and almost single-handedly pulled us through. In fact, she paid the school fees of the three of us who were in the university at the time and made sure we were coping. She did that for almost 2 years without complaining until my dad got back to his feet. She is a woman.

What about my two lovely sisters? They are doing well in their careers and have blossoming relationships. To the best of my knowledge, they are not leeches to the men they are dating/marrying. They are women.

I have a few female friends at work and in my area, and these ladies are not just courteous, they are high-flyers who earn their own money and know how to build and keep quality friendships. I've learned a lot from them in terms of career and interpersonal skills. They are women.

These women are just a small sample of the millions of women who are not just bringing the cookie to the table, but also the financial independence, the class, the confidence and the empathy to nurture their men to become the best version of themselves.

So, if you are a man complaining that women don't bring anything to the table, you are probably drawing from the wrong well or having too much of low hanging fruits. Please upgrade, be more confident in yourself, stop whining and start seeking quality women who can bring enough to the table.

No need to compare yourself with women.

A lot of men today have become too logical in their relationships that it is beginning to border on madness. "I bring this, you must bring this. I have this, you must have this." etc. Please stop comparing yourself to women and be the man for once.

Nature has designed it in such a way that a woman gives her love for financial security and protection, while the man gives his financial capability and resources for emotional and biological security from the love of a woman.

You will agree with me that it is easier to give love that to write a cheque of 1 million naira. But that is how nature has designed it, so let it be.

A woman will always prefer a man who is financially strong, physically strong and sexually competent/compatible, while a man will always prefer a woman who is beautiful, resourceful and well-behaved.

From the above you can see that the bulk of the responsibility is on we the men. If you are poor, weak or sexually incompetent as a man, you will always find it hard to keep a relationship going. No lady will want to date you and even if they do, they will likely cheat on you. That is the reality.

So, as a man you need to hustle and make money, You also need to look after your body to stay fit and healthy. But that is not all, you have to be the man for her; the pacesetter, her guide, her teacher, her instructor. It's difficult, but nature demands it of you and that is the reality.

A woman only has to show up being beautiful and well-behaved and you will see men frolicking around her. In the worst case, even when she is not any of the above, men being men will still show up and have her like that.

So, stop pointing fingers at women when you have failed to be "the man" in your relationships. Stop shaming women while still shopping at the bargain basement. Come off your high horse and have an objective look at the issues plaguing your relationships rather than making baseless conclusions.


On the issue of sex

Compared to women, we are dwarfed in the area of sexual performance. Only a few men can consistently thrust for an hour without losing it. But a woman can do 2 hours and still go about her business. After all, she is not the one expending energy in most cases.

I've heard only a few cases of women complaining about their sexual performance or trying to get drugs to improve it. But you see men, most men today cannot perform their sexual obligations without taking some drug. In fact, there are millions of men in the world today whose sexual organs are no longer functioning.

You can see from the above that with money and sex, today's men do not really have an advantage over women. So again, what do men really bring to the table? Haha. This is a dose of our own medicine.

As a man, money and sex are not enough. They are not the only factors for building successful relationships. We need to stop resting on our oars, stop comparing ourselves to women and start bringing much more to the table.

For the most part, the moral fabric of our women is only a reflection of the moral fabric of we the men. So, we always get what we give. When we start behaving ourselves, the women will have no choice but to behave as well.

There is no need to come online shaming ourselves before we realize that for one bad woman you've dated, there are millions of good ones available out there.

So, because of one bad relationship, you've concluded that you are going to start fuccking and dumping women like waste bags? That says a lot about your maturity and emotional intelligence than the quality of women you are dating.

Stop acting like a weasel. You are not a weakling. You are a man for goodness sake. Don't let one or two experiences affect your decision-making and change the course of your life forever. One heartbreak is not enough for you to start seeking revenge or recourse in the wrong places. Be strong.

There are lots of responsible, independent women out there who can make beautiful faithful partners. However, I must admit that you may have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your queen. But first, dry your tears, stop whining, invest in self-development, act like the man you are meant to be and see what you can make of your relationships.

Now, bring forth your reservations/arguments.



PS: Please don't take this too personal, I'm using these posts to brush up my argumentative writing skills. Thanks.