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Everyon3 has a past.. Some are so ashamed of it that they cover it.
Her past is not something to be proud of hence her attempt at covering it.

Forgive her. Jesus forgave us all our sins..

Although i believe its a story just to garner engagement and not real my advice is real.

SQLmastar:
Please house, I need mature advice. This matter is tearing me apart.

I met this lady (a doctor)
4 months ago. I'm 35, she is 31.
She told me she was a virgin and I believed her because of how she carried herself. I was very happy and rushed everything – introduction, engagement, and marriage plans (I promised my mum that I would get married before December 2026). We were supposed to do our traditional marriage in one week’s time.

Last week, I received an anonymous WhatsApp message. The person sent pregnancy test results showing that my fiancée was pregnant for her ex-boyfriend during her 1-year residency. She had told me about this ex, but said they never had sex, and that was why they broke up.
I confronted her with the message. At first, she denied it and said it was fake, someone trying to spoil her name. But when I said I would call her best friend to confirm, she broke down and confessed the truth.
She admitted she got pregnant for the ex, aborted it immediately, and promised herself never to have premarital sex again. She said she was ashamed and didn’t want to lose me, so she lied about being a virgin.
Now I’m confused and heartbroken. I love her but the lies are too much.
On the other hand, I have already invited many people – including the chief of my village and my manager at work. Cancelling now will bring serious shame and talk in my village and workplace.

Please Nairalanders, what should I do? Should I go ahead with the marriage or cancel everything? Has anyone been in this kind of situation?

I need honest advice.

They use kerosene and even sniper to preserve their beans. Sorry statw of affairs but its what it is.

You can choose to: discard the beans, return the beans or boil the beans and pour the water away twice before eating. My recommendation is ro discard.

quote author=DeclanR post=138221432]https://www.nairaland.com/8603607/beans-smelling-like-theres-kerosene

Further to the above link, I decided against eating same beans yesterday.

I was in a rush trying to make that post yesterday, as a result, some details were left out.
— I bought two Mudus of Milk Beans. I had earlier bought two Mudus of Honey beans, but when I got home to cook the honey beans, I noticed it had no taste at all. The Beans is so Neat and clean, but no taste.
— As a result of its lack of taste, I decided to buy the milk beans. Believe me I hadn't heard of these names(Honey and milk beans) until Monday last week.
— While I was picking and winnowing the Milk Beans yesterday, there was no smell. But as soon as I began to cook it, the smell began to erupt. I washed it with cold water four times before parboiling. After Parboiling, i still washed it like five times, still the smell didn't go away..
— I ran to a male neighbour of mine and ask him if he had had such experience with beans, he said no. He advised I threw them away.
I ran to an old woman within the neighbourhood, she said I could eat it. She even tested it. But I said I won't eat.
I threw the parboiled ones away.
I returned the remaining ones to the woman who sold to me. She didn't give me back my money and I didn't want to start dragging with her. Though she promised to do so later.

Please do not care less about your Health. Prevention is better than Cure.

A lot of food items have been adulterated in today's market. Everybody wants to make quick quick money at the expense of the other. Eating banana and plantain now is also risky, even Fufu(Akpu), Palm oil.

The situation is really bad.[/quote]

I pray he is fired

Piggy vest or sta bic mutua funds

PinkStarsFallIn:
I wish to Lock 6M naira to compound for atleast 5years. Should I do piggy vest or what?

I am.laughing hard because they are both church members of my church. They both testified that the Pastor of our church prayed them into their current positions. How does Kalu think Otti will be removed? Otti the best Governor?
My lay man advice is for Kalu to wait after Otti is done with 8 years

Hi
Did you eventually work there, How much is their salary range? How is the culture?

You have a choice.

The worst thing in a family is a religious mismatch.

adaperry25:
Yes I know it's good to get a partner who aligns with same faith but aside that one has to look at personality of whom you're marrying.

She's Catholic and I'm not and she's a good lady. The condition she gave was that she can't leave her faith.

I've searched and she's the only one that ticked all the boxes aside the faith issue.

I got no choice

Where possible, carry out restitution.
The most important thing is to confess to God who forgives all your sin and remember them no more. You should forget them too.

Restitution is important where possible..

ebubeson:
When someone accepts Jesus and repent of their sins, God forgives them totally and writes their names in the book of life, and they will make heaven.

Now, if as time goes on, the HolySpirit begins to prick, convict and tell the person to uncover a dirty secret: such secret may be: secret murder of a family member or neighbour or friend, paternity fraud, very valuable items stolen, false accusation against an innocent person that led to the person jailed, adultery done against a very innocent spouse, rituals done against former girlfriend, a very precious destiny tied with diabolism e.t.c, the person has to go and make confession to the offended if alive or a close person to the offended.

Any form of disobedience against the HolySpirit on this matter will lead to the person's name removed from the book of life.

Before a sensitive confession is carried out, please seek mature believers, pastors, church leaders to guide you with counsel and prayers, and God will see you through in Jesus name. Amen.

Marry someone that genuinely loves and cares for you. Together you can weather the storm. Most people started at the bottom but are doing great today.

Let someone semd you malaria drug immediately through Fedex

They dont know how to treatt malaria.

yad2eidi:
Hello guys, I just arrived USA today and I am having serious malaria.
It showed up suddenly .
Please how do I treat it here. All the pharmacies I visited said they don't sell malaria drugs.
I need your help urgently please.

What sort of parents are these? They quickly lawyered up and put out a statement. They should train their child at home

The school should expel the student and a case shouod be made at the police station

Are you using any tube/ gel for spot remova or skin lightening?

If yes drop the name. It couod be respondible for the stooling.

Princejebs:
Good morning everyone. It's been long I posted on Nairaland. I'm doing it today because of my health. I was looking for solution for my health online until I remembered how Nairaland used to be helpful during the days of my Ucler which I'm grateful now.

However, I have stooling problem I have been battling. I go to toilets at least 3 times a day, this is 6 weeks now since I have been stooling and it all started from when I treated malaria and typhoid.

Ever since I finished of Malaria and typhoid treatment, I noticed this unsual toilet and I was thinking it was going to stop in the beginning. I had to get some drugs myself, the one I'm used to anytime I noticed I have unusual toilet visit, I used the medicine for 3 days and it didn't stop. So I took myself to a big pharmacy, I complained to them and showed them the medicine I used and they were surprised it didn't work. They gave me another one, I went home to use it and I didn't see any improvement at all and then I decided to stop and went to General hospital.

I had card with them and went to see the doctor, I narrated everything to him and how I have been eating swallow food just to make stooling stop, there was a day I bought bread, ate half of it without drinking water, I added garri and drink it and yet the stooling was as if I never even ate something strong. I complained to him and he prescribed me some medicine to go and use. I went to outside pharmacy to get them and after 5 days the medicine was left for 2 days and no improvement and I was frustrated.

I went back to the hospital and I complained, I felt like crying. The doctor I met directed me to go and do stool test, I went to their lab made payment and I was told to wait for 3 day for my result. I went back to lab to get my result and show it to the doctor and the result shows I don't have anything, no bacterial, no parasite, nothing was found on my stool and I became even frustrated.

The doctor asked me if I have done injection before and I said No, he then wrote me some injection and medicine, he said I'm to be injected on my hand for 3 days and then I can continue with the medicine after. I was directed to the nurse, they gave me the injection for 3 days but yet there wasn't any signs of improvement. I was angry and went home to focus on the rest of the medicine and see what is going to happen but my mind wouldn't let me as I go to toilet 3 times a day on average and is watery, there was a day I stool 7 times in 24 hours.


I stood up one night and visited the pharmacy I went to earlier and explained everything to the owner of the pharmacy and he was surprised as well. He collected my blood sample and did some test and he said I don't have dihorea or any complications, he said that my intestine flora has been washed away due to abuse of Anti biotics, that my small intestine isn't doing it's job properly.

He said I needed to stop taking all anti biotics completely. He gave me a Probiotic and Bioflor to be using that it's going to restore my system back to normal. But I have not seen improvement my people, I'm frustrated, I don't have headache, I don't feel anything, I don't feel stomach pain, just watering stool is my problem.

What should I do please.

My stomach wouldn't stop making noises, grumbling anytime I drink water or eat food.

I don't mind this making FP

I need moderators help.

Stay in a quiet dark room. Turn off the light, drop your phone out your legs in a bowl of cold water and close your eyes. You can also std under the shower if possible before lying down .
Always works for me but I end up throwing up ech time I have a migraine before I feel relief.b
If it is recurrent, go to a hospital

A terrible narc**ssistic man, and embodiment of omorogwoarimi. May justice prevail and your ex wife gets her children back

1million is more than enough to marry. Court is less than 50k wear the clothes you already have.
For traditional, do parlour wedding.
For church go for blessing on a weekday with rented outfits.
Marriage is now hard, we just like to show off.
Give your wife 500k. Pay rent and take care ofnother bills 500k then start yiur business with 3million
Avoid any advice here that invites you to contact them privately.
Look around tour location and find a need or an area that you are passionate about. Start with 1million then gradually add the balance 2M as the business grows.
Good luck

You love her that's why you are seeking a solution. For this singular reason. I will help you make her look younger again.
1. She has to go for facials. Once monthly.
2. Buy her earth creations 21 again and their collagen supplement.
3. Buy lots of fruits, encourage he to eat lots of fruits.
4. Buy Dr Rashel' niacinamide and face cream for her. I recommend this because it's cheap. If you have money go get her dang products or buy either Susan chanel or Jenny's glow facial products. ( I use Jenny glow and I look 20nyeqrs younger. Her products are awesome. Just make sure it is used according to the instructions on tbe products. Those that have complained about it, used it wrongly)
Consistency is key!
5. She should always sleep for at least 8 hours and drink lots of water daily.
That said, God bless you . A man that seeks for solution for his woman is a keeper. Some men complain that their wife is fat instead of them to start going to the gym with her. Encouraging her and buying her the supplements she needs to control her weight.
Goodluck!



quote author=Vikto17 post=137284429] Hello dear Nairalanders ,,, l am 32yrs and my fiancee is 30yrs... very loving ,, sweet and excellent soul... she tick everything l need in a woman and l will be getting married to her next year by God grace...

My major concern is that she looks older than her actual age,,, and this is her face alone... l have seen girls her senior who looks younger...
we are not poor .. she eats well and have all the necessary things a woman will want...
please what recommendation should one take to look their age and younger too,,, thanks[/quote]

This is her hairdresser. He is called early mormor on Instagram. He is hairdresser to celebrities like real warri pikin. He ecwn calls Regina Mama.na lie.

Leave. You cannot straighten a dry fish, it will break. Leave to live(be happy)

Search for STEM NGOs or go abroad. Ehy are you searching for a lecturing job hen you can be more??,
quote author=Analog95 post=136516251]Hello guys, I humbly need you all view on this. All my life I have always wanted to be a lecturer, so early this year (January, 2025), I finally got awarded PhD in Applied Mathematics. Though I had my first degree in Mechanical Engineering, masters in Applied Mathematics with specialization in fluid dynamics and PhD in Applied Mathematics with specialization in fluid dynamics as well. During my study, I run a tutorial centre and making cool money from teaching mechanical engineering and mathematics students. So after obtaining my PhD I started sending out my CV to people I know in institutions, though most are of the opinion that I shouldn't have switched from mechanical engineering to mathematics that it will give me problem.

Around January 2025, immediately after my PhD oral examination, my supervisor linked me up with the rector of a polytechnic to go submit my CV to him, which I did, and according to the rector, he told me that it is not matter of CV for now, because most people that he employed as assistant lecturers, they really don't have much to pay them and the governor of the state has promised that he will do recruitment for the polytechnic around March because of accreditation processes, so during that recruitment, I can be employed. Fast forward to March, the accreditation went on and I wasn't informed if the recruitment was later done (you know all this underground stuffs), so I later got my mind off the institution and look at for another university in other states which I was promised also that once there is directives to start recruitment, I will be employed.

On the 3rd of july, 2025, I got a call from someone from the polytechnic, telling me to come to the personnel department as soon as possible with my credentials, when I got there, he collected photocopies of my credentials and on sighting the mechanical engineering as first degree, he said which department do I want and I said mathematics and he said why not mechanical engineering where I had my foundation, so I said I preferred mathematics because since I switched to mathematics, I have published 11 academic journal with 7 of them Scopus rated in Q1, and I have also attended 7 seminars with certificate to back them up, and I have also been a member of the Nigerian mathematical society (NMS), so he said they will get back to me.

Since then I haven't heard anything. After a month, I made a call to the person that I submitted my credentials to at the personnel department, that I haven't heard from them and he said "sebi we are the one that called you ourself, the process is ongoing and once we are ready, we will definitely call you back". But I haven't heard from them still. It is almost two months now since I submitted the credentials and I am already losing faith.

I am just confused, could my changing from engineering to science be hindering me from getting a lecturing position? If it is, does it make sense to go back and obtain another master and PhD in mechanical engineering and just forget about the mathematics? Or just forget about lecturing and focus on my tutorials, meanwhile I make more than 500k monthly from the tutorial because it is in school area, but I don't want to be a tutor forever, not even with a PhD.[/quote]

This is NOT true. Purchased rice for 68k. There are brands for 65 and 70

My suggestion is to leave your city and relocate to another city. Relocate to either Jos, Calabar, Uyo, Keffi, Auchi, Ilorin or Ibadan. Start a business with peace of mind. For African countries, most are oversaturated. Ghana is oversaturated with Nigerians. Rwanda has very strict laws so you can't just move there.Other west African countries are not really cool. You may want to try Namibia, Mauritius or Eswatini. Avoid SA. All the best

Is is NOT a surgery!!! She had fillers injected into her masseter muscles reducing it. She also had it injected inside her cheek and into her chin elongating it. The filler fade over a year at most 18 months then her face goes back to the way it was. To maintain this look she has to keep paying about 4 -6k dollars annually for fillers. That said, Dr Bea is NOT a doctor. She is a beauty therapist that learned injections of fillers. There are dozensnof them out there.

Is is NOT a surgery!!! She had fillers injected into her masseter muscles reducing it. She also had it injected inside her check and into her chin elongating it. The filler fade over a year at most 18 months then her face goes back to the way it was. To maintain this look she has to keep paying about 4 -6k dollars annually for fillers. That said, Dr Bea is NOT a doctor. She is a beauty therapist that learned injections of fillers. There are dozensnof them out there.

Dear poster,
Your tone was rude and unprofessional. As someone that has managed people for many years, here are a few tips
Dont slam the door when leaving any employment- rather than send an email with that tone, you could have requested for a meeting amd spoken with the person in charge first before an email.
Secondly, you shouldn't have stopped coming to work , from all indication, you instigated others not to show up. Always secure approval before you absent yourself from work.
Thirdly, you were asked to return company property, you refused saying that unless you are paid. All you should have done was resign professionally and send their ID back.
The court will not support you because fo your unprofessional behaviour and unprofessional exit. You didn't follow the laid down process of exiting.

Finally you made it clear that there were no clients. This is a new and struggling business. You had the option of opting out when you discovered this or to exercise patience with your boss knowing the condition of things.
The 20k deduction may be for the ID card that you refused to return.

My advice to you and all young professionals is to be humble, learn how to communicate clearly and professionally. You must also learn that the workplace is not uni where aluta continually Victoria asata abi how una dey phrase am.
Never ever bash your employer on social media unless where clearly established that you were harassed, badly treated etc. Even a that, a court is the best option. Nobody will read this writeup and hire you.

Finally change your attitude. From the writeup alone, I can defuce that you are a hot headed young man. To move ahead,yoh must be calming down.

Dear poster,
Your tone was rude and unprofessional. As someone that has managed people for many years, here are a few tips
Dont slam the door when leaving any employment- rather than send an email with that tone, you could have requested for a meeting amd spoken with the person in charge first before an email.
Secondly, you shouldn't have stopped coming to work , from all indication, you instigated others not to show up. Always secure approval before you absent yourself from work.
Thirdly, you were asked to return company property, you refused saying that unless you are paid. All you should have done was resign professionally and send their ID back.
The court will not support you because o your unprofessional behaviour and unprofessional exit.

Finally you made it clear that there were no clients. This is a new and struggling business. You had the option of opting out when you discovered this or to exercise patience with your boss knowing the condition if things.
The 20k deduction may be for the ID card that you refused to return.

My advice to you and all young professionals is to be humble, learn how to communicate clearly and professionally. Yoh must also learn that the workplace is not uni where aluta continually Victoria asata abi how una dey phrase am.
Never ever bash your employrt on social media unless where clearly established that you wer harassed, badly treated etc. Even a that, a court is the best option. Nobody will read this writeup and hire you.

Finally change your attitude. From the writeup alone, I can defuce that you are a hot headed young man. To move ahead,yoh must be calming down.

Very rude poster by the way. Almost all your responses are rude. If yoh know so much, why ask for ideas?

I will ignore your rudeness- Find a busy junction amd start selling puffpuff/Akara_fried yam/fried potatoe/gosh and chicken. You will make more than that 20k bug you will work very hard.
What is abundant in your village of area and scarce elsewhere? Find that thing and start selling but online and offline. Create a digital presence - things like some.spwciws of river fish or seafood. Send to Abuja, Lagos etc. Contact big restaurants online and ask to be their supplier.
Finally search for financial Jennifer online and follow her Investment advice, you will be ok

Could be AS incompatibility. People stay friends after breaking up. She should easily have said "my friend without adding ex

Poster this is normal for ladies with fibroid, endometriosis or Adenomyosis
All of these are non cancerous growth in the uterus. Pls take her for abdominal scan in a lab and take the result to a teaching hospital in general hospital for her to see a gynaecologist.