OK, ENOUGH IS EUNOUGH. THIS IS THE WAY IT IS, When you are out of where you are born expect impossibilities. even in nigeria it could happen. am aguy gifted with broad shoulders naturaly evenwithout gyming. when i was in nigeria no one (girls) adored me, they look out for people that are veryrich, am an orphan working and schooling at the same time having little to live flambouyantly so i got rejected  easily but i still won some.lol.  here in europe everyone has a reason for checking out someone eigther for quick sex o for long term date especially the white(mature) so brother cary your shoulder high but be a good guy.

Only in Nigeria this is why they are still the world most corrupt people.  you want all these things, well best of luck. guys be proud of who you are. i remembered when i was still in nigeria working and studing , all the girls go for the guys wth cars but never cared how it came about,  today i thank God i ve all that i need a daughter a house good job that pays high, yet i dont feel different am still who i am back then. come to think of it only girls from poor backgroung seek all these things. here in europe you hardly know who is rich or not cos you are not feeding anyone and even if once he or she is eighteen go to hell they will tell you. Easy my people you go nowhere with all these things. High status is good but should be built sincerely then humility you should embrace, I love Nigeria and i miss her cos where a child is born is very important in the child's life.

well that man in his mind is right but to me you never can tell. i travelled without documents but today am a permanent resident in europe.if you have your way travel but be sure you request for documents before you face the life in europe. some of these guys dont care for documents only how to make money thats all. i remember a girl i saw in my office in italy(amusement center) gaming hall parma. ,i took her to school and paid for her studies i told my boss about her and my boss told me as soon as she is done with the school he will give her a job. but this girl preffers quick money ,prostitution and drug selling. i use to give her 50 euro every week but she calls a mugu. today hre street boyfriend is in prison for drug reasons and soon i tell you she will be in too. My advise is when you come seek for papers first and uou will get it then goand integrate in schoollater seek a job.i did that and it worked for me. my italian girl girlfriend madea baby with me and we are fine. once an illegal immigrant is a permanent resident. use your head brethren. stop drug and 419 credit card runs and prostitition.

TEXASGIRL:

We all make bad decisions at times, it is how we learn as humans. Not a reason for a suicide attempt. Life is to precious to end it over small money. You are in debt but you an get yourself out, maybe you can get a second job or cut out all expenses to pay the bank off? There are always options you just have to find the right one for you. If you can't stop gambling then you need to get help for that as it can be an addiction, I thin they have support groups for those things in Italy?  You should turn to someone you trust in your family & tell them what is going on with you. You need support & a person you an be accountable to. Above all I think you need to pray for God to lift up your sadness & help you correct your mistakes. Remember the poem called Footsteps in the Sand? It is when we are at our lowest that God will lift us up and make a way for us.

TRHANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR WORDS BUT YOU ARE MISSING ON WAYS ON HOW I CAN STOP, A DIEING MAN NEEDS MEDICINE AND DOCTOR. SOME PEOPLE ARE TELLING HIM TO LIVE WITHOUT ANY ANY MEDICATION.

thanks texasgirl, your the only one that said something reasonable, ok right now can you tell me ways that can make ma make a you turnm fromthese acts.

SOMEONE THAT NEED HELP AND YOU ARE TELLING HIM TO HELP HIMSELF, IF I CAN HELP MYSELF WHY THEN DO I VE TO ASK FOR A HELPER. MAYBE NOW I VE AN ADDICTION AND ALL I NEED IS YOUR WORDS. DOES THAT MEAN WE VE NO PHSYCOLOGIST IN NAIRA LAND. ME AM A BUSINESS ADMISTRATOR, GRADUATED FROM LAGOS STATE UNIVERSITY. STOP TELLING ME TO HELP MY SELF. IF YOU VE NOTHING TO TELL ME ON HOW I SHOULD STOP IN A MIND CHANGING WAYS DONT PUT YOU HURTING WORDS PLEASE.

Am a 34 years old guy from Nigeria (IGBO), i came to Italy on 28 day of February 2008.I SOLD MY FATHER'S property to make this journey from Nigeria-Niger-Libya-Italy(ALL EXPENSE RETURNED AFTER 3 MONTHS OF MY WORKING ).I studied to integrate for one year and permanent resident in Italy.After one year i got a job of £24,000 ANNUALLY (£2,000 monthly). But now DEPRESSED, DEING INSIDE MY SPIRIT , indebted(my credit is crashed-£10,000 debt with the bank) and totally isolated myself from family and friends. PLEASE CAN the house help me in the sense that , i need to stop playing bet, gambling and other silly activities i got myself into which resulted to my poor and miserable life.ways to desist from these acts is the help i need. please its important to me cos am going down each day.WHEN I SAID DIEING I MEAN SPIRITUALLY , MENTALLY  ETC. For two years in Europe i ve nothing to account on. i even tried sucide twice trying to stop yet i could not. I STILL VE MY JOB BUT I GO BETTING IN GAMING HALLS  AND PLAYING IN SLOT MACHINES IN THE BARS,  SLOT machine HALLS AS SOON AS I RECIEVE SALARY. ALL VANISH IN 2 TO 3 DAYS. MY PROBLEM STARTED WHEN I SENT SOME MONEY TO MY FAMILY at HOME TO START MAKING A HOUSE  4 ME IN MY FATHER'S COMPOUND AND THEY TOLD ME COCK AND BULL STORY. THEY TOLD ME THAT GOD SAID THAT I SHOULD NOT BUILD HOUSE IN THAT COMPOUND then i stoped sending money again. I NEED NO GIRL cos all in italy sory to say are money MONGERS(u all know our girls story in italy)  and the white ladies i dont need anymore COS OF FEAR. i prefer to stay lonely even though  is the major reason why i indulged in this unwise acts. I BELIEVE I CAN GET HELP FROM THE HOUSE,

well everybody works for himself, why should we raise words against each other. home /abroad are the same, am living in Italy working but the truth is there is no place like where a child was born. it goes to no place like home. i was working with oceanic bank  before i left to Italy and even now am into the same job but the pay is 1000 times better. oceanic bank paid me 45,000 monthly but the same job pays me here 400,000 monthly with minimum hours but greater risk,. but i wish to be back where my prophecy was made , where the child was born. but home i love and hate . i need God's help.

GOD BLESS EVERY NIGERIAN PERSON. WELL THIS IS THE TRUTH, UNDERSTANDING DEPENDS ON INDIVIDUALS , I CAME TO ITALY AS AN ILLEGAL IMMIGRANT BUT I SEEKED FOR AN ASYLUM AND I AM RESIDENTS IN ITALY REGULA RY. LIFE IS THE WAY ONE WISHES TO LIVE IT. FOCUS IS THE ANSWER. THEY NEVER GAVE ME VISA AND I TRIED THE LIBYA ITALY THING AND IT WORKED FOR ME. NOW I HAVE A WOMAN AND A BABY GIRL TO CALL MY FAMILY ABOVE ALL I AM WORKING IN A TOURISM SECTOR AND PLANNING TO DEVELOP MYSELF ACADEMICALLY. AM AN IGBO MAN IN CASE ONE DOES NOT KNOW. EUROPEAN LIFE STARTS FROM THE LANGUAGE OF THE COUNTRY YOU ARE. YOU CANT AVOID IT IF YOU WANT TO LIVE A NORMAL LIVE IN THE SAID COUNTRY- INTEGRATE AND OPPORTUNITY WILL COM. I DO LIKE TO SAY MORE SO THAT PEOPLE WILL HAVE CLEAR KNOWLEDGE OF STAYING IN EUROPE.