₦airaland Forum

stilldoingokay:
see they're faces

WhiteSoup:
APC government is an disgrace to sensibilities. How can an APC governor do this and say change?

omenkaLives:
Prof. Osinbajo.

Spear right through the hearts of Ataché by Force LiePob miscreants.

farano:
Me trying to figure out if I actually like you or do I like the attention and validation you give me . .

Solonzo17:
can i be ur friend?

veekid:
Lemme also join her in celebration! Weed is good for the body mehn

peckhamboi:
I will not even bother to watch this mismatch of a fight.

Jagaban will win by knockout in Round one.

Anthony Joshua would have given Jagaban a tougher fight.

abdul4new:
which millitant again there is no millitant in the north except terrorists... just thank God your head is still there cos those terrorist and beheading are like 5 & 6.....

bencarson007:
. Thanks bro. I know its my turn to correct their the mistakes so I have learnt to tell any lady I am involved with to never lift a finger on my kids... But give room to love in bringing up my kids... I don't want them to see what I saw... Aside from destroyying the bonds they are supposed to build with u, it damages their self esteem inside and outside the house. Watch closely and u will see that smart kids have their parents backing 100%...they act the way they do cos they know that papa and mama has got their backs... That's how I want my kids - to my unborn sons and daughters... Papa loves you

Bobby808:
Allow the bygone go. Better forgive him so that he will last long. You dey hear?

Bobby808:
I have read many posts from this thread including this one. Am just wondering the way most people, especially this era reasons. I mean the way the todey Nigerian thinks. I am a grand father. From records, no woman has successfully managed the home alone. Both mother and father does it together but when the father dies prematurelly, the mother and the children most time do not do well because, it is very difficult to manage the children without the father. Most children do not obay the commands and instructions of the mothers without the support of the father hence the father is described as always shouting. If the father do not shout especually the today jet age where children are very arrogant, desrespectful etc. All these children who posting and are sounding insultive to father and those who prefers to talk down, those children who misbehaves because the father is aged should have a change of mind. The bible describe the mother as a helper. Helper means to assist the father. Therefore, the father is expected to take the lead and to lead involved using all manners of methods to ensure that at the end, a good reault is achieved.
My second son, now a millitary officer in defence headquarters was living with his mother, while I was transferred to PH to work. My wife was always complaining so much so that I was forced to remove him, take him and lived with me until he was able to finish school (university)and now an officer. So if you are still a young man under parents, please, always respect your father when he is old. Do not say he was using force on me and now that I am on my own, to hell with him.

chukzyfcbb:
How many of us have had our fathers look us in the eye and say
- I love you or
- You have done well
- You make me proud

I can guess the answer, few. In fact it could be 1 person in 50. That you have a Dad in the house doesn't mean he is fathering you.

chukzyfcbb:
How many of us have had our fathers look us in the eye and say
- I love you or
- You have done well
- You make me proud

I can guess the answer, few. In fact it could be 1 person in 50. That you have a Dad in the house doesn't mean he is fathering you.

fabiano09:
I told myself that it is very important that I quote you and tell you how stupid you are,you are part of the problem why Africa will continue to be backward,I doubt you are educated,how can u say paying school fees is more important than kisses and hugs? u have a big problem and I pray u realize it early to save you from despair.

tensazangetsu20:
As for me, my own dad can go to hell. Once I get enough money am convincing my mom to get a divorce and am disowning him and his part of the family. Very useless hopeless people.

obikirinoni:
Guys please read carefully


WHY FATHERS ARE NEGLECTED IN OLD AGE.
-ITS A MUST READ FOR ALL FATHERS! (and mothers too!)

Take ur time and read through.

1. In the lifetime of most Nigerian family settings, there are 3 Dispensations of Power.

2. The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family (father, mother, children) where power indisputably rest with the father.

3. The 2nd is after the kids have grown & started working when the power shifts to the mother.

4. The 3rd is when the kids move out of the family house or start their own families when the power moves to the children.

6. We'll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father. He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House. The boss.

7. During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders & determines what does or does not happen.

8. The father often mettes out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him.

10. The father is the provider for the family & everyone is aware of that fact with all attendant consequences.

11. Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The children have finished school and have started working. Power shifts to the mother.

12. When the children start earning their own money, for some reason, it's their mothers they decide to look after. They are closer to her.

13. While the father was in charge, he was busy with the business of providing. He didn't have much time to be a friend to the children.

14. They spent more time with their mum and invariably grew closer to her. They also see their mum as co-victims of the father's tyranny.

15. The mother takes centre stage at this point. She is the first to know what's happening with the children & she has advantage.

16. Should any of the daughters give birth, she is the one that goes for babysitting and the children spoil her with gifts.

17. At this stage, the father is wishing for some bond with the children like they have with their mother but that boat has sailed.

18. Because the mother doesn't rely much on the father for her needs at this stage, she is less likely to tolerate his lordship. Friction.

19. Then the 3rd and last dispensation. Power has shifted to the children. They are self-sufficient, live on their own & have own families.

20. More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between father & mother, the children side the mother.Years of joint-victimhood at play

21. Children have been known to come to the house to warn their father not to 'disturb' their mother. Next thing, extended visitations.

22. Woe betide the father if his finances are precarious at this stage. You will be humble by force. The gang-up is real.

23. This causes most men to fall ill & develop different complications. By the time the forces are arrayed against you, you will think well.

24. Stroke, Hypertension, High-Blood Pressure. The man has a large family but no relationship with them in later life. Troubling thought.

25. Moral, dear men, while the power lies with us, let us wield it with posterity in mind. It won't be with us forever.

26. With the way you are treating your wife now, how will she treat you when power shifts to her?

27. What relationship do you have with your family? Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider?

28. Remember, the children always side with their mother. Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments of family strife

30. Invest wisely for the future so that you won't have to beg to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone.

ADVISE TO CHILDREN:- IT IS NOT GOOD TO ABANDON YOUR FATHER WHO DENIED HIMSELF TO GET YOU PREPARED FOR LIFE & WHO SACRIFICIALLY SOWED TO MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE. HONOUR YOUR BOTH PARENTS AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM IN THEIR OLD AGE. THAT IS HOW YOU TOO WILL SOW INTO YOUR FUTURE. DONT LET NEGLECTING YOUR FATHER (PARENTS ) BE A CURSE ON YOU INTO YOUR FUTURE.

ADVISE TO MOTHERS :- DON'T INCITE YOUR CHILDREN AGAINST THEIR FATHER.

*Parenthood is not easy despite its joys. There is no manual on how it works. May God help us

Afonjanightmare:
Mehn, the pillar of any home is the father, only stupid children would hate their DAD, my DAD trained us well, he had and still has an iron fist, barks orders, yells at everyone at home including the tables and chairs, do we love him?? Yes.

vecman22:
Ipobs are just donkeys.... Smh

Adebowale89:
talking about the uncontentious region then hale Igbo


give them President, vice president, senate and deputy president and speaker of reps, they will still scream. oliver twist sets of people


what has the south east governors achieve since 1999

what effect does ekeweramadu to his constituency talkless of Enugu as a whole


will Igbo president steal Nigeria revenue to developed the whole of east alone if they produce president

there are many qsts begging for an answer

if osibanjo became president eventually tomorrow what would be his effect in my life. what effect does obj add to a common Yoruba man when he was president?


despite hausas producing the highest leader of this country, why are they still having the highest number of poverty

is high time, we sit and fight for good leadership rather than this big baby cry cry

MEILYN:
I wish youths from other parts of Nigeria could join this protest. Let's protest to get our country back. If they want to kill us, let them kill all of us.

izzou:


Make them free this man naa.

Our judiciary no dey try at all

ciscoxx:
Throw d car inside water..

brainpulse:
And he bought just a flat worth 250 million naira. Ruled his state for 8 years yet couldnt leave there. Trekking home in Ikoyi and his state men rotten in the village. This is how the Ibos have been fooled from generation to generation by their corruptible leaders.

Surely Obi is greater than Ojuku, Nnamdi cownu, Asikiwere.

jagaban17:
B931EPPCQTQQAZ-2525084 . Couldn't sleep.

Christane:
this woman might be 100 percent certain of what she is saying bt many may tink dat she z mentally unstable to knw al dz ...she might get d fact 4rm a babalawo,a pastor,bishop,prophet or prophetess ...d fact remain dat she might be right nd she z trying to save her son ..nd d country ...i support ur movement ma ...#STOP THE OCCULTIC WEDDING