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cococandy:
Na you dey fight yourself.

You said men are not supposed to be nurturing.
In the same paragraph, you’re lamenting how your kids will abandon you in old age. You have no one but yourself to blame for that.

Be “masculine” all you want in exchange for a lonely old age. Your choice.

But I’ll have you know that real masculine men dote on and nurture their children as well. And in exchange, they don’t have to worry about being abandoned in old age.

I always advise men to prepare financially for their old age.. DON'T spend all your money being the 'father of the century', keep some money aside and take care of urself too.

Have u ever wondered where the money ur wife earners that she doesn't contribute to the house upkeep goes to?


Men should think..... Children may or may not take care of their parents... YES PARENTS (not just the dad) for so many reasons, including they not even having enough for their own needs.

cococandy:
Oh I wonder why. Probably has nothing to do with them thinking they don’t have a nurturing role in the family.

Women should also take up more FINANCIAL responsibilities in the home to enable the men have more time for the 'nurturing role'.

For starters... Women are entitled to up to 1yr maternity leave, while most men get 2days to 2weeks in most cases.. So it's logical to think the child will bond more with the mother.

Secondly, while the woman is on maternity leave, guess who takes up more work load to meet the increased financial responsibilities in the house.... YES... MEN DO.

So how do u really expect a man working more hrs n taking second jobs to meet up wt financial responsibilities to have AS MUCH TIME as the woman has with the child?

If the roles were reversed, will women also provide without complaining n telling the whole world they are feeding the man's generation?

NOTE: I don't support deadbeat dad's, but u can't compare the time a woman spends wt a child with that of the man.

Tallesty1:
I’ll cook for my family because my dad did for us and we loved it, honestly, we even craved his meals. But the moment you start telling me, “It’s 2025, so you should be cooking,” that’s where the wahala starts.

My last relationship ended for two reasons.

First, she wanted to know how I would support her career. I asked, “Are you working for yourself or for the household?” She said it doesn’t matter. I told her, If you're working for yourself while I fund all of us, then I don't owe you so much as a ‘how was work today?’. Your job holds no value for the family.

Second, she said she only wants two kids. I told her, “I’m having three.” She said she had already made up her mind and wasn’t ready to mentally accommodate a third. I replied, “The third mustn't come from you.”

There are things I don’t negotiate. It riles me to see men become sissies just because women have conditioned them into becoming the kind of men want as a partner but they’d never want as a brother or a son

This here is a man that knows his worth... Not simps that are indecisive...

dhiqson:
Sir, i don't know if you're conversant with Chris brown or Adin ross
So both guys were on live sometimes this year
A girl entered the live stream
When she saw Chris
She was shocked. She had to ask Adin if that was the actual Chris
And just one response from Chris sent her sprawling
Now what caught my attention was that
She told Chris that.. "she would clean, she can cook and she was open to learning new recipe for him and even when he wanted to HIT he can HIT ANYTIME



What point am i driving at
I'm saying You're very apt sir!



Well I always thank God for my life sha
Topics like this back in the day, would rile me up
Would have gotten me all vexed
Till i found out what Men yesteryears enjoyed.



I don't stress myself again
Even talking to ladies and hearing their opinions in issues i don't even
I just observe
Lol
U come to me with that bs of cookin is a survival skill and not want u enjoy doing for ur man
By all means whatever we are doing, it's temporary




Look at one niccur up there calling men idiots
Lol
I grew up in a house where my father cooks
Cooks better than my mom sef. But mumsy no gree o
Mama say make pop dey e own o
Make she leave kitchen for am.. and she got better at it and now i always jokingly tell any girl (they'd spend 2 months with mom to cook her way) cause I'm so stucked on her food


As much as cooking is a survival skil
IT'S GENDER SPECIFIC
Make nobody whine e papa for here
I provide, still come home to cook
Even if you provide so?

Abeg abeg abeg mah enter office before i vex

Thanks for this..

BTW... Cooking isn't a survival skill... Making money and having the money is.

Why must I stress myself to cook when I can easily place and order for same meals and pay or even pay the caterer or chef to come and cook for me right inside my kitchen?

While some people enjoy cooking, others don't, so just because you love or learnt or know how to cook doesn't make other men who don't know how to illiterates or whatnot. Those men also know other basic survival skills that you might not know just like sm1 mentioned.

And yes... I COOK WHEN I FEEL LIKE!

pocohantas:
Where it is established the man has been the primary caregiver even in the marriage thereby allowing the woman more career-time that led to wealth acquisition, the woman would pay spousal support. A few rich(er) women have. Sadly these cases are few because even when the woman is richer, the man doesn't step up to family duties as it emasculates him. Rihanna is richer and she is still the one dragging her children everywhere and men see her as a model wife/mother. Maybe that is why she has refused to marry whatever-his-name-is. She is avoiding stories that touch.


No court in Nigeria mandates a man to keep doing what he does for a woman after marriage. I have not seen or heard of one case. The 30k to 50k Nigerian men are mandated to pay is definitely not what any grown woman uses to take care of herself and 3 kids. Even in America, with the exception of celebrities and the top percentile of men, the money is barely enough to augment given the woman would have to do school run, doctor appointments, sick days, games day...everything alone. If there is mortgage, she still has to pay it off or take a hit to their living condition. So in reality, POST-DIVORCE, these women take up jobs after losing meaningful work years because all the man is mandated to pay is CHILD SUPPORT. Strictly for the kids, no extras.

If my husband would stay at home while I chase my career and side dudes ___I will happily give him 50k/monthly upon divorce for childcare. Then come pickup every other weekend and return to him immediately to sleep by midnight and wakeup early every morning . I have presented him with this option a few times if he thinks I am not doing enough and he never took it. He instead gave me the money. The women guys scare with this talk are lazy and emotional women.

Women's fight for kids with an average man is more of fear, maternal instinct and longterm emotional control, than actual resources.

Emotional control for what exactly?

What abt the man also paying the rent for where the woman and kids stay? Or doesn't that happen?

faithfull18:
Simple, not being able to take care of yourself without external help should be a crime in this age.

Hope this applies to the female gender too that most of them can't cater for their needs and wants without a man in the picture?

Tallesty1:
Do you get? A nice article but he nearly ruined it with that part.

Nearly everything men did in 1985, they’re still doing today, but you don’t see anybody telling them to stop because it’s 2025. Look at marriages, even after divorce, the core things a man provides in marriage, he can still be mandated by court to keep providing for the woman and kids. But nothing binds the woman to do anything for him. It’s crazy.

In my family, everybody cooks. And being the one who stayed in the village longer, I cook local foods better than all of them. Recently, we were in the village for Easter, and I was the one cooking. My brothers were there, their wives too, and my sister, my mother, and others, I was cooking because I love cooking and I trust my own food. But all this talk about 2025 doesn’t move me. Yes, it’s 2025, I can order any food from my phone; heck, I can order both the food and the chef.

Nobody remembers it’s 2025 when we tell men to be the providers and do all the heavy lifting. Recently, because a woman died over ₦500k, the internet was full of “don’t settle for less” and “marry a man that can always cough out a million.” This is coming from a POS attendant that earns ₦15k monthly without any allowance.

Recently in a conversation with one, she said she can't marry a broke guy because she doesn't want to suffer; and I asked why she would suffer because of his brokenness when he isn’t asking for her own money?

Women have all the opportunities that men have, they have the education men had, they can get all the skills men have access to, and for some good reason, it’s even easier for them. But nobody reminds them it's 2025 when they hold back their own money and expect everything to come from the man. Nobody tells them it's 2025 when they're planning their dream weddings without contributing a single kobo.

Na man dey do man las las, NEPO kids dey buy off the whole food in the canteen because they no wan queue while LAPO kids are being told to start cooking because it's 2025. Na money and fellow man dey do man.

I dey live in one beedrom, I marry woman put inside, she no add extra room, na me dey pay the bills but na she settle for less.

Chineke kpọkwa ha ọkụ

Best response... Just apt!

hotplate:
Good morning please I really need answer to this, or is the interest the same in all the banks? This is my first time investing in Treasury Bills

Stanbic and first bank have the highest (my opinion)

kristien4:
Does anyone know if Stanbic ibtc accepts less than 50m for primary market?

Yes, they do. U can also use their new tbills app or go to any branch.

madridguy:
Your major concerns should be on how to talk to the elders in your community to review the archaic laws and customs of your land.

Your grandfather has done well pushing his
daughter " your mom " to get another man. She needs to be happy too and move on. Her marriage vow/oath have broken so no point being single for the rest of her life.

As for your junior ones, you as the first born should try and bring in your late father relatives into this, let them pick up their responsibilities.

I wish your mom happy married life in advance.

What responsibilities are the late father's relatives picking up that a MOTHER ISN'T SUPPOSED TO PICK UP? U mean the late father's relatives shld share the children among themselves while the MOTHER GOES ON AND ENJOYS LIFE IN THE NAME OF MOVING ON?

MamajamaGwen:
The President of the Senate, Senator Godswill Akpabio and wife, Dr Unoma Godswill Akpabio receives the Governor of Akwa Ibom State, Pastor Umo Eno, along with some Senators and members of the Progressive Governors' Forum led by the Governor of Imo State, Senator Hope Uzodinma in his home in Uyo, shortly after the defection of Governor Eno from the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) to the All Progressives Congress on June 6, 2025.

Y is Ebonyi state governor (in the last pic) always frowning? 😂😂😂

KingCassy:
I sent you a dm bro

I can't find it, pls resend.

Grupo:
Please can I have the link?

https : // treasurybillsqsp(dot)stanbicibtc(dot)com/(hash)/investment

Remove the spaces, change the (dot) to "." and the (hash) to "#"

Please also confirm authenticity from ur bank/account officer.

KingCassy:
Someone told me the primary auction rate is 24% while you’re saying 19.5.. now I’m more confused.
Omo my banks don’t want to give me much information. They’re insisting I go for secondary. Is there any bank or investment institution that can help with the primary auctioning when next it’s to happen

If you an open an account with stanbic IBTC... It'll be good. They have the best rates for both primary and secondary market (as much as I can tell) and the best thing about stanbic is they have a link u can use to access tbills auction (both primary and secondary market) from the comfort of ur home, also... U can do primary market tbills for less than 50m as against some banks that insist on 50m threshold for primary market.

And yes, I've done all these with them, so it's not hearsay.


PS: I don't work with stanbic nor am I affiliated to them. I'm just a satisfied customer.

sammily:
Please what rate did Stanbic bank used for there 182 and 365 days rates in the last treasury bill?

I only know of 365 days... Their primary market rate was 19.3%

Tolu2024:
FBNQUEST is first bank , I guess I will try the stanbic ibtc

While both of them belong to a parent company, they carry out different functions.

Go to any first bank branch and ask for tbills.

Tolu2024:
Just coming back from Ecobank and FBNQUEST to make inquiries about T Bill first:
Ecobank told me the rate is 16% for 365 days and 250 days only .
No 3 months or 6 months .
And the ecobank person told me I can’t use my Tbill to get Loan that I am giving the money to fed not them.
I am looking for options where I can get loan also .


I left there went to FBNQUEST in Port-Harcourt the fine sexy lady I met there told me they don’t do T Bills only MMF that the rate is 20% . But they will pay me quarterly which is for 3 month ,.

The lady told me they don’t give loan or I can not use it for loan too.


Wanted to invest 10m after calculating the interest it was about 450k for 3m month.


Just thinking about it . I was hoping they will pay the interest upfront like T bill.

Please house which investment option pay like T bill ?

Fun fact 🤩
I was already calculating the 20% for 3 months more than enough to pay my rent, dividend the 20% interest into 12 sound funny 😄.

I was hoping

If you want to get upfront, why not do tbills that's pays upfront.

You can go to stanbic ibtc or first bank (if you have an account with them) . For about 360days, their rates should be around 19%+. The rate eco bank is giving you is too small.

dammybrite:
Is this related to their BluNest platform?

No, it's totally different. This one shows you the bank's daily bids for secondary market and also, you can access the primary market auction on the platform.

Stanbic ibtc has a link that can be used to access tbills (both primary and secondary market), all you have to do is input ur account number, then an OTP is sent to the phone number and email address linked to your account.

Secondly, with this link, you get to see all secondary market rates available for each day in real time.

Thirdly, you can access the primary market auction even if you have less than 50 million (however, I wasn't able to choose my own rate, so I had to go with the bank's rate). STANBIC's last rate was 19.2 ish.


I tried it out this last auction and it worked. Just said to update you guys. It's really easy and seemless. So you can reach out to your account officer to send you the link.

Good morning guys.

This is my first time of investing in primary market.

So on the form, I ticked FACE VALUE as against DISCOUNTED VALUE. Now my question is... With face value, isn't the whole amount (say 50million), supposed to be invested and I get my interest and principal returned at the end of the tenor? Because right now only a fraction of the principal was deducted (say 41million) while my interest (say 9million) was paid upfront (the interest is sitting in my account now).

I want to be sure I did the right thing before contacting stanbic ibtc because what I wanted was for the whole sum to be invested (in other to get the true yield rate) and I get my principal and interest paid at the end of the tenor.

Thanks...

izmercy:
Good morning House, please when is the next primary auction for Tbills

One was held yesterday, so the next should be in 2 weeks time

Primary market auction calender...

Heishere:
Did tbill auction hold today?

Yes, it did, however, I do not have the rates...

Zionmdde:
Why is he running?
Where is he running to?
Didn't they do a scan to know how many kids they were expecting?

Let's not come here and start blaming tinubu or hardship, the man is clearly not supposed to impregnant any women because he is clearly an irresponsible thing

Ladies should really be more careful about the kind of man they marry.

What about the woman, isn't she also consider her financial situation before taking in? Or didn't both of them agree before she got pregnant?

Will heaven fall if the woman also bear some financial responsibilities, or isn't she an adult too, or isn't she part of the family they are building?

Good evening guys, please when is the next primary tbills auction?

jeffdaniel:
Guys, i have a question. I bidded for Tbills at the primary market through my bank on the 5th of March for a 364 days tenor. I was surprised, I got 16.75% , which was different from what the stop rate was of 18.39. Though, while filling the form, I left the bidded rate empty, cos I wasn't too sure of what to put and my account officer seems naive too. The question is, since i didnt quote my rate, am I not supposed to get the FG rate? Please someone should advice me, thank you.

If u left that place blank, meaning you are going with the bank's rate (which is most likely lower than the stop rate).

Which bank did you do the bidding with?

Jeoma2024:
Which bank gives the highest interest rate this week

Which fintech is good for treasury bill and mmf

I want to spread my money between bank and fintech

I know fintech pay more interest but I can't leave all my money in an app

I never gather mind like that 😂

I'm interested in knowing this too. Please anyone with an idea?

Today's tbills primary market auction. It's nice to see that rates are going up again...

Hunger is everywhere... they didn't even check if what they are looting is counterfeit or original

Hunger, Hunger, Hunger!

Children are likely to love their mum more at the end of the day no matter what you do as a man.

So my advice to men out there is; make money, take care of your kids and make out some bonding time for them, also, as much as you can, make sure you attend to their emotional and psychological needs.

Most importantly, whilst taking care of your wife, children and family, make sure you take care of yourself and your health.

Lastly, save money FOR YOUR OLD AGE and never depend on your children as a RETIREMENT PLAN.

The rising and falling of the naira... Season 1

While she's saying 200k is not enough (which in reality it may not be) , let me ask this pertinent question... What is her own FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTION to the getting of baby things? Abi is her own just to write list and go to the market to buy everything she sees? Or isn't she also the mother of the baby, who should also make financial contributions to getting the baby all it needs?