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Find 5 people with a good marriage and ask them that question.

Then ask 5 with bad marriages.

BabaIbo:
Marriage they say is a beautiful thing but if you ask many men out there what marriage is to them or what marriage has brought to them or will they get married if they are given chances to rewind time, their responses will be in negative form or NO.

That same step(marriage) is the next step to be taken by me but I have one unanswered question. I am a young man in my 30s, currently free from any dating relationship and about to begin my search for a life partner, but I like being cleared/well-informed about something before going into it.

Pardon me for this long note I am about to dish out and the question I will be asking at the end.

For sometimes now, people around me have been telling me I am next in line to get married, some telling me to ensure I bring a responsible lady home and all that.
My mom do tell me she won't rush me to get married but as an observant person you will notice she really wants me to bring a woman(wife) home.

My dad told me sometimes ago that if I don't have a lady, that maybe they should search for a young good girl for me early next year.
My younger ones are expecting me to take that step so they can start planning on theirs and all that.

All these are for their own good or benefits, I am not saying they don't deserve it but I have been trying to get a tangible reason to get married i.e what is the SPECIAL thing(benefit) it will add to my life, I am the one getting married not them.
"Na me wan wear the shoe."

A bikeman, popularly known as Okadaman that do come to my place told me story about himself and big opportunities that marriage has made him miss.

In addition to his words and those I have heard from others, the fear of things going south, disappearance of peace of mind and all that are other factors.

Presumed(anticipated) benefits which are not as they are expected to be again are)

CHILDREN: Children can be gotten without marriage, for example: C. Ronaldo, Mikel, and others did that and they are doing well.

GOOD MEALS: Foods can be gotten from outside or prepared by the man or any other person that is not a wife for the man. Moreover, how many of them can cook well like our mothers? I'm a better cook than most ladies I have come across.

COMPANIONSHIP: That is an overstatement in our present society. It is even more noticeable in dating relationship than in some marriages these days.

SEX: That is the cheapest service/thing to get after air and water(clean water is even more expensive). Moreover many marriages are lacking sexually. It is worse if the man has high sex drive aka high libido.

SUPPORT: I don't want to go there because it is an open fact that instead of getting support, the man is being leached/milked of the one he has.

HOME: I can still remember how some married men will pack their cars at the junction, stay inside their cars for long before driving home, some go to the bar/relaxation centers to chill before going home, some don even like going home. You all know why?

With all these in mind, I want to ask this question that has been bothering me because I need to sort it before taking the step...

Now, my question is "WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE TO A MAN IN THIS OUR TIME?"

PS: I used this image because what marriage did to the man in the picture is in the open

kcool_k4: How do they charge for the concrete stained job?. Also, what are the materials you can recommend for exterior screeding that will be water and moisture proof?. How much do they charge for a good interior and exterior screeding?. Thanks.

Hello Kcool_k4.

To address your questions, the stained concrete is charged per sqm, and depends on the condition of the site, i.e is it with the casting of the floor, or just the staining? what kind of pattern and approach are we looking at, etc. If you can describe the conditions of your site, a more accurate pricing rate can be given. just send an email to info (at) verticaimagesgroup.com. I will get back at you sharply.

For exterior screeding, there are two options.

Option 1: Buy the premixed Suvinil screeding putty. This always comes out looking white. You just open the container and start applying. A drum costs about NGN11,000 right now.

Option 2: There's a homegrown solution, where a mix of portland cement and top-gum is used as screeding. It is extremely efficient, and much cheaper.

Kindly note that when screeding external surfaces, surface preparation is important, otherwise, the screeding might crack and fall off.

Charges for screeding range from 350 per square meter, to 800 per square meter. People who know what they are doing charge accordingly.

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The stone facing was installed like wall tiles. It comes pre-assembled in tile form.

As far as I know, the Concrete product is not sold. A company was contracted to carry it out.

Comparison.

Stained Concrete floor.

Stained concrete floor.

mufutau55: @Verticaimages
Compliments to you all. Beautiful modifications.. you guys are good.. Keep it up.

Hajji Mufutau

Thank you sir.

Stained concrete Floor. A welcome change from the standard pavingstones.

amanikondo: Let it be known that vecticalimages is good.

Thank you so much Mr Amanikondo! We aim to be better.

segcy.moor:
I must said u guy deserve an award for this creative work because it's not so easy to modify building.Weldone guy!

Thank you Mr Segcy. Your compliments are highly appreciated.

brabus: This is beautiful! Keep up the good works

Thank you Mr. Brabus. By God's grace we'll do even better.

Preparing for external flooring.

building 70 % finished.

Well designed Plantings always add beauty

planting of flowers, grass etc

External painting had some minor errors which required screeding to correct.

Livingroom with lights on

Livingroom

payless: I am really following your good work. You have been impressive and convincing so far. I am itching for more pictures.

Thank you!

Kitchen coming together nicely.

Cleaning up (Carted away six 20 ton truckloads of rubble)

First site cleaning

Fixing of Electrical Fittings

Redesigned Gate

Bathroom Tiling Being rounded off.

Wardrobe

Your cost should be dependent on your building plan. I'm assuming you already have a building design? Then, simply get two or three more contractors to quote on the drawing. That's the best way for you to get an idea of the median cost for the project. Or better still give to a Quantity Surveyor to give you an estimate of the costs. QS will build in 20-40 percent profit normally, so make sure to ask him what the actual cost is.

Carport Installed by a Nairalander. Can't remember his username. Please drop a line if you see this.

Water treatment plant and scaffolding for water tanks. Lower tank supplies the BQ while the higher ones supply the main house. Water is pumped into the tank on the ground first, from the bore-hole, and then pumped by a separate pump into the higher tanks.

I can't find the pictures of the process, but the plumbing system was completely changed to IPS Piping, also supplied by Wichtech, although by a different unit within the company. Guaranteed for 50 years against leakage. Expensive though.

Painting...

Painting continues. I always ensure the client/owner is in full agreement with colors and paint product used. Less problems that way.

The client is always right, that is why he/she needs professionals to educate him/her so that he/she can continue being right!