Emaggy:
Here's also a link to sermons to grow your spiritual life.

http://www.naijasermons.com.ng/gbile-akanni-messages

Thanks so much

andyanders:
Your mother carried you in her womb for 9 months, she did not kill you and nutured you till adult age only to be accussed of using your destiny? I don't think so. Yes, we have true prophets, but most are not real 'cus they will end up destroying you.
Don't you think your mother's negative attitude towards you was as a result of getting pregnant at that age, when much was expected from you?First was a mistake, 2nd wasn't.I blame u
We are all spirit being and could be manuplated spiritually and if you are not spiritually strong and the spirit being in you is a demonic spirit stronger than the so called men of those churches you've been to, they will keep giving you false prophecy all pointing to your mother as a witch.
Get yourself together and erase that thought that your parents want to destroy you. Forgive your parents an appologise to them. Never seek to turn to atheist as that will totally destroy you. Only GOD can change your situation by you, getting to find something doing to take care of the kids.

Ok thanks

Mystery9:
Hello OP, greetings to you. Please let no one here deceive you. You must know that your problem is more of spiritual background than of physical. Never you let the devil mislead you into believing that you can be free from the consciousness of your problem by becoming an atheist, if you disbelieve me try it. You seriously need God's intervention. The first step to your deliverance is the step of forgiveness, you must forgive every one that you are holding grudges against or else forget about ever getting free, I bet you. Forgiveness is a must my dear. You must know that masturbation is star and destiny destroyer, and this is one of the reason why you have a lot of problems around you. Through masturbation, you have lost a lot of your God given virtues and blessings. Through masturbation and other sexual immorality a person life and destiny can be manipulated by satanists. As such my dear, you are not totally wrong by saying someone is behind your predicament. But forget about that for now.
Right now, you need to go back to God in true repentance and rededication of your life to Jesus Christ. Find a church where a lots of prayers are made, such as MFM and others as you can find, and seek for counsel from them. You yourself must become a prayer warrior of the midnight hour, you can start this by praying with the book of psalms 35. As you start praying, spiritual and physical oppositions will come, but try your best to move on as the HolyGhost helps you. I believe you also find yourself having sex in the dream. If you do, just keep on praying and believing God for deliverance. Please associate yourself with God fearing friends, not with atheists or unbelievers. As your keep on praying, God will unveil to you deep mysteries about your life. And if your mother is indeed behind your problems as you claim, she will come running to you for mercy, or she may even die. Please as you pray, don't forget to pray against spiritual husband. Finally my dear, exercise patience. Shalom.

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement, I really appreciate it and will do as you have suggested

Eketem:


Wish you the best

Thanks

Eketem:
Poster; you are ignoring people telling you the truth and only agreeing with those who tell you what you want to hear.


1. Were you sexually abused as a child? This sexual dysfunction seems to point me to that. When was the first time you had sex? Under what conditions? You need to deal with that with the help of a professional so you dont keep making poor sexual choices.


2. Your mom is most likely not a witch, you parents may have trained you people poorly but no body is holding your destiny

You sound like a rebellious child, rude too, did you finish school? Did you attend and learn a skill? It seems like you would not commit to finishing anything then blame others for your poor choices, you seem to lack the discipline of following through when things get hard you just run away and make more bad choices.

Why should your father be happy to marry you off at 18, did you have plans to finish school or even learn a skill or your life plan was just to marry. If you married your first baby daddy you would be probably here complaining of abuse and how he stole your destiny because of your own poor choices.


You have made so many poor choices and have found it easy to blame your parents because they have not been very good parents but you have to stop now. 28 an adult please humble yourself and learn a skill work on it and raise your kids.

You love your brother because he has the discipline you lack

Ok noted. Thanks

Winneygirl:


The origin of your problems lie in your mind.
If you keep believing that someone is using your destiny, it means that you believe you will be unable to achieve anything until they 'release' your destiny. Therefore, you will never give your best effort.

Discard the notion that your Mother is after your downfall.
You have never been up in the first place.
Stop going to churches where they focus on witchcraft, witches, enemies. You will only remain in bondage.
Free your mind. Tonight, think of where you can go and ask for a job. Even if it is to fetch water for someone and get paid, wash clothes, clean someone's house.
Tomorrow morning, get up and go look for the job. This is where you should start.

Thanks for the words of encouragement, I appreciate it

Hathor5:




How do you have time and space to do it 3-4 times a day with your kids around?

I live in a two bedroom house

Hathor5:
If you feel that your family is too toxic and you need some time apart, take your time. It may help you to make peace with them. If not, at least you will have peace on your own. I wouldn't trust any church telling you what they have told you about your mother. Be careful not to be used by them because you are in a difficult situation and they may use your need to belong for their own purpose. And like some others said, take responsibility for the decisions you have made too. I wish you the best of luck.

Thanks so much

adexpa:
You have taken step already, either the reason is true or not, all you need now is to sit down and evaluate how you and your children will be surviving. If you can reach the daddies of your children for monthly child support while you are also hustling to get small small money. Beware of friends you will mingle with and be serious with the way you spend your money. If any man wants to come in again, make sure you take your time before finally accept. Be prayerful too and be weary of fake churches and pastors. Be wise and be careful, you will be fine at last

Thanks so much

Winneygirl:
The situation with you and your sister is a result of poor parenting.
However, you are an adult and you should be responsible for your life.
Jumping from church to church will not solve your problems. If you spent that energy working odd jobs, you will gradually become a financially independent person.
Your mother did not make her money by jumping from church to church. She worked for it. You too, work for your own money.
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Lastly, I believe your attitude is very poor. You resent your family, you hate your sister and you insulted your father.
Is this the attitude of a good person?

When she is using my destiny how will I get a job ? I have been trying since 2011 but nothing . I don’t just sit and folds my hands and expecting everything from my parents, I have been trying to be depend when I used to live with them but nothing was working. I am now depend living alone with my children , looking forward to start something doing but I don’t even know where to start from.

LilMissFavvy:
You got pregnant for two different men . This fact alone shows that you have never lived a decent life, stop blaming your mother, or did your mum also cause you to father kids from two men? . How can you insult your biological father because he got angry with you? How many fathers would be happy to have a daughter like you? Even if your claims about your mum is true, is your dad whom you insulted also guilty? You are very wrong to cut off from your family, the earlier you apologise to your father and also make peace with your sister, the better.

My parents cause it because when my first baby daddy wanted to come and do introduction , they were against it especially my dad , if they had accepted him maybe by now we would have been together and all of my children will be from him. I insulted my father to reset his brain by reminding him if I am not married till now it was because he rejected my baby daddy and he has no right to insult me. Am sorry but I will never apologise to any of them because I owe them no apology

KevinDein:

You can start by tapering down on the porn and masturbation. Addictions that give quick dopamine rush like gambling, drug, porn etc, are very capable of demotivating you as you tend to build your life around them.

And no, your mum isn't responsible for your misfortunes. Taking responsibility for your wrong decisions will be a good start for you.

Thanks but I have been trying since to stop this addiction but it hasn’t been easy. Last time I did 3 months without watching porn of masturbation but when the feeling start coming again , I started doing it like every single day sometimes 3-4 times a day , I cries about it because I want to stop but I don’t know how. Ok if she is not responsible for my dilemma then I will have to stop going to churches and become atheist because I can’t keep going there when they are lying to me . I think being a atheist will be better choice for me

Harllaby:

Hmm. Don't continue dwelling in your past. You are not the first certainly. Your future now is your kids. From your write-up, your first child should be around age 8 to 10. Definitely needs a good parental upbringing especially as she grow into teen hood.

Right now, you need to work on yourself, find something doing like situable work you can engage in. Build and create a good relationship with people around you. It's until you're empowered mature and responsible men will look your way.

By the way, you keep mentioning your mum as is the cause of your dialema. Do you think her wealth bring you this dialema you're facing?

Thanks for the support my first daughter is 10 years old and am trying my best to give them the best upbringing and I always pray for them that they will become greater than me. None of them should follow my footsteps. Yes I think she is the course of my dilemma because all the churches I have been to is only her name being mentioned and not any other person. When we were young she made us believe that my father mother is a witch that she wanted to kills my younger sister when she was a baby and we grew up believing our grandmother is a witch and we never liked and had nothing to do with her. But I had my first shock of my life when I decided to get closer to God and I joined this church in 2012 that was when I found out my mum is the course of my problem , I first I had doubts taught maybe the pastor is fake or something , I change church same thing , and I have been to so many churches and it still her. in 2017 I disliked going church so I completely stopped attending church and just returned back this February 2020 .The latest church I joined this February is winners chapel had my deliverance still is her name. So from 2012 till 2020 they keep mentioning her name nobody else in my family even the grandmother she made us believe is a witch , I never heard her name being mentions. Are those all pastors fake or what? And when I was 8 she gave me her wedding ring to wear and I lost it . I did not know about all this until one time I asked her where’s is her wedding ring but have never seen her wearing one , she said I was the one that lost it . It’s very strange . I have a lots to write but English is not good enough for me

babythug:
It is what it is!

At this point the only place left to go is “up”.

Your sharing your story here is part of your recovery process and I wish you the very best henceforth.

The allegations against your mum may or may not be true but don’t let it hold you down be determined to rise from the complexities/complications that have happened to you so far.

You are not a victim but a conqueror.

Be prayerful and determined to be successful no matter what.

Focus and be diligent at your source of income . Manage your resources to the best of your ability and just be determined to succeed henceforth.

Let your children drive you and be your motivation. You will not be the first nor last to have these kind of challenges but make up your mind to be different by succeeding against all odds.

I wish you well

P.S- what skills do you have that can be used as a source of income? Someone may be able to assist you in that area.

Thank you so much for the support , your words really made me feel strong and happy. To be frank with you I don’t have any skill , no vision in
Life my life is messed up. I hope it’s not too late for me

I ave been maturbating and watching porn since I was 8-9 years old still doing now , I am addictive to it , in a day I can do it about 3-4 times , deliverances don’t help my life because I keep going to the same lifestyles over and over again. Why would my own mother do this to me just because of money?

Harllaby:
Hmm. This your story is very complicated o. So many questions that need answers. But no matter how bad it might be you will always need to call on someone. What about the baby daddies? Do you have a close friend? How has your relationship between you and your parent be before this occurance happened? Hard times don't last hopefully you will get past it.

But I will strongly advice to overlook what any church priest says about your mummy using your destiny they will only complicate issue and can even destroy family relationship.

My baby daddies are married now , I don’t have any contacts with them but I still see them on Facebook . When I had my first daughter in 2010 her father and family wanted to come and do introduction but my parents refused. My dad said he did not want to see him near his house. We broke up because of my parents. Second child I got pregnant just 2 months into the relationship, baby daddy wasn’t ready. We broke up too. My parents had never care to know about my second baby daddy because for them is good I keep having kids without father. I remembered my mum asking me to go and have a third child luckily it will be a boy this time around , when she is knows that am single no man but she don’t mind me keep getting pregnant , I find it very strange even told my aunty her sister , she was shocked and told me to pray hard. One thing about me every time I join a church by the time I start getting serious praying , something will happens to make me hate the church and run away. I have been changing churches like underwear, I can’t stay in one church and I ave been to more than 20 churches is always mum they are telling me she is the course of my problem. I don’t have a close friend , I only have my children and God , my prayer to God is to keep protecting me so I will be there for my children

I ave cut ties with all my family , I feel so lonely and bored but it is the best thing I ever had to do. Am 28 years old a single mother of 2 children by 2 different fathers ,uneducated, jobless , broke , 28 years old but I looked like a 98 years old. Every churches I goes to for deliverance they keep telling me my mum is the course of all my problems. She is using my destiny to be rich which is very true , my mum is rich , she has houses and all her extended family depends on her. None her siblings are rich they are all after her money. My dad on the other side is very arrogant, he is been treating me and my kids especially my second daughter like a piece of shit . Last time we had an arguments he called me fat cow , all am doing is getting fat and not marriage , got angry and insult him back. He kicked me and my kids out of the house. Luckily I Ave manage to get myself a place to stay with my kids , we are managing okay. As for my siblings , for my sister nothing good on her side too , she is also a single mother still living with parents , I don’t have a good bond with my sister because she has always insulted me and my kids calling them bastards or whatever , luckily she is also got pregnant and got dumped by her baby daddy now she is felt the pain I have been through y, she is trying as much as to get close to me but I keep rejecting her , I don’t want her , she was never good with me , now because she is in the same shoes as me , that’s why she is trying to be nice to me but I don’t need her. I love my younger so much , he is the best brother and uncle to my kids , he never treated them bad and is still at school studying computer science he is only 20 I strongly believe he will make us proud one day. I ave cut ties with all of them for one month now , I missed my brother a lot but I had to do it for my own sanity. I don’t need toxic parents or sister . Sometimes I cries but I don’t regret cutting ties with all of them. I don’t really know why I am writing this but I just felt like to speak up and get this out of my mind