Babababy:
We all would eventually walk the part that we have chosen, there is absolutely no bed of roses anywhere in the world and you have to make the most of whatever circumstance you find yourself in.
I have 3 kids, I was paying an average of N1.1M per term for school in Nigeria,for all three kids,and this to some is a lot while to others its small fires, to each his/her own. When I inspected schools in the Uk, and compared public schools in the UK to the private school I was paying for, the difference in facilities and tutoring was quite glaring. In the business term, thats a saving of N1.1M for me. Would I be bothered if I get taxed extra because my kids now go to a better school? Hell NO. All three are in public schools in the UK now, something I cant try here in Nigeria.

My last, never loved school, all of a sudden he is always eager to go to school now, my daughter is excelling in maths, a subject her teacher always complained about in Nigeria. My son started football lessons, and he absolutely loves it, swimming is also done in-between.

Obviously, the UK is not a bed of glittering roses, you would have to trade money for quality living, work your ass off to make ends met, but the beneficiary of all the hustle would be your children.

A lot of money is involved in getting settled in the UK, for some its their entire life savings, and for some its just a tiny bit of savings, while some would end up borrowing for the same venture.
They usually say, the end should justify the means, but you need to work smart and work hard. You would be amazed by how much you would save with the right information. Hear say wont get you far, regardless of the situation, people would always have differences in their thought process.

The quality of life in Nigeria has been degraded by a lot, even in wealth, your average life expectancy in Nigeria is not guaranteed at 50. Some few weeks ago, millionaires and billionaires were groaning because of the non availability of diesel, it affected everyone. Billioniares literally have to drive in long convoy's and bullet proof cars to avoid stories that touch, their close family have to do same . The list is endless, the UK is an opportunity to try another way of life and compromise on a few things here in Nigeria.

The reality is that, not everyone would be succesful, but it is worth the try. Absolutely better than doing nothing. Here in Nigeria, you still have to hustle, and work smart, so why not the Uk.

What is being told, is so you prepare yourself for the unexpected, the internet should be your best buddy if you intend to relocate, every single resource is in there.
My dad left the UK in 1975, he was always getting sick because of the cold. He worked for the department of education , and I shit you not, he is still getting his pension. Obviously its paltry, but would you believe a system paying pension to someone that left the system 47 years ago? This is why some are craving it.

We can argue all we want but we cant compare both systems, yes, you get taxed a lot but your quality of life is greatly improved, and you would obviously see the reasons why you paying the tax.

This place was started to help people have a clear view of how to go about studying in the Uk and remaining in the Uk, we can make inputs on what people should prepare themselves for, lots of inputs. Let the focus of the thread remain about studying in the Uk.

I send pm... I want be your friend no vex...

Vicktorhmustjap:
Good afternoon house..

I just booked a TB test date for 2nd May.(Abuja). Now I realize May 1st is workers day which is on Sunday, that means the holiday will be May 2nd on Monday which is my appointment date..

Is it possible for me to cancel my booking? Or will they attend to people booked for that day? What can I do..

Thanks as I anticipate your response

. Please help me with response gurus in the house

Good afternoon house..

I just booked a TB test date for 2nd May.(Abuja). Now I realize May 1st is workers day which is on Sunday, that means the holiday will be May 2nd on Monday which is my appointment date..

Is it possible for me to cancel my booking? Or will they attend to people booked for that day? What can I do..

Thanks as I anticipate your response

Good morning guys.

Please help me I think I'm a simp. I'm behaving like a simpleton towards a lady.

How can I be harden like I don't care..

I need tips.. help me I don't want to be a simp anymore..

Raheemot:
Wow,I'm in for a long ride,lol... thanks
Did you get q discount?

3,500 pounds

Raheemot:
Hi, please how long did it take salford to respond to you? I got an email from them saying they will respond to my application on the 31 of March.. I applied on Monday. Did you get an email like that and was later given an offer earlier than the said date. Thank you

I applied since December 6th.. I didn't get mail from them before they gave me offer but I have been calling them ones every week since January 15th to get status of my admission. This week I called them on Monday.. I just got the offer letter few hours ago..

Pease is there anyone currently schooling at Manchester Metropolitan University or Salford here? I have offer from both school Data Science. Really tough to take a decision on which school to go with... Just need people there to share first hand experience

TClassique:
Two years IT related masters course with flexible, installmental payment plan within London or close to London.

Ideas please?

kingston

Please anybody going to Manchester Metropolitan University here... I got an offer this week from them... Let's connect or anyone there lest connect please

joinnow:

Your company need to have work place touching policy.
Avoid lingering looks and touches
Flush out what is motivating you about her,why you have these feeling.
When at work ...work and try to be professional at work.

Do you want to damage your personal and business branding
You can make small changes in your office if you have a branch office you can transfer her there.

very resourceful.. thanks

HRSweetness:


Going by the way you type, I highly doubt that you run a well structured business.

Oga, face your work. Don't be foolish enough to let something as fleeting as emotions lead you to your doom.

I can see you have a very structured business with the way you type. Enjoy your good typing skills, hope it fetch you some cash

joinnow:

Do you have frame pictures of your wife and kids on your office table.
If not get one and place there.
Two don't allow any situation that will warrant only you and that your staff alone.
I am coming with more stuff

bring it on bro...

frozen70:


You are the problem here

Stop loving her and love your wife more

Just respect yourself, simple

exactly what I'm doing now... It's not easy though

Goalty01:
Islam is the solution.
One man, four Women.

Christianity can't stop me if I want to...

ojotobiloba1:

Op.... Pls don't start what you won't be able to finish.. It's simply lust.. Don't be a cheat.. Imagine if it's ur wife doing all ds shit. Are u gonna be happy..

hey dude stop that

BuddhaPalm:


Your wife is in the best position to help you get this girl.

So ask her for advice.

okay

musiliyukayode:
If you really love her then divorce your wife and marry her.This is what she has been telling you inversely.

I don't want another wife..

Johnsown1:
Oga your not in love with her but your in lust with her, Get it right. What would be the end point of the friendship, if you didn't sleep with her.
what if she falls for your trap and get pregnant or starts threatening your family for you to marry her. Oga allow the girl to have her peace or you want to be another usifo that chidinma killed.

God forbid bad thing

realestate99:


Mr man, you have greatly erred but there is still solution, changing the girl's department won't change a thing since she is still under your workforce, but you should work on something about your character, the girl has used every means to tell you she is not interested, she even had to praise your wife, that is enough to kill your affection for her and stop your pursuit but no, seems your emotions is obstructing your reality.

We are not kids here, all you need from the girl is sex nothing more but is it worth it with the kind of embarrassment you are encountering during this pursuit? right now, your other staffs believes you have started sleeping with her, please don't use your immaturity to spoil your venture.

To my advice, I will go hardcore, pay the girl off and let her leave your company because your emotions currently is under that girl's influence, no matter how you shuffle her duties, so far she is still your employee, you are not free yet emotionally, pay her off, maybe something enough for her to start something tangible in life, that will always serve as a lesson for your randiness and if after that you still keep contact with the girl and later disturbing her then your case might be spiritual.

pay her off? For wetin na.. if I don't want her around I go sack her but for sure I won't do that's because I don't want to hurt her.. but I'm actually putting to practice some thoughtful suggestions here and I hope it's works well..

Homguy:
in a sane country she would sue you for serial harassment. It's totally unethical what you are doing or feeling.

okay noted...

Oluf3mi:

Please don't go down that lane...it won't end well... trust me.

thanks I think I'm reasoning better now after reading so much thoughtful comments here

Saintmary:



Your feelings already broke your home.


Only with the help of your wife can you put it back together.


At this point you have to decide which is more important:

Getting the side chick or keeping your home intact.



I hope you'll make the wise decision and I wish you well.

P. S. If you're afraid of her outbursts, see a counselor first to sort out your feelings, then get a mediator to come with you before confessing to her. Then you'll have to be transparent with her.

If you don't have a skeleton in your cupboard, you will bear it until things clear up and your marriage will come out stronger. You'll be surprised by how much she'll trust you after this.


P. P. S. You have to move that lady far away from your workplace and home before your wife designs her face out of anger.

I wish you the best. You got this.

what am I telling her? I didn't fvck anybody na... So it will just pass like that... I no fit for woman wahala

Spy360:

Stop all forms of communication. With time your head will clear.

Also get closer to your wife who is your true love. Go on holidays if you can. Give her the movie ticket, its hers in the right sense.

no be lie.

Destiblack:
Your happiness is that you think have made it already, your family is truly the source of your wealth by God. When they are not happy by knowing you gat a babe outside, your happiness goes same as your little money. Wealthy men are born with the wisdom to focus on their goals but you falling for your employees show you got no money yet. Double your hustle Alaye and remain focus on your dreams.



Bleep whatever you think about me

much appreciated

Justkatty:
That your staff is a nice girl� because there are some you'll get to meet until you fold up your business they won't stop to milk you.

You don't want sex from her���REALLY?

When you are able to control your 3rd leg as a man, 65%of your problem is solved.
Channel that your love you have for her to the mother of your 2world.

love-vendor her to your taste and see her turning back to the way she was the very day you met her.
Mister avoid side chick.

that is all I want to do now. I think I shouldn't have gone this far

Spy360:

You are not in love, you're rather infatuated which is a form of stupidity.

So get your head together and take hold of your emotions. Stop the contact immediately and focus on your job.

If you continue, she may eventually fall for your foolishness, and ruin your business, marriage and then your life.

Well,you may be right.. my concern is how to get my head together and take hold of my emotions

Fiscus105:


Its matter of mindset, when you keep killing the lustful thought, a time will come that mind won't bring it up again, ........still happened to me this last December, one young lady joined my church and i huge influence in the church, If I asked the girl out, she would agree for me one time, in fact the girl kept asking for xmas gift for me which I gave her, my mind disturbed me a lot to ask her out but I resisted, now the lust faded already.

And if urs refuses to fade, tell the girl to leave , since its ur own work

I think I have opportunity to be around more women than you yet , I still stand my ground

thank you.I sincerely appreciate

Fiscus105:



Responsible married man will not have anything to do wit ladies near his wife and this scenario even more dangerous, it would not only affect ur marriage but also ur business.
Meanwhile, wen your marriage become toxic and eventually crumbles now, they start shouting ..........marriage na scam, ............marriage not for everybody. They will not come out to warn you now for the sake of ur marriage.


For me, I personally made it forbidden, to date women in my street, church and working place no matter how beautiful she is, I avoid them.

how do you control such emotions when they arise?

Hayee:


When I keep saying men don't want peace of mind you all think I'm being stupid

Anyways, Nigerian men are addicted to heartless gold diggers

what can I do to get her off my mind?

Aguilar:
You are married to a good and loyal woman. Don't do anything that will compromise your marriage. She's sweet but your wife is sweeter. I don't encourage adultery. So let her be and mind your business.

That is really what I want to do now. I am just concerned if I really can because she is all over my mind. I try will cut off WhatsApp chat and phone calls after work as suggested by many let me see how it will play out

Newboss:
Stop chatting with her.

Try and fûck her first. Forget relationship.

Don't force her or blackmail her into fûcking you. Don't be a simp either.

Las las, she go quit. It's a risk.

The ball is in your court. Try and fûck her. I don't know how you plan to do that seeing say you don cast your game already.

Keep us updated on the toto level sha

wahala. let just take sex out first.. i dont think its the objective.. i just want to get her off my mind that's all