luckyz4rea:


If your Bible not religion means anything to you you'll not go or do anything contrary to it. Whatever reduces or will reduce you to what you are not or should not be, desist from it with immediate effect!

Don't let impulsive feelings get the best of you as it did to Adam and he went against what he was warned not to do, unless of course you want to be like Adam! I know you wouldn't want to be like him so do the right thing - follow the Truth

But does the Bible say..If you are Christian you cnt love or marry anyone out of ur religion? If its there in the bible, pls quote it for us oo?

Stephanie22:
My dear since you say it's a distance marriage and you can never come to Nigeria to reside, why don't you bring her over to S.A.

She dsnt want to come!

Candy86:
It's not no help for him but the Lord. He done stepped on the curse land and became ignorant Spirit like the others. Any women he deal with is poison. He will not find anyone better but like him.

Listen yaself... you are a curse yourself...already cursing other lands...as if Nigeria is a blessed land. Idiot.


Nobody spoke about cheating on her or leaving her. Or even finding anyone.

SteveTyla:

If you opt for divorce you might never find anyone as good as her..wise the f up!!!.

God, will decide that...not you. Get your head out of the gutter...and think out of the box.

Its a long distance marriage, that is heading to an epic failure! And I'm trying to do damage control, before its too late.

SURElee:


You and I know marriage is for better for worse till death do they part. He has to rekindle that love between them. A wife isn't potatoes you buy from a market and after a few weeks, you notice spoilage and foul odour and you discard for a new bag of potatoes. You are to nurture your spouse to your taste and preference.

What if I come clean to her...and she says the same thing? And that she's not in love with me anymore (When 2 ppl decide to get married, its not only about the 2 of them there's family involved...that's why in most cases we try so hard to make it work... But something's cant be fixed, so are we suppose to stay in a loveless marriage just cz we made vows of till death do us part?) What if she demands that I come back to reside in Nigeria? I am never going back to Nigeria, Never ever will go back there and she knows it.

You ppl are so quick to judge an call out names, but there's 2 sides to a story. As much is its against the law (Bible) or Christianity religion it happens, that you fall out of love an divorce your spouse...Life goes on, ppl sin everyday... I wouldn't be the 1st or the last to divorce his wife. I'm not even cheating on her...Anyway, I just wanted to hear other ppls views...married people specifically. this is a wrong platform, as there are too many kids.

PS: My wife isn't a saint...I just chose not to reveal a lot of her wrongs. NOBODY IS PERFECT!

LIFE IS FOR THE LIVING, AND I CHOOSE TO LIVE AND MAKE THE MOST OF IT = HAPPINESS

onyenze123:


How can you not be in love again with your humble and beautiful wife again?

To love someone isn't about how humble an beautiful they are, God fearing an soforth. Its about how they make you feel. And she doesn't make me feel good, its like whatever I do for her is neva enaf...Sometimes I wud send money for her to fly here, bt she dsnt and tells me about choir practice an church conference blah blah blah...I understand tht she is a woman of God, bt she also my wife!

Billyonaire:
But you have a girlfriend there in SA ?

Nope

Billyonaire:


Looks like you have met a girl at SA, and that is not the problem. The problem is if you and the SA girl have been having sex while on a cocktale of alcohol/crack/weed, and you have never tried it with your wife. If yes, that is the cause. You can not get such flow of emotional sexual connection from normal humans. Your mind has been defragmented. Only people who have ever tried will understand my reggae.

Love is great but you can run a marriage successfully without love, if you care about your wife, then care is enough to hold the ground until love returns.

Prostitution industry is a multi-billion industry, because married men cheat more than Bachelors and on the female side, single ladies prostitutes cheat more than other women. So, you see the relationship between married men and prostitutes. What happened Why The Anwser is; Love flows in and flows out. Allow it to flow back just like the wind except you are having a 'great time' with some other.

In which case the title of the thread should be:
"I am cheating on my wife in a crazy fun way with another girl. How do I divorce my wife without breaking her heart ?"

The answer is:

Karma!

I dnt drink nor smoke, my dear!

Badgers14:


My guy before you utter those words to her.. Think about your life. Did you promise anyone marriage before? How was your sex life in SA, SA women can do jazz pass 9ja people sef, Zimbabwe's and all.

I am not saying that this will be the cause oo.. Just that from Experience, story i heard before from a friend.

Since you are not in love with your wife anymore, are you falling for another person? When did this start? You chop iyabasera.

I am not trying to funny and you don't have to reply me but sometimes we need to take a little step back and reexamine our lives.

It could be also your ditched another dude and married you. Things they happen my guy.

I was deeply touched when you mentioned your wife's good character and all and women with those qualities are hard to find these days..

Cheers man!

Evry relationship hs its ups & downs..and every1 in the relationship hv their pro's & cons...she isn't a saint in tht sense, bt she's a good girl. I cnt bring her to SA bcz she dsnt wnt to relocate...Keep me in ur prayers bro's..tht she changes her mind and we try work it out.

The temptation here is too high, there's lots of beautiful, intelligent, humble & God fearing woman ths side...an the more shs nt wit me...the more I get weak.

ATK4Joy:
The issue here is distance! I won't advice any anyone in a distance relationship(especially out of the country) is to wed without getting his/her papers ready to meat the partner wherever he/she is to avoid stories that touch! If u say u can hold on,what of your partner! To the guy here try take a look back at what attracted her to you before you decided to marry her as your wife n make sure you rekindle the love

Distance is an issue...We've both sort of drifted apart, we hardly talk...I'm available to talk and video call her all the tym bt She only texts me during the night an so forth (mostly she wud be sending me funny videos & sermons). I neva treated her badly, never...I send her money every month. U ppl keep on sayin marriage isn't about lov & sex...but trust me those 2 are aspects of marriage...an with my wife everything its missionary, dull & boring.

U kno 9ja galz dey deprive us sexually, with the NO SEX b4 marriage terms... as men we pushed to marry an make them wives. bt tht is not the reason I married her, I married her bcz it felt real.

Anyhow, she dsnt wnt to relocate wth me...she says she dsnt wnt to be away frm hr family...an I dnt see myslf comin to reside in Nigeria at all. I am being defeated by my emotions, I'm a man and have physical needs.

note: I dnt hv any gf in SA...

I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.