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maureen546:
Congratulation in advance,president Jonathan,on our unstoppable re_election as a president of the federal republic of Nigeria,it had been decred by almighty God.

Believe me or not. I’m not a love doctor but these “Top 50 Things You Need To Do For A Relationship To Last” will eventually help your relationship in one way or the other.

1. Burn your blueprint.

Rid yourself of whatever fantasies you harbor about the bliss of coupled life. They’re not helping. There is no script, so don’t be disappointed when your fairytale gets hijacked.

2. Forgive.

Didn’t Jesus say something about forgiving someone not just seven times but seventy times seven? That would be 490 times….which should last you through your first 6 months. Jesus underestimated because, remember, he wasn’t married.

3. And forget.

If you forgive but don’t forget, did you really forgive? I know people who claim to have forgiven but still use every available opportunity to bring it up. And if you don’t want to forgive, forgetting works just as well.

4. Be a good teammate.

Life can come at you hard. One of the nice things about marriage and relationships is being able to have someone else in the bunker when you’re getting shelled.

5. Grow.

If you still have the same desires, opinions and beliefs at age 50 that you did at age 25, that’s your own damn fault. You will not, and should not, be the same person you were then.

6. And adapt.

Even if you stagnate, the person you’re in a relationship with will change. Don’t fight it. Embrace it, learn from it, be thankful for it.

7. Find your faith.

There is great comfort in believing in something or someone beyond our crude human existence. Explore this belief. Take this journey together.

8. Travel together.

Travel forces couples to rely on one another in unpredictable ways. It will also broaden your worldview and the way you value your relationship.

9. Travel separately.

I want to go to Australia and you want to go to Maine? Cool. Take lots of pictures. See you in a week.

10. Develop your own interests.

It seems counter-intuitive, but you will enhance your relationship when you pursue your separate interests.

11. Cultivate a wide, diverse circle of friends.

One of the greatest joys of living is meeting new people. And many of the people you meet will likely make you appreciate your mate even more.

12. Don’t keep score.

I know a couple who keeps track of the number of times each partner completes a household chore. Don’t do this. It’s exhausting. And childish.

13. Exercise.

You owe it to each other to be in the best physical health possible. The mental side effects from exercise will also be beneficial.

14. Practice self-awareness.

Take frequent looks in the mirror. Reflect on who you are and the contributions you are making to your relationship. Are you being judgmental? Unfair? Harsh? Hypercritical? Defensive?

15. Admit that you’re wrong (even, on occasion, when you aren’t).

This is both the easiest and hardest thing to do on this list. But this simple gesture will pay immeasurable dividends; it will help you grow and it’s just the right thing to do.

16. Celebrate accomplishments big and small.

Whether it’s a promotion at work or the police officer let you off with just a warning, find every occasion possible to toast your good fortune.

17. Surprise one another.

Fill up her car. Let him sleep alone in the bed once in a while. Buy some bacon.

18. It’s the good little things.

Holding the door, suggesting a movie night, paying attention. The reward for these is greater than the sum of the parts.

19. And it’s the bad little things.

Cracking your knuckles, spitting, clearing your throat, picking your nose, chewing ice. These are death by a thousand cuts to your relationship.

20. Cultivate your finer qualities.

When do you ever have an opportunity to really work on qualities that make you a better person? In a strong relationship, you can do it every single day. Qualities like patience, loyalty, compassion, trust.

21. The bathroom is private.

If you think it’s quaint to brush your teeth while I use the toilet, you’ll change your mind about that eventually. Trust me.

22. Talk about sex (but not just right before, during, or right after).

Sex is an important part of any relationship. But for some reason couples don’t want to discuss it unless they are in the throes of passion. Don’t make sex a taboo subject.

23. Encourage each other.

We all have insecurities. Your relationship is one place where you should be completely free to reveal these and your spouse should help you overcome them.

24. It’s okay to have secrets.

Even George Bailey slipped Violet Bick a $20 bill every now and then.

25. Avoid subtext.

This is a cowardly way to communicate. If you have something to say, say it. Don’t hint about it.

26. Put it down.

The toilet seat. Her cell phone. The beat.

27. Pick it up.

Your dirty sock. Your used tissue. The pace.

28. Don’t over-romanticize past (or future) relationships.

You weren’t that great and your ex isn’t that hot.

29. Never use the “s” word.

Don’t call each other “stupid.” That’s just stu…. not wise.

30. Offer solutions, not criticism.

Anyone can criticize. A good teammate (See Rule 4) will offer a way out.

31. Read.

To escape or to expand. Either way, it helps.

32. You are equals.

It doesn’t matter which one of you makes the most money. It doesn’t matter which one of you has the better REO Speedwagon vinyl collection. It doesn’t matter which one of you has the best nickname. It doesn’t even matter which one of you has the coolest food allergy.

33. Compliment each other.

Sincerely and often.

34. Respect each other’s friends.

You know your wife’s loud mouthed, insane friend Cathy who thinks you have weak bullshit and can’t believe you married her BFF? See below.

35. Know when to keep your mouth shut.

No list would be complete without the “Do these jeans make my butt look big?” lesson.

36. Indulge each other’s passions.

Scrapbooking doesn’t count.

37. Lose your arbitrary moral code.

This list alone proves that I am the king of the double standard. When I want to spend money on a new set of golf clubs, it’s a good investment. When my wife wants to spend money on new kitchen countertops, she’s a profligate. It’s not exactly fair.

38. Respect space and time.

Have we not evolved as a species or watched enough Dr. Phil to realize our mate does not want to answer the question “How was your day?” the minute he/she walks in the door?

39. Take pride in your appearance.

Your marriage license doesn’t give you a free pass to always wear sweat pants and T-shirts.

40. Maintain good hygiene.

Could your big toenail puncture a snow tire? Could your breath peel wallpaper? Take care of that, please. I don’t want to have to tell you again.

41. Ask before you throw it away.

Don’t touch that broken, ceramic, animated cactus tequila shot glass holder. I’m serious.

42. Invite his/her family to special gatherings.

At least once. Thankfully, this may be all you need.

43. Speaking of family, everyone gets a holiday card and a birth announcement.

Even your creepy Uncle Steve and their psycho cousin Lisa.

44. Don’t be petty.

So I forgot to stop at the store to get your prescription. Did you have to throw away my ceramic cactus shot glass holder?

45. Be self-sufficient.

Learn to do your own laundry. Know how to cook a meal; how to navigate the grocery store; how to make an online purchase; how to turn off the water to the house; how to erect a Nerf basketball hoop; how to unclog a toilet.

46. Everything is fair game for a joke.

This should be at the heart of everything you do. I have not found a single thing that I have been unable to eventually laugh about. If you know this from the beginning, it makes things a lot more fun.

47. Have good manners.

Don’t yell. Open the door. Help carry the groceries. Cover your cough. Hold your gas.

48. Be responsible with money.

No one lives on love. You need money. If you earned it, you will almost certainly respect it. If you didn’t earn it, you must respect it even more.

49. Remember to say thank you.

Even and especially when things don’t seem like they need to be acknowledged.

50. Adapting beats abandoning.

There will be moments when you want to quit, walk out, give up. You can do that. But you will probably be doing so without giving due consideration to the new life that awaits you. Will you be better off in six months? 10 years?

- Source: http://www.viewngr.com/see-top-50-things-need-relationship-last

No doubt, guys these will get your day going as I revealed and explain TOP 9 Things Girls Want Out Of A Relationship to you.

1. Someone who goes out of their way to show us they want us.

Overtold is the story of the girl left reeling over the person they really wanted to be with but whom toyed with them and left them blindsided. All we’re really looking for at the end of the day is someone who genuinely cares.

2. Someone who has a life of their own too.

We don’t need you to consume our every moment. We’re not waiting for you to save us from our banal existence. We just want you to hop in for the ride.

3. Someone who understands there are different types of sex.

There is the romantic sex you have when you just want to hold someone and be with them in the most intimate way possible, there is the urgent, hot, slightly aggressive sex you have because you just want it bad, there is the run of the mill sex you have when you can tell the other person isn’t that interested, and there is the sex you have where you can tell that the person does indeed love and care about you, and not just their orgasm. It’s a little softer, a little lighter, a little more involved. There’s a look in their eye that can’t really be feigned or replicated.
4. Someone who just listens.

Here is a hot tip for you all. Usually, girls aren’t looking for you to give advice or solve problems that are so easily solvable– they just want to vent. They want to tell you about whatever is running through their head, they want to be so open with you that they can tell you about the nuances of their day and what they had for lunch and all the other things nobody else would care about. More importantly, girls want someone who take their thoughts and opinions seriously, and don’t just brush them off. They want someone who acts and changes their behaviors when they voice that they’re unhappy.

5. Someone who loves our bodies the way they are, not the embellished version.

Yeah, anybody can love a body that’s starved to unnatural thinness, tanned, made up, styled and replicated to look like some crazy social ideal. While that’s fun, and sometimes indeed done for our own personal enjoyment, at the end of the day what’s better is someone who (yes, the old cliche) looks at you and thinks you’re most beautiful “in sweatpants without make up on.”

6. Someone who displays interest, kindness, willingness.

The bad boy/girl/whatever that’s kind of hot initially gets old… fast. Nobody wants to spend their better days with someone who is disengaged and largely uninterested. Let those ideas go. We want someone who is as interested as us, as kind to us as we are them, and someone who is willing to talk about what those things mean and how you can compromise to meet each other’s needs.

7. Someone with whom we just “click.” Someone who we’d still be friends with if the romantic element were gone.

Call it chemistry or whatever, but at the end of the day you need to be with someone with whom you have a slightly unexplainable but also undeniable pull toward. Someone who lights a little fire in your heart and groin and makes you want to try even if you feel like trying could be ultimately futile. Someone who is your best friend during the day and your lover at night. Someone who you can talk to, someone who, at the end of the day, if you removed the romance, you’d still be friends with.

8. Someone who has their shit together. Aka, ambition.

Nobody wants to seriously be with someone who is lost, broke, out of school/unemployed and not really looking to change that. Ambition is one of those things that needs to match in a relationship, otherwise it’s a constant tug of war of waiting and pushing your partner to get their act together.

9. Someone who isn’t afraid to be sensitive and vulnerable.

Look. You want to get down to the reality of it all, the things that are going to mean the most are the morning texts and cute little love notes and nauseating shit like that. We don’t want hardened hearts at the end of the day– nobody does. We don’t want you reeling from your last fling, telling us you care without showing, seemingly only mildly interested. We want all of you, forever, you and us. If you didn’t get that that was a Notebook reference STEP UP YOUR GIRL DATING GAME.

Most women have been taught since childhood to be “good little girls”, “behave like a lady”, and “grin and bear it”. Remember hearing the saying “little girls are made of sugar and spice, and all things nice”?

Fast forward to the 21st century, where women are now allowed to be tough, to say NO, to speak their mind, to become CEO’s and to enjoy sex. Women have become more assertive and in tune to their needs, wants and desires.

Some men like the fact that women are able to “talk the talk” and “walk the walk”, while others feel intimidated by it. Without a doubt this change has had great impact on relationships between men and women, specifically the actions and behaviors of women.

According to 2012 statistics from the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 14% of married women have cheated compared to 22% of married men. Although women are not exceeding men in cheating, they are having emotional affairs and sex behind their man’s back. However, when a woman cheats, she is usually cheating for emotional intimacy while a man usually cheats for physical pleasure.

Women are still emotionally invested in their relationships. They want to feel desired, wanted and irresistable. It’s quite phenomenal how far women have come in this world, from women’s lib, entering the workforce, becoming professionals, breadwinners of the family, and now getting their needs met; even if it means cheating. Now get ready to see what I reveal about why women cheat.

1. Lack of attention and intimacy:

How long can you go without receiving love and attention before you look somewhere else? Some can go for only days or weeks, and others can go for years. However, in general, women need and desire intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention. If you are not receiving this from your husband or boyfriend, it will only be a matter of time and you may seek it from another i.e. a caring guy friend, the attentive guy who feeds your emotional needs at your workplace, or the hot trainer at the gym. Women deprived of attention, compliments, and compassion; usually have emotional affairs. That doesn’t mean it won’t lead to sex but initially they crave the attention and compassion that has been absent from their relationship.

2. Revenge:

Being cheated on is a very difficult act to forgive. For those of you who have been cheated on, you know how awful it feels. You feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad, numb and even violated. It also affects your self-esteem. At the moment you find out your man cheated, your whole body begins to shake, you begin to sweat, your stomach drops, and you feel nauseated. Clearly, it negatively affects your relationship, your mood, behavior, and your ability to trust the cheater ever again. When you have been cheated on, some of you may want to get revenge by making them feel the way you felt. This can lead you, to do the cheating next. The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a relationship problem. Communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in your relationship are a much better solution.

3. Bad sex:

Women need to feel desired and experience REAL orgasms during sex. If you are getting bad sex, not enough sex, non-emotional sex, or “wham-bam-thank-you-mam” sex, you may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look elsewhere for GOOD sex! This creates temptation to seek sexual or emotional satisfaction elsewhere. In my opinion, it’s best to communicate your needs to your man with the hopes that he will step it up a notch. You can do this on your own or with the help of a sex therapist.

4. Weight loss/plastic surgery:

Male attention increases quickly after a boob job, a butt implant or weight loss, and so does your self-confidence. With all this male attention, your temptation to cheat rises, and it takes more self-control to resist some of those male offers. Once you realize other guys want you, your desire to act on it may have you feeling euphoric. However, be careful, act wisely and make your pros and cons list.

5. Financial independence:

When you feel financially dependent on your husband or boyfriend, it’s more difficult to speak up in arguments or leave the relationship. The fear of being alone and financially unstable keeps you in a one-down position. Now that women make their own money, enjoy working, and are good at it, the need to stay in an unhappy relationship is not necessary. That feeling of power and independence can be like seeing the red carpet laid out for you; all the way to those other fish in the sea.

6. Low self-esteem:

When you feel insecure about yourself, you have a need to seek validation from others. This can be in the form of sexual, emotional, or intellectual attention. When you don’t love or value yourself, you may project that onto the person you are in a relationship with, and believe they don’t love or value you. Even if your husband or boyfriend loves you greatly, you still may cheat because you find it hard to accept their unconditional love. I suggest reading one of the many self-help books out there on building your self-esteem, or get some counseling to help improve self-confidence.

7. Feeling under-appreciated:

When you are in a relationship, you like to please your man. Cooking a romantic dinner, buying sexy lingerie, and listening with your heart, are just a few ways you may show your love and appreciation. So what happens when you don’t hear “thank you, please or I love you.” Holidays and birthdays come and you don’t receive anything meaningful, nothing at all, not even a verbal acknowledgement. We all have thresholds, and once yours is reached, you may decide to act on a “thank you, please, or I love you” coming from another direction. Let your man know he may lose you if he continues to take you for granted.

8. Bored:

He doesn’t spray on that good smelling cologne anymore, his clothing is wrinkled, stained or way out-of- date. When he comes home from work (assuming he has a job), it’s the same old thing; “what’s for dinner”? When the weekend comes, he says he’s tired and just wants to relax at home, or go out to the same sports bar you go every weekend. The routine is the same over and over again. You are no longer on the same page. You barely have anything in common. You are feeling emotionally distant from him. You find yourself looking at other prospects and fantasize about being with someone else. You begin to feel excited (something you haven’t felt in “forever”) just thinking about it. There are many ways to spice up an old, tired relationship. Boredom is something that can be resolved with a little, or sometimes a moderate amount of effort. It requires both of you introducing new ideas and behaviors, and some spontaneity. Be sure of what you want.

Source: http://www.viewngr.com/top-8-reasons-women-cheat-may-surprise

A bomb blast occurred this afternoon at Abubakar Habu Hashidu Road, about 200 meters from the Pantami stadium, venue of President Jonathan’s campaign in Gombe state today.

According to reports, the bomb which was planted in a stationed tricycle, went off just minutes after president Jonathan and his team left the venue of the campaign. Five people have already been confirmed dead. More later…(president Jonathan pictured above at the campaign rally today)

Source: http://www.viewngr.com/bomb-blast-reported-close-gejs-campaign-venue-gombe

115 years old Susannah Mushatt Jones born July-6-1899-American

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Egboboss:
these comedians with their sense wey dem take dey collect bread from broses eh.... Bet you,, Uduaghan go pay for that pic

unlessgod:
No please tell me the meaning mr know

unlessgod:
Panic....

The two like brothers comedians who both base in Benin were captioned in the joint eating the normal mouth warning Oghwoghwo Banga Rice in Warri. - See more at: http://www.view.com.ng/i-go-dye-and-i-go-save-igosave-eating-banga-rice/

TheShopKeeper:
The waiting game continues.
So sad that FG, PDP are playing politics with peoples lives.

Estertween:
if dem come make i wake up in a new dafo sshhhh

pastoraaaaaa:
Speechless


[size=18pt]Lady publicly Stripped and Disgraced for being almost Nake.d on street[/size]

Egboboss:
Good for him.. i heard he was rejoicing for a successful election yday? when there was no vote yesterday at the isoko

valicious1:
OKEY BAKASSI BEATS dEM ALL

mizmayree:
I go for AY against Basket Mouth... Basket Mouth is a Monkey jawe..

hehe my sweet heart @Igosave,, You are the most handsome nigeria comedian,, meh you too fine muaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh honey,, i too love you dear..

Donbigi:
Have you seen AY and Basket mouth in the same show/event before? or have you ever see Basket mouth in AY Live Show or AY on Basket Mouth Uncensored?

Donbigi:
Ay and Basket mouth are the greatest enemy why did you placed two of them 2gether,, hmmm Basket mouth beat AY down sha,,,