₦airaland Forum

SpencerForbes:
Thanks. It’s just really funny they don’t have conscience and can never appreciate. Let’s be clear, women never love. So when it’s time, just look for one virgin above 17 and marry. Cos the ones we have now are already gone.

Are you a virgin??

Saybal:
Is laziness,they now see relationship as a full time job.

Men should go for quality women rather than all these lazy and hungry ones

lol
How many quality men even dey in the first place??

omooba969:
Between the man and the woman, who is more likely or well known to use diversification as a means for material gains?

Be honest. 🥱 🥱🥱

This is actually not the topic. Stick to the topic

ekitimanalways:
Married women are not left out!

is married men left out?

VaginaAcademic:
just dey play dey form woke it's a man's world. In the past men used to marry multiple women but that has changed in recent time.

it's man's world yet men cannot live or survive without women unlike women. Even at old age

Dshocker:
I don't know if you are a guy, but if you are, i want to ask you a question.

When dating a girl, and you found out she is dating another guy, so will you go ahead and take her serious, by engaging her to marry you?

can a lady also continue dating a guy if she found out he's also dating another girl?

advanceDNA:
We are talking about expecting loyalty from who u want to marry,...... U are jumping to length of court ship.....
If u like marry a woman u met 30 days ago... How can u say a woman can cheat until they get married....

Don't women themselves expect loyalty from the man they want to marry....??

Be like ur babe or wife dey read ur comment on nairaland. .

are you loyal?

spiceadole:
It's a man that decides if a marriage holds or not.
Women can only fantasize,wait and pray .
If the man doesn't marry them,their loss.

Some of them spend their youthfulness, waiting on their boyfriends, while forsaking serious men who could have long married them.

After all the wait, boyfriend disappoints
Society will judge them harshly for being single into their 30s.

Date but don't allow boyfriend make you miss your husband.

Wisdom is profitable to direct

still ladies that will decide to accept or reject a man's proposal. The fact that you asked a lady to marry you doesn't mean she will accept. It takes two to tango

highness25:
What about the ones in their husband's house that still bleeps outside?

what about married men that still sleep around??

advanceDNA:
So a lady is free to cheat until the Saturday y'all get married.......?? Lol...y'all are too funny .

Faithfulness is a habit ooo ....a ring on the finger doesn't manufacture faithfulness out of thin air...
... If loyalty is not there during dating then don't expect loyalty inside the marriage....

So loyalty are meant for only ladies?

Myrepublic:
If she can't commit to me,then it's not worth it marrying her.. After all,I am doing her a favor,even considering her at all..

marry your fellow men so that you won't do her a favour

Qatar2022:
According to them, they left their options open but Reality they're prostituting

who are they prostituting with?

Seunfretty:
It's the rainy and harvest period do u expect food to keep climbing....keep fooling yourselves...iranu!!

I guess it will go up before the end of the year.

Caaz:
A paint of white Garri is sold at the rate of 1300, whilst a paint of yellow Garri goes a s low as 1500.

A paint of white garri in Lagos here is #1700

DeOTR:
The last I remember, we still haven't had a political party in we love in Nigeria. What a common man on the street would say in 2006 is the same thing they would say today.
To the best of my knowledge, 5% of Nigerians have always been at the top of the food chain, while the rest suffers. I wonder if most of you guys are kids. If the history of Nigerian economy is not thought in school, try to at least study on your free time.
I'm old enough to know that Nigeria haven't had a day better than the previous one;everything getting worse year on year, but typical of you guys, you want a quick fix without doing something drastic.

Who's doing something drastic??

Hezzyluv:
Because of hate for APC, see as so many people turned to Natasha advocate


Shebi court case soppz dey resolved before she come back? She should retract her statements apologize with recognized news paper as advised, make them allow her come back.

The simple question you should ask yourself is that, what has APC done that makes Nigerians hate them this much. The common man on the street will give you answers to the question

LoneSoldier:
It is not an over flogged topic, is just a question directed to men not people like you, so you are free to flee any thread I create that doesn't suit your view, like you said, Life is not that hard?

Then can you let women be? Can't you live without women? Is it a must you marry? Maybe you should marry your fellow man that brings something to the table. Very simple

jmoore:
Dude just rest! And stop embarassing yourself after your hypocrisy has been exposed.

Which hypocrisy? The link you shared, is the man a Yoruba man maltreating his Igbo wife? The answer is no. Igbo culture doesn't joke with bride price because they know the man will not have right on the children.

Maltreating a woman can come from any tribe. I'm not even fixated yet on how op sister was maltreated. I'm talking about how the man refused to marry her properly despite his family members telling him and coming from a region that knows the important of marrying a woman properly. Stop pretending like you don't know the man is a bad man and he wouldn't have done that if op sister came from his region.

jmoore:
https://dailypost.ng/2025/07/17/osun-police-nab-man-for-brutal-assault-on-wife/

I guess this one is not from your region.

If you see spade, you call am plywood.

at least they're same tribe right? If op sister's case happened to be the other way round, they'd begin to cry they hate us, they don't like us, they are jealous of us bla bla bla.

CoronaVirusPro:
You have a right to your opinion. You own it.

I pity you with this APC group you joined. Because of what you'd eat, you go against the masses. Keep it up

Chemical1:
Oga there are tribes where pride price or introduction is not done until the woman is dead before they will do the necessary things before doing her burial..
Sometimes the man will first die and it is the members of the family that will do those necessary things..
I wanted to go further but I don't think you have any idea about what I'm saying.
Many of you type from the small experience within your territory..
Like some people will say there is nothing like juju, will you blame such people, No' because when people like that have never experience what is call juju for their entire life they will blindly argue..

Op is a Yoruba from Ogun State and he never said his tribe or family doesn't do marriage for their daughters. I have never heard of that in my entire life. Op is obviously not from that tribe. Mention that tribe let's hear from you.

jmoore:
Una don carry tribal bigotry enter this section.

Grow up!

It is not the matter of tribal bigotry but the real fact. It is a cultural thing for them. Once you didn't pay your wife bride price and marry her properly. The children doesn't belong to you. They can't treat op sister like this if she was from their region. It is what it is. Let's call a spade a spade.

Atolu01:
It's only the femmes of their region they see and treat as human . My Heart goes out to your sis . She should try to pull herself together (better) and get a job . All is well

You're right. I doubt if they can ever treat op sister like that if she was from their region. After they'll be crying marginalisation up and down. They will be crying that other tribe hate them. See how a grown man destroyed the destiny of this young woman simply because she's not their tribe. So sad

MazzMet:
My only sister is married to an Igbo man from Imo State while we came from Ogun State. She was 22 when they met, while the man was 39. The man happened to be her first love, according to the man. Their marriage is almost 18 years with 4 kids: two boys and two girls. My parents don’t support the marriage, but the man insisted it’s either my sister or no one else. My father begged my sister not to marry this man, but she insisted. He got her pregnant and never paid her bride price nor married her legally. My father still beseeched her not to continue this marriage journey, but she never listened. He relocated to Port Harcourt from Lagos in February 2014 without letting us know their reasons for relocation.

This year makes it 11 years since we last set eyes on my sister. She doesn’t have a phone so we couldn’t reach her. Whenever we call the husband, he always gave us excuses: he’s not around, he travelled, she has gone to church, etc. And sometimes when we luckily reached her through her husband’s phone, she always made it look like she’s fine, even though we knew she’s not. My father lost his mother in 2019, her paternal grandmother; she and her husband didn’t show up. My mother lost her mother in 2021 and her younger siblings; my sister and her husband never showed up. We lost our father in 2022, same thing, they didn’t show up.

We got a call last month from her that she’d be coming to Lagos to see us. She arrived on July 14th, 2025, with 3 of her children. She narrated all what she has gone through in her marriage, how her husband beat her physically and emotionally almost every day. She learnt catering and decoration, but he never allowed her to work, he didn't allowed her use a mobile phone, nor establish her. He collects any money sent to her through her family and the church she attends. The husband has a younger brother abroad and, according to my sister, the man has sent her husband money and buses several times to sell, start up a business, and ensure he pays his wife’s bride price, but he never listened. My sister overheard her husband’s conversation with his brother in Igbo dialect, how his brother was shouting at him on the phone, asking why he refused to pay his wife’s bride price, and the husband said to his brother that he will not pay it because my late father gave him a tough time since he didn’t want him to marry his only daughter. So to him, it is payback time. This man always embarrasses my sister in public. He always goes to church to embarrass her, including in front of the pastors and members.

This same man has never called her ever since she came to Lagos, at least to know how she and the kids are faring. The church has been so helpful, according to her. It was the church that gave her transport money to come with her children. He almost collected the money from her, discouraging her from coming, but she insisted. Her first child is 17 and she's in school, studying Engineering, suffering, as the father has refused to work. The pastor has helped him secure jobs several times, but he always turns them down. My sister said she’s fed up with the marriage and she’s never going back. Things have been so difficult for my family even before their arrival, now she came with her children to complicate things and make it worse.

Her daughter always disturbs her on the phone, crying and asking for money, and she has no money. I wonder who advised the poor girl to sit for jamb and enrolled in school. I was forced to send ₦5,000 from the ₦12,500 in my account. I have been having sleepless nights about my sister situation. How I wish she listened to our late father, how I wish she had listened to the family. Her children cried to bed last night without food. School will resume in two weeks’ time, what would be their fate? The day I set eyes on my sister, I couldn’t recognize her. She looked pale and worn out. Someone who’s not 40 yet. My mother is so heartbroken.

All these break my heart.

speechless

That man is evil.

Nnamdipapa:
I don’t share what I discuss with my brother and sisters with my wife for example. I don't share my business finances with my wife,, another example.

Why the hell should I lose my individuality because of marriage ?

both gender are guilty of checking their partner phone. Have you ever asked MEN what are they looking for checking their wives phone?

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yomi531:
The money will just be like dash to me sha Coz , I had long forgotten about it. Anyways na my sweat. And about 2027, I will vote a southerner. 100%

You're free to vote a Southerner but not this Tinubu please.

SimpleGuy001:
I really want to deal with this man, I think I have had enough. He isn’t gonna change, I didn’t want to take this route but it is a a must at this point.

I have a similar case. My problem with you is that you're still funding his wayward lifestyle through the money you keep sending to him. Your father can never change. Only old age will take that from him and he will later regret his actions but already late. Please focus on your mother and siblings. Don't even go home and talk to him. That won't change him. He will shout at you, curse you, report you to his family members, neighbours and his girlfriend. I know him type. Let your mother and siblings be your priority.

thesicilian:
He's an immature adult. His mother and sister have probably filled his head with stories.
When he eventually decides to grow up, he will understand life a lot better.

you be comedian. He knows his father even more than the sisters. Na old age the man go collect last last. Those kind of men thought they won't get old again.

StPete:
My point is still in consonance with my earlier position on the matter so it is not derailing

abeg rest. You're going out of point.