StayMotivated:
Contact a Lawyer to write a letter of demand, if they fail to pay up within 14 days, he will institute an action in court to recover your money. Trust me your debtors will pay immediately, you can contact me i can be of help

My friend i may be able to help you travel to Canada if you have some sort of certificate to back your Welding profession.

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sunsweet33:
I hope I can someday find a man who can live me the way you love your wife. This is utter madness. You better listen to your pastor.

I don’t usually like all this “my pastor said” stuff but in this case, you need divine intervention. One of the worst stories I’ve ever read on Nairaland.

akaahs:

Bros, i really feel ur pains. I took my time to read all of ur story and im glad the priest have told u what exactly i should have advice a blood brother or me to do. At this time is ur peace of mind that matters most not even to ur children. Do away with that woman and her family before they kill you and u won't be there for ur children. You need time to cool off.13 years in bondage in a so called marriage, haba bros u have really try. Kudos.

TheRealOwner:


Utter rubbish. Since you know English is not your language, you should have typed it in your own language and seek advice from those that understand your language alone.

Infact you should never try to interact with any English speaking person and avoid any form of speech or writing in English. Lazy semi-literate trying to excuse incompetence

ceeceeuwa:

Your only problem is that you want to please everyone except yourself. You want to please the church, you want to please your inlaws, you don't want to be seen as following your father's legacy. Guy, there is no marriage in haven. It all ends here on earth! If that lady and her family doesn't give you peace, then quit! Your peace of mind is paramount. Just pack and leave her, but keep sending your children's upkeep.

Explain the situation to your employers so they wont be taken aback when she comes making trouble at your place of work. If she comes there once or twice she would quit and stop coming.
If your work place has another branch, then tell your superiors to help you get a transfer.
You may be psychological attached to your children and that is what they are using as a bait to keep frustrating you. Learn to be strong! Na person wey dey alive naim they answer ' father'.

We only live once!

SyrusdeHansome:
If my uncle been no marry Igbo woman i for think say this story is fake but i knw it`s true. My problem with the op is that with all the experiences he has had he`s still not that experienced in life. I`ve seen a situation where the woman`s family killed their daughter thro witcharaft just because they were against the marriage frm the onset. The man was stubborn just like u. At the end of the day if they can`t kill u they`ll kill their daughter so that u will lose out and still give them what they`re looking for.

MumEmdy:
The weapon fashion against you is your brother in-law (the one your wife was living with before the marriage issue came up he has brain washed your father in-law and his family into not accepting you from the beginning.

Now my advice to you, please return the lady to her people now that she's hale and hearty so that you wouldn't be forced to marry a corpse later, her village people can kill or harm her just to get back at you. She can go with with the kids if they insist do not drag with them as they will definitely look out for you when they are of age.

You have tried your best and I commend you for going through all this stress just to keep your woman, your church especially the Priest has really played a vital role in this marriage saga and I want you to heed to all his advice.

Op let her go, except they are willing to wave all the bills and tender a sincere apology for making you pass thru all this physical and emotional stress and your wife should also promise to be of good behavior because I read somewhere in the post where you stated her stubbornness waywardness!!!

LilMissFavvy:
My advice is that you should suspend everything concerning marriage rites /wedding, suspend everything. I wish you didn't use a bottle to fight your wife's brother. Learn to control your temper.

There is no perfect woman, so if you want to continue to live with your wife, fine, don't allow anyone discourage you. However you must call her to order. Tell her clearly that if she disrespects you again, that you will abandon her and leave the house.

Definitely there is a spiritual angle to all these drama, it's clear your wife's family don't want her to get married. Looks like witchcraft. In future your father in-law will be dead, so you will try doing the marriage again.
Thank u Soo much.,.

tuzle:
To be sincere I tried reading but the grammar here is too painful to the eye. I am not one who likes pointing out people's error because I know we can all make mistake. But for such a long post, u should always try to minimize ur errors.

SuperOnyi:




So sorry sir, but I lost some brain cells reading this. 죄송합니다 😭👍🏿

seetomorrow:


Listen Man....never you listen or respond to any negative contribution here, I literally feel your pain. Even if is fake no problem but I know you are telling the truth here. I feel what you went through.
So be courageous in life and always be positive in all you do.

Goodnewsforlife:
keep quiet there n don’t b stupid

After all he took excuse for his blunders before he started the narration, I don’t blame u cos it’s obvious u are a kid that knows nothing about life

U are looking for well articulated write up from a man going through hell

Did he force u to read it, u even call am werey join

tolugar:


With her attitude towards you I don't think you will last any longer.

My advice at this time is to take your kids to your parents and run away or run away with your kids.

pocohantas:
The more time you spend with someone that doesn't love or rate you,

The less time you have to spend with someone who loves you.


For you to type this epistle, the matter long.
Do the needed and live long, Sir.

Psady:
That your uncle that left you behind on getting to your in-law place, have u asked him what prompted him to do that ? If u did and not telling us then there's possibility u hiding something from us .
People kept asking you the tribe ,only when it became disturbing you spilled.
I can confidently tell you the advice you need has long been given to you ,but due to foolishness you keep dragging feet.
Please take full custody of those kids that's paramount ,am sure your wife next step will suprise you when she deciphers what's on your mind .

Stevenbright:


Ok. There are good and bad people everywhere.

Like I said earlier, do the right thing for yourself. She is not a respectful and cooperative wife. That is why it is why the situation is very hard on you. Assuming she is on your side, supportive and cooperative, her family's efforts to make life difficult for you would not have been this difficult a nut to crack.

So, do yourself right by following your father and pastor's advice.

tolugar:


If you are my brother or son I'll poison or kill you and your people. You are an idiot. Passing through all this in the name of fake marriage.

Waybill the girl to her parents house cos you've Dung your grave longer than 6 ft.

tolugar:


If you are my brother or son I'll poison or kill you and your people. You are an idiot. Passing through all this in the name of fake marriage.

Waybill the girl to her parents house cos you've Dung your grave longer than 6 ft.

Stevenbright:


The very one you have refused to answer and telling people to chat you privately.

Stevenbright:


You are hiding somethings bro. Answer the above questions about your wife.

Also, a woman that doesn't respect you and leaves the house at will for no good reason is who you are struggling to officially get married to, to what end? Instead of you to see these obstacles as signs for you to get out of that entanglement.

Omuuvwie:


Please tell me the state, you and ur partner is from, that could be a saving grace to someone, you never can tell

Omuuvwie:
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Bro please don't be offended which state are you from, and which state is your wife?

Asquare84:


Sorry for what you are passing through, the worst mistake you will make is to use your father standards to set for your self i.e because your father divorced your mum, then you don't want divorce even when your wife and her family don't want you, see let me tell you the truth, your happiness should matter much to you, take care of your kids, move on with your life, if I may tell you the truth, leave that woman.

okerekingsley90:


My brother I read through your story and understand your pain. I have been there trust me. Your Inlaw’s have taken you for granted. Well the way forward is your wife now. Where is her position in all of this. If she is with you well fine if she isn’t, you need to be tough and send her nack to her God forsaken father asap

Omuuvwie:
Guy I am very sorry to say that you are a mad man, fine I understand the fact that you don't want what happened to your father to happen to you, but you are not careful enough to choose a partner for yourself, how on earth will a sense able man will be trying so hard to marry a woman that doesn't have single respect for him, the truth is am short of what to tell you.

Yashita:
OP, how old are you now?

Start acting strong. Make a decision and stand on it.

They can't keep passing you around like a ball. Ask them what they really want from you. To pay a dowry or to take back their daughter & the kids.

Anyone they choose should determine your next line of action.

If they choose to take their adult daughter and your kids, let them go. Trust me, when your kids are of age, they'd come looking for you. Meanwhile you should look for another woman to pay her bride price and have more kids.

Yashita:
OP, how old are you now?

Start acting strong. Make a decision and stand on it.

They can't keep passing you around like a ball. Ask them what they really want from you. To pay a dowry or to take back their daughter & the kids.

Anyone they choose should determine your next line of action.

If they choose to take their adult daughter and your kids, let them go. Trust me, when your kids are of age, they'd come looking for you. Meanwhile you should look for another woman to pay her bride price and have more kids.

henrimoto:
I understand your write up, I'm not doubting it.

My friend, there is more (On the positive side) to life than this ill treatments you passed through in the hands of the family of the woman you called your wife.

For the pass years, you made yourself to be subjected to this kind of treatment because you want peace and want the right things to be done.

When will you wake up to reality, to understand that you are dealing with the wrong and wicked set of people/family as in-law to be ?
Is it when you enter the grave before you realized this?

On top of your own hard earned resources, a family is treating you like a nobody, like you don't have self worth...and you are taking it like your life depends on their daughter.

My friend, wake up! You won't die if they take back their daughter and the children.

You are a man, for crying out loud.

You deserve better than this

henrimoto:
I understand your write up, I'm not doubting it.

My friend, there is more (On the positive side) to life than this ill treatments you passed through in the hands of the family of the woman you called your wife.

For the pass years, you made yourself to be subjected to this kind of treatment because you want peace and want the right things to be done.

When will you wake up to reality, to understand that you are dealing with the wrong and wicked set of people/family as in-law to be ?
Is it when you enter the grave before you realized this?

On top of your own hard earned resources, a family is treating you like a nobody, like you don't have self worth...and you are taking it like your life depends on their daughter.

My friend, wake up! You won't die if they take back their daughter and the children.

You are a man, for crying out loud.

You deserve better than this