Have you ever seen a bird bullied by the wind?
It can struggle against it but it will still pull through, It will still travel maybe not in the direction it originally plan to go but it will leverage on the wind in a supportive way.
Today i was reflecting on...continue down
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Top Secrets to Choosing the Right Friends
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Question: Hello Royal-Queen. I'm mercy, i have a problem i would want to share...when I am asked to make a decision i take so long.
I'm not sure what i like or what to choose.
I always go with people's decision because i dont want to hurt them. But deep down I am not happy.


RQ Feedback:

Dear Mercy, I perfectly understand you, i have been there, I know that feeling of 'am i not smart?' The feeling of 'I'm I a push over?' It makes me want to cry...that was before i understood i have power over what i should allow and what not to allow.
You must understand your values perfectly before becoming an expert in making great choices and

hQuestion: Hello Royal-Queen. I'm mercy, i have a problem i would want to share...when I am asked to make a decision i take so long.
I'm not sure what i like or what to choose.
I always go with people's decision because i dont want to hurt them. But deep down I am not happy.


RQ Feedback:

Dear Mercy, I perfectly understand you, i have been there, I know that feeling of 'am i not smart?' The feeling of 'I'm I a push over?' It makes me want to cry...that was before i understood i have power over what i should allow and what not to allow.
You must understand your values perfectly before becoming an expert in making great choices and...
continue � https://voiceofteens1..com/2018/11/how-to-improve-your-decision-making-and.html

In today's world of 'scratch my back, then i will scratch your back'.
This story i'm about to share is all we need to remember what having a beautiful heart is all about.

To some love should never hurt...but a love that does not get hurt, does not truly love and that's because its not a sacrificial love, its all lip service.
Wait a sec. The love I'm talking about is NOT the romantic love � The love I refer to here, is love for humanity!

The Story: One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart ever.

A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect.

There was not a mark or a flaw in it.

Yes, they all agreed, it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen.

The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.

Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said, "Well...your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine."

The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly ... but full of scars. It had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in ... but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges.

In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing.

The people starred ... how could he say his heart is more beautiful, they thought?

The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. "You must be joking," he said. "Compare your heart with mine ... mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears."

"Yes," said the old man, "Yours is perfect looking ... but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love ..... I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them ... and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart ... but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared.

Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away ... and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges ... giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people too ... and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?"

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped a

Continue here https://voiceofteens1..com/2018/11/do-you-know-what-it-means-to-have.html

Unwanted Sexual Attention: How to deal with it
When a girl hits puberty she starts getting some kind of attention from the opposite sex.
Different girls react differently.
Some are happy, so are scared and some are just angry and wishes they dont step out alone.
They hear things like; Hello, fine geh (girl) can i talk to you for a moment?
Some young men might use the disgusting sound like the one some pet owners use when they want to call their dog�
Some say; Hey what's your name?
Can we be friends?
No matter the style used its still a challenge, because Some young men persists, some wont take no for an answer and when all these happens it become scary and a hard nut to crack for your girl.
Admirers also comes after them on social media, so if
continue here here � https://voiceofteens1..com/2018/11/unwanted-sexual-attention-how-you-can.html

QUESTION: I was invited for a friend's birthday party which took place at her family home.
I never knew how big it was going to be until I got there. The whole place was full and well organized. It was such a big family.
I got there a day before the party, her family and other friends were so pleased to have me, according to them, they've heard so many nice stuffs about me. I just mumbled thank you with a smile as they each say what they heard. But my discomfort started the night of my arrival, I was with my friend's mum alone in the kitchen, trying to help her fix dinner the next thing I heard her say was "my daughter speaks so fondly of you and that you are one friend she emulates" If you don't mind...Will like to know "what your values are?
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We are likely to meet toxic and manipulative people in our life time. We have people around us, we can't run away from people. Some of the people we meet every day have a narcissist background and it robbed off on them In terms of how they relate with us.
Let me take some time to describe them to help you relate.

I understand we show love and care in different degrees and its based on personality, training, environment and experience but manipulative/toxic people are a set that makes you see nothing but selfishness.

These set of people expect too much from you but gives very little.
They want you catering for them. They need love but are not willing to know how to love.
They carry you like a pinch of salt but want
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Most Victories Should be felt in the Heart not in the Head
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We want a generation of great leaders. The wrong mentality of leadership should be scraped! Here is what Royal-Queen has to say about leadership. View the compilation below;

Leadership can be intoxicating and people often times loose focus when they are in the place of leadership.
When we inteviewed Royal-Queen she poured out lots of wisdom on what leadership should be about and what it shouldnt. She tagged it 'what i want leaders to know' According to her she has always observed leaders closely and has taken time to pick points and her observation and experience over time birthed this five points for effective leadership.
Thank you Royal-Queen.
Dont forget to get a copy of her new book wisdom undiluted for teenagers.

Leadership can be intoxicating and people often times looses focus when they are in the place of leadership.
When we interviewed Royal-Queen she poured out lots of wisdom on what leadership should be about and what it shouldn't. She tagged it 'what i want leaders to know' According to her she has always observed leaders closely and has taken time to pick points and her observation and experience over time birthed this five points for effective leadership.
Thank you Royal-Queen.
Dont forget to get a copy of her new book wisdom undiluted for teenagers.
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Wow so glad to hear this news, Royal-Queen has just released a book. She is a great speaker no doubt her book will be lit �. I love her so much, the day i met with her she made me feel so important! She is not just beautiful but worthy of emulation.

Now about wisdom undiluted. This is a book for teenagers / young adults. Read about the book below;
Wisdom undiluted is a book written to answer all question as regards to Living.

Like water in the desert is wisdom undiluted to the soul.
It has hot advisory topics that chronicles challenges youths face every day and its solutions. It is tailored in a narrative way which makes it both interesting and enlightening for all teenagers.
This book as the name suggests will guide you and most importantly make wisdom dwell within and not an occasional visitor. It is a book that will make you become smarter and many times ahead. It is a book most parents will wish they had the opportunity to read as young adults because if they had... it would have spared them some headaches. As the saying goes "Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity. Ignorance has always been the root of misfortunes.

To get a copy please call +2348168944572

Wow, this is always an amazing season for every teen.
I encourage every teen to make proper use of this summer holiday.
Don't waste it, do something special. Do something worthy. this is not a time to get naughty or pick up ugly negative habit.
Remember you are meant for so much more! MAKE IT A SUMMER TO REMEMBER
Here is a list of worthy things you can do this summer


1. Read books: When i say books i mean good books. Not mills & booms kind of books. It will only arouse your mind to things that should be of less important to you such as Romance etc. Read books that will build your esteem, that will help your career, or books that can teach you skills.

2. Take a class/ Learn new skill: This could be a language class or a music class anything that interest you does have a coach, people are professionals in so many things . Trust me this will help your esteem and make you a more confident person. You can also acquire new skills like painting, braiding etc
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3. Learn to be tidy: Yes you can learn to be a tidy person this season, start with your room, be helpful especially around the house, do the dishes, take out the rubbish.
In one of my write up about emotional well-being i said dirty environment contributes to stress. If you have so many junks in the house it weighs you down even though its hard to link it but its true, try gift out things you don't need. do the laundry, keep the house tidy and you will see your mood change for good.

4. Learn to cook something special: In this era of social media, indomie and eateries, learning how to make special meals does not interest many, i wonder why food interest many but not so many wants to learn how to make special delicacies.
Trust me you will need the skill. Make the learning process fun by picking interest or enrolling with a catering school. Learn how to bake, cook special soups and even how to make non-alcoholic cocktails! or fruit salad

5. Give your room a new look: You can do this by moving the bed from its original position, move furnitures, wash or change the curtains, paint the wall (if you don't have what it takes no worries, just leave it the way it is...winks*)

6. Apply for a summer job: if you are in a developed country, this will help you save and you can be able to buy things you need or meet the needs of others

7. DIY (Do it yourself) When i downloaded pinterest i almost went crazy with creating things, it was so refreshing and fulfilling to take up a project. 1 made a pom-pom rug, i made a wall clock, i made a chandelier, centre pieces, each time i look at them now, its like a trophy (smiles)
DIY is fun and some apps can help you achieve so much, apps like you-tube, pinterest (if you need ideas)

8. Practice Meditation: This will help you to be mindful. You can do this with the help of some good apps on play store. Our mind is always busy taking in and processing every day we just need to take some time out to calm the body and mind. I know someone is saying ''but Royal i do sleep''

Sleep is good (infact very good) but this one is different, when you sleep you loose consciousness for awhile (you are breathing but you are not aware of what is happening around you) but when you are meditating you are stilling your mind, relaxing your body and at same time awake or aware. Frequent meditation helps you to always be in control

9. Discard Negativity: Its summer baby! Be at peace with yourself and with others, forgive those that hurt you and embrace positivity, they don't even need to apologise, for you to free yourself. Were you bullied? let it go. Did you suffer any form of abuse? I want you to know that it was not your fault, don't blame yourself, just move on...
Are there new positive attitude you want to embrace? This is the time to put them into practice

(caution:It is always not always easy to embrace new things, you might fail at some point but never give up.) I told myself that i will do everything or anything to stay clear off negative vibe! I promise my self to always to be happy and to keep growing in the right direction. What is yours?
To quit smoking? To never give your power away? what ever it is YOU CAN DO IT.

10. Meet New people: Meeting people should be for the purpose of getting to know how others think, and do things. It does not mean to be influenced by others. We are always in control, so learn what you can and discard the negative anytime you meet new people (But never be judgemental)
We are not here to exist alone. we are here to co-exist, and share ideas and also to be happy.
Meeting people makes you realise how accommodating you are and ways to improve.
Make friends that inspires and not ones that will tear you down. Be open minded. Always remember that there are so many ways to have fun (great fun) with friends without getting wild and naughty

11. Show love to yourself: Have you heard of pampering yourself? wow. go see a movie alone, do a pedicure or manicure, take yourself out, swim or engage in activities that is strictly about you. Visit
new places.HAVE FUN AND BE THE TEEN YOU SHOULD BE. Leave childish things for children and leave adult things for adults (how does that sound? write me for more info on this *smiles*)
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12. Have time for your parents: Your parents might be craving for a time when you will be more open to communication, time you will ask them what they really want from you.
...yes you have grown but they still want you to appreciate and seek them. Don't always be about your friends, social media etc. They need to understand you and have you understand them, this will contribute so much to the happiness in your home.

Share your thoughts with me, did i leave anything out? Please use the comment box.
#royalqueen #voiceofteens #voiceofteenagers

Locking up a story that broke you is tough...you can hardly heal if you don't share it with someone or with people so that others can learn from it.

Joyce Meyer is always sharing her dark stories and now its no longer a big deal because she is free from the pain and regrets
A young lady shared this heart breaking story with me and asked me to share it here.

According to her; she went to visit a friend that stays in Ikenegbu Owerri Imo state. And on the 31st of December, her mother called and asked her to try as much as possible to be in their home-town that night so she would join them for the new year celebration which is also their family's thanksgiving service day. (Her family stays in Abuja and mom cant wait to see her daughter. According to her its been like ages since she last saw her)

By the time she got the call it was around 4:30pm. She told her mum that it was late and that she will be there first thing in the morning.

Her mum was not listening,
The mom said " You are in Owerri and you are talking like someone that will be coming from Abuja to okigwe" If you leave now, latest by 6pm you will be with us.

JOy(not her real name) yielded to the pressure and that was how she left her friend's place that night.

She stood at the bustop for 15mins before she saw a bus with no passenger, the man asked her where she was going, When she told him, he asked her to join him.

The man took a different route and when the girl asked him where he was going, he said the route he was taking is shorter.

Within her she knew that she has entered the wrong bus but she had to pretend and act nice

She asked the man again with the nicest tone she has, Sir please where are you going? Now it is getting clearer that she is in trouble, this time the man kept mute.

Now she has to be a bit firm... She told the man This is not my way! It does not lead to my village! This time the man resorted to threat.
She started begging the man, but it all went on deaf ears.
The man took her to a village and from the look of things, he knew the people there, they greeted him and where friendly with him.
The man took her to a scary hut, told her that he would kill her for money rituals.
By now this girls eyes are swollen (she has cried them out) Now she is desperate.
The man is with her phone, she cant call or ask for help.

She prayed to God to save her.

At about 5:45 pm the man took her to a bush, asked her to pull off her her clothes and lie down on the grass.

That's how this pretty girl was raped severally by that haggard-looking driver.
He took her pant, purse containing money and ATM cards, After he has had enough he dragged her into the bus dropped her off at a junction where she can easily find her way to okigwe.
The man is with her purse, no money, no ATM card. She had to become a beggar for that day, until she had gathered enough money to get her going back to her friends place that she left.
She never told her friend exactly what happened to her. She only told her she was robbed.

The next morning, her friend gave her money to continue her trip.
She left 7a.m the next morning and got home before 10am which was the right time for the thanksgiving service.

By now I was shaking and my eyes filled with tears I asked her; was your mother angry you came in that day? she said No!
Did you tell your family what you went through? she said No!

Oh my goodness! i felt for this young woman because she would have followed her heart, because she actually wanted to go the next day but her mum was so eager to see her.
Right now Joy(Not her real name) is free and relieved because I had to make sure she dropped the 'Emotional baggage' Before she left.

She cant contain her joy because she is free and she is happy her story will help someone else

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I saw this post about a brave teen girl that was raped by her lesson teacher/Pastor , and i just could not let it slide without sharing it here. Please read below;

A Nigerian philanthropist has shared a heartbreaking story of an 8-year-old girl who called her crying to report that she had been raped by her lesson teacher who is also a pastor in their church.
Dr. Yolanda George-David said the child refused to speak with anyone else but her and when she got on the phone the sobbing child narrated her ordeal but begged her not to tell her mother because "she won't believe me".
When the parents of the victim were eventually informed, they accused their child of being possessed and refused to believe her account, even though they could see the blood on her genitals.
Dr Yolanda, aka Aunt Landa, wrote:
An 8years old Girl,called the foundation's rescue line....She refused to talk to anyone...all she wanted was to talk to Aunt Landa... ...She was crying but she knew what she wanted... "Aunt Landa"..
Agatha forwarded her number to me.. and I called.. ...As soon as I said "HELLO", she went... "Aunt Landa please can you come and get me, my lesson teacher just pushed his thing into me and there is blood everywhere ..." ...she continued..
"Aunty please don't tell my mummy, she won't believe me because Uncle (lesson teacher) is our pastor in church..." Oh mhen!!! I hate Sitting in the Car.. stuck in traffic on the way to any rescue... ...my head was going through a lot of things until I got stuck on ...'AM I DOING ENOUGH?

So I tried to put some of the relief mechanisms projects onto one page, that's the picture up there...to see if there's something else I should be doing... Gratefully...we arrived.. From rescuing that little girl..explaining to her what a rape kit was... to washing the blood off her after she had been processed... to fighting with her parents who said she was possessed blaming her for making them miss bible study ... and to watching them act like they couldn't see that their pastor had raped their daughter .. ...the question still kept hounding me..
AM I DOING ENOUGH? As I held her in my arms trying to comfort her...
It was still there... AM I DOING ENOUGH?
Even as I type these words... I still wonder AM I DOING ENOUGH?
I have spent all of my life..serving... holding several victims... but tonight..I wonder...AM I DOING ENOUGH?... #AuntLanda

The reason we no longer have strong family ties is 'Negligence' If your family was like mine...those days we all look forward to family re-union Christmas/Easter celebration.

In fact if a particular family is not yet home, everybody will be on them to come back, or the day they will be coming home every body is alert and that means...every passing vehicle/ horn is a suspect (smiles)
We have meals together, we catch up, We were a family, we trusted one another.
We were not just a family but at the same time friends.

Wow so much fun. Funny enough those days, phones were not so common. But these days we have phones (smart one sef...lol) but we no longer have that appetite to communicate with family.

We are too busy looking for money, those that are not looking desperately for money are suspecting others, and those that are not suspecting are jealous.

If your family is still strong, I celebrate with you and I must say that the founders did a great job and passed the batten to you and you are doing well.

What is negligence? It is simply the failure to take care of something, irresponsibility or lack of normal care/attention

One day I was out and about, i saw a lady with her 4 year-old daughter, immediately i got so attracted to them because there was something spectacular about that lady and that is 'been quick to correct' She does not waste time or leaves it for later.
Any minor careless talk from her daughter, she corrects it immediately, she always has one thing or the other to correct and she did it in a flawless and mild way that her daughter finds exciting. From a distance you might feel she is playing some kind of game with her.

The reason we have so many careless youths, I call them careless because they are careless with their actions, mouths and even their relationship with others is due to negligence.

The Parents/Guardian are negligent and they did not pay adequate attention.
There are some basic things or culture we need to teach our children
and they are
1.How to love(i.e charity,kindness)
2.Forgiveness
3.Gratitude
4.Service to God and Humanity
4.Faith(believe in God and self )
We must be very fast to rebuke them if they show signs of bitterness, hate, back-bitting, Competition, Fault-finding, too much dependency, selfishness, envy , gossip and unforgiveness.
Families turn enemies as a result of one or all of these.

Reasons Why Parents/Guardians are Negligent

1. They are too busy looking for money: The economy has made so many parents careless of what they should care more for, all in the name of making ends meet.
A lady gets married, gets a job, gets pregnant, puts to bed, in three months the child is in day care.
Some ladies do this and still pay close attention but most start caring less especially if they have an efficient house-help
I learnt a lot from the lady I told you above. She was so busy moulding her daughter into the kind of woman that will be an example to many. Dear busy mom and dad you need to start creating time for your family, because at the end of the day... they are the ones you will fall back on. The reason why we no longer have a strong family ties is negligence! Yes i just repeated it.

Daddies on the other hand should try and make themselves available for their wife and children. The more the kids see the love you both share, the more they feel safe.
Parenting should not be one-sided (For those that are married) because the input you make as a man of the house is different from that of the woman . But when you bring them together in a positive way, you will raise confident and well rounded kids.

2. Laziness: I know some mothers that are too lazy to correct their kids. They just sit there and mop while the child behaves erratically annoying.
They are not firm, they don't have clean, clear boundaries, any thing goes!
such parents are highly negligent and irresponsible, for me they should have stayed single.

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3. Fear of Rejection: A child will never despise you if he/she is well trained. The days of punishment will definitely not be sweet, but they will look back and say 'Thank you' You don't need to spare the rod and spoil the child.
But in all we do applying wisdom should be key. Spanking is not the only way to punish a child, I am not here to advise on how to punish a child but we need to find out moderate and effective ways to shape and mould our children depending on the degree of the offense.

4. Social Media: These era of social media and telenovelas is scary because Parents and their children are addicted, please my readers who will do the training?
In a PTA meeting a man said and I quote " my wife will always say she does not have money for gas each time my children wants to do their assignment at night but she has money to buy gas for Zee world/ telemundo"
It is shocking how fleeting pleasure is now more important than investing in our children.

Societal influence: Have you taken the time to listen to our music, the lyrics are something else and those artists came from a home right?
The naked vixens are they not from homes?
Who is to be blamed? The children? the parents or the society?

If you are reading this, I encourage you as much as I always encourage myself, we need to TRAIN ourselves constantly. We have to keep improving in every area of our lives so that we will have what to invest.
Or can you give what you don't have?

Say No to Family Negligence today
lets build a safe, loving and peaceful society.
#royalqueen#voiceofteenagers#myloveforteens#socialreformer