My dear he is off the opinion that even if she brings every good thing to the table she must do his every bidding so long as she is under his roof.

This is my 1st time of posting in this section though. I just have to because I am not understanding what I am hearing with my ears.

OK a friend and I were talking not sure what led us to marriage talk sha but we found ourselves there.
He is of the opinion that as long as a man proposes, builds the house/foot the bills, provides for the house(even if bills are split with the wife) he can control EVERY aspect of her life without her having a say.
As in marriage is just about his happiness and the woman should adjust to his every need without putting into consideration her own feelings or what she really stands for. She should stop or start whatever he wants her to but she shouldn't expect same from him because he married her and not the other way round.

So I asked what if she does everything expected of the man, would he be willing to be controlled and he said No.
Seriously I am lost, should we forget what it means to have common sense. I understand submission very well but I don't believe people should go into a union with the mind set of controlling the other party for any reason.

It's also same for woman that want to control their husband because the guy is loving and understanding. You as a woman would you be comfortable if your emotions are being used against you? I think we should Always put others in your shoes and do what we want to be done to us to others too.

I am not married but I believe people should be allowed to be themselves first before anything else at the same time common sense should be applied to everything we do.

Or am I getting something wrong.

I can totally relate ooo, dated someone like that, some think such guys are just guilt tripping you but in actual fact are mentally disturbed.
I still pray for my ex though and the lady he is with, especially her

Being too available and showing that i care.

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Benita27:
People don't stop buying cars 'cause of the mere thoughts that they'd get involved in road accident. You don't stop loving 'cause you're scared of being heartbroken. Each experience leaves you with a lesson. Learn the lessons you ought to from the previous one and avoid making same mistake in the future. Get over your ex first, there's no point in holding on to him.

I guess that's what I really need to do, just hold on to the lessons and move on. Thanks dear.

unqombothi:
Chief adviser here. What you two need is a sit-down for a frank conversation. Tell him you really like him but these are your concerns. You two can decide whether to continue the relationship or pursue it.

Of course, you forget about the old guy. He is past. Ex.

its been difficult doing this, he has not been around...

unqombothi:
Chief adviser here. What you two need is a sit-down for a frank conversation. Tell him you really like him but these are your concerns. You two can decide whether to continue the relationship or pursue it.

Of course, you forget about the old guy. He is past. Ex.

its been difficult doing this, he has not been around presently...

I am so sorry the post is doubled. I don't really know how to go about editing it. hope the moderated can assist with that. Thanks

Hey romance landers, having some issues lately and I really want you people to assist me with it. this is going to be a long read ooo. *smiles
So, I have always loved being in love and trying all I could to make things work even if I am not perfect myself but I do everything within my power to make my partner happy.
Was in this relationship for 4years which I found out lately was all a lie and my innocent, open mindedness made me ignore the signs and believed everything I was told even when I knew they were lies.
I got so bound, did so many things I am not proud of just make it work. We broke up January this year and we are still really close.
So the issue is, I can't get myself to open up or love any other person. I still feel like my world revolves around my ex. the most annoying part is I met someone recently who had similar issues with his ex, we became really close talked a lot, I told him everything I think he should know but immediately I noticed I was getting to love him, I blocked him out and started giving attitudes and faking mood swings, I guess because I am scared and having serious trust issues. Now he is kinda upset and this guy really loves me and I know it and I love him too.
I killed the vibe and I am so confused because I really wish to be with him but just scared of opening up and it is getting to him
he told my friend yesterday that he too is scared of trying to help me with it and get hopelessly in love then I disappoint.
I am very confused and don't want to lose him.
Please house, advice me on what to do, how to get the whole atmosphere charged again and ultimately how to open up to him.
I have tried calling and texting and all but he seems very concious of everything now and it is killing me. Hey romance landers, having some issues lately and I really want you people to assist me with it. this is going to be a long read ooo. *smiles
So, I have always loved being in love and trying all I could to make things work even if I am not perfect myself but I do everything within my power to make my partner happy.
Was in this relationship for 4years which I found out lately was all a lie and my innocent, open mindedness made me ignore the signs and believed everything I was told even when I knew they were lies.
I got so bound, did so many things I am not proud of just make it work. We broke up January this year and we are still really close.
So the issue is, I can't get myself to open up or love any other person. I still feel like my world revolves around my ex. the most annoying part is I met someone recently who had similar issues with his ex, we became really close talked a lot, I told him everything I think he should know but immediately I noticed I was getting to love him, I blocked him out and started giving attitudes and faking mood swings, I guess because I am scared and having serious trust issues. Now he is kinda upset and this guy really loves me and I know it and I love him too.
I killed the vibe and I am so confused because I really wish to be with him but just scared of opening up and it is getting to him
he told my friend yesterday that he too is scared of trying to help me with it and get hopelessly in love then I disappoint.
I am very confused and don't want to lose him.
Please house, advice me on what to do, how to get the whole atmosphere charged again and ultimately how to open up to him.
I have tried calling and texting and all but he seems very concious of everything now and it is killing me.

agborfreda@gmail.com thanks