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justplainpaul: Which kitchen u dey go. instead make u say u dey go your batcher.

ogugua88: You should know her name. Or is that too much to ask?

What is so difficult in asking, "hello miss, my name is xx. I would like to get to know you better"?

Any girl who is single and interested will give the green light, but no. Some men want to spend, offer what they don't have, and put a girl down to give her excuses to say yes. Excuses and a fake yes that can't hold water.

Some men should try to be different. Because your peers are wearing made in China watches and toasting anything that has hair and moves, even those out of their league, doesn't mean that's the way forward. Try offering yourself, not your wallet. Those who want money will hiss and walk away. Those with good values, who know your worth, won't play you like yoyo.

ogugua88: So neither of you see anything wrong with a guy toasting every single girl, aka female stranger, that walks out of a concert? No wonder una dey vex for OP.

Isodice: psychology made us to understand that people who don't cry are generally weak...

ASUU! see what u've caused

GustavoFring: So toasting babes at a concert is now a bad thing?

xynerise: No doubt there are Ediots and super idiotic guys

Mickey7: hey! we exist...in d real world

are you not the same guy I always see in front of St Christopher house

baslone: It's not an artiste problem if you don't promote/advertise your show.

He gets paid upfront whatever agreement they have had and moves on the next one.

MRbrownJAY: you must not know how this biz work.......a promoter/venue hires the artist for a show on a particular date, for a set performance fee. that artist has nothing to do with how much the entrance ticket will be or how many people will be in attendance. the artist gets paid his performance fee whether the house is empty or full. the only one who lose (or gain anything) is the promoter/venue. the only one who has anything to do with the seating arrangement is also the promoter/venue.

Vivly: Understand the concept 'Clean guy'. A clean guy does not visit brothels even when people are not watching. He watches himself.

demelza: Age is beginning to tell on Vuga but he's still as macho as ever.
That boy is too cute.
Beautiful family!

I see only a Beautiful kid

Naomixy: If a guy really loves a girl, there should be nothing he can't do for her. And a girl should be able to adjust to make d guy happy. He can't be the only one making sacrifices. Shikena

rajiade: 1-Listen actively. When your husband expresses an opinion or a thought, pay attention. This shows you respect him and his views and nothing pleases a man more.
2-Dress pleasantly/attractively. Mostly women dress properly when going outside and at home they wear worst clothes..U should dress urself so that ur husband will feel good when he looks at u...
3-Smell good.
4-Say thank you with a smile. When your husband does an odd job around the house, thank him like you really mean it. He will know that his help is not taken for granted and he will be happy to do more.
5-Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug.
6-Prepare his favorite meal. After he returns home from work on an ordinary day, surprise your husband with his favorite dinner. He will not only be glad to have the food he likes best, but will appreciate the time and effort you put in preparing it.
7-Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break
8-Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”… because unlike women, men’s thoughts are as random as the results of a Google search.
9-Give your husband a nice massage, after a particularly exhausting day at work.
10- Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother. Treat his siblings as ur siblings and his father as ur father and u would see then how much he will respect u
11-Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam.
12-Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
13-Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence) etc. This will build his self-esteem.
14-Tell him he’s the best husband ever.
15-Call his relatives for a lunch or dinner at your home.
16-Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
17-When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.
18-Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complaint about.
19-Help him to find and build his inner strengths and skills.
20-Encourage him to do good deeds.
21-Share Islamic knowledge with each other. Try to watch Islamic channels together so that u both can learn.
22- If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, insha Allah.
23-Thank him sincerely for providing you with everything.
24- If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
25-When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.
26-Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
27-Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home.
28-If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.
29[b]-Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings[/b].
30-Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.
31-Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.
32-Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.
33-Learn to make his favorite dish.
34-Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with ur friends or family unnecessarily.
35-Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a housewife, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.
36-Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. NOT give command or instruction like servant. Because Allah says in quan “They are garment to each other”
37-Tell your husband you love him many many times.
38- Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisps.
39- Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan.
40-The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Try to make his favorite food
41-Always let him know that you appreciate him working. It makes it easier for him to go to work.
42-Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities can be gifts.
43-Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely geeky things like Queries, Tables and other boring things.)
44-Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.
45-Take care of your skin, esp. facial. Face is center of attraction.
46- Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. Of course goes both ways.
47-When you are sitting together, quietly slip your hand into his. Your husband will love the easy expression of intimacy between you two.
48- If you are not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait till matters become worse.
49-Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time
50-Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.
51-Learn to compromise
52-Respect his rights
53-You have to know about the financial conditions of your husband so that you do not demand a thing that is too hard for him to buy. Because if wife demands a very expensive thing which husband couldnt buy then he becomes mentally tensed and sometimes he does not tell her wife about that.
54-Ups and Downs are a part of time. You have to keep your behavior with your husband same in both times. Else he will be broken. If any calamity strikes him make him sure that you are with him and will be always
55-Share your happiness and sadness with him.
56-Accept him as is, he is a package deal.
57-Send your husband a text message out of the blue with a message of love.
58-Send him an email without a reason.
59-Ask him to buy gifts to his parents and siblings.
60-Write love notes or poems and place them in the book he's been reading.
61-Teach your children to respect and honor their father.
62-Yes for flattery. No for arguing.
63-Call your husband with the best names, cute nicknames, and names he loves to hear.
64-Always give him pleasant surprise.
65- Preserve and guard the tongue.
66-Expect, accept, and overlook his shortcomings.
67-Expect and respect his jealously.
68-Put food in your husband's mouth.
69-Leave the past for Allah, don't dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
70-Don't ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big.
71-Avoid being harsh-hearted.
72-Respect and show that you appreciate his thinking.
73-Respect and understand him when he might not be in mood for intimacy.
74-Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.
75-Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.
76-Have a good intention for him.
77-Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can.
78-Let him have the TV remote. Granted, that you wish your husband spent more time with you, than watching the sports channel/NEWS, but it will make him happy.
79-Find a quiet moment with your husband to whisper “ I love you” in his ears. If you have already said it, say it again. You can never say these three words too often and you can be sure, that every time it will make your husband glad, he married you.
80--Hold his gaze. When you are speaking to your husband or listening to him, make sure that you keep eye contact. This will assure him of your attention and your respect, which is empowering to any man.
81-Take care of his money and properties.

A woman came to ask the Prophet (peace be upon him) about some matter, and when he had dealt with it, he asked her, "Do you have a husband?" She said, "Yes." He asked her, "How are you with him?" She said, "I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me." He said, "Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell." (Ahmad, al-Nisa'i Al-Targhib wa'l-Tarhib, 3/52)

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

"Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise."

[Ibn Majah, Book 1 Hadith 59

The parts in Bold I find very much interesting, I have no doubt a lady observing all these rules would have an everlasting happy Family.
If I have a wife doing all these (81), Walahi she would be the queen of my Empire .
Although all theses cant be achieved at a time, working on them one point at a time consistently would make the Magic.

Sallam.

What do you think?

snika: And suddenly, one ediot quotes the whole post just to comment three words.(I pray it won't happen in this thread)

WackyJ1: Op is a traitor...

Vivly: I meant clean guys

your so called "clean guys" snick in when your not looking

Vivly: I heard some guys cry for sex, so why wont they cry when they get dumped? You know, no more sex

Adufaye: Arsenal manager Arsene Wenger insists
there is no rush to sign a new contract - but
says he always plans for the long term.
Wenger, who turns 64 on Tuesday, is in the
final season of his current deal at the
Emirates Stadium and it was reported earlier
this week that he had agreed terms on a
new deal which would keep him at the club
until 2016.
Arsenal's board have always expressed their
desire for Wenger - who is now the longest-
serving manager in the Barclays Premier
League - to remain.
Wenger did not rebuke reports that
provisional terms had already been put to
him for an extension, but insisted his own
future was not high on the agenda.
''Yes, I didn't deny that (that a contract had
been offered),'' Wenger said.
''I just said what I said at the start of the
season and nothing has changed.''
Wenger continued: ''I believe that when you
are manager at the club, you have to
prepare for the long term always and act like
you would stay forever.
''I believe that what is important is the next
game.''
For Arsenal, that is the visit of a Norwich
side which has lost four of their seven
Premier League matches and sit in 18th
place.
Wenger, though, will not take anything for
granted.
He said: ''We have learned something in the
last 18 months, that the Premier League has
changed, that every single game is a
potential danger for any team in the league
and the recent results in the Premier League
have confirmed that.
''Every team who is favourite today is on its
toes because they know every game is a
potential danger.''
Arsenal's star man Mesut Ozil is expected to
recover from a minor knee problem, but
could start on the bench, with next week's
Champions League encounter against
Borussia Dortmund on the horizon.
Midfielder Santi Cazorla could be involved for
the first time since the win over Tottenham
on September 1 following his recovery from
an ankle problem, while full-back Bacary
Sagna could also be in contention after a
hamstring injury.
However, England forward Theo Walcott,
who has been sidelined after a minor
abdominal procedure, is still two weeks
away from being available.
Wenger certainly has plenty of options. He
said: ''You want all of your best players to
play together in a very positive way, which is
what will happen.
''I am very happy with the team who has
played until now, so we do not expect
anything special (from the players coming
back).
''What is important is that instead of
focusing on one or two players, we focus on
developing ourselves as a team and our
team play, where there is still room for
improvement. There is still the desire within
the team to improve that.''
Martin Olsson knows what it takes to win at
Arsenal and hopes to help Norwich to a
memorable triumph at the Emirates Stadium
on Saturday.
The Canaries came close to taking three
points from the Emirates Stadium in April,
but the Gunners scored three in the final
seven minutes to win.
Olsson in February helped Blackburn to a FA
Cup fifth-round victory over the Gunners
and plans to take the same mentality into
Saturday's match against the Premier League
leaders.
''We have nothing to lose,'' the left-sided
Sweden international said. ''Everyone thinks
we're going to lose to Arsenal. We've just
got to turn it around and hopefully get three
points.
''We'll just go out and play our game and
see what happens.''
Rovers' winning strike came through Colin
Kazim-Richards in the 72nd minute on the
break after they absorbed pressure heaped
on them by the Gunners.
Olsson also expects Norwich to have to
endure sustained attacks this weekend.
''We sat back and were hoping they weren't
going to score too many goals,'' added
Olsson, recalling Blackburn's win.
''We got our chance at the end and we
defended well as a team. That's what we
have to do now as well.
''Patience. They're going to put pressure on
us, create loads of chances.
''We've just got to keep calm and hopefully
catch them on the counter attack.''
Olsson believes in Gary Hooper, Ricky van
Wolfswinkel and others, Norwich have the
players to strike when given the opportunity.
The left-back added: ''Hopefully it will show
now on Saturday. I think we do.''
Anthony Pilkington is doubtful for Norwich
after making an early return from
international duty with the Republic of
Ireland due to a hamstring injury, but boss
Chris Hughton is optimistic he will be fit.
Hughton will assess a number of other
knocks ahead of the trip to north London.

Adufaye: Welcome back santiago and theo


Sure match 4 us

dimples*:
Men and ball
I go pray make light no dey
I go pray make fuel no dey
I go pray make black market no sell
I go pray make sun no Shine for ppl wey dey use solar
Infact I go just pray

Virgin Finder: lol

E.gs 1. When you see someone you don't like to see or you are not happy with and smile at the person.

2. When you call someone to come and eat and you don't mean it

etc etc etc

Donalð Genes: Team Hell No
click like if you support me..lolzz

Lil chilz: please anybody wit d idea of aw much small mack dowel cost??

uj_sizzle: 7. Those standing in the bus always stay clustered at the door even when the centre is obviously empty. Then when people want to get on, they yell 'no space!!' and if yoi want to get off, someone picks your pocket

S-Cubed studios:
If you find yourself in the beautiful city of Lagos

S-Cubed studios:
Do not Trust a stranger with your personal information; Your Bank details and the rest.

S-Cubed studios:
Do not go against traffic rules. You are going to pay through your nose if that happens. Those guys-(LASTMA) are not joking around in Lagos.