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Djimon (blood diamond) really does it for me.Thats some raw serious african look that gets me weak in the knees.For me,the darker,the better!

im guilty of messing up the thread,twas all in the name of friendly banter ,no offence fellow forumites*wink wink* i love you jennyk can i marry your son?*no eye contact at this point*

@Jennyk,Is there a more serious insidious tone than your fake concern for the woman in question?Lose the holier than thou attitude. ;DAll this sexualised talk you are yarning is due to your thwarted desires to find a woman to perform your unnatural woman penetration that i got to learn about from you today! Your shock tactics and lack of restraint  are an obvious response to this sad existence you call life! :PBut then for some one of not so overwhelming intellect like you ,it would be to ambitious  to expect you to notice that you present as ignorant and angry at the world.Thank God you will never have children or grandchildren ;Dbecause it would take centuries for your kind of vile traits to change,even by mutation :DI feel happy though that i am giving you the platform to vent out all that excess anger at the world ,im sure you d be slashing your wrists by dinner time if i didnt give you the free therapy! :PInevitable outcome ma!Bullshit perceived and bullshit dispensed! The manolos have been drawn*DONOT DISTURB CATFIGHT IN PROGRESS*points middle finger at jennyk lol

obviously you want me to be with you instead of the gentleman in question!so you can perform your so called womanly penetration!you are sick and twisted!lol.im not perfect but im not perverted enough to find comfort and bliss in being nasty and tacky!you have serious anger issues maybe its because of this pointless existence u have,which you call life.get a grip you are losing it ma!you are so funny

;Djennyk lol now u confess!thats where all yo frustrations are stemming frm!womanly penetration,a subject u have abundant experience in,being the designated spinster!only u can stoop to such abysmal depths.its all yo sublimated fixation with south african women.Go on spew some more vileness,u are well classy ,im inspired.not

Jennyk jennyk ,Highlight of your day,talking about my name.I bet typing it is like sex for you key board and fingers  .Is it your own sublimated fixation with south african women manifesting itself in this manner?  *smug look on face*

:oJennyk your penchant for rudeness and cruelty is perverse.When you translate your so called'straighttalkingness'- its abrasive and very unpleasent.Lose the bad attitude,it destroys conversation.Having a different view does not mean having to be rude and lauching juvenile personal attacks on people,you can put your point across in an intelligent discerning manner AND PEOPLE WILL RESPECT YOUR LEVEL OF INTELLIGENCE.(look and learn from sagamite ). But then you have your head so high up your a.s.s you cant see how ignorant you look.Ok     stillettos at the ready

dont even get me started on gender roles.This could last for years!

No you didnt!Did you tell me to shut it?Um helloooo This is a forum,anyone can post a response if they like.I did not hack into your private email so get over yourself matey The only person who can tell me to shut it on this forum is Olowaseun and i will gladly oblige cos he owns doh and you dont.As for you mr i can tell people on NL what to do ,take yourself and your wounded ego somewhere else.

Bye sana.xx

Talk about blowing ones own horn .Over the top metro sexual ,only a naija guy can pull that one off *rolling eyes* on behalf of all SAcans

Yes we are intimate ready,spiritually,mentally,physically and socially.Not afraid to show our vulnerable ,feminine side ,we do not just meet the superficial need,we go deeper!

I do agree with you SAga that the 'shower' incidence did expose our great president to criticism and ridicule.However,he is not the first or last great man to experience a moment of lack of self discipline.Look at a man of penetrating intelligence like Clinton,remember the lewd lewinsky white house incidence ?So those weaknesses are not isolated to the great icon Zuma.

I also agree with you a president needs visioning ability amongst other things.Our Zuma has shown strategic vision and flexibility by being able to look at feasiblity of policies @ the same time being able to adapt them to suit changing times.That is evidenced by his ability to continue with pro business policies that led to economic growth during last years recession
He is clever enough to have advisers to provide for whatever inadequacies he might have! Zuma understand the needs ,dreams and anxieties of his people regardless of wether he has a degree or not!He has a lot o serious issues to confront but so far he is in control.
Its still early days ,but we like!ayoba
Oh Guess who won the Best African President 2009 at the African Media Leadership Awards ?

No prizes for guessing here , ZUMA

So there you are!

Phew thanks 4 not posting something harsh,im used to having pure vileness spewed at me so u can imagine the shock ,lol

We are good friends with clear commitment objectives

Im a bit embarrassed,lets just say 3 years later, im still committing a sin that i should be gravely ashamed of ,but the endorphins keep exceeding the use of common sense.

I am not probably the best to comment on this issue,due to my own inadequacies,what the heck,i will comment anyway.

We have been brought up to believe that a relationship is a guarantee of enduring love,great sex,parenting etc  but the reality is usually very far from the expectation. Unfortunately the culture of cheating has pervaded our society ,the whole dysneyfication of relationships make me shudder.Unfortunately for us women,no matter how much we try to the ignore the fact,its a mans world.Men cheat all the time and if we did the same we get judged severely.I met my partner at a vulnerable young age and he told me he was single only for the opposite to emerge after having been in a relationship for months on end.

If my man had an emotionless fling i would probably forgive him whereas  a long term emotional affair would be a different issue all together.

The high AIDS statistics are due to our state of the art healthcare system to ensure we know the extent that our country is affected so the necessary steps could be put in place to deal with the pandemic.Its not that Nigeria has a llower HIV AIDS RATE but there is a distinct lack of tsting programms.1 facility for every 80,000 adults : you do the maths.That is why several cases go undiagnosed .You are lacking in equipment,materials and medication.Aids is not just a SAcan problem its a global prooblem and you would be a bit naive to think otherwise .

On marrying SA girls for papers ,its not all Naija dudes who have such lowlife tendencies,some of them are intellectuals who are genuine ,respectable and know how to treat their woman well.They will go to all lengths to please the woman they love.Besides the habit of marrying other nationalities for papers is not only isolated to Nigerian nationals,lots of people do it when they are in desperate situation.I dont condone it but shit happens

Sagamite,youare not in a position to dole out advice judging by the state your country is in.Why dont you use some of your 'valuable input' to improve condition there.Charity begins at home.

50 years post independence,what do you have to show for it? Shaky infrastructure ,inflation,corruption and mismanagent,despite experiencing an oil boom.Maybe now you understand why we SAcans(proudly south african) are eager to learn from your mistakes and embrace and appreciate every little achievement we have made and at the same time being cautious not to take the same route as our fellow African counterparts ala Naijaland.

Of course ,it makes more sense for Nigeria to have more graduates,not because they are more intelligent or education orientated but because your population dwarfs SA by a whooping several times !Despite being miniscule in comparison to Nigeria,SA has 5times more GDP capita than Nigeria,so trust me we are investing in the education of the future generations.Slow but sure,Rome was not built in a day.

On marrying SA girls for papers,its not all Naija men that have such lowlife tendencies,some of them are principled intellectuals who respect women and treat them well and are willing to sacrifice all they have for the woman they truely love.

To conclude my humble yet factual response,Despite both SA and Naija being African countries,our similarities end there so your hyperbolic comparisons  about the number of graduates is not meaningful and there is no reasoning behind it. Note to self *i must not get too carried away with this my okoroman is takin me somewhere this afternoon*   *smiles in anticipation*

@sagamite,your self contradictions are too blatant to ignore.you brazenly claim to not have said that Naijas are better than SAcans ,but it wasnt too long ago when you were boasting that Nigerians outshine other Africans in the world stage,talk about a severe case of short term memory loss!

SAcans attend SA universities and work in SA because we have a moral obligation to uplift our country.That is why our economy is more stable in comparison to other african countries.
SAcan prefer to contribute to the upliftment of our country than to help develop other countries leaving our own economy vulnerable.Despite having so many PHD educated people in Nigeria,as you claim,it is not reflected in the economy,as you Nigerians are not playing a role in the development of your country.

Instead of reciprocating with facts on what you are basing your wild perception of disadvantage in SA,you are desperately using personal attacks .Your pompous behavoiur and juvenile accusations clearly indicate that you are the one who is on the verge of an emotional breakdown.
Is it that time of the month?
Obviously the excessive hormonal production is overwhelming your reasoning.Ibeg oo mantain oga, or should i call u 'sweetie'?

@ sagamite,your penchant for making ill informed assumptions about about the level of educational disadvantage we south africans are experiencing is plain bonkers.Please state the source of you statistics, ,i thought so.

Based on your obvious, not so knowlegdeable perception of  History,Education,Post apartheid South african,i think you should be[b] IN class [/b]and not ON line! as that would broaden your knowledge.Apartheid was abolished over a decade ago and a lot of programs ,as you may or may not b aware ,are in place to address the legacies of apartheid.In 1979,Havard sa fellowship,amongst other programs,were established to help the Sa blacks who were educationally disadvantaged and ever since,a lot of our country men have had access to creme de la creme education .

South Africa has the the top 10 best universities in Africa and according world economic forum ,Global competitiveness report,SA has the most stable economy in Africa.We do have our problems ,like any other country does but one thing is certainly clear,we are more advantaged than most of our African counterparts even when it comes to Nyash,

By english ,i bet you dey talk de dis your pidgin language,ibeg dont make me laugh o,niggaa please.Anyway we south africans sithetha isixhosa,zulu,sotho,tswana,afrikaans,venda,ndebele,totsi taal

Jenny please dont say that,my mum wont speak to me cause of the whole thing and she has always been my inspiration and source of comfort,its actually tearing me apart .Anyway i take a lot of precaution to make sure the family life is not affected.Do you know another Naija guy at Uni told me that if the wifey found out she might do some juju,so i am shit scared but on the other hand the whole thing we have is worth dying for. the only way for me to be out of it is if he decides to leave.I was a little girl and he made me into a woman ,educationally,emotionally sexually and i dey cook now oh.

Lol jennykad!


I am not as naive as you think.I am doing biomedical sciences and there is nothing stopping me progressing to do the same as his wife did.I may not have a degree yet but i am sure i have suficient intellectual capacity to complete one.The most hilarious part is that i was doing a social work degree in SA and he encouraged me to do Biomedical scienceswhen i came here.At the end of the day we can post all sorts of opinions but the harsh truth is that its the doctors money helping pay for my own degree .I am only 22 and i dont want to ruin a woman who is helping educate me's marriage,i am doing enough as it is.She has done nothing wrong to me.Anyway if he was very content at home why would he spend time with a mere young, inexperienced poor student, leaving his big house in the posh villages?I dont want him to leave his wife otherwise the line between familiarity and intimacy will be crossed.Its obvious there would be another girl elsewhere to take my place.Rest assured my mamma didnt raise a fool, i might be perceived as an unprincipled woman but i actually do empathise with the other party and try not to hurt them but i want a proffession too .You must understand as you aptly pointed out its significance in life .

How did you get to the UK first? did you go there for prostitution before unfortunately meeting this man in question?   so there really is no difference between u and a slut that stands on the streets at night or live in a motel , cos you all are doing it for one thing and thats financial gain. You sleep with him and blow his head up in bed ,he in turn pays your fees to compensate. The money he pays your fees with do you know where he gets it ][color=#990000][/color]

You may have read my first post and not understood it.The gentleman did not tell me of his 'situation' when i first met him AND HE IS THE ONE WHO HAPPILY BOUGHT ME A TICKET FROM MY NATIVE LAND !You are entitled to make all sorts of assumptions but the fact remains that he saw it fit to bring me from Africa and take the responsibility of paying my fees.I would have stayed with him with or without financial help.The marriage is a prestige thing,'he is married to a doctor in london' .I know its not right but to a certain extent i am doing her a favour.I am the one who is actually propping up their marriage,he will never leave her for economic ,cultural reasons etc.Anyway in the African culture its acceptable to have more than one wife.Its been 3 years now and the relationship is going stronger.I feel bad and i try to ensure his family life is not affected in anyway by my presence in the whole equation.Sorry ladies im not as horrible as you think![quote][/quote]

Thanks tosinville, i do realise im being used but i actually need him as he pays my international fees in the uk,and i bet he wont be smilling if he reads any of my posts .I do feel bad and want to do the right thing but i am too weak.

until the fellow gets tired of you, na for im yansh you go dey.

then you start looking for another naija man to give you a buzz.

ode jatijati.

na jealousy go kill!Based on the length of my current relationship(3 years) dont lock up your husband and brothers yet.And you are right as soon as he  tires i will wait for the next one to come along,to give me my much needed' fix' .You can hook me up,i bet you know lots of Naija dudes .Just because you dont appreciate the Naija man ,it does mean all of us shouldnt.Sibhanxakazi.

what you dey say?i tasted the sweet nectar that flows from the loins of the Naija man,so,point of correction ,there is no way i am going for any other.No one be like them NDIYA KUXELELA

I m not deluded enough to think he will leave his family!Judge me all you like but i have to do what i have to do but try not to hurt the other woman at the same time,what she does not know will not hurt her. I am not doing it to buy designer outfits but for him to pay my fees ,thats the harsh reality.Im well aware all the benefits can stop anytime so i save every penny he gives me.In  the meantime i will continue to be sweet,and treat him special.I feel guilty when he comes to sleep over or books a hotel near his house so be can be together christmas day etc for a few hours,but guilt does not pay fees .So please dont rub it in!I feel bad enough as it is,