cito us:

No it wouldn't, I have dated ladies who are virgins(my Filipino included) and it didn't make it last longer or shorter. I brought up the virgin part because I wanted to explain a weired situation. It didn't bother me that I wasn't her first but I felt she had been violated after she did it during our time. Kinda weired feeling.

cito us:

I went to bed and logged off. I didnt feel slighted, we cool Inky lady 

cito us:

Nah u are still my 'bestest'.  So how do u feel abt a guy who cheated on you tho?

Specialist900:

Inked_nerd.

You say it like it's easy.  Remember: EMOTION IS STRONGER THAN KNOWLEDGE.

kaygenx123:

I believe every girl should be like "inknerd". She rules feminism on this site. CAPICHE!!!. Pls no offense to other girls. U are all special in your own way.

chinedumo:

in the power and capacity i posses
I want to apologize to the ladies on behalf of the men who may be caught up in the web of deceit and double standard from men

a good turns deserves another

The standard should be the same
if u can still try out other girls so can she
if she cannot try other girls neither can u


Apart from all this i see something else


i want to ask ladies a question

if u are dating a guy and u receive another dating/flirting/friendship request do u accept?

I ask because some girls may appear faithful because there are no other suitors coming her way
be truthful

gem70:

@inked.i beg to disagree Dat its a naija problem. U talked about naija men not lookin at relationshps n a western way. We are not western. Frm time past d african man has always been polygamous. Its not in our blood, Read my lips ALL African men are polygamous. Those of us who remain faithful. Make a very big, sometimes failed (Iol) effort to do so!

gem70:

I knw. U ar not bashing us. I am just tryn to tell u its a genetic problem. Believe me, Personally i tink d solution is to have open relationships. Dat way i can come home n tell my babe, Men i got laid by one chick. Today can u match her? She wil reply ok lets see!

Specialist900:

this will be so sweet that i'll be getting laid daily by different women and she by different men when we come home we'll now narrate our individual experiences.

Specialist900:

no, i was only trying to envision the scenario, it would be fun. Don't you think so?

Specialist900:

you wouldn't know when it will cloud your judgement cos you might have been held spell bound by his supposed love.

kaygenx123:

@Inknerd: people make mistakes in life. Some minor some grave ones. Our heavenly father has tot us 2 forgive one anoda. If i fil betrayed by a girl and she cums bk 2 sik forgiveness, i would 4give her nd even continue bt she wil lose my trust. we are all made of flesh and blood. As they say,d spirit is wilin bt d flesh is nt. We all make mistakes, nd its left 2 us 2 4gve each oder.

xhosachoc:

I am not probably the best to comment on this issue,due to my own inadequacies,what the heck,i will comment anyway.

We have been brought up to believe that a relationship is a guarantee of enduring love,great sex,parenting etc  but the reality is usually very far from the expectation. Unfortunately the culture of cheating has pervaded our society ,the whole dysneyfication of relationships make me shudder.Unfortunately for us women,no matter how much we try to the ignore the fact,its a mans world.Men cheat all the time and if we did the same we get judged severely.I met my partner at a vulnerable young age and he told me he was single only for the opposite to emerge after having been in a relationship for months on end.

If my man had an emotionless fling i would probably forgive him whereas  a long term emotional affair would be a different issue all together.