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sistawomen ur post was really good, all of it is true but I think you could add that some girls don't use guys for their money. Like if I'm using a guy it will be just for the attention he gives such as phone calls, saying sweet things, compliments etc.

And to see how far he would go to please me (eg leaving lectures, cancelling things with friends, spending phone credit, leaving a party to go to the one ur at etc.) It's a power thing really. I find it funny how much power women have over men sometimes because men are physically attracted to them and would go to all lengths if he thinks that she's going to sleep with him.   

sistawoman:
* There is always an emergency call that comes in right before you are about to get the toto. Just pay attention to the call she made 20 mins before the emergency. We have code words so that we know when to make up an emergency. For instance, if i call my girlfriend and say the word "traffic" she knows to call back in 20 minutes with an "emergency.

lol me and my friend do that, she'll call pretending to be my mother, and you know boyfriends can't argue with ur mother!

sistawoman:
* She spends very very little alone with you.

True if a girl always opts for group dates or will only go to a busy place with you and never comes to your house then she might be using you. Or she may be a virgin, or she isn't ready.

sistawoman:
* She asks you to slow down

hmmm sounds familiar 

Besto:
Don'ts
Say I Love You. (Yes, it does sound silly, but some people can actually use this sacred words very quickly.)

My friend's boyfriend said this to her on the first date. I found it hilarious, but she didn't; she actually thought it was sweet 

Besto:
Don't lead you date on: If you feel your date is not your type or you do not click with s/he, i t is best to show subtle signs that you are not really keen to pursue it any further in a nice and courteous of ways.

IMO, it's nicer to lead a guy on rather than have to be nasty and make it obvious that you don't like him. At least this way when you aren't answering your calls, he can assume that you've lost your phone 


Can I add another,

Don't offer your date alcohol repeatedly. If she wants to have sex with you she'll make it obvious, otherwise don't try and get her drunk to cloud her judgement.

To Hannibal, I don't know you but I think that you need to grow up. A real man isn't one that can sleep with the most women or pull the most beautiful girls, any dog could do that. A real man is one that can find a woman he loves (the right one for him which requires wisdom) and can love her for as long as she lives, and take good care of her for a lifetime.
Man whores like you are so common, they lack self control, commitment and I would argue self respect- and that isn't something to brag about.

My take on marriage is that the bible says a woman should respect and serve her husband. That is the wife's role. The man's role is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Which means enough to die for her.
If a man doesn't love his wife as Christ loved the Church then how can they expect his wife to have dinner waiting and ready for him when he comes home? The bible also states that we love Christ because he first loved the us. Therefore, the wife serves her husband because he first loved her.

When you love and respect someone it is easy to do things for them, you find yourself trying to please them.

To answer the poster's question, another difference with infatuation is that unlike love, it doesn't usually come with respect. For example, if you love your girlfriend and she isn't ready for sex, you will respect her till she's ready. However, if you're just infatuated with her, once you realise that you aren't getting any, the attraction will eventually dissapear (like stillwater mentioned earlier).

I'm sorry to disagree but no spouse/ partner forces anyone to cheat.
If a man makes a commitment to a woman and she expects him to be faithful, then his infidelity cannot be blamed on her. He can avoid cheating by honestly ending the relationship. If a man isn't prepared to do that then how has he been forced? He's just a prick.

Uche2nna:
When did she say or insinuate that?    I guess she prefers to use the word Akata because everybody on this forum is familiar with the meaning (oops except You  ). And now You know the meaning, so quit complaining  

oops, well must have misunderstood her post, in my defense she did say 'im sick of all these pics of akata girls' (slight paraphrase lol!)
ok i know, my knowledge of nigerian slang/ pidgin english, is really shocking but im learning!

StephenP:
https://www.sunnewsonline.com/images/sungirl/layo.jpg<--- needs to trim the eyebrows and we'll be good

is she hourglass? cant tell, i wouldnt call her curvy though,

Uche2nna:
Black Americans. If You want to be politically correct, then African American, savvy

oh ok, why does queenisha think that using african american ladies is wrong, at least everyone on the forum knows them, and they were once nigerians a long time ago!!  

xpyamax:
And what are akata girls between 

*sorry i meant what are akata girls by the way but i changed it to between??

Queenisha:
why are there akata and white gals at the beginning of this thread?
are there no Nigerian girls the poster could use as examples?
I'm sick of this.

As I said at the start since I've lived in the UK most of my life I don't know many Nigerian celebrities apart from the big names like ginevieve
IMO,  the women in your pictures are overweight, I think that someone can be skinny with curves like christina milian, and her figure suits her height and body perfectly!

And what are akata girls btw  

sorry n-guage, forgot to include that as an option
but no seriously, im surprised that 3 people have said curvy, most stars these days fall into the skinny category. just interested to see your reasons as well
ooh and i've added a poll to this!

Ok I'm new to this forum, been on it a few times but never posted.
Anyway, I was watching the movie Phat Girls the other day, and I got the impression that all Nigerian men liked plus-sized, fuller figure women and didn't appreciate slim women. Since I've lived in the UK most of my life I have no way of clarifying this but I know men here in Britain prefer skinny/slim women in general. So I thought I'D do a post using pics of celebrities and see which was generally preferred by those on this board!

Option A: Skinny ladies-
Criteria- tiny waist, small hips, small/medium sized boobs, slim proportionate figure, flat stomach, small ass but not flat

like,
Jessica Alba
[img width=230 height=319]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/jessica.jpg[/img]

Christina Milian
[img width=222 height=320]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/normal_get_vide1o_0-04-10-2.jpg[/img]

Option B: Hourglass figures
Criteria- small waist, medium/ large sized boobs, big hips, nicely shaped ass, nice curves but still proportionate

women such as:
Beyonce Knowles
[img width=210 height=320]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/beyonce_120307.jpg[/img]

Lauren London (BET)
[img width=228 height=320]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/laurenlondon-1.jpg[/img]

Meagan Good (Stomp the Yard movie)
[img width=230 height=319]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/meagangoodjpg2.jpg[/img]

Option C: Curvy ladies
Criteria- big boobs, hips, booty, a little extra baggage but still a slightly defined waist

girls like:
Jennifer Hudson (dream girls)
[img width=202 height=320]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/jhud.jpg[/img]

Toccara Jones (america's next top model)
[img width=240 height=320]http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/toccarajones2.jpg[/img]

Option D: Phat Girls
Criteria- all curves, large boobs, massive hips, loooots of booty! undefined waist but big and confident (full figure)

Ladies such as:
Monique (Phat Girls movie)
https://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/PrincessYama/monique.jpg

Okay which do you prefer? Option A, B, C or D

Ladies this is for you too!  but if you do post can you say which option you would put yourself as (what figure you have)

I'll go first  I am in category A (skinny) but personally I prefer option B (hourglass figures) like beyonce because women like her have curves but not too much. Clothes hang well off hourglass women.