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Tolu2024:
Let her know you are seeing someone else if she feel guilty you can take her serious but if she don’t care just forget about her .

You can wait for her to give birth and perform a DNA 🧬 to be on a safer side.

Honestly I’m not the type of man that goes around chasing women if not I know what would have happened all this while and moreover my finance isn’t so good and won’t permit that and I think she knows that and she’s trying to take advantage of it

drstranged:
These are the kinda stuffs the Mods should move to front page. This guy needs help.
My advice is to send her away and later do DNA on the child. If it's yours, take care your child, though I doubt that child is yours if what you have narrated is true. But her frolocking secretly with another man is enough grounds for divorce. Your life might even be in danger. Once a woman's heart is with someone else she can kill you to have her way with that man. That's how fish brained that gender is. Like most persons have suggested, send her back to her parents house. You can delay divorce until the child is born. Do DNA and whichever way it goes, still push for the divorce. The DNA is only to confirm if the child is yours. If it's yours, then be a part of that child's life by taking care of it. But on no condition should you take her back. Women, once they have gone down that line of cheating, can never change. They might pretend to have repented and changed, but that is only to buy time and re-strategize. And her comeback might certainly be disastrous for you. Never forgive cheating or the semblance of it. Shalom.

Thanks for this idea i want to take the bold step but some people advice me to wait till I get concrete evidence against her and that she might be acting due to pregnancy hormones and all

Diamond098454:
You said she was a virgin when you mate her that means you open that golden door like Senator Ned and Gina so, why are you doubting if the pregnancy is yours or not? Well, it's first time pregnancy she maybe going through a lot. Don't take a decision that you will regret later calm down let her deliver

Thanks for this I was also thinking same

Kobojunkie:
Show her some of the posts from the Family section so she can get an idea of what people come on here to do. There are also places on other forums, like Reddit and Threads, where many women go to talk to each other and share experiences, she might be interested in as well.

Ok thank you I will tell her about this

verminnel:
The baby isnt yours...

Yes I have a conviction but people are dragging me for concrete evidence

Tenrack:
This is for guys that trust their women. Keep trusting, okay.

Well I don’t think all women are the same because I didn’t get to date her properly before bringing her to Lagos and like someone said on this forum that when I brought her to Lagos she met other people and noticed we were not compatible

Kobojunkie:
I am also putting myself in her shoes as well. So, what keeps you from helping a woman whom you confirm you married as a virgin at this point in getting advice that may help her see her world better?

Well I don’t think she would be interested in joining this forum but I will talk to her about it that’s if I don’t bore her with my advice

Meme1312:
This is a failed marriage.... Plan ur exit lowkey, when she delivers annd the child is not urs leave the marriage.... Just chill small and u need to stop being timid else she will always trample on you.... From what you are saying my best advice is plan ur exit except you are leing

Thanks for your contribution

Kobicove:
Do you have conclusive evidence that the pregnancy is not yours?

Honestly I don’t have and that’s why I don’t want to act based on emotions

Kobojunkie:
You know of this forum and are on this forum complaining, right? Therefore, you could tell her about using this forum to air her grievances and get advice from others who may have been in her shoes in marriage.

You are close to dumping her, are you not? So, what have you got to lose?

Put yourself in my shoes please

D111:
No, don't be a foolish man, pregnancy doesn't change mood to that extent
Imagine your legally married wife still went a head to see another man,even telling you face to face that you are irritating her
My brother please wise up
I find it difficult to believe this story

Please check my previous post and you’ll understand better

D111:
No, don't be a foolish man, pregnancy doesn't change mood to that extent
Imagine your legally married wife still went a head to see another man,even telling you face to face that you are irritating her
My brother please wise up
I find it difficult to believe this story

You can visit my previous post to know how this whole issues started.

Kobojunkie:
Can you please tell the wife to come on Nairaland to tell us her side of the story since you seem to have taken to condemning her without proof and all. 🥱🥱🥱

She doesn’t know about this forum and even if I don’t think she will be in for something like this. I get this is to my advantage to seek more knowledge from various people

Wannabenz:
Your wife is having affair outside and you're still with her?

In some places,death might have visited you by now. You better sent her packing or leave her there and run for your life.

Well some people accused me of insecurity since I have no valid proof about her having an affair or cheating on me

Foodqueen:
The pregnancy isn't yours why are you disturbing us here.

Is there no one in your family that you can talk to.

Please I don’t mean to disturb you here i have been talking about this issues from the very first day it started if you check my previous post you’ll understand why I still brought it back here

Xscape1993:
If you are very sure that the pregnancy is not for you, then send her out. Thanks.

Well some people in this forum on my previous post adviced me about the pregnancy and told me to do a dna when she gives birth

wildcatter23:


Lord Jesus!

The struggle!

The pain.

It's hard to truly comprehend how guys cope with disrespect and on top of that you want sex from her.....

I can't believe that they are such kindness spineless guys in this country you mean your wife with her pregnancy which you doubt the paternity still has the end country and you

It has gotten to the point we dont have sex I just masturbate you can read my previous post how it all started to this point

Pupanchie:
Brother of you are legally married to her or u did introduction with her, you have every right to send her back to her parents so they can know what you have been exercising patience about, I'm sure they will call you to come and explain and make sure you explain all of them right after the other so they know the devil you have been coping with, I'm sure sending her there will reveal many things about her.

Exactly what I’m thinking but I want more opinions on this so I don’t act based on emotions because some people says pregnancy comes with a lot of mood swings too so I’m confused

Lalami3232:

When I read some comments, I go just know say some of una no suck breast reach 3 months. Anyways, since you've been enduring, I will advise you to keep on enduring and change your middle name to endurance. No be me na una go take settle laslas. From your write-up, it's obvious say if dem advise person like you, you go tell your wife after una don settle. So I refuse to be the scape goat when you and your wife go use sex take settle, hence I'm advising you to endure with your "darling, sweet and virtuous wife" who God has given you. No be from my mouth you go hear say yansh get center parting.
The only advice I have for you and all men is that if you know say you no meet the food completely sealed from the factory, then know say it must have been tampered by someone else. And if you must claim complete ownership of a tampered food, apply preventive measures, else running stomach go show you shege laslas.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Please read my previous post my wife was a virgin when I met her

Sonnobax15:

What do you need matured minds for when you can just do the needful without seeking anyone's opinion .

The fact that she's seeing someone else even when she's with your pregnancy is an enough reason to show her the exact road that leads to her parents house

I was thinking if I should wait till she gives birth. Score kicking her out

fyneboi79:
Kick her out and let her people bring the fight to your doorstep if the pregnancy is yours,or she fades into the stewpid cloth sellers life if its his. Act fast and be stern with your demands... Good luck!

Thank you for this but I’m still considering if I should wait till she delivers

Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

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Sirhush:
I can't go through stress of reading many comments, but I know this is a cook story

Bro it is never a cook story I am facing a lot of challenges now in this marriage and when I get a chance I will post my recent happenings now since my wife got pregnant

HyAccent11:
"They say you can turn a bad girl good. But once a good girl's gone bad, she's gone forever · I'll mourn forever." - Jay Z

Honestly speaking once a good girl turn bad then forget about her

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Gentledude52:
Hmmm. This na serious matter ooo. For me, I will discontinue with the marriage and relate the matter to her parents ASAP. The fact that she lied of being at home, no light and others is highly questionable. Also she coming back to her matrimonial home with a man at an ungodly hour makes her even more guilty. Pls sir apply caution and maturity in this matter as everyone isn't the same

It later turned out to be something else she got pregnant and doesn’t allow me touch her again

delugadou:
According to Nigerian culture, the moment a woman starts cheating, her husband will also begin to experience misfortune in his finance/business.

Most men who sleep with married women also do it for ritual, in order to steal your favour. I'm telling you from experience because it happened in my street.

If you continue living with the woman, the next thing is sickness & death. She already sees you as a fool because you believe the rubbish she told you.

Make up your mind that you have lost your wife, then immediately return her to her family and expose everything that happened. If you are wrong, you apologize later. But your life is more important than anything else.

You are not better than those guys who were poisoned by their wives. It's only a matter of time that man in your street will convince her to finish you.

You can ignore & learn the hard way

Thank you for your contribution

Gentledude52:
Hmmm. This na serious matter ooo. For me, I will discontinue with the marriage and relate the matter to her parents ASAP. The fact that she lied of being at home, no light and others is highly questionable. Also she coming back to her matrimonial home with a man at an ungodly hour makes her even more guilty. Pls sir apply caution and maturity in this matter as everyone isn't the same

Check my recent post to see how it later turned out to be

Gentledude52:
Hmmm. This na serious matter ooo. For me, I will discontinue with the marriage and relate the matter to her parents ASAP. The fact that she lied of being at home, no light and others is highly questionable. Also she coming back to her matrimonial home with a man at an ungodly hour makes her even more guilty. Pls sir apply caution and maturity in this matter as everyone isn't the same

You should check my next post to see how it all turned out to be

Thinkunltd:
God abeg,. This statement of yours shows how weak and simp some men are. God forbid.

I am not weak or a simp I don’t have any other options as it stands now due to my financial status and also I still don’t want her to get complications in this condition she is in

Openair:
Op, dat NIPP is your best bet..but since hands tight for now, just hold on till delivery since conducting dna then is cheaper..

Thank you so much for your contributions I have decided to wait till after delivery I don’t want her to have panic with pregnancy so I would give her peace of mind till she gives.m birth and if I still don’t have the money for dna I will have to move on that way with life.