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gravity4:
Bro let me tell you something way open my eye. There's one married woman I met, her husband married her as a virgin, but I was surprised her strong tendency to cheat which I didn't think was common in virgins. Mind you she hasn't cheated before, but wanted to make plans with me, I had to swerve the plans way. The fact I did that, doesn't mean the next guy she will meet will.

That encounter makes me laugh whenever I hear men say marry virgin wife.

You must be a disciplined man to avoid such act. My wife is young and beautiful and she is a fresh graduate with no job yet. Someone said I don’t give her vibes she want so I’m thinking if she is already bored or something that made her to think that way

Daniiel:
1. Seems your wife is a house wife.
2. You are more likely an introvert and don't give her vibes like the other guy
3. The have started knacking or started having a romantic relationship if not guilty conscience won't make the guy run .
4. That ur contract that was cancelled that is a warning shot to you that if ur wife continue in such more calamities might happen to you.
5. Just scare her that you would do something traditional on her that any day she sleep with any man is finished for her

Me I no be saint oooo but I understand as e dey be

Yes I’m an introvert and my wife is a house wife for now she just finished her service so no job yet but we are Catholics and don’t do traditional rituals. But I try to give her vibes as much as I can I really don’t know what other vibes she might be needing to warrant such act

Dzzzz:
It doesn’t matter if she was a virgin or not,any woman who wants to cheat will cheat..You need to act like the man of the house and stop listening to her lies bro..She’s doing something behind your back if what you say is true..Go to through her phone and if you see anything then throw her out..Life is to precious to waste your time on a cheater..Call her family and tell them what she’s been doing..You’re the man of the house so step up and don’t be soft..If you see that trader for road Abeg give am 2 slap for me.

I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

luminouz:
I don't believe this story. I think it's a frabricaterd yum-yum to debunk the 'virgin is a better wife' mantra.


It's normal for newly deflowered women to have a high sexual drive but for her to blatantly be fûcking another street dude is weird...not impossible but just weird. Female nature may be universal but the story is not connecting at all.

The fact that you are here saying you don't know what to do is also suspect. How can a grown ass man say this?

I am here to seek suggestions from experience people and I don’t just want to act based on my own thoughts alone so I don’t regret my actions later

kakaaa77:
Bros I have nothing much to tell you than to tell you that she did it, but if she's still denying it tell her u people will travel to the village and swear to any Oracle the truth will open, in fact anybody that believe she did not do it go and stand that side

We are from Christian background and we are Catholics and we don’t swear oracles but I am also trying to think she did it but someone on this forum asked me if I have a proof that she did it but I don’t

Foodqueen:
This one wey you carry virgin for head like this.

You've forgotten that the prostitute in the hotel, was once a virgin.

Fi virgin ma tan Ara e.

Please your advice will be very much appreciated as I am still In Delima tho I have been getting series of suggestions from this forum as regards to this

Pelanowire:
Lol virgin wife, though the story is fake, no point engaging.

Please your contribution will go a long way in helping me out as I speak nothing but the truth on what I am currently passing through

Nnamdipapa:
No paragraphs, how the hell do you expect me to read such combombulation?

Please I am not writing an exam I only just poured out my heart in here and I’m greatful meaningful people are contributing to it

Kobojunkie:
You saw coming back together, so you decided it was OK to conclude they must have slept together at a hotel? Well, I still insist you and your wife go get professional marriage counseling immediately, abeg!🙄🙄

Thank you for your contributions I really appreciate. I will monitor her and get her tested to know if she’s still okay. I really do love my wife and I waited and prayed for this girl to be mine only for this to be happening.

advanceDNA:
Ur lie lie story is truck-load of g@rba
@ge.... What do you mean by ..u feel like u already made it in life" ..because u married a virgin.....lol

U mentioned virgin like 247 times ...as in .... It's too obvious u are trying to paint an infidelity story with a virgin as the villain Of ur story.....

Sigh....someone cannot even be virgin in peace again

Well I really don’t know what you are talking about and why I was mentioning virgin was because I was so proud of myself knowing how the society we are in is and how things has gone so wild so it’s a trophy to see a girl that has kept her self to an extent not that I’m glorifying the virgin of a thing it means nothing now I know better now I think

Kobojunkie:
Something tells me you were not ready for marriage at all. 🙄🙄🙄

If I was not ready I wouldn’t have gone to pay her bride price because I felt that’s the only way I could have intimacy with her. I won’t keep mentioning virgin because it seems people are taking advantage of my problem and thinking it’s a story

dawnomike:
I understand you brother.... I pray God gives you the wisdom to handle this

Thank you my bro 😎

Kobojunkie:
Do you have proof of this accusation you make against her?

I saw them together that night coming back from wherever they went to probably an hotel or something

Kobojunkie:
Do you have proof of this accusation you make against her?

No proof yet and I am still thinking if truly he didn’t do anything with her that day because my wife has a very high sexual drive and I’m scared if my instincts are right

Kobojunkie:
. She is not your child or your ward, but your wife(your equal). You are not her guardian but her partner in marriage. The fact that you are the first to have had sex wth her means absolutely nothing in reality and as you can see, in marriage. She is a fully grown adult like you, and so the same way you would appreciate others approaching you is the same way you should approach her.

You should be able to ask her what is going on. Tell her how you feel and let her tell you her side. If
you are not able to, you should both sign up for professional marriage counseling and allow the counselor to guide you both to better communicate with each other.

Yes I know she’s my equal but I can’t just stand the sight of her knowing fully well that she allowed another man see her unclothedness is something that has been disturbing me i really wish I could turn back the hands of time honestly.

Kobojunkie:
Move to another place where she will not be able to make new friends or see new people?

Now that’s another point …. I really don’t know how to handle this honestly

JAOS:
This your case is a strong one
Since you didn't catch them in the act I will suggest you let it slide
2+ body count is still manageable
Set rules in your house let her know that if she brings a man into your house without your presence and also stay out late that you will call off the marriage
Make sure you don't sleep with her until you have done STI checkup test on her

Thank you for this, but how am I sure this wont repeat itself again maybe when I leave for work because I’m curious and it’s draining me.

Firebox123:
if Dominique mynd44 seun or any mods push this post to frontpage

Make sure they delete my nairaland account along to avoid problems

I'll provide proof and evidence where you see the post on Facebook

No be person anonymous message you com copy and paste it here

If you provide proof I will delete this account and I will like for them to ban my account. Please this is my story okay and I only came here to seek suggestions from enlightened minds and experienced people a friend of mine introduced me here please don’t say what you don’t know. I wonder what you stand to gain if you stop people from giving me right advice I need

Kobojunkie:
You mean you are moving back to your village because you are insecure and you are afraid your wife now has friends other than you at the current locale? 😏

No, not village. I was thinking of moving to another area maybe a little far from my present one. Like I said I need suggestions as I don’t want to take a decision I might end up regretting

ALOBAM:
Trust your gut but don’t jump to conclusions without proof. Talk openly with your wife and ask her directly. Watch her actions, not just words.
Avoid dragging her parents in for now.

Thanks for this because I never want to drag her parents in now and that is why I came here to seek suggestions first

Firebox123:
using fake stories to build your profile

Just lol 😂

Please don’t joke with my predicament because I don’t pray for you to be in my shoes. Just share your thoughts and offer solution otherwise please let me be and hear from people that have more experience than me and more enlightened than I am okay 🙏

Kobojunkie:
You married her a virgin, you deflowered her, and had 80% of your problem solved, according to you. Now, the real world —outside of your previous delusions— is calling. You can opt for professional marriage counseling, like most people would, and see where that would take you both. 😏😏

Thanks for your contribution, a friend suggested this too as I am thinking of changing environment I’m afraid if I still remain in this area and I leave for work it might repeat itself and this time she might be more smarter😔

FRANCISTOWN:
Why did you have to put "My Virgin wife"?

Your wife is your wife, the virginity was not needed if you weren't trying to push an agenda.

An evil person is an evil person whether they are virgins or not.


Lemme say something quickly about people who push the virgin propaganda.

They say, being virgin is not enough. Character is very important.


Yes character is very important but virginity or non virginity does not change a lady 's character.

An uncultured, unlucky and disrespectful virgin lady will still be uncultured, unlucky and disrespectful when she becomes a non virgin, therefore choose virgin.

At least it shows she's disciplined and virtuous.


A homely, submissive, disciplined and respectful virgin girl will be homely, submissive, disciplined and respectful when she becomes non-virgin.


There are non virgin girls with some good qualities likewise there are virgin girls with good qualities. Therefore, virginity still wins.

There are non virgin girls with really bad qualities and there are also virgins with bad qualities. Virginity still wins.

The fact that your wife is a virgin shows she has discipline to an extent. She's not entirely evil.

Thanks for your thoughts but why I put virgin wife was because I was so proud that I was able to marry a virgin as I promised myself never to marry a woman that is not a virgin and now this is happening to me so it’s like my fate is being manipulated and I don’t know what to do at this point in time

Firebox123:
Stephen ayantoye alternate account

Beware of him guys

Please I don’t know who you are talking about I am new on this platform and a friend introduced me here.

dawnomike:
If your story is true... your wife is gone!!!

There's nothing about bn a man in this matter. The right thing to do is to call her parents ASAP.

She has sworn with everything that she didn’t do anything with the guy. We promised not to involve 3rd party in our relationship but at this point I am thinking of doing that which is why I came here to seek advice and not to act based on emotions because I love my wife so much

Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

God help us from this children hand o now na pellet and Jarvis dey thief youth time and data

It’s well

The coalition is just a time waster because most of them there are power hungry and too many cook spoil the soup. So they should all try another strategy because tinubu can’t serve one term as far as politics is concerned. Instead he will divide Nigeria and make a revolution happen.

Lifestylecom:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CABJXmZzKKM

Governor Alex Otti’s convoy obeying traffic rules has been widely praised across social media. In an environment where many Nigerian VIPs often disregard traffic laws—blaring sirens, running red lights, or forcing other drivers off the road—Otti's decision to follow the rules sets a powerful example.

Good one from the governor 😊 to see short people wey get respect and dey cordinated like this Alex na by connection.

All this na shaKara for jagabah last last tinubu will release nnamdi Kanu and Nigeria will be divided make everybody go die. The tinubu I know will never serve only one term instead everything go scatter