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virgo:

http://pmnewsnigeria.com/2012/06/28/married-lover-dies-during-sex-romp/

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HMMM NICE thrEAAd, [size=15pt]I really do00n't know who falls iNtO tHe LiSt [/size]

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One of the contentious issues in the debate over homosexuality and same sex marriage is whether a marriage between persons of the same gender is totally alien to African culture and tradition. Those opposing same sex marriage have continued to argue that same gender union is foreign to Africa. On the contrary, I have tried to draw their attention to the fact that there is a strain of the same gender marriage in African tradition,[size=20pt] particularly in Igboland[/size]. And that we should not rush to deny this, or pretend it does not exist or just sweep it under the carpet in the quest to establish that same gender marriage is alien to the African continent, and must be banned.

[size=20pt]I hail from Mbaise in Imo State in Southern Nigeria. Traditionally, in my community, marriage is taken to be a union between a man and a woman as the case may be. But there are circumstances where a marriage between a woman and a woman is permissible.[/size]

In a situation where a woman has no son or no child, if the husband dies, it is culturally allowed for her to marry a wife. And in this case, she becomes the husband. Like in every case of marriage, this woman goes out, inquires and gets a wife of her choice. She pays her dowry and fulfills other traditional rites as it is done when a man is marrying a woman.
http://blackagendareport.com/?q=content/tradition-same-gender-marriage-igboland-nigeria

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http://blackagendareport.com/?q=content/tradition-same-gender-marriage-igboland-nigeria

blackbalang: I dunno if this is the right section but just saw this and thought I should share

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sugabelly: @poster: To be perfectly honest, Nigeria is a country where ethnicity and blood are tied to the land. What this means is: You are either Nigerian by blood or you are not. And if you're not Nigerian by blood you can't do anything in Nigeria other than just be a normal every day person. You can't be a traditional ruler, you can't be a politician or hold office. If I'm reading your question correctly, it was your boyfriend/husband who wanted to start a political career. If this is the case, then yes, he probably (and correctly I might add) assumed that your whiteness would be detrimental to his political career. Why? Because politics in Nigeria is inextricably tied to ethnicity and tribe. A politician CANNOT represent an area of the country to which he does not belong. And  belonging or being from an area of the country means ethnically and genetically originating from that area by blood, DNA, and culture. So of course, you can see how you would add an awkward element to the equation.

That and the fact that Nigeria only gained independence from Britain only 49 years ago. Any white people attempting to either take any kind of office or associate themselves directly with any kind of political office in Nigeria would most likely be viewed as veiled neo-colonists at worst and insulting at best.

Interracial marriages exist in Nigeria and are not seriously frowned upon but they are still rare/uncommon. Most Nigerian parents would prefer for their children to marry another Nigerian of the same tribe at best and another Nigerian of a complementary tribe at worst.  This does not mean that interracial couples are harrassed or anything. However, such marriages are not common, and they NEVER exist at high political levels,  ever. It would be political suicide.


I know this is your relationship and it must make you feel sad, but I do hope you now understand the situation a bit better. I am not trying to be harsh, I am just trying to give you an honest answer. If the person you're in a relationship with is a normal person, or even a very successful/wealthy business person then you're good to go. But once you start dating people that are from royal families, heirs to empires, or have political careers, then if I were you, I would not realistically expect the relationship to go anywhere. The realistic expectation would be that such a person would sooner or later marry another Nigerian (usually one that has been carefully selected and specially groomed to the expectations of the family).

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