Yes i agree but no matter what, a woman is already carrying your child. I know some women are just devil's second in command but why go ahead to marry her if she is bad. Marriage is not a manage thing at all
accountbalance: Bro, you don't know this for sure. Remember, you haven't heard from the guy's end?
Until she dies in his hands, you will come here to say heya RIP. Advising her to stick with a man who doesnt care about her. He was only enjoying her body cus his true love lived far and didnt expect her sweet body will carry him away.
sad! I don't know why people are advising you to quit when the man has shown interest to marry you. That's funny.
Truth is the man is disappointed in himself, like most young men that find themselves in such situation. It doesn't make him a Satan. However, if he hits you then that calls for concern.
You said you nag him while he said you don't give him peace, I think there is a message here.
Please give him the silent treatment but don't quit just yet and see how things will turn out.
Unfortunately, the foundation of your relationship was not so appropriate but it doesn't mean fate is set to punish you.
And i am begging God to just give me a woman to get pregnant for me since i cant find true love. Here is another man throwing his away. God please make me understand you. I need a child so desperately. Doing well and all i meet are hungry women
Maaamaaa: Thank you everybody for your sincere opinion. I believe I will move on with my child alone.
Plea.se how do I overcome the shame at work because I can't quit now, I need the money.
My dear it wont work. marriage is forever. he doesnt love you. honestly you have to abort which i dont really advise or you keep the child. do not go into marriage with that guy. goodluck
Maaamaaa: I will try my best not be biased about our story and if you have any questions to ask please do.
I met him last year December precisely and we both work in the same office, we became best of friends but he was in a relationship (distant) and I was single. We were really close because we both were new in town with no family around and then I fell in love with him and opened up about my feelings to him but he said he was in a relationship.
I was hurt but I held my head up and moved on. I started mingling with other male colleagues and then he became jealous and so I confronted him about it (still loved him) and u also told him to choose between us and he said he wants me. His decision was based on the fact that the other lady was far away, he thought she was promiscuous and she is an OND holder etc (I got to find out about this later).
We moved in together because of financial stress and talked about getting married next year... Late June this year I found out he had not broken up with the other lady, confronted him about it and he settled the issue.
I got pregnant July and he asked for an abortion, I insisted on keeping the baby with or without marriage.. He finally accepted to marry me and proceeded to tell my parents(he later said I forced him to that). He accused me of so many things and called me different names.
He traveled to his hometown and informed his parents about it all and met with the lady. On his return, he said the lady gives him peace and if I lose this pregnancy he will go back with her and that he loves her but he is just getting married to me because he respects my family and do not want to bring shame to me at work.
I cried, prayed and endured it all. Two weeks ago his family came for the introduction and the wedding has been fixed for December but I'm not happy.
I'm a shadow of myself, he feels disgusted by my presence and I can't say anything without him getting angry. I used to nag and quarrel a lot but I've stopped, even when I'm angry I just walk away.
He does not care about me and this pregnancy and if I tell him I'm sick or tired or anything, he will just say that I'm not the first to get pregnant and that it's when I push the baby he will take responsibility.
I have tried my best and I'm confused, last night I called him peacefully to ask him what I'm doing wrong but he said I'm disturbing him. I used to call his parents and my parents to intervene but he said I should stop that and I have stopped.
Please what can I do to save our relationship, it's not easy for me . this is not the man I fell in love with help me and please I need your advice because I am ready to do anything.
True but how can u say its only igbos that uses it. you are really sick and need medication i am igbo from asaba
CliffordOrji: Prove me wrong. Please mention the road in Nigeria that is as busy as the Lagos -Ibadan Express road. Undoutedly, the Lagos -Ibadan Express road is the busiest federal road in Nigeria
Smart babe, she saw that no man will look at her in the next five years and age is calling. She quickly got hooked for better The guy also is tired of being rejected cus his broke I sometime believe desperation is a good thing.
please does having a mexican visa or travelled to mexico for 8days conference stop my chances at the u.s embassy? a friend said cus their known for drugs and i dont bliv him. mexicans can go to 139 countries without visa. please house i need your reply.
your mother inlaw got it for you. she is older and advance. they give old people my dear. congrats
Housewife1: Here is my transcript. I was denied US Visa at Abj in March 2014 , so this year i decided to reapply with my Mother-in-law(MIL) and my Daughter. My husband is the very busy type( he has his own Visa already) Our interview was schedule for 9.15am we got there 8am and we entered immediately. VO. Goodmorning pass me your passports pls MIL(mother-in-law) and i . Goodmorning
VO. What are you going to do in the US. MIL. We are going for xmas celebration
VO. What do you do for a living MIL. I am ...............
VO. How much do u earn MIL. I earn .....
VO. How many employees do you have working for you MIL. I have ......
VO. Who are you travelling with MIL. I am travelling with MY DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY GRANDCHILD
VO. How many days are you going to use in the US MIL. Just 10 days(because of the nature of my business)
VO. Is your son not travelling with you MIL. No, he is very busy etc
VO. (Typing on his computer, then stop,brought out a white paper) Pick up your visa in 3 business days )
We have since collected our visas and you guys can imagine , i was not asked any question, this is what i call FAVOUR. I wish all applicants A favour like this ohh. This is the end of my Transcript , and thanks to Nairaland.
obiremy: A South African man has taken to social media to express his annoyance with Nigeria after he missed out coming to Nigeria due to lack of visa stamps and passport booklets at Nigerian embassy in South Africa.He wrote....
'Missed out on going to Nigeria in Jan 2016 coz of the same issue, not even 1 sticker the whole 8 weeks. Such a shame and to c i happen again'
Cus nigerian women abroad are useeelesss. I have been there. better to be with a white woman.
Talk2Bella: This is something I’d like to understand, are there no good Nigerian women abroad? Most Nigerian men always want to come home to marry, sometimes virgins, they tell their parents to get them wives.
They say most women abroad are just good for citizenship papers, work permit, where to stay, do they even realize they hurt these women in the process? Using them like that and running back home to get married.
THUNDER FIRE THEM{THE ONE’S WHO USE WOMEN}
I see our men, asking for Nigerian wives, having fiancée back abroad; they come home to do secret weddings, impregnate their wives here and run back to their abroad lovers, what the hell is wrong with this generation?
We need to stop this form of fraud, and slavery, people aren’t toys to be used and discarded, and the funny thing is we don’t do it to white women alone, we do it to our own African sisters, we say once they get there they change, they don’t want to come back home, they report to the police when we hit them, they lie to get the house and child support, so we want someone who would listen to us and obey our every word and then they rush back home to marry one innocent girl they want to frustrate.
I am not against genuine men who want to come home to marry MBANU, I love LOVE, but when I see a man who thinks my African sisters are baby making machines, who they want to come home and impregnate every time, who they want to use as a tool to carry on their linage then I get angry, I get angry because they see us as a commodity, I get angry because they see us as a means to an end, I get angry because love isn’t an equator in this arrangement.
I wouldn’t blame all the men either, our women have become cheap cormorants over the years, searching the air like birds, sniffing a whiff of an abroad returnee who they want to perch on, leech on, suck and bleed dry, our women have seen these NDIOYIBOS as a means to an end, all they want to do is sit down at home, he opens up a business for them, and when he comes back they open their legs like a compass and be dutiful, the womb is ready to be filled for the next nine months.
We have become sardines, cornered into a space, waiting for the biggest to be picked, and then we jeer our peers, tell them oga de for obodo oyibo, sometimes we don’t care what our abroad husbands does for a living, we just want to sit back home, enjoy his money and sometimes Bleep the ones we love while he’s away.
There are good women abroad, and this habit I am sorry to say is common among the Igbo people of Nigeria, they go abroad and hustle and want to invest back home, i have no problem with this, but who will now marry that girl you have been deceiving there? Who will heal the heart of that white woman you have been deceiving.
These white women sef, you have used your heads to carry wahala, you agreed for an arrangee wedding and then you go fall in love, how low has your esteem fallen? Why do you want to make our African men worth nothing, you have frustrated them to the extent they see you as a thing to be used and discarded, when and how did you become scums that a black man will ride and plough you until he gets tired, haba na, oyibo pepper ogini, give our men peace so they can value you, not every small thing you will call police for them and everything he has saved all his life will be yours, please I am begging this needs to stop, don’t be the tool that will be used to unscrew the nut holding you heart.
Umu woke anyi, biko, gbaraa these white women, they have suffered, pity our African sisters, they have suffered to, anywhere you see love please settle down, love doesn’t come with a manual, it doesn’t base its foundation on ethnicity, religion, color or country, its pure like water and flows effortlessly like a calm stream, don’t in your search for something better end up with a viper.
ycat: These are comments Fayose shouldn't be caught making, just like invading a bank with thug to rescue a hoe and sending several Ekiti boys to Ugu republic. He needs to focus on the Maalu squad and defending Tinubu that we support him on.
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