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See guys I have erred and I am trying to do better . No matter how we see this I am at fault and I am not the type that blames the devil for anything , I take responsibility.
My first child is a girl and recently I imagined what I feel if her husband is treating her the way I am the mother .
I told my side chick the same day that ha m done, alto she is still begging but I don’t think my home is worth the bullshit I am doing .
I have erred and just trying to be better . Like some people said it has always been in me and waiting for when to manifest . We married virgins guys , I never double dated as a young man and now I wonder why I am like this .
I will do better.
Thanks a lot . I deserve whatever you throw at me here .

CharisEleos:
Exactly. I thought as much. The man has had enough of her and wants a younger and fresher girl which is the case most times with married men and the reason they have side chicks. But in his case, he's trying to deceive himself by sounding all churchy about it and claiming he was brainwashed. SMH.

You're right. Na long throat dey worry OP.

Sometimes in life we need others to help us press the reset button . Thanks .

Thanks for the advice. Both harsh and mild . All point is noted . I have to make it work . Divorce for me is never an option and a side chick will always be a side chick . She can never sacrifice what a good wife would.

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1 side chick really, the other 3 were just flings (sex once and that was all). Nothing justifies cheating, I I to find a way to make this work. I am just getting better at this cheating game ( I mean seeing a life with my side gig, this is too selfish ) and i don't like it.

quote author=tesuto1 post=102736704]From your write up,it is obvious cheating is in you,you only surpressed it before marriage because of your fellowship affiliation. Okay let's assume your wife is not ur 'spec',bro,you had a side chick that I want to believe is your spec,now how do you explain other 3 side chicks??[/quote]

No judgement please.i know I am a scum but please dont add to it. Myself and my wife were friends in school , I had what we call my spec in my heart then and she jsnt it ( she is beautiful please). She is a good wife and mother not perfect cos no one is but she is good.
The issue is I have never found her attractive but then in school fellowship and preaching said looks do not matter, that the true beauty is internal. So I silenced the voice of my spec and married her. Let me say again, she is a good woman and doesn't deserve this.
9 years after marriage with 2 kids, the problem is since 2019 the attraction has got worse. I dont find her attractive at all again , we hardly gist , the way I express love I struggle to . To have sex seff , I have to use enhancers to get erections . I started cheating last year and I dont like it but I am.doing it. I love the girl in question and i know its unfair to my wife.
I have sought help , spoken with elderly people in marriage, prayed but its getting worse. She doesn't deserve this to be candid , and I am boring so much inside. No woman deserves to be treated like this.
I never cheated as a single guy, how can I be doing that now. She was my 1st body count but from 2019 till date my body count is now 5.

No judgement please.i know I am a scum but please dont add to it. Myself and my wife were friends in school , I had what we call my spec in my heart then and she jsnt it ( she is beautiful please). She is a good wife and mother not perfect cos no one is but she is good.
The issue is I have never found her attractive but then in school fellowship and preaching said looks do not matter, that the true beauty is internal. So I silenced the voice of my spec and married her. Let me say again, she is a good woman and doesn't deserve this.
9 years after marriage with 2 kids, the problem is since 2019 the attraction has got worse. I dont find her attractive at all again , we hardly gist , the way I express love I struggle to . To have sex seff , I have to use enhancers to get erections . I started cheating last year and I dont like it but I am.doing it. I love the girl in question and i know its unfair to my wife.
I have sought help , spoken with elderly people in marriage, prayed but its getting worse. She doesn't deserve this to be candid , and I am boring so much inside. No woman deserves to be treated like this.

hmmm...we (my family) bought our first car

thanks guys, i am going to sell it but dont know the people that buy a car in this present state.

hello everyone,

I gave my car to a mechanic to fix, after working on it he told me he needed to service the gear.