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MizMyColi: I wonder why some e-people are so talented with believing the worst in everything and everyone

With dis ur e-comment, what are u trying to e-insinuate?

Kanwulia: You are entitled to your opinion!
Not my problem!
Do I care? Hell no!
You are only 'a thread-starter' on NL and of no consequence to my life or world in general!
Soooooooooooooooooooooo. . . . .

Back to topic!

Please. . . RELIGION WILL ALWAYS BE AN OBSTACLE TO ALL POINTS RAISED IN YOUR FIRST POST! With religion, people will always feel guilty to be humans!

I'll say it again.... Ur humbly opinion, dat was!! And mind u, its like u didn't understood d topics from d start. Dis post isn't about any religion or whatsoever. it's simply about Human life. Don't get it complicated pls!!!

KanwuliaJara: Maybe.
Sometimes. . . .
It takes the right psychological mindset to apply all these.
We ain't garrrit in AFRICA.
Too much superstition and religion as stumbling blocks!

I quietly agree with u. But from ur own point of view, u're one of those with a a low self-esteem (No insults attached pls, just being objective). Good u made mentioned of right psychological mindset

missdebs: wow m in love wt ds post, made me reflect....t deserves fp

Kul.... Hope mods do the needful!

KanwuliaJara: Ok!

Braggadocio and self-confidence na the same?

Being boastful or arrogant (Braggadocio) is the expressions of ur self-confidence. Not confidence generally. So?

KanwuliaJara: These are not attainable as a result of LOW SELF ESTEEM!
Simple!

U mean most Nigerians has a very low self esteem and as a result, all those points cannot be attained? Simply, your opinion! But, I Strongly Disagree

KanwuliaJara: Sounds like 99% of Nigerians and Nairalanders!
Self-esteem nor easy to get and maintain o!
Inferiority complex efrywhia!

What exactly are u trying to point out?

excellent2013: nice post

Yea, thanks!

#18. You put off making decisions.
Bad decisions are almost always better than no decisions at all. Indecisiveness just delays, while bad decisions teach us to yield better ones. In the end, we most often regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.

YOUR TURN:
"As you know, when we stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things, life gets easier."

It just makes sense. So, how have you been making your life harder than it has to be? What can you do today to simplify things? Leave a comment below and let us know.

Credits:
www.themindunleashed.org/2014/08/18-ways-youre-making-life-harder.html

#14. You expect life to always be happy.
The world can be a difficult place. You may experience suffering, heartbreak and loss. These circumstances can take a toll on your happiness, but do not lose hope. Think about the Yin and Yang in Chinese philosophy, which states that opposite forces are often interconnected. In suffering, you can find great strength, in heartbreak you can find resilience, and in loss you can find a renewed appreciation for life. Life is always Yin and Yang. Opposites are interdependent and interconnected. You can’t completely shield yourself from sadness without also shielding yourself from happiness.

#15. You keep thinking about worst-case scenarios.
Sometimes your mind unnecessarily wrestles with events that aren’t even remotely likely. Your sore throat is life threatening. Your lost driver’s license fell into the hands of a miscreant looking to steal your identity. Negativity like this only breeds more negativity. It’s a happiness riptide. It will carry you away from shore, and if you don’t swim away it will pull you under. The bottom line is that you can see the world through a lens of doubt and despair or hope and excitement. It’s your choice. Either way, you will someday arrive at the same destination. The only question is: Do you want to arrive with a frown or a smile?

#16. You’re letting loss devour you.
Sometimes you have to work at happiness. Some hurdles in life are too difficult to clear simply by adopting a positive mindset. Do you need to forgive someone? Do you need to let go of a failed relationship? Do you need to come to terms with the death of a loved one? Life is full of loss. But, in a sense, true happiness would not be possible without it. It helps us appreciate the good times. It helps us grow. If you’re struggling to see the light, you’re not alone. Find someone who understands and talk to them. Reach out for support. Don’t let loss devour you.

#17. You avoid facing the truth.
The truth does not cease to exist when it is ignored. You cannot find peace by avoiding things. You have to feel it to heal it. Bring your fears and weaknesses front and center and shine a blazing spotlight on them. Because the only way out is through. The pain of facing the truth is SO worth it in the long run, I swear.

#9. You focus on popularity over effectiveness.
Seek respect, not attention. It lasts longer and it’s far more useful in the end. Do things and build things that make a lasting difference. And above all, never confuse popularity with effectiveness. Being popular means you’re liked for a while. Being effective means you’ve made a difference.

#10. You keep cutting corners and taking the easy way out.
Do what is right, not what is easy. And do the right thing even if no one else will ever know. Why? Because YOU will know.

#11. You focus on every point in time other than now.
You can’t change yesterday, but you can ruin today by worrying about tomorrow. Be present. Tomorrow will reveal itself exactly as it should, just as yesterday already has.

#12. You are stuck on your mistakes.
It’s important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move forward. Make a pact with yourself today to not be defined by your past. Sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your hard work isn’t what you get for it, but what you learn from it. A happy, successful life, after all, is not a life absent of problems, but one that’s been able to rise above them.

#13. You have an “all or nothing” mentality.
There’s no such thing as perfect success, just as there’s no such thing as perfect failure. This is why labeling things in extremes – all or nothing – success or failure – is an exercise in futility. What does exist, however, is a continuous series of imperfect moments filled with infinite possibilities and opportunities. Appreciate the grey area between the extremes – the journey – the experiences. And above all, never let success get to your head or failure get to your heart.

#4. You are part of the drama circle.
How would your life be different if you walked away from drama, gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day you speak only about the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same. Those that refuse to support you CAN be ignored by you. It’s as simple as that. Incredible things happen when you distance yourself from negativity and those who create it. Don’t get caught up in drama. Just walk on by.

#5. You assign negative intent to other people’s actions.
Another driver cut you off in traffic. Your friend never texted you back. Your colleague went to lunch without you. Everyone can find a reason to be offended on a daily basis. So what caused you to be offended? You assigned negative intent to these otherwise innocent actions. You took it as a personal insult – a slap in the face. Don’t do this to yourself. Don’t take things personally. Don’t assign negative intent to the unintentional actions of others. Let today be the day you look for the good in everyone you meet.

#6. You are too worried that people will steal what you have.
Let this be your wake-up call, especially if you’re an artist, writer, entrepreneur or creative type: There is always more to be gained from sharing knowledge than from hoarding it. Don’t worry about people stealing your work; worry about the moment they stop. Be honest, helpful and undeniably good at what you do. No clever marketing scheme, social media buzzword, or competitor can be a substitute for that, ever. Whenever people want what you have, regardless of the circumstances, you’re doing it right.

#7. You’re trying to compete with everyone else.
If you compete with everyone else, you will become bitter. If you compete with a previous version of yourself, you will become better. It’s as simple as that.

#8. You have been too much of a taker.
One way to deal with stress and loss is to immerse yourself in doing good for others. Volunteer. Get involved in life. It doesn’t even have to be a big, structured event. Say a kind word. Encourage someone nearby. Pay a visit to someone who is alone. Get away from your self- preoccupation for a while. When it comes down to it, there are two types of people in this world. There are givers and there are takers. Givers are happy. Takers are still unhappily wondering what’s in it for them.

“Life is not complex. We are complex. Life is simple, and the simple thing is the right thing.” ―Oscar Wilde

When we were young life was easier, right? I know sometimes it seems that way. But the truth is life still is easy. It always will be. The only difference is we’re older, and the older we get, the harder we make things for ourselves.

You see, when we were young we saw the world through simple, hopeful eyes. We knew what we wanted and we had no biases or concealed agendas. We liked people who smiled. We avoided people who frowned. We ate when we were hungry, drank when we were thirsty, and slept when we were tired.

As we grew older our minds became gradually
disillusioned by negative external influences. At some point we began to hesitate and question our instincts.

When a new obstacle or growing pain arose, we stumbled and fell down. This happened several times. Eventually we decided we didn’t want to fall again, but rather than solving the problem that caused us to fall, we avoided it all together.

As a result, we ate comfort food and drank alcohol to numb our wounds and fill our voids. We worked late nights on purpose to avoid unresolved conflicts at home. We started holding grudges, playing mind games, and subtly deceiving others and ourselves to get ahead. And, when it didn’t work out, we lived above our means, used lies to cover up lies, and ate and drank some more just to make ourselves feel better again. Over the course of time, we made our lives harder and harder, and we started losing touch with who we really are and what we really need.

If you’re nodding your head, here are some ways you’re likely making your life harder than it has to be, and some ideas on simplifying things:

#1. You look to everyone else for the answers only you can give yourself.
For much of our lives – especially at the beginning – we get told what do, how to think, what looks good, what “success” is, etc. You don’t have to buy into any of it anymore. Feel free to peel back the layers. Think for yourself. Listen to your Self. Break the mold. When you stop doing what everybody else wants you to do and start following your own intuition, you will find exactly what you are looking for.

#2. You let others make you feel guilty for living your life.
As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, keep living your life YOUR way. Sometimes we get lost in trying to live for someone else, trying to meet their expectations, and doing things just to impress them.

Take a moment and think about it. Are you doing things because you truly believe in them? Remember your own goals. Live, do and love so that you are happy, because when it comes down to it, relationships can end in an instant, but you will live with yourself for the rest of your life.

#3. You allow toxic people to get the best of you.
You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, colleague, childhood friend or a new acquaintance. You don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.

We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. Here are 13 things to remember when life gets rough:

#1. What is, is.
Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it!
But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.

#2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem.
Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore.

#3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself.
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change.

#4. There is no such thing as failure—only learning opportunities.
You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over and over. Infact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn’t work.” Take your so called
“failures” and learn something from them. Learn how to do it better next time.

#5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something better is coming.
That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. But it’s true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn’t work out. Maybe the job you didn’t get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to.

#6. Appreciate the present moment.
This moment will never come again. And there is always something precious about every moment. So don’t let it pass you by! Soon it will just be a memory. Even moments that don’t seem happy can be looked upon as something that you might miss someday. As the country song by Trace Adkins says, “You’re gonna miss this…you’re gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast….you may not know this now, but you’re gonna miss this…”

#7. Let go of desire.
Most people live with “attached mind.” What this means is that they attach themselves to a desire, and when they don’t get it, their emotions plummet into negativity. Instead, try to practice “detached mind.” That means that when you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or neutral.

#8. Understand and be grateful for your fears. Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fears can also make you feel victorious. For example, when I was in college, I feared public speaking (one of the top 3 fears of all humans). So I find it humorous now that not only do I speak in front of a group every day by being a college professor, I also teach public speaking!
Overcoming fears just takes practice. Fear is really just an illusion. It’s optional.

#9. Allow yourself to experience joy.
Believe it or not, I know way too many people who don’t allow themselves to have fun. And they don’t even know how to be happy. Some people are actually addicted to their problems and the chaos in them so much that they wouldn’t even know who they are without them. So try to allow yourself to be happy! Even if it’s just for a small moment, it’s important to focus on joy, not your hardships.

#10. Don’t compare yourself with other people.
If you do compare yourself, compare yourself with people who have it worse than you. Unemployed? Be grateful that you're still alive. "If there's life, there's hope. So, never give up" Cos, you are probably way better looking than you think. And, things will get better more than u presently think. Focus on that.

#11. You are not a victim.
You need to get out of your own way. You are only a “victim” of your own thoughts, words and actions. No one “does” something to you. You are the creator of your own experience. Take personal responsibility and realize that you can get out of your hard times. You just need to start with changing your thoughts and actions. Abandon your victim mentality and become victorious. From victim to VICTOR or VICTORIA.

#12. Things can—and do—change.
“And this too shall pass” is one of my favourite sayings. When we are stuck in a bad situation, we think that there is no way out. We think nothing will ever change. But guess what? It will! Nothing is permanent except death. So get out of the habit of thinking that things will always be this way. They won’t. But you do need to take some sort of action for things to change. It won’t magically happen all on its own.

#13. Anything is possible.
Miracles happen every day. Really—they do. I wish I had enough space to write about all the miraculous things that have happened to people I know—from healing stage 4 cancer naturally to having their soul mate appear out of nowhere. Trust me: it happens all the time. You just need to believe it does. Once you do, you have won the battle.

Curbed From: www.themindunleashed.org/2014/07/13-things-remember-life-gets-rough.html

bjcuntis: Ass blaster...LWKMD!

The thing dey serious ☺º°˚˚°ºo....

mstik:

LMFAO here too

bjcuntis: Guy hw far u nau where r d rest?

U no want chill ni? Can u recheck please?

1. Hiya, Drake.


Now ur turn, which one is ur favorite?

Curbed From: www.mtv.co.za/news/top-10-nicki-minaj-anaconda-memes/

2. We have lift-off!

3. Sam Smith: not-so-secret Barb

4. Nicki didn’t seem impressed by this meme, captioning it “But why?” on Instagram

5. Marge Simpson, professional Nicki
Minaj impersonator.

6. Liberty or death.

7. Does that tickle, Nicki?

8. My, Simba, how you’ve grown!

9. LOL! Nicki's booty makes another appearance in a famous artwork.

While Nicki Minaj has announced that her new single Anaconda’s release has been pushed back a week, that hasn’t stopped Barbz, celebs and Nicki herself from having a little fun with its bootylicious artwork. Sam Smith is the latest person to create an Anaconda meme, by sticking his head on Nicki’s body, and we have to say we think he looks great!

Check out the rest of my favourite Nicki Minaj memes in the gallery, from Marge Simpson to Drizzy Drake…

We don’t need to Google Nicki’s ass– it’s definitely RIGHT HERE!


10. Move over Monalisa!

From Marge Simpson to Sam Smith, these are my favourite memes to come from Nicki’s new single artwork…

By Jennifer Lynn

Mysterious!

Syenite: We also have:

THE OKALA BROTHERS:
Emmanuel Okala
Patrick Okala

THE ODEGBAMI BROTHERS:
Segun Odegbami
Wole Odegbami

THE OLISEH BROTHERS:
Sunday Oliseh
Azubuike Oliseh
Egwutu Oliseh

THE OKOCHA BROTHERS
Emmanuel Okocha
Augustine Okocha

THE BABANGIDA BROTHERS:
Tijani Babangida
Haruna Babangida

THE AMUNEKE BROTHERS:
Emmanuel Amuneke
Kingsley Amuneke
Onyekachi Amuneke

THE KANU BROTHERS:
Nwankwo Kanu
Ogbonna Kanu

THE BABAYARO BROTHERS:
Celestine Babayaro
Emmanuel Babayaro

THE AMEOBI BROTHERS:
Shola Ameobi
Sammy Ameobi
Tomi Ameobi

THE SODJE BROTHERS:
Efe Sodje
Sam Sodje

THE ETUHU BROTHERS:
Dickson Etuhu
Kelvin Etuhu

THE UTAKAH BROTHERS:
John Utakah
Peter Utaka

THE UCHE BROTHERS:
Kalu Uche
Ikechukwu Uche

Introducing:
THE NWAKALI BROTHERS:
Chidiebere Nwakali
Kelechi Nwakali

Thanks for the info. But am sorry, all these aren't famous like the 15 brothers in the article.

tuffgongjo: you don't really get my point which some are not suppose to be on the list.

U're the one that doesn't understand me. See like I said, those u mentioned are perfect. But if I should ask u, how many of them won the UEFA Champions League? And how many Title do they won in total?