[/quote]I have been a reader in this forum for a while now,usually see the help through advise being given to people,which made me to bring this issue here because at this point,I don't know what exactly to tell this my guy becuase this issue is beyond me.

My friend has been dating his girlfriend for two years now,the babe is know to us(his friends) and his family as the only woman for him. It was a no sex relationship as the girl said her virginity is her pride. My guy accepted to wait till when they get married as he truly love this babe. Last year ending, one guy moved into the compound of this girl, that was when stories entered their beautiful relationship.

To cut the long story short, recently my guy's girlfriend that never wanted sex started disturbing him of sex, he was surprised about it, later agreed as she made him promise her to indulge in it with her. Alarm blew on the supposed day they were meant to have the sex as he wanted to cover his white sheets because of possible blood stains, she told him blood won't come out. He went in and blood never came out. Since then, she had been lying and swearing she was a virgin which my guy persisted she was not.

She opened up to him of recent that she lost it to the new guy in their compound who as of then almost made them to break up but was pleaded with him not to break the relationship by her aunt and some good friends of hers'.

She doesn't have anything to do with that guy she lost it to because the issue went out of proportion then in their compound, which made my guy to start growing faith in her again upon knowing she slept with that guy in her compound few times when she cheated with him.

She recently confessed to him she knew blood won't come out as she slept with the compound guy once before the day they had sex. The twist now is that who he met a virgin could not hold on to it for him but gave it away to another guy.he is questioning the girl's love on how she could have done such.he still loves her but can't say if he can trust her not to try such if eventually he marries her.she begged for forgiveness.but to be honest,I don't know what to say to this guy.

Please, friends, your candid advise will go a long way in shaping someone's future here as of life partner as he plans on getting married by next year ending..[/quote]
So close, yet so far away.
This is why I tell ladies not to objectify their virginity. It never ends well, either before or after marriage. If you want to stay celibate before marriage, do so, but do not make it the focal point of your life. Some ladies simply can't construct two sentences without squeezing in the fact that they are still a virgin. Why should the physical condition of your hymen be the epicenter of your existence?

olexjay:
Non of the above cuz they aren't among the 700 best uni in the world lolz

I'd probably have ignored your comments but, I cannot quite frankly allow you to infect the world with this myopic ignorance so, please note that the rankings of any university do not in any way represent the standard of education obtainable therein.
To the post, having experienced both, I'd say EKSU, hands down. It is an open secret that Ekiti State boasts of the highest number of Professors in the country and quite a number of them are gainfully employed, part-time or full-time, at the university. Not to mention the incredibly fast academic calendar (2013/2014 candidates resume for 300 level next month). The outgoing Vice Chancellor has also accomplished an uncommon transformation of the university, regarding infrastructure. You'd be blown away, considering the fact that it is a state university.
Your choice, though.

A lesson for us all. Life is but a fleeting pass. There's no sweetness that will not become desolate. Kingdoms will be overthrown. Only our deeds will live on. RIP Rashidi.

ProphetUdeme:
Jesus Christ is the Truth. The Truth in this world as signified by God who can not lie. The Truth is this. That He gave His Son Jesus to die for our sins and He raised Him up on the third day. We who believe in this Truth will be set free. For God has given us eternal life and this life is in His Son Jesus Christ. This is the true God and eternal life. (1 john 5 vs 20) The Truth is only found in JESUS. (john 14 vs 6) Come back to Him before its too late. Can you remember this when you were once saved? When you onced preach to the atheist (zikdik) to repent. Why fall along and allow the devil to take control of you?

He has searched and now knows the truth. You can too, if you'd remove the blinds.

Chappie:

stop lying dude you lost no one....
i lost almost all my family in #2011..
i think you generation are scum idiot clouts.
lousy chest beater.
death waits for no one

I don't have anything to prove to anyone of you beasts. You think it's something to be proud of? To be happy about? You're so callous.
Death awaits everyone. No one can escape it. I'm not even a Yoruba or Hausa person. Yet, Yoruba-Hausa conflicts has injured me in the heart and I don't hate both tribes for it. For your own sake, embrace Peace.
If you want war and disunity, I will continue to wish ill and evil on animals like you.

Sometimes, I just break down and weep when I see people making disturbing noises behind their keypads here. I've lost loved ones to war and violence and I do not such upon anyone. Why can't we just coexist in peace? Do the right, simple things and not think stupid schemes Anybody who wants this country this nation to disintegrate is an animal. A beast that does not deserve the breath of life.
Yes, Animal! Human life means so little to you. You're talking
about weapons when you've never experienced war. Mark
my words, your hatred will eat you up from inside. Your
ethno-chauvinism will consume you. When it is all said and
done, you'd forever wish you never came into the world.
You'd think of the genocide your careless and thoughtless
actions and utterances have caused and you'd commit
suicide.
Carnivorous Beasts!

I'm happy for you lot. I think that if you want out of Nigeria, there's no reason to force you to stay. But remember that such break offs never end up good..for both sides.

KingEbukasBlog:

The answer was supposed to be deduced from the analogy

Okay. No is the answer. Then again, good and bad are relativities.

KingEbukasBlog:


Im sure you must have deliberately talked back at either of your parents or both before for whatever reason . What was the end result ? You clearly knew it was insulting but you did it anyway . What ever ' bad' which came after your action was deserved . Init?

Now tell me , does that make mum or dad or both a bad person/people?

Getting up close and personal are we?
You clearly are avoiding my question. Answer it, please.

KingEbukasBlog:


your opinion ( which doesn't count)

Let's say I make a statement that lands me on God's wrong side and I end up like the aforementioned people. Isn't that God's worst? Why should I be scared of death anyway?

“But what if you’re wrong?” So goes the common
questions posed to atheists by Christians. Putting
aside for a moment the obvious retort (what if they
are wrong and another religion is right?) I decided
to really organize my thoughts a bit. What would I
say if I was wrong, the Christians were right, and a
moment after dying I found myself before the
blinding majesty of Yahweh with Christ at his right
hand?
Oh. Oh dear. I see. Well, I guess this is about as close to
incontrovertible evidence for your existence as I could have
ever demanded. Actually, as a good skeptic I pray you won’t
get offended if I entertain the possibility that I’m experiencing
a hypoxia-induced hallucination. But, I’ll just go along with
this for now.
I’m not going to kneel or anything if you don’t mind. That
would kind of be shutting the barn door after the cows
have run out, don’t you think? Besides: by your will, I was
thrust into life in a very undignified manner and state, so
the least you could do would be to let me leave it in better
circumstances. And really, that would be the very, very least
you could do. You know, now that the initial shock of being
dead is starting to wear off, I find myself getting angry. I’m
trying to restrain it, but this whole situation is… absurd.
According to most accounts, this is the part where you
judge me. Who the hell are you to be a moral judge?
You’re a sadistic, genocidal sex-obsessed tyrant. All my life,
I laughed off those Christians who accused me of “hating
God”. Like I told them, it wasn’t that I hated you; I just
genuinely didn’t think you existed. But I did hate the idea of
you. I didn’t see evidence to believe in any gods, but you in
particular seemed like a logical contradiction. I was glad that
the Bible was a work of-seeming-fiction because the belief
that all of the most terrible things in the world were, at the
worst, designed by or, at the best, permitted by an all-
powerful conscious being was too horrible to not hate. It’s
oddly refreshing to find that all this time I was outraged at
something more tangible.
Or is this the part where your grand plan is revealed, your
“mysterious ways” made clear? Will you say the magic
words and suddenly I’ll understand how a child being raped,
murdered, and left in a ditch fits in with you infinite
benevolence? Will starvation and disease make sense?
Because you know, I don’t think I want them to make
sense. If that’s part of your omniscient knowledge, then I
don’t want that part. I guess its fitting: humanity’s first act
of defiance was to want knowledge to be more like you.
Then let my last act of defiance be choosing ignorance so
that I can be as unlike you as possible.
This is all perfectly futile. You know me better than anyone.
You know my mind. You know how I thought. You know –
and had the power over- all the circumstances in my life
that meant you very existence seemed impossible to me.
After all, you “knit me together in my mother’s womb,”
didn’t you? So am I just a casualty of free will, then? You
wanted worship from people who could choose to worship
you and, to satisfy your ego, decided it was a fair price to
create people whom you knew wouldn’t choose you and
would face eternal torture for it. You know, even if almost
everything had been perfect, a world free from pain and
death where everyone would freely choose to spend an
eternity with you – except for one person, and yet you
made him anyways… then you would still be infinitely more
evil than all the worst of humanity combined. You’re going
to judge me? On behalf of all that’s good and decent in
your creation, I judge you. I may have been a willful child,
but you were a terrible father.
I can’t say I’m really inclined to beg for my soul now, given
what I said about you knowing me perfectly. Even so,
supposing mercy’s still an option (and that last rant didn’t
kill my chances), I guess it’s worth a shot. I can’t pretend I
have any love for you, but no principle is worth being
damned over if it can be helped. What shall I say in my
defense?
I tried to be good without you. You told your followers to
feed the hungry, clothe the poor, and visit the sick. I did
those things, not because you told me to or because I
thought I was “storing up treasure in heaven”. I did them
for their own sake, for the sake of my neighbors. When I
saw suffering, I tried to help instead of saying a quick
prayer to you and believing I’d done something. And when I
didn’t help and suffering continued, I held myself responsible
instead of concluding it was just your divine will.
And I was content with one life- in fact, despite how terrible
life could be, I was usually quite grateful to have one. I didn’t
demand more. I was content to create my own meaning in
the meaningless chaos, to find love in all the pain, to find
the beautiful simplicity in the apparent complexity. And I
have to say, you may have failed basic ethics but you sure
had a deft hand when it came to creating the cosmos –
not least because you did it in such a way as to make
yourself seem irrelevant. The splendor of the night sky, the
incredible diversity of life, everything. Quantum mechanics?
That was crazy, I loved it! And relativity? You were on a
roll that day, really. I saw nearly all of your creation for what
it was: wonderful. I didn’t look at an exquisitely intricate
world and call it fallen. I didn’t look at a newborn baby and
call it sinful. I didn’t look at my seemingly finite life and call it
inadequate.
So you created us because you desired companionship
and love? Well then, you needed me. But I didn’t need you. I
grew up and took responsibility for my own life. If that really
is the greatest crime of all, then there’s nothing more I can
say. The deck was stacked against me, but honestly, I
can’t truly say I have any regrets. Heaven, hell, oblivion…
your move, God.
Though I still think I’m probably hallucinating.

Omooba77:

That was what Vice President said,I heard President too;but Daddy GO said one time,that nobody will be able to do anything without RCCG

So proud..of nothing. No one would be able to do anything without RCCG? I like the weed your "Daddy" is sniffing.

tpiadotcom:


No, its you.

Well then, care to explain?

plaetton:


I don't know why truth stings so much.
Perhaps most human minds prefer too exist in a state of conflict and confusion.

Amazing job.

ooman:
Pls stop mentioning my name. I have said enough on Nairaland, I say no more.

Don't get tired of these people. Please.

tpiadotcom:
Must you blaspheme instead of getting help?

@ op.

Jesus needs help. Not me, Jesus.

kay1one2:


That means you have more than multiple since you have multiple social media accounts including this one!

You don't understand the concept, do you?
Have you heard of the Spanish Inquisition?

johnydon22:

can you stop that crap and address the thread properly bro

I did. The way, the truth, the life. MPD. Have you read or heard of the Church's Great Inquisition?

kay1one2:
Other religions are full of a lot of unproductive crap that traps one in a myriad of activities that yield no results. Most even delve into terrorism and rituals. Only Christianity provides a hope for humanity to hold on to for a better life here and afterwards.
Christ is our hope. And he doesn't fail.
All others yield bitterness, sadness, unproductivity and pain.
The Bible and its timeless jewels are also a clear marker that Jesus is the Way, Truth and the Life!

Multiple Personality Disorder.

VhatAmazingDude:
What language are you typing with?
English?
You think it is English because that's what you've been led to believe.
And you can argue that it is English because that's what most people call it.
Or could it be that you're seeing it as English because your mind led you to do so?
What if you have a distorted mind that makes you think the the symbols we're typing with are identical?
Perhaps your mind is leading you to think all you have read is what I really posted.
Meanwhile, I posted something very different and you're seeing something else; Distortion of idea.
And if you indeed have a distorted mind, akin to schizophrenia, who knows what it could lead you to do?
It could lead you to view yourself differently as someone else; as Jesus.. To assign your perceived attributes of yourself to him so as to make yourself someone else?

And you may feel the need to defend yourself again, but why should I really pay attention to you if you indeed have a distorted mind hinged on schizophrenia?
You may also decide to ignore, which is the best for you to keep your 'perfect self' intact because further probing may reveal the real pitiable condition of your mental state; if, like predicted, you have one.

Why should one really consider you? Can we have a proof of your mental fitness? Probably signed by a renowned psychologist?

Smart.. but not smart enough. You're playing around facts. It is not my psychological state that is under scrutiny but Jesus' and unless you have counter evidence, you should stop playing with words.

Dissociative identity disorder ( DID), previously known
as multiple personality disorder ( MPD ), [1] is a mental
disorder on the dissociative spectrum characterized by at
least two distinct and relatively enduring identities or
dissociated personality states that alternately control a
person's behavior..
Schizophrenia ( /ˌskɪtsɵˈfrɛniə/ or /ˌskɪtsɵˈfriːniə/ ) is a
mental disorder often characterized by abnormal social
behavior and failure to recognize what is real . Common
symptoms include false beliefs , unclear or confused thinking ,
auditory hallucinations , reduced social engagement and
emotional expression..
I was doing some leisure reading some days ago and couldn't help noticing the similarities between the following phenomena:
1) Jesus
2) Multiple Personality Disorder
3) Schizophrenia
Jesus needs no introduction. The bulk of us get introduced to him daily anyway. I'd try to summarize his story below.
Born of a "virgin" who happened was inseminated by an Alien from the milky way, He secluded himself from civilization at about age 30 and then begun his ministry at age 30. He was convicted of conspiracy and treasonable felony at 33 and was executed according to the Roman laws.
During the course of his ministry, he usually referred to his personality in dual and contrasting terms- Lion & Lamb, Bread & Wine, Beginning and End, Saviour and Judge.
Sounds familiar? Yes, multiple personality disorder. More familiar, schizophrenia. The psychology of contrasting personalities, hearing voices, reduced social engagement (Ye are not of this world) was and are typical amongst this attributes of Jesus and his followers.
From delusional beliefs like being able to move mountains with the mind, to dangerous ones with the cannibalistic tendencies of eating flesh and drinking blood, the aforementioned psychological disorders are hopelessly obvious in the life of Christ. He needed help and should be pitied, not worshipped.
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dissociative_identity_disorder
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizophrenia

cc: mmsen, rationalmind, ooman, weigraf, platteon, rudedough, onetrack

RebelChip:
Mbaka where are you? An Oba in Lagos has threathened to drown every Igbo man in Lagos that votes PDP instead of APC. I guess the oracle of the holy spirit didnt show you this?

The Oracle of the holy spirit didnt reveal to to you that this retaard of a monarch will stoop so low to make this hateful speech? That this moronic, fat phuck negro is a killer and a ritualist? That this man who calls himslef a king is nothing but an arse-wipe! Mana otoro ga agbagbu ya! Ekpenta ga atagbu ya na ezi na ulo ya! My Nairaland friends who always say that I critisicize a man of God, you people should judge oo. When I say that people are too religious that they have lost touch with the realities of life, some people will say that am wrong. When I was ringing the bells against APC, some people say that am against change... Chineke kere uwa, inokwa ya? Who will say that I didnt post this on Nairaland for the whole world to see the signs before a genocide is committed? Do I need a prophecy to tell me that these people are heating up the drums of war? Is this not an Oba for crying out loud? Was this not how the genocide of Rwanda start? Unfounded hatred against a more vibrant and successful drive? Are we aware that an Oba is a statesman and will definitely have so many cultic followers?

I swear to god almighty, any attempt on the life of an Igbo man in Lagos will be met with the death of 7 yoruba men in Igbo Land. Don't ask me how it will happen!

Oba Rilwan, Thank you very much. Well, I thank you for two obvious reasons. First and foremost, I want to thank you for showing us the level of your stupidity. It is unrivaled.

Secondly, I want to thank you for giving the Igbos the full reality check. Oba, I don't blame you for having the guts and impetus to utter those nonsense from your gutter mouth. Who in the whole of Igbo land do you fear? Who in the whole of Igbo land do you have regards for? No one.

But Oba, this is your time, the times favors you. But don't worry. We are coming. We are coming Oba. And when our time comes, we will not forget Oba. We will remember you, and your chiildren and grand children will pay the price. It is a promise Oba.

All barks, no bite. Bastard son of a thousand fathers.

EUROBOMBER:
Let me start by saying congratulations to Muhammadu Buhari for winning the presidential election and emerging as Nigeria’s president-elect. I have come to realise that Buhari’s victory is the will of God for Nigeria and so, I have come to accept him as my president.

I also want to congratulate President Goodluck Jonathan for being mature enough to accept defeat and concede the election. This man remains one of the greatest Nigerian presidents because he could have decided to set Nigeria on fire but chose the honourable path.

I want to also recognise all my fellow PDP e-warriors that stood beside the President. Thank you for your resilience and unflinching support all through the struggle. Also to recognise all the APC e-warriors who fought bravely in support of their party despite all odds and won the battle.

MY MESSAGE FOR BUHARI

Now that you have become the President, I want to let you know that the change Nigerians really need is not the change of personalities or political party, Nigerians are just tired of the way things have been going in this country. Nigerians are suffering; we struggle to provide basic needs that ordinarily the Government should provide. Thieves continue to steal and get richer while the majority of Nigerians are languishing in poverty. This is the reason why Nigerians have decided to give you a chance; the people believe that God can use you to turn things around in this country that is why you were voted for last Saturday.

(1) Fight corruption to a complete halt in this country especially in the petroleum sector. Sanitize the NNPC, ensure transparency and accountability. Nigerians all over should be able to benefit from our God-given resources. A few cannot continue to hold this country to ransom and steal at will.

(2) Provide stable and reliable power supply for Nigerians. This will enable SME’s to thrive and encourage investors to flock massively into the country. The cost of doing business in this country is crazy because of high energy costs. We must do away with generators in this country for good Mr President.

(3) Please diversify our economy. We cannot continue to depend heavily on oil in Nigeria. Sit down and take a good look at the six geopolitical zones in this country and find a way of harnessing all economic potentials for the good of all Nigerians. Our economy must be less dependent on crude oil.

(4) Deal ruthlessly with corrupt persons who believe that they can continue to steal and do business as usual. This is a democracy but Mr President, you are the C-in-C and you have enormous powers at your disposal, please use them! Don’t be like Jonathan who allowed his Government to be hijacked by criminals who looted the nation dry while Nigerians cried.

(5) Finally, Buhari could be the man that God could use to finally cement Nigeria’s bond of unity by handing over to an Igbo-Nigerian president after his tenure in office whether 4 or 8yrs. Like the Elder statesman Yakubu Gowon said, electing an Igbo president would heal the old wounds of the civil war. Buhari’s name will be written in gold both in the hearts of the Igbos if he can be the instrument to achieving Igbo presidency in this country. If Buhari, being a Fulani from the North can transfer presidential power to the Igbos after him then he will be like the hinge holding Nigeria together.

A WORD FOR THE SE

I want to thank my geopolitical zone the SE for standing with Jonathan till the end. Yes, he lost the election but we have made a bold statement that we can stand with you till death when we give you our word. There was immense pressure to abandon the minority Ijaw man and join the majority but we refused and stood with the minority till the very end. We must however join hands with the new president to move this great nation forward. Personally, I have concluded that Nigeria has come to stay since we have survived this 2015 presidential election. Let us also build good bridges with other geopolitical zones so that we can produce Nigeria’s president after Buhari. No zone can produce the president alone in this country; you need the support of at least four zones to produce the president!

Let us also eschew bitterness and drop all these talk about Biafra; we are Nigerians and we have everything to gain in this country if we can play our game well.


A WORD FOR THE NIGER DELTA

Thank God we can now say that Nigeria has produced a president for the first time from the minority in the person of Goodluck Jonathan who is about to leave office. I can understand the pain/anger because of the outcome of this election but the truth is that what has happened is the will of God for Nigeria; I see the finger of God in all these. This is Buhari’s time to rule this country; he is a man of destiny. He has come just at the right time to save this country from gliding into abyss.

Stop calling the Yorubas traitors and all that. Remember that the Yorubas overwhelmingly voted for your son in 2011 and rejected this same buhari. Check the figures and see that buhari was soundly rejected by the Yorubas in 2011. All Nigerians believed that Jonathyan would be a Messiah that would come and turn things around in this country; this was a man who had no shoes to go to school, who was from a poor background. Nigerians voted massively for him only to be so disappointed that he has not been able to make their lives better. Things are much more difficult for Nigerians now than when Jonathan took over. This is the reason why the Yourubas have rejected Jonathan this time. It is not out of hatred or gang-up but because he has not performed well! Same story about most of the MB and that is why Jonathan lost the MB. Nigerians never had it this bad, state Governors are owing salaries for months, people are hungry, unable to pay school fees and unable to meet their basic human needs.

How foolish can a Government be? Imagine someone that wants to come for a second term and civil servants were not paid their December salaries to celebrate Christmas! This is just unbelievable! It was in December last year that I began to question this Government in my mind but I still continued my relentless support on Nairaland for Jonathan. I saw my relatives who were Civil Servants going hungry during the Christmas celebrations, some could not even purchase new clothes for their kid, how painful!

As for me, I will do my very best in my own little capacity to support Buhari in changing this country for good. If things should continue the way they were going under Jonathan I wonder what the future of our children would be to be honest. It is God that has pushed out Jonathan not Nigerians because of all the prayers and crying that has gone up to him.

Let me also use this medium to appeal to all reasonable Yorubas on Nairaland to prevail on their people to stop opening funny threads about Igbo this Igbo that just because Jonathan lost. The APC people should stop opening threads to tell other Nigerians ‘Ntorrr’, we should move away from such pettiness and mediocrity.


A WORD TO THE CORE NORTH

And to the core North, let this election be a lesson and a reference point. A southerner sitting as president presided over his own defeat, accepted the results and went ahead to congratulate the winner from the north. In 2011 when Jonathan defeated Buhari, he refused to concede defeat but shouted that the election was rigged when we all know that he was defeated by Jonathan then. Nobody is burning tyres on the road in the South, nobody is burning Mosques, nobody is burning houses/cars and nobody is going about killing Northerners. Should the Northerners lose elections in future we expect them to accept the results and not disturb the peace. Jonathan has set a very good precedent not only for Nigeria but Africa.

May your days be long.

ireneony:
well i already have my resident in europe, i think that would be a better choice.
i dont wanna live in fuuuked up country...
an illiterate for a president

So pained..

flakky15:
For me . . .. . JEGA is tribalism and he has been compromised nigeria belongs to all of us not to a particular tribe or religion.

Because he didn't rig for PDP? Or because PDP isn't leading. Ethnically bigotic nonentity.

Ishilove:

Na there e go shock una

Purposeful, powerful, prevailing faith.

contactmorak:
Yea,that's my President/First lady come 2019! Love it or hate it!

I really think we should give a competent Igbo man a chance after Buhari. But their people sef no dey try. Carry south-south matter for head like gala seller.