Good morning fellow Nlnders,am writing this to solicit for your help and matured advice.
Am 27 years old,am d 1st dauta,though not married but I've not been lucky with relationships, my Mum is on my neck to settle,she blames me and my sisters for making her unhappy and not wanting her to be happy like her mates,each day she goes to the office, she gets mocked by her colleagues that her daughters are not getting married,and each time she gets mocked by them,she takes it out on me...Other guys that came with marriage proposition she turned them down bcuz they are not Igbo's.Now she tells me am way past having a relationship, what I should do is to go ahead and marry any guy that proposes to me.Now there are two guys in my life now,one is of the opinion that before we move to the next step,we must know eachoda in and out(esp as related to sexual matters),the other one though we've bn friends since our uni days but he's not financially prepared to start a family, plz what do I do cuz am seriously under pressure, thanks.

Hello dear, please don't get married under pressure. .. Remember, it's a life decision. ..
Don't get married to satisfy your mum or whoever, do it because you're ready and have the 'right' partner. ..


Are you living with your mum?

:-Xthe elders are coming!

None is ready... look else where! Make sure you don't bow to pressure. Don't let your life hang on people's opinion... if you do.. they will also tell you the date to die.

Don't let anyone pressure you to get married, not even your mom. If you marry the wrong person you're the one who's going to live with the consequences. Neither of the fellas you mentioned are ready for marriage. Based on what you've written, they're not marriage-material. At the same time you can't just marry any guy that proposes to you. I don talk my own.

in as much as I hate women I'll advice you as my own sis.that guy way wan know you in and out fit dump you later on and again don't let those men know the pressure you are going tru else you will be used.e be like say you still day stay with mumsy.that is why she day halla at you like small pikin.if you no day stay with her she go do all the talking for phone

You hate women?

George22016:
in as much as I hate women I'll advice you as my own sis.that guy way wan know you in and out fit dump you later on and again don't let those men know the pressure you are going tru else you will be used.e be like say you still day stay with mumsy.that is why she day halla at you like small pikin.if you no day stay with her she go do all the talking for phone

Yieldings:
You hate women?

my dear NA long story

How bad could it be for you to make such a statement?

George22016:


my dear NA long story

you and your matter is a very sad one. Definitely you and and your mom have a very low self esteem, you don't know what you want, you let your mom control your life and your happiness. Why would you allow your mum to tell you who to marry? Is she the one that's going to spend the rest of her life with who you will marry? Your happiness should be your main priority, unless you don't want to be happy for the rest of your life

justnnecky:
Good morning fellow Nlnders,am writing this to solicit for your help and matured advice.
Am 27 years old,am d 1st dauta,though not married but I've not been lucky with relationships, my Mum is on my neck to settle,she blames me and my sisters for making her unhappy and not wanting her to be happy like her mates,each day she goes to the office, she gets mocked by her colleagues that her daughters are not getting married,and each time she gets mocked by them,she takes it out on me...Other guys that came with marriage proposition she turned them down bcuz they are not Igbo's.Now she tells me am way past having a relationship, what I should do is to go ahead and marry any guy that proposes to me.Now there are two guys in my life now,one is of the opinion that before we move to the next step,we must know eachoda in and out(esp as related to sexual matters),the other one though we've bn friends since our uni days but he's not financially prepared to start a family, plz what do I do cuz am seriously under pressure, thanks.

Never marry because anyone said so. Start thinking of staying away from mama before she pressures you into fire.

justnnecky:
Good morning fellow Nlnders,am writing this to solicit for your help and matured advice.
Am 27 years old,am d 1st dauta,though not married but I've not been lucky with relationships, my Mum is on my neck to settle,she blames me and my sisters for making her unhappy and not wanting her to be happy like her mates,each day she goes to the office, she gets mocked by her colleagues that her daughters are not getting married,and each time she gets mocked by them,she takes it out on me...Other guys that came with marriage proposition she turned them down bcuz they are not Igbo's.Now she tells me am way past having a relationship, what I should do is to go ahead and marry any guy that proposes to me.Now there are two guys in my life now,one is of the opinion that before we move to the next step,we must know eachoda in and out(esp as related to sexual matters),the other one though we've bn friends since our uni days but he's not financially prepared to start a family, plz what do I do cuz am seriously under pressure, thanks.

Your mum or you mean your enemy?

PresVA:
Hello dear, please don't get married under pressure. .. Remember, it's a life decision. ..
Don't get married to satisfy your mum or whoever, do it because you're ready and have the 'right' partner. ..


Are you living with your mum?

Yes am living with her,so far I have stood my grounds but still haven't been lucky