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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by zeb04(f): 5:01pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
seriously at this stage of your life. all you need is certainty not some immature guy controlled by fleeting emotioons. not trying to be insultive. but i think you have pass that age. i had to end my relationship because he was damn to immature and really,no time for that. 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 5:09pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: I am old enough to choose where I want to live and yet would like people's different perspectives on the choice that I will finally make. I don't have a quarrel with women dating older men or with men dating older women, my only problem is with them getting married. It beggars belief when a twenty-something-year-old girl marries a sixty-something-year-old man. That's just gross. But then again, who am I to pass judgement, it's a free world. Recently a girl called your sexual inclinations gross and you responded by calling her priggish. I find so many things gross and yet I know that my taste is not an objectifiable criterium for how others should best live their lives. But those of the same age grade are more apt to think alike. Why do you think parents don't understand their kids sometimes? Or why do you think what a fifty-year-old might consider the fashion du jour, a teenager would regard as passé? Sometimes they are, sometimes they aren't. Sometimes people of different generations think alike, sometimes they don't. She is mature, her boyfriend is immature – those are two polar opposites so why isn't she finding it interesting? Let's be honest, no one wants to share the rest of their lives with an opposite. An intellectual descendant of Archimedes would never go for a dümb Bimbo who probably thinks Napoleon Bonaparte is the name of a river in Africa. So the premise that opposites sometimes attract is only valid if a person feels attracted to every person with whom she is on the opposite end of the spectrum relatively to one character trait? I must feel attracted to liars because I am the sincere, honest type of person? Wait, wait, .... And if I do not feel attracted to someone who is very much like me relative to many traits and attitudes, then the premise that birds of the same feather flock together is absolutely invalid too? By the way, a few days ago you told someone that he should not complain that his girl does not know Donald Trump because not everyone must be interested in politics. Now it is necessary to know Bonaparte. Everyone must know history. We all love those who share similar values e.t.c., and who are like us in the things that matter the most. The rule of opposite poles attracting exist in the world of magnets. This is why many people get married to people way older. You are here screaming Melania and she doesn't even know a lick about you. Attagirl! Maybe if you keep this up she might ask that you join her in her next nüde photo shoot in the White House since that's all she does all day anyway. Irrelevant to the discussion whether she knows me or not. It's a pleasure knowing her. I just don't understand why fame is thrusted upon those who don't merit in the least. If there's one thing I've learnt about life, it is that it's got jokes. According to whose criteria? 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 5:34pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
LOL, crazy stuff 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 5:40pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
anitank:This entire post sublimely reveals you're clearly biased towards the older man. You tried very hard to mask it but I can still sense it. I have a feeling you prefer the 40yr old guy. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by ipain: 6:18pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
anitank: 1. Poor decision making like? 2. Serious conversations like? Look, if you really need help. you have to give as much details as possible. At the moment, you are not doing that which isn't helping either you or those whom you seek advise from. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 6:18pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Mindfulness: From what I could cold-read, she already has her mind set on the older man, all she wants is the reassuring feeling which the pats of validation brings upon an uncertain back. ... The weight of choosing where to live is largely incommensurate with that of choosing a life partner. Apples and cucumbers, Mindy. Completely different. Why is it that you never bring any of your relationship issue(s) to social media so you could get different perspectives?
Except she was actually priggish. She was unnecessarily sanctimonious – a stock-in-trade of priggish people. There is a reason the word ‘priggish’ exists and its ‘cause we have people who are priggish. She was priggish! Who cringes at the word bidet for Chrissake? SMH.
Re-read my post(s), I never claimed my suggestion was absolute or a divine mandate—what I said was that I don't think the old man is the best option for her, then I stated my reasons as well.
Most times they aren't alike. You must have loved to play musical chairs as a kid – you keep eddying round and round the truth without admitting it, even when it's axiomatic.
Not all character traits but the one(s) that stands out the most, which in her boyfriend's case is his immaturity. Reductio ad absurdum is never the best way to argue.
People don't go sussing out for someone who are the diametric opposite of themselves, especially when they want to settle down. I know they say some good girls are attracted to bad guys, but that's all it ever is – girls, not women; teenagers, not adults. This is a pointless argument—people always want to settle down with people who are like-minded. That it doesn't eventually happen doesn't mean they wouldn't change it if it were in their power.
Descendant of Archimedes = metaphor for intelligent people. Bimbo who thinks Bonaparte is the name of an African river = metaphor for unintelligent people. I'm surprised you missed the figurative connotations.
Not why.
You were the one who brought the irrelevancy in the first place when you tried to use her(Melania's) happiness as benchmark to grade those of women married to older men -- as if you know what goes on behind the iron curtains of the Trump's home, or what goes on in Melania's mind. 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 6:23pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
missjo: Aha! Just when I thought I was the only high-functioning mentalist on this forum. Her partiality for the older man reeks like an unwashed foot even though she sought to make it as imperceptible as the susurration of blood. Despite your foibles and quirks, you do have a keen eye... and some little sense too. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 6:28pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:You just insulted me and someone I care about the other day, now you want to be friendly? You have little sense too, just that you try too hard. 2 Likes |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by ipain: 6:36pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
InformedLola:You are the only one that has spoken wisely among the ladies on here. I know for certain that those ish about the 29 dude will certainly wane off. 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 6:38pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 6:43pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: The only reason that you stated was his age and from there you deduced that he wasn't a good choice because 'she must find someone who thinks alike'. I guess you missed the part where she said that: He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going. So your 'find someone who thinks alike' advice has already been realized because they are 'intellectually in sync' to the point that she considers dropping the relationship with the hyperventilating boy. You even labeled her desperate although you didn't even take your time to read her initial contribution properly hence you thought he was 25 years older and erroneously implied that they do not think alike when what she said is that they are 'intellectually in sync'. 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 6:46pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
missjo: So you're finally admitting that that someone you care about is why you were balls-out tailing me around like a bounty hunter? LOL. Like I didn't know the first minute I read your profile. Making a post on that movie thread confirmed my suspicions because you had never commented on that thread before. To the average observer it's a coincidence, to the trained observer it's an aberration. I'm sorry, girl, but that person you care about is/was an immature jerk. He didn't even know how people communicated over long distance in ancient Oyo empire; he claimed they wrote their messages on sand—so you should understand why I called him a twenty-dollar charlatan with a big mouth. I'm not trying to be friendly with you. I was only complimenting your deductive skills.
I don't try too hard. It's natural and trust me, I try to descend several stations because many folks here can't keep up. Not to brag, but what you think is my peak is only my beginning. You're just intimidated and maybe even influenced by the words of that fellow you say you care about—none of which am I the least bothered about. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by EfemenaXY: 8:38pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
@op, it all depends on what you want. The way I see it, if you like living life on the fast lane, then the young man will take you round the world faster than the speed of sound. If you want a down-to-earth, solid, reliable partner who in your words gets straight to the point with no mind games, then go for the older man. I'd personally choose stability and peace of mind every day over uncertainty and potential heartbreak. 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 1:20pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:One question: What are you trying to prove to yourself? 4 Likes |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:33pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
missjo: MissMOJO, how are you today? I'm not trying to prove anything. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 1:40pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:Well everyone tries to prove something to themselves. Don't get defensive. That they can be a better person,nicer person, meaner person, emotionless person, strong person, richer person etc. The list is endless. What's yours on Nairaland? 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by drnoel: 1:43pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
harbibi: Guy reading in between lines could save u lots of headache. The story is incomplete ans hence advice would be improper. There are many unanswered questions. Still any advice given u would probably go down the drain cos from ur post u have already chosen but want us to confirm it for u. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:46pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
missjo: It's a good thing I'm not everyone.
None for me. ... Tell the girl on your profile to close her legs...AIDS is real! |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 1:49pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:LOL. AIDS is what they use to scare young people from having sex in underdeveloped countries, not for me. You sure you're not trying to prove nothing? |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:54pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
missjo: Spoken like a true sex-addict.
You are the mentalist here, you were able to figure out that the OP was biased towards the forty-year-old man by reading in between the obscure lines, so you tell me, what do you think I'm trying to prove? I'm all ears. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 5:36pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:I'm soo NOT a sex addict. You are the mentalist here, you were able to figure out that the OP was biased towards the forty-year-old man by reading in between the obscure lines, so you tell me, what do you think I'm trying to prove? I'm all ears.I think I'll just use my mentalism in another (much more interesting) way. Answer this: If you had to sleep nakēd in the middle of a beautiful woman and an attractive gay guy, who would you turn your back to? |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by harbibi: 6:41pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
drnoel:abeg wetin you dey talk about? abi you quote the wrong person? recheck your post please. |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 9:51pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
missjo: I guess we'll just have to find out.
LOL. SMH. Really, this is what you can ask? I would face the beautiful woman trusting that my black äss is unattractive to the gay guy. What will you have me do? |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 10:21pm On Nov 21, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:You'll just have to take my word for it, there's nothing for WE to find out. LOL. SMH. Really, this is what you can ask?That you're willing to gamble your backside away on the gay guy's level of restraint which you can't be sure of is just hilarious and revealing |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 12:20am On Nov 22, 2016 |
missjo: Don't be so certain, girl, -- many frienemies usually end up torquing beneath the bed sheets. It's the hottest thing ever! "And from the ashes of antagonism shall a Phoenix of oneness and love arise” — Darkrebel
The gay man would most likely not make a move with the woman there, and I'm not a heavy-sleeper so my mind's ear would still be very much alert to the happenings around me. If the gay fellow tries anything funny he would be getting karate-chopped before he even gets a chance to blink. Yours is a catch-22 question – there is no right or wrong answer. Can I ask my own trick question? |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 10:30am On Nov 22, 2016 |
BoboYekini: So true Now wondering the kind of wood I am now Mahogany, sandalwood, oak, orange, bamboo? I would hate to be gmelina (I don't even know if there's anything like this, I always doubted my teachers on the name and spelling of this tree...in my mind...as a child...but I mean one tree with green to brown, inedible fruits that smelled so bad ...okay I am gonna check if there is a tree like this...I always felt my primary school teachers had to come up with a suitable name for such an unlikeable fruit/tree ...Gggmelina (aarrgh). Major digress (I am sorry!). Okay, then there is bitter kola ....dogonyaro, other trees. I would want to be orange wood shaa...that is me, Mz Orange, lol. I will stop now Back to your submission?.. I really think it is positively liberating....I got the feel that your "wizened and inflexible" was a reprimand/laced with disapproval, no? There is really such a thing as one loving their solitude and single state, it always is nice when one sees couples or other peoples' kids...you go like "aawww" and admire their courage, sense of responsibility and being grown-ups and all ...then the sheer relief when one enters their room...to flop on their bed, and eat cake and coffee ...and read all day....alone bliss (Forgive my mad-ness, I dunno why @ all the rambling ) Modified- there IS gmelina, and apparently it is medicinally-edible, and has "more appealing", other names, I still hate it...that smell...Jeez |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by TV01(m): 11:48am On Nov 22, 2016 |
...by all means muse away. In a sense, that's what we all do up in here. BoboYekini chose red The emphasis I believe is not on the genus of wood, but on the dryness. Men desire succulent fruit, not timber. And it wasn't a reprimand, or disapproval as such, but a cold, hard, naked (unemotional), piece of advice, based on male female, dynamics and the specifics the OP mentioned. Muse, digress, ramble and modify all you like. It sure beats the mostly "canned" stuff that seems to prevail here. TV |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:30pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
merahki:A kindred soul . I hated the smell too. @TV01, correct on all counts sire. 1 Like |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:43pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
TV01: Hello You have to tell me what Bobo choosing red means...I can be really slow I know @ men and succulence and genus(es)? and timber and etc.... even so, I was/am looking for a tree that is dry AND fragrant to capture the essense of me .....I am mostly stubborn (is that inflexible? ) but I like to think it is charming, even endearing to the right people...a woman can have her delusions after all (shrugs) Now, I suddenly have an unknown perfume fragrance in my head....based on the above Next time I get to duty-free, I am camping there till I get the right scent It would be hard to believe I am not mad eh? I amaze myself sometimes too....Merahki Rambles, at your service I need to log out, drink coffee, go out, or all. Now Cheers (and thank you) Modify- you mean redwood? Told you I was slow....if not that, please lemme know |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by chriskosherbal(m): 2:45pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
Ishilove:agree |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo(f): 5:50pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:LOL. You don't give up! Beneath the sheets? We haven't even got to that point where I would consider you a 'friend'. Remember my god (as you called him)? It's obvious you don't like him and I know he doesn't care if you live or die,lol. So why are you even hitting on me considering the conflict of interests? I know exactly what you're doing and I hope you know that I can see through it. The gay man would most likely not make a move with the woman there, and I'm not a heavy-sleeper so my mind's ear would still be very much alert to the happenings around me.Shoot! |
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 9:07pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
missjo: I'm a mechanical bull armed with the mental toughness of an assassin trained by the League Of Shadows. I consider one of my sterling qualities to be doggedness...and willpower. So babe, gird up ‘cause you're in for a long and bumpy ride of awesomeness.
Do I have to buy you a candy? A tiara? Take you out for a nice dinner? Give you a chaste kiss until your cheeks are smitten with weights of a smarting dimple? Or do I need to go for broke by giving you a Donald-Trumpalingus? What must I do for the pinpricks of both our past misdemeanors to evaporate into the cold, anonymous embrace of nothingness?
Yup, I don't like him one bit. And you're wrong, he does care whether I live or die -- if I give him one mention, he would give me twenty even though I snob them all. That or he lacks self-control.
There is no conflict of interests here, unless you two are screwing offline? — which I highly doubt.
Of course, you've got X-ray vision.
Well, it's not a trick question, just some interesting pun I saw written on a guy's shirt some months ago. –How do you like your eggs? Poached? Fried? Or fertilized? 3 Likes 1 Share |
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