i have been married for a little over 3 years and recently my husband just can’t satisfy me sexually any more. When it’s up it’s up. He can’t go more than one round compared to what he was capable of doing. And no matter how i try to assist in getting it up, it just lies there(35years old). it is really frustrating and i just don’t know what to do(i have thought of having an affair but i know it just not the right thing to do). The sad part is that he doesn’t think there is a problem. He doesn’t even want to hear of it when i try bringing up the issue. i am left in the dark here. Is this normal in guys? He has been the only partner i have ever had so i really can’t compare.
Would appreciate advice and suggestions.

This type of post doesn't belong to this thread, next time you go to romance/sexuality.

4 d question.
It is abnormal. Tell your man to stop masturbating if he does, stop taking anything sweet/sugree, he should be taking local herbs, ugu with milk and also be doing some exercise because they help. A normal man most perform at least 5 round @ 45-60mins each if not more.
Another cause is when manliness is too big the performance would be very low because of flow of blood.

@poster,do I knw u?

@poster
there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. did you expect him to make love to you for "10rounds" for the rest of your life?!
its all about desires/excitement/attraction. . . . . . .  everyone gets tired of the same all routine and, unless you guys make your se*xual life exciting again then, you will end up with a 2mins man in the long run.
be creative, do different exciting stuff,bring toys, dress up, roleplay etc whatever you do, do something different that the both of you enjoy.

also taking care of your appearance is VERY important. . . . . if you looked like a model before marriage but now look like Monique then you cant really blame your hubby. although he would still loves you, the se*xual attraction wont be there any longer.

if you expect your se*xual life to flourish without "watering the plant" then you are a dreamer!

MrBrown,u r d original sexmaster.Hope u are as gud as u say.Ur gurlfriend must be vry lucky sexually.

@justmoore -

This type of post doesn't belong to this thread, next time you go to romance/sexuality.It is abnormal.

It absolutely belongs here, on the Health forum - and there is nothing "abnormal" about it.

@OP -
Which one is it? Is it that your Husband cant go MORE than one round, or he cant get it up at all? It is not at all clear. Do you need him to go more than "one round"? Or do just want the session to last longer? Please clarify.

If he can get it up, how long does your love making sessions lasts? The issue is not how many rounds a man can go, but how long he needs to last to be able to fulfill his partner. Are your expectations realistic? When you "do" it, (irrespective of how long it lasts), do you achieve orgasm?
It is not unusual for a man to be unable to get it up again after orgasm for another "round". Some men can do easily, some men cant.
The trick is to extend the love making session, and make sure he does not orgasm before you do. There are many ways to do this.

Firstly, have MORE pre-intimacy. Make sure you are well turned on before you even think of putting anything anywhere. Get in comfortable with your own sexuality; do not expect it is totally your husband's job to get you to nirvana. Go out, buy some toys, use them, and have some fun - together! Encourage him to focus on you at the beginning, rather than the other way round. When making love, learn the signs that show he is about to blow, then stop, take a pause, and start again. ALL these things will help you get satisfaction form your sexual life. An affair will surely not solve the problems. This is a relatively young marriage, so you can still rectify the situation.

The last thing you need to to is position it as a "problem". No man will be happy to admit he has a problem in satisfying his wife. A man's ability to perform diminishes under a kind of pressure. Also, you need to take into consideration that a man's libido diminishes with age, whilst a woman,s increases. This is why you need to be more imaginative, creative, understanding and patient, to get the best out of your man. All the best.

where the poster nah? please give us more details on what you want, na experience pple full here o.

Thanks guys, i really appreciate the advise.

sessions don't last long at all. now, the first is for him(usually over within less than 2 Min's). then no more.getting it up to aleast satisfy me is just a problem.if fact i am never successful.even after trying everything imaginable.
i am not expecting too much. all i want is just for him to satisfy me even if it just one round.

somemany factors are responsible for that kind of situation it could be stress,food-intake but for more info check www.impotenceproblemsolution.com

4ward:

somemany factors are responsible for that kind of situation it could be stress,food-intake but for more info check www.impotenceproblemsolution.com

please stop talking nonsense to sell any of your phoney product. . . . . . . . . . . . . its a clear case of BEING TIRED OF THE TOTO!!!

ta4:

Thanks guys, i really appreciate the advise.
sessions don't last long at all. now, the first is for him(usually over within less than 2 Min's). then no more.getting it up to aleast satisfy me is just a problem.if fact i am never successful.even after trying everything imaginable.
i am not expecting too much. all i want is just for him to satisfy me even if it just one round.

by what you just wrote, we can clearly understand that your hubby doesnt care anymore about satisfying you. this toto doesnt excite him anymore. you can bet whatever you want that if he had a different women in front of him, he would be doing the multiple long rounds like before. the sad part is that this is completely natural.

you have to find what excites him and make your bedroom acrobatics FUN and EXCITING again. different men, different solution. communicate with him in a constructive manner (not 5mins before s*ex). let him understand that you cant live like that any longer and that YOU NEED SATISFACTION/PLEASURING.if he doesnt care about it then go get yourself a young stud that will do all the things that you lack and desire(with your hubby's permission of course!)

@Mr Brown with respect to your post [please stop talking nonsense to sell any of your phoney product. . . . . . . . . . . . . its a clear case of BEING TIRED OF THE TOTO!!!by what you just wrote, we can clearly understand that your hubby doesnt care anymore about satisfying you. this toto doesnt excite him anymore. you can bet whatever you want that if he had a different women in front of him, he would be doing the multiple long rounds like before. the sad part is that this is completely natural.you have to find what excites him and make your bedroom acrobatics FUN and EXCITING again. different men, different solution]

No woman wants to be told that her husband is tired of her thing, this can only depress the poster more. You also cannot be too confident (in as much you seem knowledgeable in bedmatics--smile, kudos to you too!) that that is her husband's problem. Most men are not aware that bedroom gymnastic is not all about their satisfaction, little wonder the poor husband is not as concerned as she is about her satisfaction. A man is supposed to think about satisfying his woman through other ways if all of a sudden he started climaxing too early. Other factors can contribute to it like getting overly excited, financial worries can also make him just want to take his satisfaction and rest. On the other hand, the advice below which you also gave the poster is the bomb, I have read a lot of advices to women on keeping the fire of their marital sexual life burning and you have it perfect here.
@ poster It's truly all about spicing things up, you may not have the confidence to bring in the toys, dress up and role play (I know our culture, your husband may even shout that"you are now corrupt" or may even accuse you of learning that from other men) you need time to sweet talk and persuade him into trying those(that is if you two are not already into that) but see how you can add some spice and make things less monotonous in other simpler ways. If you are not already doing these, you can try them.
Talk to him to see if he is undergoing stuffs you can share and sort out with him, Bring in some flowers into the dining room and bedroom, cook him his special meal and seduce him slowly all day long, use scented candles to have the house smelling exotic, douse your bedsheets with romantic perfumes, get seductive short skirts and tight pants to wear in the house for him, leave notes in his pockets or in his lunch pack with promises of what you will do for him if he gets you to climax too, go ahead send him text message during the day telling him that tonight "you are gonna be a naughty girl"(according to Beyonce) or that "tonight you will let him be the captain"(Rihanna) or you can subtly send him your message by playing such music for him in the evening while preparing his dinner. I am sure that by the time dinner is ready he might be wanting to skip dinner to eat you first, only remember to put on your seduction mode before you get down to the real thing and remind him of the goodies that awaits him if he gets you to climax. Work what you've got girl ! and see if you won't be rocking his world. SThese tantrics will definitely de-stress and unwind him enough to go as ten for long as you want. You go girl! 
Search online and read books and magazines on how to add the blings to your marriage. I recommend cosmopolitan and redbook.

[its all about desires/excitement/attraction. . . . . . . everyone gets tired of the same all routine and, unless you guys make your se*xual life exciting again then, you will end up with a 2mins man in the long run. be creative, do different exciting stuff,bring toys, dress up, roleplay etc whatever you do, do something different that the both of you enjoyalso taking care of your appearance is VERY important.]

@Ivynwa
i understand completely what you mean but there is just one problem:
many women dont know how men function and need to hear the reality of life and marriage in order to improve in the bedroom dept. maybe a "soon to be wifey" will read this thread and learn from it therefore i think we owe to lay the whole truth about men down so they can be better wives/GFs.

would you expect me to lie to her about what could be the reason for her misfortune?! women need to know that men are a different species. we think and act differently so when i read this thread, i put myself in the shoes of the husband and think why i would react the way he does and what could fix it. . . . . . . . . . which is what i will write down!

i was even being generous with the poster not wanting to offend her by telling her that one of the reason could also be that her husband has a mistress which is the reason why he has no se*xual desires any longer for his wifey (which is quite possible too).

i know that sometimes what i write can offend a few but i hope that people will understand that there is no malice in my words and that its just about what I feel may be the trouble and how i feel it could be fixed. no sugar coating.

last but not least, i hope that the poster didnt/wont take my replies as an offence but simply as the view of another man on how to solve her problem.

@Mr brown, i have no hard feeling towards you and in fact i appreciate your bluntness about the issue.

more suggestions are really welcome guys

thanks

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Ok

Why do unmarried people always feel they can comment on married folks issues? Do they think they have ANY idea what it is like? Do they think its like having a boyfriend/girlfriend? Or like living with a partner? Honestly, it really gets on my nerves!

The poster above tells us how he finished with the "nicest" girl in his life, just because she did not excite him enough in bed - And he feels he is  knowledgeable enough to advice the OP's her issue!

its a clear case of BEING TIRED OF THE TOTO!!!

LOL! This is funny, but not quite true.

Your Husband is not tired of you sexually, otherwise he would not be getting hard and blowing his load in 2mins! Also, this is certainly no indication he is having an affair either (this kind of things make no difference to that).

It is simply a case of laziness on his part, and not being bothered to make the effort anymore. You did mention is was not like this in the beginning - that was because he made more of an effort to hold back and please you then. This is quite normal for men as they progress in a relationship; though i would say your husband is at the extreme end of the spectrum.

You are surely not expecting too much, and i would advise you have a chat with him about it. MAKE sure it is not at a time when you have having intimacy, but at a time when he is relaxed. Let him know you are not happy about it. Do NOT position it as a problem, but rather as something you would like to improve. This is crucial. There is nothing you can do on your own, as he is the only one who can rectify the situation. Your job is too encourage and support him in doing so.

You may also want to try Viagra. Though it was initially recommended for impotence, it has been successfully used to improve general s.ex life. Also do try all the other things mentioned on the forum. Be more adventurous, be patient, be s.exier, learn the signs, have more pre-intimacy, encourage him to start with, and focus more on you, etc.

I do wish you all the best!

^^^^^^^ you are saying exactly the same thing as i have written:

Your Husband is not tired of you sexually, otherwise he would not be getting hard and blowing his load in 2min. Also, this is certainly no indication he is having an affair either (this kind of things make no difference to that)

have you never sha*gged a gal while you really didnt want to?! the hubby does his husbands "duty"and gets it over with as quick as possible. nothing strange in that.

it is a well known fact that men having affairs is a reason why there is change in sex*ual habits in couples.
ask yourself this question: do you think that men who have mistresses/affairs dont sh*ag their wives any longer?! lol. . . . . of course they do but they dont get as much desires as before to do it so therefore instead of multiple rounds like before they just go for the usual daddy&mummy stuff and keep the exciting stuff for their mistresses.
so infidelity could be the cause but until she catches him red handed we can never be sure and blame hubby for that.

It is simply a case of laziness on his part, and not being bothered to make the effort anymore.

isnt it what i said?! you are just being diplomatic and sugar coating the same point: "being tired of the toto"

most men can get it up, the catch is to care enough to want to make it last. this man doesnt care  anymore about making it last therefore he gets HIS satisfaction and goes to sleep. since he did his "husband's duty" nobody can reproach him anything, oh so he thinks!. . . . . . . .

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Best of luck

It has happen to me b4 in 2006, you can mail me then i will give you d simplest solution

Why does anyone have to mail you? You can post the advice here like everybody else.

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There is nothing wrong with your husband, do you expect him to continue doing it 2 or 3 times for the rest of his life? Come to think of it,
are you the same as the time when you both first met? On your part what have you done so far to spice things up?.

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