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. by MrJavaS: 12:37pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
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Re: . by Babiod: 12:47pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
MrJavaS:I was just like u wen I entered school infact even much younger than you sef,d problem is with you, who said u need to trust friends in the first place,make friends,hold your ground on your thoughts and actions,don't compromise,ur first friend is your book it doesn't fail,then when your result comes out,look for who topped you in class,stylishly make him your friends,but just make sure U're competing with him in your mind and stay focused.leave girl matter for now abeg,even if u don get crush...lol 1 Like |
Re: . by sexymoma(f): 1:00pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Pple like you, i sabi your type dem go ask you questions for exam hall, u go frown face, u nor go answer person go sit with you for exam hall u go cover book test nko for class, u go dey find single chair to sit untop why u come dey complain say nor get friends Mind you, been an introvert doesn't mean you can't have friends if you are kind and friendly, pple would like to associate. 9 Likes |
Re: . by MrJavaS: 1:13pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
sexymoma:Thanks,I'll try to be more friendly, |
Re: . by MrJavaS: 3:26pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Babiod:I haven't talked to any female yet.But I'm interested in getting to know one I have observed. |
Re: . by Babiod: 5:22pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
MrJavaS:forget any girlfriend for nau,I dey tell you,if na only friend I free u.dey can be huge distraction,time go don go if u let anything happen. |
Re: . by Saff(f): 5:37pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
You cant make it through university on your own it’s impossible. Even if it’s just a few friends on your course, you need to do it. No man is an island. Even when you leave uni, you need to build connections with people to build yourself up the career ladder. Better force yourself now and learn before it gets tough for you. Thank God you’re still in first year use it to your advantage. There’s a difference between being introverted and completely isolating yourself from people. Over the years whilst in uni I became quite introverted due to experiences. But I always had friends on my course, social friends and friends that I lived with. It is well. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 6:39pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
sexymoma: So that's the conclusion you came to You must have really been an olodo in school 14 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: . by MrJavaS: 6:49pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Saff:Thanks....I'll try. |
Re: . by Donald3d(m): 9:10pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
GODPUNISHUNA:
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Re: . by Donald3d(m): 9:12pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
I am also an introvert The thing is, just be yourself, the right and wrong people would come to you.Just choose wisely and don't settle for less No matter how quiet you are , people would come to you, I repeat be yourself.Being an introvert has so so many advantages, I am a testimony to that.Again, the right people would come along eventually 5 Likes |
Re: . by TonyeBarcanista(m): 7:14am On Jul 13, 2018 |
There is not a friend like Jesus... My advice to you: Associate with people without getting the typical "friends" for the sustenance of your sanity 3 Likes |
Re: . by Wilfredpat22(f): 7:54am On Jul 13, 2018 |
Try to associate with people. You are a nobody and nobody knows you so stop feeling important or entitled 2 Likes |
Re: . by zexy2030(m): 8:00am On Jul 13, 2018 |
Wilfredpat22: 5 Likes |
Re: . by oluplus(m): 8:31am On Jul 13, 2018 |
Just work hard on your G.P and see how everybody will want to be your friend 6 Likes |
Re: . by MrJavaS: 8:50am On Jul 13, 2018 |
oluplus:Thanks, |
Re: . by JARUSHUB: 1:15pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
MrJavaS: Hello MrJavaS, You need to be "open" to everyone but choose your friends properly. Yes, you are right about not allowing mediocres into your life, but then you need associate with various people to understand life better and develop your EQ. If you continue like this, you would face difficulties passing assessment centre exercises of various companies because by then, you would have developed: - Stage fright in the midst of people. - Unnecessary unfriendliness. - Not able to converse well with people from different walks of life. - Come across as being arrogant by persons. Perception plays a great role in human relationships. ...and many others. You are done with 100L, focus squarely on the remaining years and strive to graduate with a first class - which is possible irrespective of the school or department. While you might become the cynosure of all eyes when you perform well, be wary of hangovers and people who can implicate you especially during tests/examinations. These articles might be of help to you: How to make a first class in the university Mistakes that can cost you a first class degree A JAMBITE's guide to academic success But then, there are 'disadvantages' of being a first class graduate, especially in Nigeria: Disadvantages of being a first class graduate in Nigeria Best wishes. |
Re: . by MrJavaS: 2:16pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
JARUSHUB:Thank you very much,I really appreciate. |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:43pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
Young man try to make friends,but don't get drowned in the process. School is not only about the grades,it involves the adventures,the laughs,the quarrels,the beers,the girls etc. These aforementioned can only be done with friends, but choose them wisely |
Re: . by InansBobo(m): 6:43pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
I'm here to read comments so I'd learn |
Re: . by ImaIma1(f): 10:29pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
Just free yourself and not be too uptight. Don't expect too much from people...anticipate their let down Don't take yourself too seriously so that you can be approachable. You will be fine 1 Like |
Re: . by mimimile93: 1:16am On Jul 14, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Mpo aba'diah? |
Re: . by MrJavaS: 5:47am On Jul 14, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Exactly,no one has approached me yet |
Re: . by yvesboss(m): 5:54am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Since this is your first semester no problem, all will fall into place as time goes by. Just be positive and don't fight it |
Re: . by ImaIma1(f): 7:45am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Re: . by ImaIma1(f): 7:54am On Jul 14, 2018 |
MrJavaS: The vibes you are giving might repel them. No one wants to be embarrassed. If you handle it, you should try joining some activities like sports, department/faculty politics, etc. Just make a conscious effort to be amiable and pleasant. |
Re: . by mostyg(m): 10:57pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Whenever you notice someone is trying to get your attention, do him/ her a favour by making it easy for such a person. Liking someone status or dropping a comment could go a long way in making such a person important. |
Re: . by peacengine(m): 5:44am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Bro focus on ya books. Nnah who be friend sef? They'll come when they see ya GPA scores. |
Re: . by Ishilove: 6:23am On Jul 15, 2018 |
MrJavaS:Your primary responsibility is your books. Work hard and make sure you keep getting good grades. There is absolutely nothing wrong being introverted, but don't be cold. When people want to associate with you, give them a smile, don't snub but choose wisely. You are not a monster so people will not run away from you; rather it is your personality and achievements that will determine if they will be attracted or repelled. I'm an introvert myself but I was able to keep a very small circle of friends throughout my years in the university. This friends hung around me because I was of immense value to them, and till date we still communicate (even though I am no longer as close to them. It's not them, it's me). The summary is this- don't be aloof when people come to you. Even if you don't become friends with them, make them aquaintances. It will help develop your social skills. 3 Likes |
Re: . by Chubhie: 7:57am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Stay focused and committed to your studies which is your first priority. Spot and build strategic networks which is important beyond the university walls. If you are in the first generation of private universities in Nigeria, increase your network ratio and if state or federal university, decrease the ratios. 1 Like 1 Share |
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Re: . by elmagnifico411(m): 5:54pm On Aug 02, 2018 |
Uncle, as the first guy have rightly commented, let your book be your best friend cos it never fails. Having said that, it's crystal clear that you're book smart, but, my guy, u need friends to make it through. U need the good ones, and even the bad ones.. as u pass through Uni, allow Uni to pass through u too, but maintain your stand in any issue u find yourself. Me dey like guys that are book smart, outgoing, friendly, do movies, street wise, and sabi chop life once in a while. Trust me, u need these things, but firstly, use your first year and sophomore year build your GP, by then u go don balance well and can be like what I mentioned above, cos you'd sure need them when u eventually graduate and land your dream job. Nowadays, companies no dey just higher guys wey be sey na only book them sabi oh. Be wise. |
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