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Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 7:04pm On Aug 14
pickabeau1:

Lol..
I also agree that narcissism to an extent is inherent in every human..basic survival


yea like everything you need it to an extent, a total lack of it might lead to poor self image n feeling of self worth.

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Romance / Re: What If You Find Out Your Girl Friend / Boy Friend Is a Lesbian/ Gay? by goshap(m): 7:00pm On Aug 14
Omomehn: what would you do if u discover the one you love is bisexual? as for me, if am not yet married to her i will call it quits.
as for me i would smile n say,welcome to the team.
Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:58pm On Aug 14
pickabeau1:


true...cool points...
yea,i for one cannot date someone as perfect as i am.
Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:52pm On Aug 14
pickabeau1:

I think so too..

A true narcissist will not even bother himself with a dedicated relationship

true n not true ,it literally depends on the degree and spectrum of the narcissist in question.
lets face we r all abit narcissist but it doesn't stop us from going n commitn fully in a r/ship.

n yes a chronic narcissist has no accommodation or attention for someone else in his life.if they do happen to find the need to accomodate some its more under the need for self evaluation n reflected self appraisal. here the other partner functions as a mirror self to prove or compare how awesome,merciful or perfect they are . but this cause does not necessarily lead to an abusive relationship.
duo one partner tends to put pressure on the other,in this case the narcissist is guilty.

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Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:35pm On Aug 14
u did a good job @ op. love the article

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Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:30pm On Aug 14
IfyAngela: You just described my ex
MA DEAR SHE JUST DESCRIBED ALL ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. THIS R ALL PATTERNS PRESENT N PROGRESSIVE IN ANY ABUSIVE RELATION, THE HALLMARK OF SUCH RELATIONSHIPS IS THE PHYSICAL ABUSE.

-hardly does any abusive r/ship skip one of those pattern bt it happens.

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Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:26pm On Aug 14
IfyAngela: You just described my ex
MA DEAR SHE JUST DESCRIBED ALL ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. THIS R ALL PATTERNS PRESENT N PROGRESSIVE IN ANY ABUSIVE RELATION, THE HALLMARK OF SUCH RELATIONSHIPS IS THE PHYSICAL ABUSE.
Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:22pm On Aug 14
MizMyColi:

^^^ It's mentioned in the Original Post.
u miss placing tthe theme here. are you talking about narcissism in relationships ,where one partner focuses on him/herself entirely while ignoring the emotional n psychological needs of the other partner.

- your refering to narcissism as a personality disorder in relationships.

both themes are similar but mean different things
to me what youve clearly state a character traits of an abusivee relationship,with respect to the abuser operating under the term narcissist
Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:14pm On Aug 14
pickabeau1:

A narcissist is obsessed with self cue the original Narcissus who fell in love with his reflection
He has little or no time to groom someone to love him, then spend hours emotionally torturing the person

As you rightly noted, an abuser may be a narcissist but all narcissists may not be abusers


What is written in your post is a quality of an abuser who may or may not be narcissistic

Just wanted to clear that as the whole theme of your post(referred..yes) is about abuse

now somes talking. you rily got da theme rit
Romance / Re: Relationship Talk: Ways Abusive Narcissists and Their Likes Get Inside Your Head by goshap(m): 6:12pm On Aug 14
pickabeau1: You are equating narcissism to emtional and physical abuse?
ma thoughts xactly.

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Family / Re: 13 Things Every Young Person Should Know by goshap(m): 7:12pm On Aug 11
DEGREE2466: Op a quick summary of your post

1. Some of the things you wrote there we are all aware.

2. You saying nobody owes you anything is a fallacy. How can you justify the fact that a child is born in this hostile world and left with little or nothing to survive on Dawn it, your parents owe you their parental responsibility both financially, emotionally, spiritually etc. So i disagree with you on that.

3. Couples who do lovey-dovey as you put it could be nausetting if they choose to do it in the public and in an inapproriate way so it can never be a reason someone is single.

4. Social network as far as i am concern has been overemphasized. Before the introduction on internet and social media there has been many jobless lazy people even during the era of St. Paul so?
way to stick it.
Fashion / Re: Check Out This Body Types And See Which One Is Yours! by goshap(m): 6:36am On Aug 02
dhensity: i dnt even know..but here is a pic of me..help me choos my body type.. i knw m fine ..m ghessing 4 anywayz
no 2, the trick is noticing the waist lenght an gettn an imaginary "v"
Fashion / Re: Check Out This Body Types And See Which One Is Yours! by goshap(m): 6:33am On Aug 02
softsparkyy: I love 3 and 4.

No need for pillows
huh!
Fashion / Re: Check Out This Body Types And See Which One Is Yours! by goshap(m): 6:30am On Aug 02
use to be no5 but i changed it to no1.
Entertainment / Re: My Life As A Gay - Nigerian Idol Star, Joe Blue (the Untold Story) by goshap(m): 7:38am On Aug 01
Chanchit:

Worth what..? Du sprichst quatsch.. And why should I flair up when I'm jst helping you waste ur time on NL.
got point brainsoup, gud point. but atleast i still got to hit on u.#i'll settle#
Entertainment / Re: My Life As A Gay - Nigerian Idol Star, Joe Blue (the Untold Story) by goshap(m): 9:30pm On Jul 31
Chanchit:


I no play Gay game uuuuuuuuuuuuuu. Alakoba eleri'bu...
speaker englis. moral of the story . don flatter yourself , you never were worth it. but you kool duo, i xpected you to flair up.
Entertainment / Re: My Life As A Gay - Nigerian Idol Star, Joe Blue (the Untold Story) by goshap(m): 9:19pm On Jul 31
goldfish80:
I agree with you. Joe blue had gayness written all over him. His dance moves were so gay. It was very easy to tell.
I think Mercy was Charly boy's favourite contestant. He normally dances with his white handkerchief whenever she's performing.
Did I read a part in that interview Joe blue say he once had guy threescore? Holy ghost!
ooh plz!. his still a learner guarantee
Entertainment / Re: My Life As A Gay - Nigerian Idol Star, Joe Blue (the Untold Story) by goshap(m): 9:07pm On Jul 31
Chanchit:

Lemme guess, one of his friends..?
lets play a game. imma try and pick up here on nairaland. if you could successfully keep your pants on when im done. you win.


and ooh!, imma need to see ur backside, so imma judge if your worth it.
Entertainment / Re: My Life As A Gay - Nigerian Idol Star, Joe Blue (the Untold Story) by goshap(m): 2:00pm On Jul 31
Chanchit: I met a guy some months back, he told me Joe Blue is his friend, you need nobody to tell you this guy is gay. He told me to come to their rehearsals. After the show, I was talking with a friend outside, the guy jst fly come from nowhere and said
Gay-"so you don't want to wait for me..?"
I was like, is this guy OK.
Me-"are we going same way..?"
Gay-"hmmm, where do you live" I told him, unfortunately for me we are going almost same way, but we have 2bus-stops btw us and he would be dropping first.
Gay-"we are going same way, lets go together"
ME-"aaaaah, I'm treking home"
Gay-"ok, lets trek then"
Me-"I also have to see a friend in the next street before going home"
Gay-"really..?"
Me-"yea."
Gay-"Ok, can I have ur number..?"
I gave him my number, the guy would call to remind me of their rehearsals and would not forget to say Oga Joe is coming, I go laf say this 2gays wan spoil my yansh, I no even knw say them plenty. Maybe I should even call the guy to ask if Oga Joe still dey come the rehearsals.
don't flatter yourself,sily pickup line.

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