Ok

Tell me, where exactly is the confusion coming from?

InTheCloudySky:
Smh. With the way you described the first lady (whom you're clearly not interested in nor attracted to, but perhaps it's her money you're after), you don't sound like a catch. They both deserve better than you.

Thanks

Karleb:
Tell me, where exactly is the confusion coming from?

I don't know the one to settle for marriage.

OG1BABY:
You don't deserve any of them

Thank you.

Self-realization is the major hallmark of maturity - and one ought not to be talking about marriage until hir achieves it. Unfortunately, you've not achieved self-realization, just like most married people everywhere didn't, citing your submission, which is the reason why you're in this web of confusion. Suspend the marriage talk for now and work towards self-realization. When you achieve self-realization, you won't catch yourself in the web of confusion like this or creating a repulsive thread like this or asking a repulsive question anywhere.

arabbunkum:

I don't know the one to settle for marriage.

The younger one is your best bet.

arabbunkum:
It's all about settling down. I have two options.
1. A lady of about 32yrs, working (nurse). Unattractive but with good character and very independent.

2. A lady of 24yrs, student (HND 1), young and BEAUTIFUL. Good character and hardworking/hussling spirit.

NAIRALANDERS, rescue me o!

You're not ready for that.

If you really wanted to settle down, you won't need anybody to help you choose.

There's a third option though. You could just marry both of them if you have the mind for it.

Short and ugly? I am confused on whether to laugh or fume at you.
You want the nurse simply because she has fat savings and an established inflow of income. Selfish you. It's a shame that you would consider marrying someone you apparently view as short and ugly just for money. A real shame!

If you ever married her, you will cheat on her with a more attractive girl like your fantasy HND 1 student. I'd suggest you man up and hook up with your 'attractive' student whose financial cross you probably dread at this point.

Let me make this final point. Anyone who is confused about whom to marry is actually not ready for marriage. I am shocked that at 34 you are still dwelling in fickleness. Grow up, you are no longer a boy.