RecadMe:

I intend doing just this, but it is very very difficult. I'm yet to tell the lady in question & her mom I'm getting married soon. & yet sleeping with their daughter? Goooooood!!! I messed up big time

You briefly experienced 'brain relocation syndrome'. Your brain relocated to your preek, which is why you allowed it do your thinking for you.

Saintmary:
My first concern is your not so fortunate fiancee.


Let me explain why.



Living with an adulterous spouse is like sleeping in a house without a front door.


You are a danger to her unless you go for aggressive counseling and training on how to keep your instrument in your pants during your marriage.



Come clean to her and give her the chance to decide if she wants to continue with you. It's the least you can do considering the way you broke her trust, cheating is like throwing someone under a moving bus.



Even if you claim to love her, you are dangerous to her spiritually, medically, emotionally, and financially if she chooses to stay with you.

It was just this once. I deserve all that's thrown at me at this moment but for the records, I have NEVER cheated on my fiancee in the last two years we have been together, not for once. But then again, this means nothing after this one slip especially knowing fully well I was even getting married in days. I feel worse already okay.

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The issue here is not a new trick

You already had a marriage plan going on

Go ahead and inform your wife to be and continue with your marriage plans

As for the lady, you have to le the her know that, you are not sure you are responsible for the pregnancy

But if she insist, you will have to run a DNA test after the child is born and you have nothing again to say

If her mother insist on seeing you tell her the same thing in a polite manner

That doesn't mean that you won't take care of her while the pregnancy is on

Don't ever make any promises of marriage to her no matter the pressure

With all the above
DNA will prove if it's your child or not and if it's your child, then be ready to take care of the child while the child remains with the mother

She on her own side, knows the true father of the child

It's now left for her to keep the child that's thats if she is 100% sure is your child

Or take the pregnancy to the real owner

Or terminate the pregnancy because she knows that it's not yours

Then she will come up with the story that she had miscarriage

Don't advice her to terminate it

She knows what to do with it and she knows the real owner

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Hmmm... do I bring in my family into this? Of a certain, I have to don't you think? Haaa.... My wedding is barely a month, Omo, things don go faaaaaaaaar.

Please just involve one of your trusted brother or sister, and go there togther.....

It was just this once. I deserve all that's thrown at me at this moment but for the records, I have NEVER cheated on my fiancee in the last two years we have been together, not for once. But then again, this means nothing after this one slip especially knowing fully well I was even getting married in days. I feel worse already okay.

I don't mean to make you feel bad, in fact I typed those things so that you can know the danger of adultery in marriage.


What is done is done, ask God to forgive you, restore you and ask for help so you won't put your spouse in danger anymore.


As for the pregnancy, tell her you will take responsibility after DNA test, that's after delivery if she wishes to keep it.


I wish you all the best.

I don't mean to make you feel bad, in fact I typed those things so that you can know the danger of adultery in marriage.


What is done is done, ask God to forgive you, restore you and ask for help so you won't put your spouse in danger anymore.


As for the pregnancy, tell her you will take responsibility after DNA test, that's after delivery if she wishes to keep it.


I wish you all the best.

I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month. Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine). The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

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you see, when they tell you guys to be careful with women, you'll be claiming sharp guy. From your story you're not the father, she was pregnant before she came to you. Listen when a woman give you free thing she has an evil agenda. Swallow the redpill, stand your ground and don't be a SIMP

Baronthecelebri:
you see, when they tell you guys to be careful with women, you'll be claiming sharp guy. From your story you're not the father, she was pregnant before she came to you. Listen when a woman give you free thing she has an evil agenda. Swallow the redpill, stand your ground and don't be a SIMP

Thanks for the advice.

JudgeNotHi:

Thanks for the advice.

you're welcome

PREGNANCY TESTS CANNOT TELL HOW OLD A PREGNANCY IS, ONLY POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE. YOU CAN NOW DEDUCE HOW LONG FROM THE LAST OVULATION DATE.

YOU'RE LIVING IN SIN, THAT IS WHY THE DEVIL CAN PLAY SNOOKER WITH YOU. THIS IS WHY GOD SAID SEX IS FOR MARRIED COUPLES.

THREATEN TO PERFORM DNA TEST ON THE FOETUS AND WATCH HER REACTIONS

ALSO NOTE THAT FOR A PREGNANCY TEST TO SHOW ON A STRIP ITS A MONTH GONE, BECAUSE THE HCG LEVEL MUST RISE TO DETECTABLE LEVEL.

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

Very well said. Nice one Romanoff

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

OP please focus on your wife. block that girl too , Nice post too

Even ultrasounds are not accurate… my ultrasound was always reading 2 weeks ahead .. for some it was reading 2 weeks behind… and I am sure about it because ours was a planned pregnancy.. we triggered ovulation and also triggered rupture with hcg so we were sure of the conception date but scn’an still read 2 weeks ahead… so he can’t completely rule out not being responsible.. only a DNA test can do that

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

@JudgeNotHi, you see this quoted comment here is the realest you can get. Let me even be clear with you If you are sure that when you cum, you unwrapped the used condom by yourself and you didn't see any dripping, no hole or anything, then that young lady was already pregnant before you slept with her, you are just a mugu she wants to hang it on, infact the whole "lemme come over to chill with you"was all premeditated. DON'T FALL FOR IT.
Take her for an ultrasound (I bet you she will not go with you), because she knows the truth and let's even say it is still unclear thereafter, tell her no problem....that you will take the baby for DNA when she puts to bed, and only IF and ONLY IF the DNA result proves you are the father, only then would you decide how to proceed (Make it known to her that MARRYING HER WILL NEVER BE AN OPTION, because she just messed your life up). And who told you she doesn't know about your wedding plans??


As for your Fiancée, you will have to break the news to her, lets hope that by the time the ultrasound is out...it will settle the matter, then you can decide for yourself if you want to come clean or not. But if the scan doesn't resolve it, then you have to sit her down and tell her....no two ways about it. She has to make up her mind to marry you even with the "complication", please do not hide it from her. It will make you life less complicated than if she finds out after the wedding or even before it on her own.

Last advice ............NEVER LET ANY WOMAN TIE YOU DOWN INTO MARRIAGE AGAINST YOUR WILL COS YOU GIVE AM BELLE, I repeat NEVER EVER!!!

The bolded isn't true. My regrets or guilt isn't that I'm getting married or got cut, I regretted from the moment the deed was done. Went as far as cutting off all communications with her which we both agreed upon. Honestly, how it happened that night remained a mystery to me cos it never, I repeat, never crossed my mind such a thing would happen. I even inform my fiancee I was having a friend over for the weekend (though I never mentioned the gender) so I wouldn't be bored during our causal chats.

Oh boy why are you using guilt to wound yourself? Na wah for you.
Get up, take that lady for scan to clear yourself.
Many many years ago, my friend nacked a girl, in his presence she took postinor. 7 day later she tell am say she suspect say she get belle. How?? As howwww? 7 days? He knew better, but to prove it carried her inside moto go far away to do test. Inside moto him de warm am to confess, say scan will show exactly how old that pregnancy is and once it proves no be him, he will not help her. But if she comes out clean, him go help. As them reach the scan place na so she start to confess. Say when she go do gce, she and her paddy no get money settle for expo, so the proprietor of the school had to be nacking she and her friend! Say two of them go set doggie for the man for office before any exam!
Anyway, she do the scan test and no belle de there.
Meanwhile this smallie be pastor pikin oh, heavy SU girl when you go think say never see banana before.

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

You could be wrong, no two pregnancy is the same even if it's same woman at different times.

Development can be so fast or so slow.

He should take responsibility of his actions.
Abi you did online test to ascertain he is not responsible?

I just wonder how some ladies trick guys into marriage with pregnancy.. What if this guy hates you for the rest of your married life or even hates your innocent child knowing that you tricked him into marrying you.. I really hope your fiancee understands and forgives you..

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