Cerberus:
Lol this advice isn't right sha

I have seen quite a few instances of this in real life but there is no formula really.

To each his own

Lifeinlight:
My sis was married as a virgin @24. All those ones you listed are for immature ones. You didn't have a business discussing your relationship with friends


Also, iron sharpen iron. A good husband materials will get a good wife materials

People getting into marriages now .. no dey hear word, they think their marriage is for public .. people wey go chop rice lean mouth .. so its the type of people getting married now
They listen to social media

A relationship between a man and a woman could only lead to SEX. know this and know peace

Marvyx:
Women only love men for what they can provide. Simple.

And you guys can't leave women alone just because of that pussy they offer you. Simple.

We saw our mother's build with our fathers. We saw the sacrifice they made, dreams forgone and for what?
Do not build with any man. Do not marry a broke man. Even if you have to marry at 42, freeze your eggs. Let people laugh at you. But if you cave. You will suffer. Work on yourself sis, get your money up.
A word is enough for the wise, if you're wise.

Wisegeek01:


These days i wont advice anyone to train anyone, but if you want to do it, here is what you must add ..

As the guy as you are training her, build up yourself too to meet up with current trends, make you no go dey old fashioned

Also note that training the lady is as a friendly gesture, have that in mind, so contribute what you can, what you wont regret later, if she say she no do again .. you cant force her

For the lady, if you want to train a guy, omo .. i'd have said don't, but ..
Contribute the little you can also as a friend .. why ?
The guy might still not end up with you,
The guy might get too relaxed ( yes this happens too)
The guy can pick another small girl that has nothing, under your nose and be giving her the money you are giving him

Everything on Earth is 50/50.
wot works 4 A might not work for B--J, but may work for X--Z.

Wisegeek01:


To help you better understand, i will explain the opposite ..

You are not building with a man, if you are just there occupying space and demanding for money for upkeep, and giving sx ..

You must not add money or contribute financially, but if you can great ..

But if you can add value like

.. i'd give you another analogy, A lady i once dated was always on point about new opportunities, and value we could add to ourselves, and she knew a lot of people like if i needed a particular service she knew who to call

.. and each time i get a contract through her i split the money, (thats me personally i won't say you should do) .. we didn't end up together for other reasons .. and it was on a good note, we still talk

That's a wonderful analogy and she's a gem! You are also smart for that immediate settlement, it will limit her thoughts of "building" you.
Many Nigerian women that will just occupy space and give you headaches when you don't have, will always claim to have built with you when you later make it!
Men see all those and decide to manage you, when they make it, they look for peace of mind, though a handful are unrepentant "ingrates"!

I recently engaged a lady who told me for the fact that she stays with a man when he doesn't have is enough "building".
I won't judge her though but for me, hmm

ogaontop:

That's a wonderful analogy and she's a gem! You are also smart for that immediate settlement, it will limit her thoughts of "building" you.
Many Nigerian women that will just occupy space and give you headaches when you don't have, will always claim to have built with you when you later make it!
Men see all those and decide to manage you, when they make it, they look for peace of mind, though a handful are unrepentant "ingrates"!

I recently engaged a lady who told me for the fact that she stays with a man when he doesn't have is enough "building".
I won't judge her though but for me, hmm

Lets be frank, people know me for been too blunt and saying something as it is ..

So you see that lady, she is talking off point .. understandably every lady that stays with a guy to an extent adds value to the guy, even if its emotional, connections, advice, or for those that want to cook and clean or those that decide to add maximum value

.. but you see this particular lady you mentioned .. from the way she said it, sje is non of these, so she is a big minus ..
Shes probably the type that will tell you to go and rob to give her money for hair