Firstly, I will like to infer this. I have been in three countries in the world with the UK being one where I went for a family/business visit. I am also doing quite average with my business here in Nigeria. So there is no envy in this topic.

However, I have noticed this of recent. Most Nigerians who relocated out of Nigeria suddenly have a superior feeling above their country people back at home. Out of 10 fellow Nigerians I know who relocated, at least 7 of them directly or indirectly try and inflate themselves over you like they are mega superstars all because they are now in a country that their fathers and ancestors did not raise a finger to develop.

The only comments they make about Nigeria are bad ones and they always demonize their fellow countrymen as if they didn't stay in Nigeria most of their lives. And if you contact them from here, you can sense the pride in their response. Or they give this chat attitude when you communicate with them like if you are the new bug in town that should be avoided.

This is not limited to colleagues or friends, it is even worst among family members. My ex has finally gotten the guts to block every communication with her younger sister who went to the USA. The girl was able to get an American man in his 50s to marry and since then, the last born wants to control the family because of the $100 monthly she sends to the parents.

I know they will come for me but I no blame una. Na the useless leaders wey no sabi anything na them I blame. And for the record, I am not relocating. I will keep doing my business here and I will not sell my landed property to travel abroad whether it is to work in an office or wipe old women's arse for a living. Because you are in a white man's land doesn't make you any better than me or anyone you left back home.

Kudos to those who didn't let seeking greener pastures abroad change them.

In midst of the madness, God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Amen

Funny enough I don't rate them, e no dy move me kos they are just working and paying bills there plus living as a second class citizen.

Then wat about people that own an expensive phone and think they are THE ELOHIM.
Africans and indians are wired differently.

If everybody respect himself and mind their individual businesses, all these beef, bad blood, and see finish no go dey.

If you know say person dey busy dey wipe old people arses to survive, you need to understand say e be like fowl wey nyansh dey pepper as e dey lay the eggs wey people dey consume. So, if that person no get time for your chitty-chatty or calls, make you understand say the person get other priorities wey Don different from the one wey you Sabi am with before.

Yes, some people dey naturally nasty and annoying with plenty attitude but make you no rule out pepper body as a result of the pressures to make ends meet plus the time difference in some locations wey some of us no dey consider before we dey bombard them incessantly with calls and requests.

Finally, if person no give you face make you sef pack your own face, mind your business, and free yourself from allowing anyone control how you feel.

Thank you.

Its a southern Nigeria thing. People who relocated to Lagos, PH, Abuja, Kano see themselves as superior to those remaining in the village.

Rich man in Nigeria that will oppress the poor here will suddenly become humble if he visits abroad. Rude nurse in Nigeria becomes humble abroad etc. Even security guard at a bank once he sees you as poor go oppress u

Oppression is our way.

gaby:
If everybody respect himself and mind their individual businesses, all these beef, bad blood, and see finish no go dey.

Thread is obviously not your business. So start practicing what you preach.

Neddstark:


Thread is obviously not your business. So start practicing what you preach.

You are doing very well with your business and contented with life which is a very laudable and enviable attitude.

Why not just say "to hell" with whoever disrespects you or tries to treat you with disdain?

This is my advise to you in simple terms and I wonder why you are going off on me.

gaby:


You are doing very well with your business and contented with life which is a very laudable and enviable attitude.

Why not just say "to hell" with whoever disrespects you or tries to treat you with disdain?

This is my advise to you in simple terms and I wonder why you are going off on me.

We are different humans. I can't react the way you want.
I created this because it has been a topic in quite some conversations that i have come across. Calm down bro. If you read my post, you'll see i gave props to those who didn't let being in a another country change them.

Neddstark:


We are different humans. I can't react the way you want.
I created this because it has been a topic in quite some conversations that i have come across. Calm down bro. If you read my post, you'll see i gave props to those who didn't let being in a another country change them.

I ain't faulting you in any way. Maybe I'm just trying to make you understand how I would handle and do handle issues of this nature and believe me, I have experienced what you are on about here.

It's a Nigerian thing

ednut1:
Its a southern Nigeria thing. People who relocated to Lagos, PH, Abuja, Kano see themselves as superior to those remaining in the village.

Rich man in Nigeria that will oppress the poor here will suddenly become humble if he visits abroad. Rude nurse in Nigeria becomes humble abroad etc. Even security guard at a bank once he sees you as poor go oppress u

Oppression is our way.

what do you mean by “it’s a southern Nigeria thing”…?

Nemesis0147:
what do you mean by “it’s a southern Nigeria thing”…?

i don’t see core northerners doing it. I better pass by neighbour is not common with them

This thread reminds of a Twitter conversation I saw a long time ago. Paraphrasing it, a poster tweeted: "Nigerians in the diaspora are more intelligent than those at home". Someone responded, I think Victor Asemota, saying such a mentality is bad. The original poster replied by asking, "How can people who don't experience uninterrupted electricity be intelligent"? I think Asemota did not respond or block the person.

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Regarding your post, I would say arrogance and poverty are at fault. Growing up, while my dad wanted me and my siblings to meet our richer uncles who were (and are still) based in the UK and Ireland, my mom objected because they were "forming" and were not cordial or "happy" to receive us. She hates insults. She argues that rather than listen or become subservient to such people, we work on our finances and grow. In other words, be like those who admire or better than them.

To your Ex's family, the best way is to decline her $100 stipend. It might come as pride, but it can be categorised as self-dignity. As I am, I cannot use $100 to control my family because it is not possible. So, the family has to show her (the youngest female) that they can thrive, not survive, without her $100.

On the other hand, it could be environs and who they grew up with and mingled. My folks in Nigeria are doing well; either as entrepreneurs or working with good firms. So, it does not make any sense to "look down" on them. Would you look down on someone who works with NNPC? Or runs her thriving catering business that she no even get time to respond to your chats? So upbringing matters. I am very receptive to messages and calls. If I miss them due to time zone differences or busy schedules, I reply very well. Just don't ask me for money because I don't have shingban and I am not very good at giving money to people anyhow.

Nigeria has economic opportunities, so one can/might return to harness them. It is those classmates/friends/associates one would fall back on. So, cutting them off or being brash or arrogant means bridges would be cut. On the other hand, for those in Nigeria, if you notice any snub or no-reply sort of mentality, you stop chatting with them and focus on your hustle/craft.

In fact, I was thinking aloud a few days ago that when this UK set of japarians eventually return to Nigeria (many would return), Nigerian corporate HRs go dey do yanga because their UK work experiences would vary from what they studied in British universities. I won't be surprised HRs would prefer someone who has worked in Nigeria to another who worked in the UK because of what they see this set doing in the UK. Other countries might be different, but I think those in Nigeria now see the UK in a different light.

Gerrard59:
This thread reminds of a Twitter conversation I saw a long time ago. Paraphrasing it, a poster tweeted: "Nigerians in the diaspora are more intelligent than those at home". Someone responded, I think Victor Asemota, saying such a mentality is bad. The original poster replied by asking, "How can people who don't experience uninterrupted electricity be intelligent"? I think Asemota did not respond or block the person.

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Regarding your post, I would say arrogance and poverty are at fault. Growing up, while my dad wanted me and my siblings to meet our richer uncles who were (and are still) based in the UK and Ireland, my mom objected because they were "forming" and were not cordial or "happy" to receive us. She hates insults. She argues that rather than listen or become subservient to such people, we work on our finances and grow. In other words, be like those who admire or better than them.

To your Ex's family, the best way is to decline her $100 stipend. It might come as pride, but it can be categorised as self-dignity. As I am, I cannot use $100 to control my family because it is not possible. So, the family has to show her (the youngest female) that they can thrive, not survive, without her $100.

On the other hand, it could be environs and who they grew up with and mingled. My folks in Nigeria are doing well; either as entrepreneurs or working with good firms. So, it does not make any sense to "look down" on them. Would you look down on someone who works with NNPC? Or runs her thriving catering business that she no even get time to respond to your chats? So upbringing matters. I am very receptive to messages and calls. If I miss them due to time zone differences or busy schedules, I reply very well. Just don't ask me for money because I don't have shingban and I am not very good at giving money to people anyhow.

Nigeria has economic opportunities, so one can/might return to harness them. It is those classmates/friends/associates one would fall back on. So, cutting them off or being brash or arrogant means bridges would be cut. On the other hand, for those in Nigeria, if you notice any snub or no-reply sort of mentality, you stop chatting with them and focus on your hustle/craft.

In fact, I was thinking aloud a few days ago that when this UK set of japarians eventually return to Nigeria (many would return), Nigerian corporate HRs go dey do yanga because their UK work experiences would vary from what they studied in British universities. I won't be surprised HRs would prefer someone who has worked in Nigeria to another who worked in the UK because of what they see this set doing in the UK. Other countries might be different, but I think those in Nigeria now see the UK in a different light.

you have nailed it.......Nigerians no too rate UK again

ednut1:
i don’t see core northerners doing it. I better pass by neighbour is not common with them

I reckon. It all boils down to the "I better pass my neighbor mentality". Whoever coined that word deserves a legendary status that it has to be used to name a generator. 😁

All I see on this thread is the tears of envious beings

Neddstark:
Firstly, I will like to infer this. I have been in three countries in the world with the UK being one where I went for a family/business visit. I am also doing quite average with my business here in Nigeria. So there is no envy in this topic.

However, I have noticed this of recent. Most Nigerians who relocated out of Nigeria suddenly have a superior feeling above their country people back at home. Out of 10 fellow Nigerians I know who relocated, at least 7 of them directly or indirectly try and inflate themselves over you like they are mega superstars all because they are now in a country that their fathers and ancestors did not raise a finger to develop.

The only comments they make about Nigeria are bad ones and they always demonize their fellow countrymen as if they didn't stay in Nigeria most of their lives. And if you contact them from here, you can sense the pride in their response. Or they give this chat attitude when you communicate with them like if you are the new bug in town that should be avoided.

This is not limited to colleagues or friends, it is even worst among family members. My ex has finally gotten the guts to block every communication with her younger sister who went to the USA. The girl was able to get an American man in his 50s to marry and since then, the last born wants to control the family because of the $100 monthly she sends to the parents.

I know they will come for me but I no blame una. Na the useless leaders wey no sabi anything na them I blame. And for the record, I am not relocating. I will keep doing my business here and I will not sell my landed property to travel abroad whether it is to work in an office or wipe old women's arse for a living. Because you are in a white man's land doesn't make you any better than me or anyone you left back home.

Kudos to those who didn't let seeking greener pastures abroad change them.

In midst of the madness, God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Amen

Is it a crime if the last born controls the family, what matters is the positive results her control brings.

I so much detest siblings seniority BS, I see it happening in a lot of families, Elder siblings wants you to be subservient to them and yet they want to enjoy your money Kolework, He who brings more money calls the shots, please it's not pride or arrogance, it's the game.

Everybody wants to be in control, besides how can a woman living in the US be in control in Nigeria Your ex should calm down and enjoy the benefits of her younger sister's status.

No time to message or reply anybody.

Someone opined above, na person/people wey never see $100 you go try control.

many persons in the diaspora can be busy with life and truthfully , many may be going through though times and may not be given to chit chats. these coupled with the time zone difference might be a challenge in maintaining relationships back home. I'll just advice if you feel you are being snubbed, give the person some space. the person may not actually be having any feeling of superiority like you are assuming . They are in a new environment, they also have new relationships to nurture which would place demands on their time aswell. The relationships in their new environment is more impacting to them and beneficial to their thriving in the new country hence would be given more priority than those back home.

ednut1:
i don’t see core northerners doing it. I better pass by neighbour is not common with them

U know nothing about the north then ..

Anyway you r a yoruba Muslim...

Always worship Ur northern masters

I noticed this behavior in my guy after some months he left for abroad. Initially, we would talk a lot when he newly japard. Later, it will take days to respond to my chats and when he does, it will be shortened as much as possible like that of someone who doesn't want the conversation to go further. I was scared and inquired if he was going through a challenge maybe I can help him with my little finance but the way he responded with pride. Later he came back without informing me. I was shocked. Since, I have been minding my business. Na the hand pesin bring I dey take they follow am. Thank God I am a busy man anyway.

It is not about moving abroad but moving to somewhere with better economic activities.

Even back home in Nigeria, there are some who become haughty towards those they left behind in the poorer neighbuorhood where they once lived in.

I remember as a kid, reading a novel set in the 1960s Nigeria where one of the characters who managed to leave the village in the 50s, to a far away plantation in another part of Nigeria, where men were slaving it out working for their British masters under very harsh conditions.

The guy came home after some years working in the plantation, showing off wearing his white singlets and flashing his battery torch at nights to the astonishment of the villagers who have never seen such as they were used to their local bushlamp all their lives, the guy was arrogance personified.

That I better pass my neighbour mentality is ingrained in some people and would always exhibit irrespective of location and status.

Special greetings first class citizen with no electricity or portable water

EreluRoz:
Funny enough I don't rate them, e no dy move me kos they are just working and paying bills there plus living as a second class citizen.

JohnQueen:
Special greetings first class citizen with no electricity or portable water

Still doesn't make me rate them, so eat shit.

Nobody asked to be rated

I totally understand you're going through a tough time

If you ever need support, open a thread. Unam!

EreluRoz:
Still doesn't make me rate them, so eat shit.

JohnQueen:
Nobody asked to be rated

I totally understand you're going through a tough time

If you ever need support, open a thread. Unam!

Eiya you can actually help me and there'll be no need to open a thread since you already know I'm going through tough times. Should I send my account number to your dm? As OBO wey you be, you must do Easter for me
Unam ikot

You cannot blame some off them because of the many begy begy demands they get from many Nigerians still in the country.

Many Nigerians believe that once you live abroad, you are automatically in money and they will start billing you immediately you get there.

Oh but you should

Turn all that hate and inferiority complex into something useful Atim Okpoebot wannabe

EreluRoz:
Eiya you can actually help me and there'll be no need to open a thread since you already know I'm going through tough times. Should I send my account number to your dm? As OBO wey you be, you must do Easter for me
Unam ikot

JohnQueen:
Oh but you should

Turn all that hate and inferiority complex into something useful Atim Okpoebot wannabe

Hate and inferiority complex? How? Where are you manufacturing all these from?

Mtcheww

Krak:
You cannot blame some off them because of the many begy begy demands they get from many Nigerians still in the country.

Many Nigerians believe that once you live abroad, you are automatically in money and they will start billing you immediately you get there.

You are very correct.
Living abroad is not bread and butter for immigrants and I dare say for some of the citizens.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

perfectsusanoo:
Then wat about people that own an expensive phone and think they are THE ELOHIM.
Africans and indians are wired differently.

I somewhat disagree with you, any way your circle of friends may be shit Niggas.
But my family, friends, colleagues etc are never showing inflated ego.
Sometimes what you term as inflated ego may just be them trying to keep a distance and focus on their lives.