Mbakuthegreat:


Maybe so but call it what it is then, cheating, and not polygami. And polygami is not practised in all african cultures and instead of making a posts to batch african men and saying we are cold hearted who will cheat on our women without thinking about their feelings she should batch her own husband whom she choose. But OP may be fake and is just here to batch african men.

Ugosample:


she is in pain right now and saying things like this is expected of someone in pain

A lot of men dey fall hand tho

Frankiss44:


That same fictional film according to you have saved so many marriages...

What doesn't work for you in prayers works perfectly for others, it is a measure of our faith.. And that pastors cheat on their prayer warrior wives is not an excuse.. The question you should be asking is if the prayer warriors are even aware their husband are cheating and are praying towards that direction...


Cheating is one thing that can happen in seconds, it could even be a one night stand.. The quest for fun or something different from what u have been getting in a while.. It happens to all types of men, both the religious and the loyal.. That's why I laugh at people blaming the lady for not seeing the warning signs before marriage... Some men even married as a virgin and ended up being serial cheats after marriage.. It happens....



But this goat of a husband case has gone more than cheating, only a fool will insult his wife because of a bitch out there...

But there is nothing prayer cant do

Glorylynn:
Don’t worry husband material for sale here,2and half yard.its enough to sew short and tank top

nwanneni:
thanks bro,I'll try and do as you say.
It's sleeping tonight that I don't know how to do yet.
I wish I was in 9ja,I'd have smoked all of the Indian hemp in the world and drink to foolishness.
GOD!!!!!

ikennahillary:
Please don't get me wrong ,but the african content here is the additional wife which to me should not be a problem.

I believe having a 2nd or 3rd wife is his right , it now depends on how he presents the case.

Well just take the right discussion and don't physically hot nobody cos that will be a huge crime and for sure purnishable my the law depending on the nature of the offence.

Please just be patient and harm no one.

Peace out.

nwanneni:
bro,I think I am a very weak man and I think she knows this and is using it to spite/rile me up.
She never puts up status,why now?she never flaunted me to anyone,now this guy?haha,bunch of psychos,women!!
Well,I know what to do...thank you.
I'll continue with what I'm doing and go get some drinks with my friend later.
Thanks bro,I appreciate.

ikennahillary:
Please don't get me wrong ,but the african content here is the additional wife which to me should not be a problem.

I believe having a 2nd or 3rd wife is his right , it now depends on how he presents the case.

Well just take the right discussion and don't physically hot nobody cos that will be a huge crime and for sure purnishable my the law depending on the nature of the offence.

Please just be patient and harm no one.

Peace out.

CHoccolaTE:
I have even heard of worse cases than OPs.
There was one married man that told his wife to call his side chic and apologise to her after the wife warned the side chic to leave her husband.

My former neighbour beat his wife till her nose broke and was bleeding all over her dress because the stupid man wanted to invite the girlfriend to the house and his wife locked the door and hid the key.


These are just few, I know many other horrifying cases of married men acting like beasts to their wives because in Africa nobody cautions them.
Funny thing is that the baby you bore is for his family and bears his name and will carry on his lineage. But he is body shaming you for losing your beauty after having the child.

Madam OP, if you are open to using diabolical means against him please do so. Or get people to severely beat him up and wound him seriously.
Or just ignore him and bear. If na me I will put little quantities of me and my babies piss and shit in his every meal I prepare for him along with using diabolical means against him.
I love revenge, I don't joke with it.

Ranchhoddas:
The number of anti-prayer posts on this thread

So many God-haters

Sheeesh

Children of perdition everywhere.

OP I have nothing to say. Nothing is black or white.

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

greggng:
We lack comprehension in this country ...read through her message, she said she doesn't need advice....I still wonder why some people they try advice her....for what? She wanna end the marriage that is why she doesn't need advice. Make una free her....a stubborn grasshopper will always rest in peace in the stomach of a bird

CHoccolaTE:
I have even heard of worse cases than OPs.
There was one married man that told his wife to call his side chic and apologise to her after the wife warned the side chic to leave her husband.

My former neighbour beat his wife till her nose broke and was bleeding all over her dress because the stupid man wanted to invite the girlfriend to the house and his wife locked the door and hid the key.


These are just few, I know many other horrifying cases of married men acting like beasts to their wives because in Africa nobody cautions them.
Funny thing is that the baby you bore is for his family and bears his name and will carry on his lineage. But he is body shaming you for losing your beauty after having the child.

Madam OP, if you are open to using diabolical means against him please do so. Or get people to severely beat him up and wound him seriously.
Or just ignore him and bear. If na me I will put little quantities of me and my babies piss and shit in his every meal I prepare for him along with using diabolical means against him.
I love revenge, I don't joke with it.

ibkayee:
Don’t waste any useless prayer on him. Cheating is one thing, his lack of remorse and arrogance has sealed the deal. He has also given the girl he cheated with wings to address you anyhow.

I’d pack out if I were you personally and get a divorce. But then again, I’m not privy to your financial situation and don’t know if you’d have the means to make such drastic decisions, especially with a 4 month old baby.

It’s up to you, you’re better positioned to make the most practical decision since you’re the one in the situation. Are you a full time housewife? Do you have your own money?

I’m reluctant to advise you seek the help of your family because we know how that usually goes for a woman. But if you have understanding family members that you can stay with, go to them for the time being if you want to be in a different environment and can’t afford to do so alone.

Most important thing is to leave him make the best and safest decision for yourself and the baby.

Nice one praying for a cheating husband I would rather pray he dies

Ugosample:


Why don't you present yourself as a polygamist upfront instead of just coming out of the blues

ugom123:
U all keep forgetting one thing: the lady said she does not need advice.

I got feeling some how when she said 'African men'

I feel she maybe a kind of person!

Also, i do not subscribe to single story.

which ever way, she has made up her mind to leave but she also threatened to make them pay. That is why my interest lies. Madam, pls do not do anything stupid becuus it will surely back fire.

Altern8:
Person wey dey cry dey see road o.

That your blanket statement addressed to AFRICAN MEN is unnecessary and offensive.

You said you came to serve us notice that you’re leaving your husband. Well, good luck.

You are angry and you want your pound of flesh. Beautiful. I advise you not to do something that will make even your own parents disown you in court. Crime is different from crime. If anger rules you, you’ll blame yourself.

greggng:
We lack comprehension in this country ...read through her message, she said she doesn't need advice....I still wonder why some people they try advice her....for what? She wanna end the marriage that is why she doesn't need advice. Make una free her....a stubborn grasshopper will always rest in peace in the stomach of a bird

12inchess:
All this unmarried people giving u bad advice. You too look at what the sidechick is doing and and what she is wearing to hook your husband and do times 10.Yes, his cheating may not entirely be ur fault but once Nigerian women get married that is when they go in search of their grand mothers bubus and start wearing them or start behaving like they belong to the convent . How many married women in Nigeria do u see watching their weight or hitting the gym to maintain their shape? If you like listen to the pple saying divorce him. Yes he will lose but you will be the bigger loser. No be naija again?

Fuqman:
It's not African to maltreat or cheat on your spouse. However, a cheat is a cheat irrespective of the continent or whatsoever. African women, wake your damn lazy a*sses up and become independent. Get a life or something.. I've come to realize that, men hardly mess up with independent women.

Daboomb:


Polygamy is not a crime, why are you trying to shame him or cant he voice his opinion without you pigeon-holing him?
Everyone has a right to their opinion, you are free to have yours.

kennygee:


Imagine if every woman leaves her man because he cheats.

Are you saying the marriage can't be redeemed?

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

kennygee:


You people who always stress on infidelity, isn't there room for forgiveness?

I use to say "if my husband cheats on me, I'll leave". But wisdom has taught me better.

The mess in her home might just be the devil's way of pushing her out of her home for a strange woman to enter.

It is not a battle she can fight with force and quarrels.