jumpymonkey:
The OP has never been arrested in Nigeria or abroad. Post your proofs and lets expose these things in the open totally. The toxic sister of yours has been using law enforcement to harass her husband for a long time even before moving to the UK. This is what was responsible for her being left behind in Nigeria for that long by the OP cos he was scared of bringing such a troublesome wife abroad. She used the National Human Rights Commission in Nigeria to harass him after a minor argument and sent a copy of the petition to his boss instead of directly to his address, just so he could lose his job. This failed as the OP had a good relationship with his boss, and it did not affect him at all. The OP's wife apologised within 48hrs and withdrew the spooky allegations from NHRC as she had no evidence that what she had claimed happened.

She later confessed to the OP that day stating that she had been behaving irrationally for a while cos she is cheating on him and this was why she went to this extreme. She asked for forgiveness and called everyone to beg on her behalf, which the OP, with a large heart forgave her and continued with the marriage hoping this would never happen again and things would get better. It took many people's intervention and the sentiment of the OP for his kids to forgive and overlook all these and process her relocation abroad. Look where it has landed him now.

I can post all proofs here if you want, since it's ''wash your dirty linens in public'' day, so the world can know how crazzzy your sister is...

Dare me...

Ehhhhhhhhh, what is this? Do people still fear God??

jumpymonkey:
I know the both of them very well. I am one of those people who warned against bringing this toxic wife cos we got tired of their constant issues. Since the toxic wife decided to create a moniker and her rabid siblings joined in to cook up stories, I have a duty to expose her further. If you know what I know, you'd be utterly disgusted and would wonder why he had tolerated abuse from this woman all these years. I am definitely biased and on the OP's side. Bite me!

I deciphered immediately that you know a lot more of this battle. Don't worry psychologists sit in those UK cases and they will flag the abuser instantly. They have seen thousands of cases. I will bet from the Ayomide moniker reply that OP was up against very toxic individuals.

Yoighaman:


Modified: Mention was a mistake, apologies.

Noted.

You have a point but what we think on NL wont have any bearing on the overall UK justice system and right now its against the woman in question. The OP is not a saint neither the wife, let her divorce and move on from the post and counter post its obvious the love is not in the family anymore for the sake of those innocent children, She is a medical practitioner let her focus on her own career.

cococandy:


It does matter when one person is posting like they are many folks thereby attempting to give their side of the story more credibility. You know folks believe stuff when more and more people say it. Makes it sound like it’s true.

Not saying he’s not saying the truth. But he’s for sure playing the audience.

If both the OP and the supposed family of his wife who have been exposing themselves have deactivated their accounts, there is a high chance that the thread has been hijacked by their other family and friends who are so pained and ready to bare it all. Maybe they need to do this so that we have a balanced story and contribute objectively. However, note that there is no way that you can call the police on a man many times and he never got arrested, but then he called them on you the first time and they immediately picked you up. There is no smoke without fire.

They should both calm down cos when all the dusts settle, they would still be the ones to pick up all the broken pieces of their lives.

I pity the poor kids in the middle of all this.

liberalchick:

Lol where??

This isn’t condemning domestic violence,

“I don’t support domestic violence o, but...”
then go on to tell the woman to forgive and stay in her marriage and try not to provoke the husband too much that being a man is not easy.

Many Nigerians (men and women) believe if a woman talks back during an argument, a slap or a belt like on the thread I read yesterday, is not out of place. Only TWO people on that thread commented it wasn’t normal for a husband to belt his wife.

Nigerians only care about DV when the victim is dead or very visibly battered. That’s when everybody will remember their favorite phrase “why didn’t she leave?” When a wife is being slapped around or beaten sometimes most people don’t view it as DV, it’s normal in a marriage.

The truth is, here in the US, most Nigerian women don’t report DV, they are still bound by the Nigerian culture of silence. Most times, it’s a neighbor, a school teacher, a co-worker that reports and 9/10 the woman always declines to press charges. It’s always sad to see it.

I will not disagree with you because many people reason like you have described above but I think it is also equally important to recognize and appreciate those who don't. I have seen them here and I have met others offline. Someone very close to me considers every man who raises his hand for whatever reason against a woman a loser, so did his father and so do his brothers.

Tunde, I really do not want to respond to you again after you can condescend so low to be replying with different monikers. I know you need validation for your despicable acts but things will sort themselves out soon. The only reason I made a comment on this post initially was to dispute your claims. I only told you to tell this forum some truth which I asked in form of a question. The you I know definitely didn't dissapoint me by coming after me with barrage of insults and curses which you are known for from different monikers. Speak the truth and you will feel light or don't even talk at all. You threatened earlier about someone getting mad and also threatened about digging graves. I was hoping the 28 days your wife hasn't been at home will reset your brain but I am not suprised as a leopard can never change its skin. I hope the validation you seek you've gotten it but does it change the course of law?

For the unbiased followers and those who even caught him with different monikers, I want you to understand this man is a snake and can lie about next year this day. You were able to get your wife out of the house because she does not know how to lie like you. She had no helper and the few that reached out you blocked them off. Are you not the same person that replied the email for your wife from women aid that she no longer needed help? The first time she was able to get help was in March this year and that is because people got interested in your case. You seized your wife's phone for over a day as your usual practice and was using the phone to chat with her family and friends telling them off. It took a message from a member of women advocacy group to make you release the phone after which you begged your wife to save your career. You allowed her to calm down then pull the plug on her all of a sudden thereby making yourself the victim.

I hope you understand truth is not hidden, when the plug is pulled on your soonest you will understand that nairaland isn't a court. Attached is the message from a member of the advocacy group that made this man release his wife's phone. Please note the date is in March. You can come after me again with your many monikers, you deserve no response as you are shameless

jumpymonkey:
I hope you're carrying your sister and women advocacy group along because you're ruining your sister's chances at the remotest chance of any kind of respite by fighting dirty. I also hope that you have the mind for what you are about to start. Lemme source for some more info, your violent sister is about to go viral


...instablog naija loading. The court of public opinion is where you guys want to fight, oya na lets go

Please man, do everything in your power to vindicate the o.p, there are too many wicked people in this Nigeria, the wife needs to return back to Nigeria to meet her wicked friends and family..

jumpymonkey:
I hope you're carrying your sister and women advocacy group along because you're ruining your sister's chances at the remotest chance of any kind of respite by fighting dirty. I also hope that you have the mind for what you are about to start. Lemme source for some more info, your violent sister is about to go viral


...instablog naija loading. The court of public opinion is where you guys want to fight, oya na lets go

Why only instablog, aren't you going to feed the people here with what you have?

A simple post and you went ahead like a rabid dog that you are. Do you use to seize your wife's phone or not and do you chat with her friends and relatives when you seize her phone?

You can deceive some people all the time but you can't deceive all the people all the time. I owe you nor your other monikers any response again

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My goodness; always good to wait for both sides; see how the OP is jumping everywhere threatening those helping the wife as if he holds the key to the UK.

I know it is you Mr " Friend " the abuse and manipulation is so clear what a shame.

It is sad that the wife didn't take action when she should women always sentimental now her inability to act is used against her.

I hope this ends well.
Clearly a sick man

Exactly why I hate being in toxic environments. Even if she acted crazy on an occasion, she may have been goaded to do so or maybe she just snapped. Wat a controlling personality...

Eketem:
My goodness; always good to wait for both sides; see how the OP is jumping everywhere threatening those helping the wife as if he holds the key to the UK.

I know it is you Mr " Friend " the abuse and manipulation is so clear what a shame.

It is sad that the wife didn't take action when she should women always sentimental now her inability to act is used against her.

I hope this ends well.
Clearly a sick man

[quote author=ayomidate0 post=89915821] AKA Adunola Olutade from Ibadan.
How about you tell the world how violent your sister (Ariyo Esther)was even while in Nigeria. Breaking bottles at every little argument. Or how she's a cheat sleeping around with soldiers close to their house (which she later confessed to and apologized)and threatening to call soldiers on her husband anytime they have a misunderstanding. Ok, let's talk about how she was caught reciting incantations with charm while she stayed with her mother in law awaiting their travel date. Now let's leave Nigeria.
let's talk about when she got to the UK and how she almost killed her husband on the 25th of Dec, 2019 when she broke a bottle on his head and an ambulance had to rush him to the hospital to stich his head. (There are pictures to support this if you want me to jog your memory).
The husband had to leave the bedroom for her and started sleeping in the visitor's room on a bunk bed! Just to avoid her and for peace to reign. But no! Your reckless sister wants it all.
How she called police on him every time lying to the police that she's a victim of domestic violence threatening to ruin his career even if she's gonna divorce him. The husband had to install cameras in the house just to prove his innocence.
If the husband is such a bad person, why didn't the police arrest him all the time your reckless sister called the police? Why is it that the police arrested your sister just the one time the husband called the police and showed them all the evidences? That led to them giving her a restraining order which forbade her to contact him or their children for 28days.
Let's not forget how she planned to abscound with the husband's money to marry a white man.(I want you to deny all of these so I can send all the voice notes to you on this platform for everybody to listen and also to jog your memory)
Oh, or is the fact that she starting cheating over there with a guy which she saved his name as BISIGEE in order for her husband not to find out. Or is it how you always encourage her to excersis Veto power and to call the police.(I have those chats and voice notes as well in case you want it here)
Also, you claimed he didn't allow her to work, have you forgotten that immediately she got to the UK, her husband registered her to go for a nursing course all expenses paid by him. Is she not ork with the same certificate he paid for?
I can go on and on with pictures, voice notes and other evidences.

UKmigrant:
No normal person composes such a long message. This is merely a proof of how your sister has been blackmailing the poor man.

Welcome with your original ID OP you just cant help yourself can you?
Typical abuser behaviour

Gloriagee:
Exactly why I hate being in toxic environments. Even if she acted crazy on an occasion, she may have been goaded to do so or maybe she just snapped. Wat a controlling personality...

No excuse for acting crazy
She is an adult and should be in charge of her emotions, she should have used the law or left him not join in the violence

Both husband and wife seem toxic but as with most cases husband was more logical in getting his way and using the law to his favor.

I feel sorry for the kids of this toxic union

obataokenwa:
You're part of that woman's problem...I know your type, you will fill her brain with hate and a way to deal with the guy. You're more wicked than the devil and you're the devil in this issue right now.

Exactly what she has been doing...There are voices note and chats in case she wants to deny it.

quote author=ayomidate0 post=89915821] AKA Adunola Olutade from Ibadan.
How about you tell the world how violent your sister (Ariyo Esther)was even while in Nigeria. Breaking bottles at every little argument. Or how she's a cheat sleeping around with soldiers close to their house (which she later confessed to and apologized)and threatening to call soldiers on her husband anytime they have a misunderstanding. Ok, let's talk about how she was caught reciting incantations with charm while she stayed with her mother in law awaiting their travel date. Now let's leave Nigeria.
let's talk about when she got to the UK and how she almost killed her husband on the 25th of Dec, 2019 when she broke a bottle on his head and an ambulance had to rush him to the hospital to stich his head. (There are pictures to support this if you want me to jog your memory).
The husband had to leave the bedroom for her and started sleeping in the visitor's room on a bunk bed! Just to avoid her and for peace to reign. But no! Your reckless sister wants it all.
How she called police on him every time lying to the police that she's a victim of domestic violence threatening to ruin his career even if she's gonna divorce him. The husband had to install cameras in the house just to prove his innocence.
If the husband is such a bad person, why didn't the police arrest him all the time your reckless sister called the police? Why is it that the police arrested your sister just the one time the husband called the police and showed them all the evidences? That led to them giving her a restraining order which forbade her to contact him or their children for 28days.
Let's not forget how she planned to abscound with the husband's money to marry a white man.(I want you to deny all of these so I can send all the voice notes to you on this platform for everybody to listen and also to jog your memory)
Oh, or is the fact that she starting cheating over there with a guy which she saved his name as BISIGEE in order for her husband not to find out. Or is it how you always encourage her to excersis Veto power and to call the police.(I have those chats and voice notes as well in case you want it here)
Also, you claimed he didn't allow her to work, have you forgotten that immediately she got to the UK, her husband registered her to go for a nursing course all expenses paid by him. Is she not ork with the same certificate he paid for?
I can go on and on with pictures, voice notes and other evidences.

Gloriagee:
Exactly why I hate being in toxic environments. Even if she acted crazy on an occasion, she may have been goaded to do so or maybe she just snapped. Wat a controlling personality...

I have since learnt not to conclude a case here based on one side story.
Except it has something I want to comment on generally, I stay off.

There was exactly a thread like this months ago, the man painted the wife so black and was riding on the euphoria he contradicted himself. 20 something pages of people condemning his wife. Their story is exactly like this one.
Then the wife posted, katakata busted. He couldn't defend himself again and people started reading his posts twice, thrice to see the flaws he was trying to hide.
I even made him admit he was bad to his wife. When tide turned against him, he deleted and ran away.

Yeah, in an ideal environment, people are perfect. They don't make decisions based on emotions and societal expectations.

I may not fault her for leaving the control of her future to someone else cos living with a personality like this can make you doubt yourself. N if the violence emanating from her is
a one off case, I empathize with her.

A typical Nig woman can't leave a marriage easily - so many vested interests and opinions. I always believe a separation is even better than going this way cos nobody is worth going to jail for. I also believe in being a good example for my kids so there's that too.

Eketem:


No excuse for acting crazy
She is an adult and should be in charge of her emotions, she should have used the law or left him not join in the violence

Na wa o. Wat on earth will someone gain by rewriting the story when you know the reality is different? Self deception is the most mind boggling aspect of deceit cos after every every the reality is waiting.

sassysure:


I have since learnt not to conclude a case here based on one side story.
Except it has something I want to comment on generally, I stay off.

There was exactly a thread like this months ago, the man painted the wife so black and was riding on the euphoria he contradicted himself. 20 something pages of people condemning his wife. Their story is exactly like this one.
Then the wife posted, katakata busted. He couldn't defend himself again and people started reading his posts twice, thrice to see the flaws he was trying to hide.
I even made him admit he was bad to his wife. When tide turned against him, he deleted and ran away.

PeachtreeReside:



You can't say it was bad from the beginning....

He said so himself.Go and read his.posts.

You are fighting too dirty...There must be a classier way to close this all up.

jumpymonkey:
Adunola Olutade, the discourteous one always insulting her elder sister's husband and plotting with her to do evil. We shall see how you will end up...

This is a rather huge hyperbole (borli). You could not have blown this person's head to an unparalleled degree! You never could have!!

Flairoqy:

The probability of ever meeting an equal level of cognitive mind like yourself is probably 1/9999, but like minds exist.
Actually no one is unique.

Gloriagee:
Na wa o. Wat on earth will someone gain by rewriting the story when you know the reality is different? Self deception is the most mind boggling aspect of deceit cos after every every the reality is waiting.

My dear,things dey happen for this world. One of the deadliest weapon against marriage is pride.

But by the time it has finished rearing its ugly head, the culprits have left a big wreck. Some pick up while the rest become worst.


I wish them the best o.

It's always kids that will pay for the sins of their parents

Na wa. This one things have degenerated to calling people's actual names not taking the fact that the internet never forgets into consideration. I jus tire

sassysure:

My dear,things dey happen for this world. One of the deadliest weapon against marriage is pride.

But by the time it has finished rearing its ugly head, the culprits have left a big wreck. Some pick up while the rest become worst.


I wish them the best o.

It's always kids that will pay for the sins of their parents

She started the game of name calling and we the friends and family are ready to play it

Gloriagee:
Na wa. This one things have degenerated to calling people's actual names not taking the fact that the internet never forgets into consideration. I jus tire