Efemena_xy:

Well said.

Additionally, the most important thing here is love. Both parents are obviously in love with each other. Yes, they barely have enough room to swing a cat, but both the man and woman are working, doing the little they can to put a roof over their kids head, food on the table and clothe their little ones.

As far as I can see, the kids are growing up with mum and dad. That in itself is a lot. Poverty is a thing of the mind. This couple seem content with the little they have AND are happy with each other. Who are we to judge them anyway? Money isn't the be-all-and-end-all, and going by the daft threads posted in this section daily (he / she cheats, blah blah blah...) a lot of posters should learn a thing or two from this couple.

Efemena_xy:

Well said.

Additionally, the most important thing here is love. Both parents are obviously in love with each other. Yes, they barely have enough room to swing a cat, but both the man and woman are working, doing the little they can to put a roof over their kids head, food on the table and clothe their little ones.

As far as I can see, the kids are growing up with mum and dad. That in itself is a lot. Poverty is a thing of the mind. This couple seem content with the little they have AND are happy with each other. Who are we to judge them anyway? Money isn't the be-all-and-end-all, and going by the daft threads posted in this section daily (he / she cheats, blah blah blah...) a lot of posters should learn a thing or two from this couple.

acidtalk: With the very high cost of house rent now across the globe, newly wedded couple always have renting of an apartment as well as furnishing it as the biggest challenge they will face as couples.

While some ladies are ready to manage with their to-be husbands on any house type he can afford, other will clearly insist on nothing less than a 2 bedroom apartment. They will ask the man to have a foresight on when they start having children, when friends and relatives come visiting as well as enough space to occupy their "newly bridal gifts".

Location is another thing so many ladies are concerned about, they want to stay in locations easily accessible to the market, bus-stop and in general within town.

Nairalanders what is your take on couples squatting with their parents either because they can't afford rent a newly weds or because they got ejected from their house for lack of payment of rent.

The best thing to do is to safe enough money to get a good place-good here is relative. One bed self-contain, two bed flat, three rooms face to face, two rooms face to face, move to cheaper areas like Ketu, Ikorodu, Akute, Ojodu, Alagbole,Mowe, Ibafo, etc

Staying with the parents is bad and bad- for the course shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his own wife, and the two shall become one-Holy Bible

Your genuine experiences will be appreciated.

acidtalk: In as much as the above story sounds really touching, i cantell you the woman sees nothing wrong in giving birth to as many children as her womb can take.

This very same set of people will still open their eye and give their daughters to men who were worse than their husbands.

Poverty is a thing of the mindset really.
People are only as rich or poor as much as they know.
or why do you think the poor men breed the highest number of children.

acidtalk: You are correct but there are some circumstances in which maybe the ladie mistakenly got pregnant and marriage is the only way out and this is a man who is yet to even feed himself well.

In that situation both the young man and the pregnant wife are left with no other option than to keep living with his parents pending when they can get enough money to rent an apartment.

acidtalk: With the very high cost of house rent now across the globe, newly wedded couple always have renting of an apartment as well as furnishing it as the biggest challenge they will face as couples.

While some ladies are ready to manage with their to-be husbands on any house type he can afford, other will clearly insist on nothing less than a 2 bedroom apartment. They will ask the man to have a foresight on when they start having children, when friends and relatives come visiting as well as enough space to occupy their "newly bridal gifts".

Location is another thing so many ladies are concerned about, they want to stay in locations easily accessible to the market, bus-stop and in general within town.

Nairalanders what is your take on couples squatting with their parents either because they can't afford rent a newly weds or because they got ejected from their house for lack of payment of rent.

The best thing to do is to safe enough money to get a good place-good here is relative. One bed self-contain, two bed flat, three rooms face to face, two rooms face to face, move to cheaper areas like Ketu, Ikorodu, Akute, Ojodu, Alagbole,Mowe, Ibafo, etc

Staying with the parents is bad and bad- for the course shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his own wife, and the two shall become one-Holy Bible

Your genuine experiences will be appreciated.

acidtalk: With the very high cost of house rent now across the globe, newly wedded couple always have renting of an apartment as well as furnishing it as the biggest challenge they will face as couples.

While some ladies are ready to manage with their to-be husbands on any house type he can afford, other will clearly insist on nothing less than a 2 bedroom apartment. They will ask the man to have a foresight on when they start having children, when friends and relatives come visiting as well as enough space to occupy their "newly bridal gifts".

Location is another thing so many ladies are concerned about, they want to stay in locations easily accessible to the market, bus-stop and in general within town.

Nairalanders what is your take on couples squatting with their parents either because they can't afford rent a newly weds or because they got ejected from their house for lack of payment of rent.

The best thing to do is to save enough money to get a good place-good here is relative. One bed self-contain, two bed flat, three rooms face to face, two rooms face to face, move to cheaper areas like Ketu, Ikorodu, Akute, Ojodu, Alagbole,Mowe, Ibafo, etc

Staying with the parents is bad and bad- for the course shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his own wife, and the two shall become one-Holy Bible

Your genuine experiences will be appreciated.

kulyie: Hehehehe nawao.d brea.st wey don fal like great grand moda own.no flesh 4 inside,d tin don over squeeze sef,lookin so ugly.no money to maintain d br.e.a.st and looks.d woman no get money to do fixing,na only xmas she dey perm her hair,ass,she no get,so wetin dey her body wey he go dey get er.e.c.t.i.on because of her.if i see d naked bodi sef,i go say madam abeg go wear dress,because d tin go dey do me like say make i vomit,stretch mark sef don full im tummy.walahi,if na me get dat wife,i no go bury my prick inside dat her hole,i no go even get erection for ten yrs.smh.may God help us

afam4eva: "It comes a time when a man shall leave his mother and father and marry a wife". This quote simply means that your parents will not be responsible for you as you're now fit to fend for yourself. if you're not then there's no use getting married just yet. Don't bring your kids into poverty.

acidtalk:

Also seen some and I know how bad it could be.

The only one I know who is enjoying his is a friend's elder brother who still feels cool staying in his father's BQ (a duplex) in Park view ikoyi.
His reasons being afterall all his other siblings are abroad and he doesn't want to leave the mansion because his parents will be bored ( in my mind I am always like "boring indeed or just being stingy).

This is a man that works with MTN and gets paid heavy.

kulyie: Everything in life is about planning.how can a couple get carried away by mushiness that they cant find an apartment before they say i do.what kind of foolishness is that.d best thing to avoid squatting with parents which will attract insults and disrespects especially when your stay is getting to long and you are beginning to be seen as a nuisance aroud is to get an apartment ready like 5 months before your weding.d couple should both contribute money and Behind it up to their taste.as a matter of fact getting where to stay and money to maintain d house is of more importance and priority than the fan fare of wedding.afterall after wedding,all d well wishers will go back to their respective pkaces and marriage will start,so the best thing to avoid all that nonesense is for both couple to have a job that can sustain them and d lil visitor that will soon b on d way and have a roof over their head instead of doing big wedding and now renting a house or looking for were to squat,it simply makes no sense.if a man allows his wife to squat with her parents from where i come from especially after wedding or early yrs in their marriage,when its getting to like two weeks or a month,its like asking for disrespect for d man,u will start hearing side talks from d mother of d woman that are u sure u r a man @ all.if u know ure nt ready to take up d responsibilities of marriage,y did u marry,infact ur wifes younger siblings will start disrespectin d man and d wife,dependin on families,some will say it out.to cut d long story short,no family member from d ladys side where i come will ever respect d man again.even if he is rich tomorow,dey wil stil remind him how he was nothing and how dey helped him cover his shame by accomodating his wife in d house.d wife sef go hearam because if she goes to d kitchen to take food,dey wil tel her to go n collect money frm her husband dat her husbands place does nt extend here

Okija_juju: As an Alusi, Elder and Spokesman for the Gods, I will advice against it. IT HARDLY EVER TURNS OUT WELL, HARDLY!

Now that said, I am not oblivious to the difficulties that could be encountered in a marriage and in some cases can drive a man to swallow his pride and fall back on his/her parents for help. I remember a friend of mine who was working with one of the Nigerian banks and then married his long time girlfriend of almost 10 years. After about 3 years and a baby girl, he lost his job and had only the wifes miserly income as the backbone for food. I remember that it got so bad that after about 1 year and 3 months, his rent expired and he started contemplating moving into his in-laws house cos it was in Port-Harcourt and would keep him close to the job market. It took the help of I and some friends to pull over half a million to rent him a smaller apartment in town for two years. Today he is working with Ecobank and doing very well.

Now this is a case of a Guy who was based in the U.S, married his wife and took her abroad. He wasnt starving, but at the same time wasnt making an insane amount of money either. So his wifes parents kept persuading and persuading him to return to Nigeria with the promise of setting him up with a god job and all that. So the guy gave in after a while and flew back to Abuja with his wife. The first few months were rosy, everybody was all smiles and laughter.. No Job was forth coming, after a while, the guys mother in-law offered one of their vacant houses in Abuja to them so that they can settle. Well, the long story short is that the boys mother-in-law lost her mind after a while and it got to the point she would even hold him by the belt of his trousers and insult him and call him names.. The boy in all this never once lost his cool. So when the embarassment got to a head, he uped and relocated to his own fathers house in another state in Nigeria.. It took him about 5 years, but now he is doing just fine.

The moral lesson here is DONT. Familiarity breeds contempt atimes. Its not healthy for the guy (in his in-laws house) and not either for the girl (in her in-laws house). I would rather suggest a loan from them to rent a house than to outrightly move in with them. No matter the situation.

acidtalk:

Also seen some and I know how bad it could be.

The only one I know who is enjoying his is a friend's elder brother who still feels cool staying in his father's BQ (a duplex) in Park view ikoyi.
His reasons being afterall all his other siblings are abroad and he doesn't want to leave the mansion because his parents will be bored ( in my mind I am always like "boring indeed or just being stingy).

This is a man that works with MTN and gets paid heavy.