Breaking up with your partner and moving on entails forgeting about the past and working towards having a better tomorrow with someone else. But ironically there're those who still find it difficult to forget or let go of their ex after the end of a relationship. They are unable to let go, in the sense that some cant help but still check on their ex once in a while. and with the advent of the internet and social media, most times you find a guy or a girl checking (more of following & monitoring) on his or her ex either on twitter or on facebook. eager to know how the other person is faring, if he or she is now seeing someone else, or married, has a new job or involved in any project. most times, they are more interested in the other person's love life. and before they realize it, they are unknowingly drawn into a competition with their ex in one way or the other.

we see some ladies doing their best to have a happy and better relationship than they had with an ex, and also be more successful than their ex in some cases. they dont want to stumble into an ex boyfriend while streking on the road, looking older or haggard, jobless or without any achievement to talk about after breaking up. and the guy (the ex boyfriend) may not even show his disappointment before her, but dont be surprised to hear him discuss or laugh about it with his friends at the office or bar. so, most times girls dont want to stumble into an ex when the going is not that good for them. they dread such an experience. a girl wants to meet her ex when she's in her own car, with her new boyfriend/fiance, looking better and more beautiful, or smelling of success and beaming like a bride to be before her ex. and not the opposite. especially meeting her ex with his new girlfriend when she cant boast of having any man in her life.

we also have guys who are caught up in this kind of game. some of them soon after breaking up with a girl, wouldn't want to meet her later with a finer, better or more successful guy by her side. or see her driving a better car than his. or when she's pregnant and married, and displaying (showing off) her wedding ring in his face (you know ladies nah). you can imagine how the guy'd feel seeing that his ex has really 'moved' on while he's still struggling to find another girl, a job or better his life. it's cos of some of these reasons, you find some people unknowingly competing with their ex, so as to not to be seen as a failure or the cause of their break-up. and it is also common among some seperated/divorced couples. sometimes, some of them (especially the men) use the excuse of going to see their kids, to check on the other person (ex wife). like knowing who she's dating, what's she's doing or how she's coping and living her life. we have women who also do the same thing. Most divorced women work their ass off in order to be successful and also have a more comfortable life than they did when they were married. some do their best to find a better partner than their ex husband. and also check on their ex by seeking and getting information about him either from their kids (if they have), friends or colleagues at work. Just to know who is doing better between the two of them...

I couldn't finish the post, but I wouldn't really make a big deal outa the situation.... Life's too complicated to give your whole heart to some random girl!!

If it gets too serious with her ex... I'll just let her go!

@marvelck u r right cos its just natural to want to b a better person than when u left ur ex.