yorubaamerican:

Yes ma'am! She was born and raised in Nigeria...Her and my son are probably the only two things that make me not regret coming to this country.

Not things...PEOPLE...Shame on me as an English teacher...LOL!

anonymous6:

I don't think you should bother yourself but to be honest Nigerians in Nigeria can tell if you are from there or not, and it you are not that's when you hear this stuff. Also they should know better based on your back ground to put that pressure on you.

Great point!

yorubaamerican:

Great point!

so you live in Nigeria permanently?

yorubaamerican:

Not things...PEOPLE...Shame on me as an English teacher...LOL!

That eba and suya had you tripping huh?

Look on the bright side....at least you can bring your family back and forth unlike some people.

It is good to be able to travel a country without feeling like you have to pass a Trig/Quantum Phy. exam!

Mrs..Chima:


Awwwww. Is she Yoruba like you? I bet your son is cute.

No. She's from Akwa Ibom...Ibibio is the tribe and he is...He really is! What part of Nigeria is your husband from?

Mrs..Chima:


That eba and suya had you tripping huh?

LOL!! Not quite...I don't eat meat. Eba? I prefer pounded yam!

I don't think this thread makes much sense.

anonymous6:

so you live in Nigeria permanently?

Only for now. I can't picture staying here permanently.

yorubaamerican:

Only for now. I can't picture staying here permanently.

oh interesting

PhysicsQED: I don't think this thread makes much sense.

I thought so too, but sometimes it's important to work with the little sense it has.

I'm a bit iffy about the poster tho. hmm

yorubaamerican:

No. She's from Akwa Ibom...Ibibio is the tribe and he is...He really is! What part of Nigeria is your husband from?

He is Igbo. How does her family feel about you being Yoruba American? Did they welcome you with open arms and treated you like their long lost son?

PhysicsQED: I don't think this thread makes much sense.

I don't think so either...I'm just getting accquainted with nairaland...My research focuses on understanding Nigerian-Americans, whatever that means, and vice-versa. Join us in the discussion...Are you Nigerian, American or do you have a Nigerian connection?

yorubaamerican:

I go back and forth from Abuja to Adamawa State. I've been to Ibadan (where my father is from), Kaduna, Bauchi, Gombe, and Jos. I've only had the chance to go through Lagos - just the airports.

@bolded. Why not call it your ancestral home and accept fully that your origin is Ibadan. This could be a hint as to why you've found it difficult to adapt to Nigerian society.

yorubaamerican:

LOL!! Not quite...I don't eat meat. Eba? I prefer pounded yam!

You don't eat meat?!!!!!! I figured you would say pounded yams.

Mrs..Chima:


He is Igbo. How does her family feel about you being Yoruba American? Did they welcome you with open arms and treated you like their long lost son?

A little bit of both; I don't think her bothers were too comfortable in the beginning but they're warming up! Since I've been here for over four and half years, I've been able to adapt very well. While there are still many things I don't know about Nigeria, I think I understand the general things needed to survive here, this has helped me with my in-laws...Spreading a lil' money around also helped...You know Nigerians love to celebrate!

Do y'all have children? How do you two go about teaching them both cultures? Has it been challenging?

yorubaamerican:

A little bit of both. Since I've been here for over four and half years, I've been able to adapt very well. There are still many things I don't know but I think I understand the general things needed for life in Nigeria...All they were worried about is did I bring dollars!

Do y'all have children? How do you two go about teaching them both cultures? Has it been challenging?

LMAO@did you bring dollars. Typical.

Matter of fact, surprisingly we do not have an issue with combining teachings of what it is necessary and we are working on a little team. He wants all boys and I am trying to throw a couple of girls in there. Although...he is Igbo American...he practices his culture/tradition and I have no issues with it. I had to go through training with the elder sisters before marriage although I knew them as friends beforehand.

If I don't remember anything I have learned....I remember not to utter, think, behave, speak, dance, or write DIVORCE.

No...it has not been challenging...my husband is Igbo American and I knew his family before we even got serious.

Mrs..Chima:


You don't eat meat?!!!!!! I figured you would say pounded yams.

Nope! No meat for me...It's unclean and unhealthy in my book...I do love fish!!

Abagworo:

@bolded. Why not call it your ancestral home and accept fully that your origin is Ibadan. This could be a hint as to why you've found it difficult to adapt to Nigerian society.

I've had no problem adapting and accepting...Being accepted by people born and raised in Nigeria is another story...The problem is, while Ibadan is my origin, it doesn't account for my full african hertiage. I do embrace Ibadan as part of my roots, it's just not the whole story! I can't change the fact that I don't fit in all the way with Ibadan/Yoruba culture - I've been there twice and I don't speak Yoruba. That still doesn't stop me from calling myself yoruba!

yorubaamerican:

I've had no problem adapting and accepting...Being accepted by people born and raised in Nigeria is another story...The problem is, while Ibadan is my origin, it doesn't account for my full african hertiage. I do embrace Ibadan as part of my roots, it's just not the whole story! I can't change the fact that I don't fit in all the way with Ibadan/Yoruba culture - I've been there twice and I don't speak Yoruba. That still doesn't stop me from calling myself yoruba!

Did your father teach you the Yoruba language?

Mrs..Chima:


LMAO@did you bring dollars. Typical.

Matter of fact, surprisingly we do not have an issue with combining teachings of what it is necessary and we are working on a little team. He wants all boys and I am trying to throw a couple of girls in there. Although...he is Igbo American...he practices his culture/tradition and I have no issues with it. I had to go through training with the elder sisters before marriage although I knew them as friends beforehand.

If I don't remember anything I have learned....I remember not to utter, think, behave, speak, dance, or write DIVORCE.

No...it has not been challenging...my husband is Igbo American and I knew his family before we even got serious.

"If I don't remember anything I have learned....I remember not to utter, think, behave, speak, dance, or write DIVORCE."

Oh my! How does your family feel about the Nigerian connection?

Mrs..Chima:


Did your father teach you the Yoruba language?

I said I DON'T speak Yoruba...Language is about interest and need. I don't really have the interest because the need isn't there; nearly everyone in Nigeria speaks English. I wish my father had taught me Yoruba, he speaks it very, very well!

yorubaamerican:


"If I don't remember anything I have learned....I remember not to utter, think, behave, speak, dance, or write DIVORCE."

Oh my! How does your family feel about the Nigerian connection?

They have no issues at all and when they call the house...they speak to him before they speak to me!

yorubaamerican:

I said I DON'T speak Yoruba...Language is about interest and need. I don't really have the interest because the need isn't there; nearly everyone in Nigeria speaks English. I wish my father had taught me Yoruba, he speaks it very, very well!

Hmm.