ibedun: Dasparrow - you are so right. Let them keep having their futureless children.

i pray to see the day children in Naija start beating up their parents for bringing them to the world knwoing they lack the means to provide them with a decent life.

NeuroBoss: Madam, you,re African and you should try and resolve it the African way-making your husband understand on your knees. Thank God food is not the bone of contention especially the ever-increasing price of garri.

#irepgarri.com

Mrs.Oyibo:
I have been married to my husband for 5 years. He is the eldest of a family of five. Even before we got married my husband always told me about his responsibility to he younger siblings and always made it clear that he would like at least one of them to join us here in the UK. I never had a problem with this and actually thought that it would be good for him to have a sibling in the same country that could help to share the family responsibility.

Finally in August 2010 his Mum, his sister and his youngest brother were granted a visiting visa. His sister came to live with us in September 2010 and his brother joined us in December 2010. My husband's Mum visited in December 2010 and stayed for one month before returning to Nigeria. In January 2011 we applied for EEA residence cards for the two siblings and these were granted in May 2011.

My husband's brother lived with us until October 2011 when we asked him to leave because he had been stealing small amounts of money from my purse, ad had also been expecting my husband and I to continue to financially support him even though he a part time job! Anyway, that matter was resolved and things are once again amicable between us and the brother. My husband's sister continues to live with us in our two bedroom house and she shares a bedroom with my daughter.

So far, so manageable.
just a simple question for you , if it was the other way round would you be complaining to the world ? i mean if they were you own family?

Fast forward to this Summer. My husband submitted a request for an EEA family permit for his mother and his remaining unmarried sister to join us in the UK. I told my husband that I was unwilling to have financial responsibility for another of his family members. He agreed and said that his Mum and his sister could stay with his younger brother and just come to visit us occasionally. He also said that we would have no financial responsibility towards his Mum and sister and claimed that this would be the taken care of by his younger brother and the sister that lives with us. I felt that this was reasonable and agreed to sponsor the application.

His Mum's visa was granted But his siter's visa was refused. His Mum arrived o. The 01st June 2012 and has been living with us since. We've been financially responsible for her since. When she arrived in London she didn't have 1 kobo to her name. For the first three weeks that she was here, my daughter had to share a room with my husband's Mum and his sister. The sister has moved out temporarily because she has secured work for the Olympic Period. however as soon as the Paralympics finish she will no longer be accommodated by her employer and will have to move back in. I don't know when my mother-in-law will return to Nigeria because We submitted an EEA residence card application to UKBA for her and they have up until the end of December to reply.

So here is the problem - I want my house back. I want to live in it with my husband and my daughter only. I am tired of living with my mother-in-law who speaks very little English. I am tired of her planning how many things she wants to buy before returning to Nigeria (with our money of course). I am tired of her asking when we will invite her remaining daughter to come and live with us. I am also tired of her moaning about how boring life in the UK is. Very very fed up.

Also feel that now that my sister-in-law is working that she should find her own place to live. After all, she's been with us for almost 2 years.

The problem is that my husband thinks that it is entirely normal that I be accepting of his family. He does not understand, or maybe chooses not to understand, when I tell him that I want control of my home.

How can I effectively manage this situation without causing a war with my husband?

Thanks!

NeuroBoss: Madam, you,re African and you should try and resolve it the African way-making your husband understand on your knees. Thank God food is not the bone of contention especially the ever-increasing price of garri.

#irepgarri.com

Truckpusher: sorry to say this,from your written grammar and your English composition you are A TYPICAL BORN AND RAISED IN NAIJA LIKE ME ...SHUT UP.READ MY LIPS...Y.O.U. B.E N.A.I.J.A G.I.R.L you no be oyibo.

DANILSA: Check this.

Mowire: @Ibedun, I believe you're least qualified to ever opine an advice on matters as this. You come across as an inhuman & arrogant person. I guess you also fed yourself from infancy through hardwork.
Man there are people out there who more intelligent & more hardworking than you are but are not rich.
You are atheist, I suppose?