salt 1:

You haven't married and you are here advising? More like a reverend father doing marriage counselling. Instead of contributing on what you haven't experienced, you should just look and learn. Just my advice!
Who says age is not a factor in marriage? The ladies who marry at a later age are often the ones who make commitments to make the marriage last. Who says that courtship guarantees a successful marriage? You can never know anybody well enough during courtship. The dynamics of the relationship also changes once it is called a marriage.
How do I know all these? I have been in an imperfect but happy marriage for more than 20 years

Dubemkelly:
ITK,u just misused ur fountain of knowledge....Wonder y peeps derive joy in complicating issues n diverting attention,nobody asked 4 ur advice dear....No matter how u c it,every marriage has deir moments of happinez n sadness,d ups n dwns....No perfect marriage,we all wrk it out 2 manage d weaknesses...There wud b a time u tink u hv got it well dat dz marriage z d best tin eva happnd n wen u gonna say damn! Dz not it....Marriage z just a course on its own

Purist:

Christ!! What's all these? Why are Nigerians so friggin' sanctimonious?! Simple question that demands a simple answer, and you go on a long meaningless rant that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the topic.

The OP has neither told us that she is in a failed marriage, nor has she sought anyone's "advice" on any matter. She's simply asking - most probably out of curiousity - for people's opinions about their marriage, and you automatically unload all manner of assumptions on her. "Love yourself", "Don't be a doormat", "Serve God", etc. Seriously?!?! This is just SO WRONG, and while you really may mean well for her, you should know that you've completely gone about it the wrong way. #JustSaying.

greall1: I go through all the post. I couldn't c the best answer for the topic.

All what I know There's no gain without pain.

kulyie: Ok,leme just summarise dis whole thing using late pst bimbo odukoyas words (my mentor and model) and now i will b speaking to d unmarried ladies,i dont have any bisness wit d married ones because dey av made their decision so dey av to live with it whether dey like it or nt.to d unmarried women please look very wel because many people fall in love with d personality but will live with their partners behaviour permanently goo or bad,therefore my sisters it will be of immense benefit if u remain single if ure nt sure of a mans character than to go in and start regretin or having feelings of regrets.in addition my sisters,a woman who is single and self fulfilled living her life for god and helping others is a million times beta than an unhappy mrs who regrets internally but does not have d nerves to open up to anybody and say i regret marrying mr a,forget all d aso ebi husband and wives wear to church or party or holding hands togeda,all dat is 'make belief'.dis is where i will stop,dose unmarried ladies dat have ears and inner eyes let dem hear what d spirit is saying to d church. (d church refers to u and i)

Basic:
CRAP! The OP asked a simple question, which demands a very simple answer as well!

Ifloxy: [b]so what are u saying in essence? That ladies should stay out of marriage because it has its own challenges.[/b]life is full of risks n challenges,dat doesn't mean we shouldn't take a step.Marriage is a beautiful thing,although it isn't always rosy.I don't regret marrying my hubby @all,that doesn't mean he is perfect

kulyie: Ok,leme just summarise dis whole thing using late pst bimbo odukoyas words (my mentor and model) and now i will b speaking to d unmarried ladies,i dont have any bisness wit d married ones because dey av made their decision so dey av to live with it whether dey like it or nt.to d unmarried women please look very wel because many people fall in love with d personality but will live with their partners behaviour permanently goo or bad,[size=18pt]therefore my sisters it will be of immense benefit if u remain single if ure nt sure of a mans character than to go in and start regretin or having feelings of regrets.[/size][/b]in addition my sisters,a woman who is single and self fulfilled living her life for god and helping others is a million times beta than an unhappy mrs who regrets internally but does not have d nerves to open up to anybody and say i regret marrying mr a,forget all d aso ebi husband and wives wear to church or party or holding hands togeda,all dat is 'make belief'.dis is where i will stop,dose unmarried ladies dat have ears and inner eyes let dem hear what d spirit is saying to d church. (d church refers to u and i)

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

J12:

People like you make me sick. Nobody asked for your careless sermon in the first place.

preciousmee: As there ever been a time in your marriage that you felt you could have been a little patient with your decision to marry your husband or wife?

cap28:

nobody takes anybody away from anyone - people leave either because they are not happy or they think they have alternative options open to them, a man who loves his wife does not simply get taken away by as you say "desperate women" that man must have already made up his mind to leave.

fittty: Hell yeah!, hell yeah!, hell yeah! f****cking right!!! **singing with drake***

stint: human beings ! they wonder if the married the wrong person . they don't wonder if they are the wrong person for their perfect spouse . Thank God am not from around here.

vanstanzy:

O thank goodness, i get to finally meet my fellow 'martian'. Dont mind these 'earthlines' and indecision.

Purist:

Christ!! What's all these? Why are Nigerians so friggin' sanctimonious?! Simple question that demands a simple answer, and you go on a long meaningless rant that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the topic.

The OP has neither told us that she is in a failed marriage, nor has she sought anyone's "advice" on any matter. She's simply asking - most probably out of curiousity - for people's opinions about their marriage, and you automatically unload all manner of assumptions on her. "Love yourself", "Don't be a doormat", "Serve God", etc. Seriously?!?! This is just SO WRONG, and while you really may mean well for her, you should know that you've completely gone about it the wrong way. #JustSaying.

obadiah777: lets face every married person is with the wrong person. first off, in marriage you are a compromised person. you can never fully be yourself again. that in itself is hell on earth. you cant live to the fullness of your ability anymore. all your choices will be compromised. all your actions you have to compromise. you have to compromise your personality. you have to compromise your desires. you have to compromise every itty bitty aspect of your life. AS SUCH YOU CAN NEVER EVER BE WITH THE RIGHT PERSON IN MARRIAGE. it reduces you by half. this becomes more obvious when the love wantin tin lust has died out and you are on routine levels. even the apostle paul said it is best for a man not to get married if he can help it because it compromises you.

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

cap28:

nobody takes anybody away from anyone - people leave either because they are not happy or they think they have alternative options open to them, a man who loves his wife does not simply get taken away by as you say "desperate women" that man must have already made up his mind to leave.

preciousmee: As there ever been a time in your marriage that you felt you could have been a little patient with your decision to marry your husband or wife?

stint: human beings ! they wonder if the married the wrong person . they don't wonder if they are the wrong person for their perfect spouse . Thank God am not from around here.

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

rokiatu:

LOL this is a bit of topic though. Nice advice.

@Topic not at all, I thank God everyday. Even in time of conflict, I still appreciate my husband. Infact thanks to him I appreciate the institution called "marriage"

People need to realize that as humans we make mistakes, we fight, we have bad moods, and sometimes we get sad, marriage is no expection, so no regrets at all doing the bad times or good.