I am a minister in my church though not a pastor per se. I got married about two weeks ago (Did Traditional then church wedding). I have been considering: the way we organise church/white wedding and the activities therein eg the rings, white gown, groomsmen, bridal train and all what the ministers does in the process of the wedding. Are they actually christian doctrines/injuctions or are we just promoting whiteman's culture through christianity.

(based on my level of knowledge of the Bible) Jesus recognised marriages but He ddnt conduct one and He ddnt prescribe how it should be conducted. Jesus went to a traditional marriage in cana (John 2:1)which was conducted according to the custom of the Jews (v.6). He "adjusted" so many laws of the jews but ddnt alter that of marriage.

The Apostles recognised marriages but there was no record of any of them conducting a marriage neither did they write anything about how christians should conduct marriage.

I cant find any biblical basis for how we conduct weddings in church today and I think that what we should be doing in our churches is marriage blessing. The intending couple should go thru the church couselling programme and if everthing is ok, the intending couple will go for the (traditional) marriage at the ladies family house, thereafter,they come for marriage blessing in the church, which gives then both church recognition and spiritual coverage.

What is your thought please.

white wedding is strictly promoting the white man's culture. I find traditional weddings to be more colorful and simpler i do not know why we make it look like its lesser than the white wedding.

I have always wantd to do traditional marriage fully and then marriage blessing. But i dd white/church wedding cos of my lady. You know, ladies are just crazy about wearing gown and ring and the whole wedding thing.

yeah we ladies like the white wedding because all our friends do it so we don't want to be the odd one out but a traditional wedding and church blessing is great and less costly i think.

WELL I AM A MILITARY CHAPLAIN WEDDED IN CHURCH AND ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO DO.

BUT WAIT!!!!

WHITE WEDDING IS NOT COMPULSORILY NECESSARY COS WE ARE ONLY PROMOTING THE WHITE-MAN'S CULTURE EXCEPT YOU SEE IT AS A WAY TO HONOUR GOD OF COURSE THERE IS NO BETTER WAY TO START A FAMILY THAN THAT.

HEY!!!!
YOU CAN WED WITHOUT SPENDING FORTUNES THAT'S IF YOUR PARTNER IS NOT A WEDDING FREAK COS LADIES AND WEDDING ARE MORE LIKE SIAMESE

Why can't couples invite their pastors to pronounce them man & wife during d traditional ceremony

I make any sense at all?

bknight: Why can't couples invite their pastors to pronounce them man & wife during d traditional ceremony

I make any sense at all?

Oversense. I have a friend who plans to do just that.

I wonder how we mix foreign culture and dogma with Christianity and still promote it as if it has Biblical basis and backing. What surprises me most is that some churches and preachers go as far as saying that marriage is not yet conducted/contracted until there is a church wedding.

May God help us.

it is white man culture

May God give us and understanding heart, that we may be able to know what is spiritual and what is cultural so we dont keep deceiving ourselves.