There's this thing I find hard to understand about the ladies, I won't call them girls becasue I want to believe they are matured.
A lady would like you and long for you to ask her out. When you eventually do (mind you, she's happy that her dream is coming true), she will still go ahead to play the "hard to get game".
A lady comes visting. After gisting and maybe seeing some films together and other things like that, you suggest you step into the inner room for some fun. She agrees and follow you in. You get there, sit on the 'maracana stadium' together. Make attempt to start the game and she says no. WHY
Why is it that their YES always start with a NO? Why do they always say yes inside and no outside? Why? Just why??

Its an attitude Prob called Indecision

Put yourself in her shoes.

forgiven:

There's this thing I find hard to understand about the ladies, I won't call them girls becasue I want to believe they are matured.
A lady would like you and long for you to ask her out. When you eventually do (mind you, she's happy that her dream is coming true), she will still go ahead to play the "hard to get game".
A lady comes visting. After gisting and maybe seeing some films together and other things like that, you suggest you step into the inner room for some fun. She agrees and follow you in. You get there, sit on the 'maracana stadium' together. Make attempt to start the game and she says no. WHY
Why is it that their YES always start with a NO? Why do they always say yes inside and no outside? Why? Just why??

Tackling ur query in two dimensions:

When u ask her out and she says no, u simply mentioned a place that doesn't thrill her. No girl will say no if you are taking her out to the finest place in town. However, dates are no only made at the finest hang-outs in town.

When you want to get it on with your girl, forget the speech. Resort to body language, and also tune ur receptors to pick up hers. Trust your hands and eyes.

Spare the Long gist, I know Naija babes as well as foreigners and the difference is tooooooooooooo clear

whitelexi:

Spare the Long gist, I know Naija babes as well as foreigners and the difference is tooooooooooooo clear

long gist indeed.
Solomon

You know nowwww, we dont like beating around the bush too much, we say it as we see it.

who u have fun with a girl that comes to pay u a visit?

cuz girls are girls!!!!!!!!!!!

If she gives in too easily without saying no at first, you will say she is easy. Either way, she doesn't win.

If I know that she's only saying no because she wants to look "hard" or "expensive" I'll feel as if I'm being manipulated. And i hate being manipulated. I like straightforwardness and sincerity but I must admit that not all men (or women) are like that. Some people just prefer to live in a slimy world of pretence.

I get your point abou those who just pretend. But sometimes it is not pretense per se. She is saying no because she is undecided as to what to do. Indecisiveness like someone described above. So at the time she says no, she really means no because she is still pondering the decision on whether to say yes or no. Maybe in her head, she is weighing the options or thinking, "Could I live iwth myself if I did something like this?" So when she finally says yes, it doesn't necessarily mean she was just playing hard to get when she said no.

we girls we just wanna have fun


when we are in love everything is new to us

exactly!!

@forgiven

A lady comes visting. After gisting and maybe seeing some films together and other things like that, you suggest you step into the inner room for some fun. She agrees and follow you in. You get there, sit on the 'maracana stadium' together. Make attempt to start the game and she says no. WHY
Why is it that their YES always start with a NO? Why do they always say yes inside and no outside? Why? Just why?

If I were the lady, I'll definitely say no, because if the above quote is a summary of "our date", forgive me that I came to visit you, then why should you want to crown it up with my cherry, i don't see any commitment from you/in our relationship? or, ladies, what do you say?

Why does having sex with a guy (because he put on some 150/200 naira home videos and gave the girl a bottle of coke) be the happiness criteria for him?

If he doesn't have it, he'll say you're playing hard to get.
If he has it, he'll say she's cheap.
If she says yes, he says she's a dog.
If she says no, she's not showing her ''love'' enough.

Puh-leeezee, stop going on cheap dates to get a girl in bed with you. Being a man is not about how you want to have sex (or have sex) but about facing life and its numerous responsibilities.

Note, no girl will stick around for long with a sex-loving guy with no potential or work.

@poster
It's an IQ thing and u likely on the low side. Sorry, like HIV ain't no cure yet.

I think what is confusing the poster is that she agreed to enter the bedroom with him, even laid on the bed with him and at the same time refused to play ball. Could be frustrating you know But I think that is ladies for you. Needs a little pampering and sweet talking.what do you think?