Honestly never in my wildest dreams did i ever think i will be in this kind of situation,and honestly i dont know how to handle it because i have never belived things like this could to me,i alwys belived such things only happen in nollywood movies.let me start the whole story like this,i am married to a lovely and very supportive wife whom i thank GOD everyday for having found,we have two lovely kids and our home is always happy me and my wife understand each other so well,anytime we have problems we quickly resolve it till date she remains my biggest fan,so you can imagine our joy one day when my junior sister called that she was coming to visit us for a week,we looked forward to her visit (if i had known i would have asked her not to come).she came on the visit but one thing i noticed was that my sister had developed an habit of complaining about people calling them all sorts of names,infact i stopped asking her about people we uded to know cause of degratory remarks about them from her,nevertheless my sister played the saint while in my house,my wife did everything to make her stay pleasant,i had even instructed my wife to make sure my sister didnt do any chores in the house throughout her visit,depite all what we did,we recieved insults and abuses back in return from my own sister.throughout her stay in my house we didnt quarrel ,we even escorted her to take transport back to her place,so you can imagine our wildest surprise when a day after she had left,she sent very abusive and unprintable insults to me on my mobile phone,she pratically insulted me,my wife and my kids calling us all sorts of names,up till today i am still trying to reach her and ask her what exaclty we had done to her,when i call her she would not pick my call,only sending abusive texts to my phone till i had to block messages from her,also she started calling up my parents and saying terrible words about my wife.but thank GOD for the kind of parents i have they saw through her,i later sent her a text that she can never scatter my family,she cannot come between me and my wife,never!!!!!!

I understand you quite well. Unhappy people always like people around them unhappy. Question is, is she married? ,how old is she? Don't allow her get to you.

richard10: Honestly never in my wildest dreams did i ever think i will be in this kind of situation,and honestly i dont know how to handle it because i have never belived things like this could to me,i alwys belived such things only happen in nollywood movies.let me start the whole story like this,i am married to a lovely and very supportive wife whom i thank GOD everyday for having found,we have two lovely kids and our home is always happy me and my wife understand each other so well,anytime we have problems we quickly resolve it till date she remains my biggest fan,so you can imagine our joy one day when my junior sister called that she was coming to visit us for a week,we looked forward to her visit (if i had known i would have asked her not to come).she came on the visit but one thing i noticed was that my sister had developed an habit of complaining about people calling them all sorts of names,infact i stopped asking her about people we uded to know cause of degratory remarks about them from her,nevertheless my sister played the saint while in my house,my wife did everything to make her stay pleasant,i had even instructed my wife to make sure my sister didnt do any chores in the house throughout her visit,depite all what we did,we recieved insults and abuses back in return from my own sister.throughout her stay in my house we didnt quarrel ,we even escorted her to take transport back to her place,so you can imagine our wildest surprise when a day after she had left,she sent very abusive and unprintable insults to me on my mobile phone,she pratically insulted me,my wife and my kids calling us all sorts of names,up till today i am still trying to reach her and ask her what exaclty we had done to her,when i call her she would not pick my call,only sending abusive texts to my phone till i had to block messages from her,also she started calling up my parents and saying terrible words about my wife.but thank GOD for the kind of parents i have they saw through her,i later sent her a text that she can never scatter my family,she cannot come between me and my wife,never!!!!!!

Arnge in paragraphs , den ïi might consider reading tru

HARDDON:


Arnge in paragraphs , den ïi might consider reading tru

While you are dishing out instructions you may want to also consider that spelling out words correctly won't kill you.

Bawss1:

While you are dishing out instructions you may want to also consider that spelling out words correctly won't kill you.

Lmaoooooo.

@OP,
Have you guys gone to check her mental health? She doesn't seem okay and is getting progressively worse. Some things in life are beyond human understanding. It is either she is very bitter about life and intesely unhappy or she is bipolar. I think she is bipolar. Tell your parents to get her help fast, this doesn't sound good. Don't take it personal.

Richard10,

Like baby_123 has said, she may be suffering from a mental illness. You people shouldn't take it lightly. It's not normal for somebody to insult a good fellow like that; there is more to it, if not mental maybe spiritual.

Is she married? In any relationship? Has she had unsuccessful relationships? What is her attitude to good news and success stories of people? All these should help your family in finding the cause of her venomous acts.

@Poster, sometimes we are selfish in the way we analyze situations around us, and end up hurting those we think we are supposed to hate in it all.

From the information you have given us here, it seems your sister is in need of your help but you are too engrossed in "loving your wife and family" to notice it. What you described above are signs of a possibly depressed soul with coupled with some other psychological problems. You said she was already "developed an habit of complaining about people calling them all sorts of names,infact i stopped asking her about people we uded to know cause of degratory remarks about them from her" so why, in your writing, do you then attempt to make the problem about you and your family?
Did you somehow expect her to suddenly stop what she was already doing because of you and your wife?? Come on now . . be human. She might be in dire need of you and your family's support right now. She might even need you all to help get her the medical help she might need before it is too late.

I suggest rather than continue to seek praises for your family, you instead call your family together and visit this issue in a more educated manner. Try to talk to her to understand what could be going on with her. It could be she is loosing her mind and you making her "the bad person" will not help her in that case.

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@Poster

You haven't really heard or realized what it was that had her throwing tantrums before coming online to wonder aloud about it. See her and hear what it is, you need to quieten her down and hear her out. If she is always cantakerous-----talk quietly to her about letting go of that. If she seems to be overdoing things, you can evaluate and watch her---if she is abnormal then get her help fast. For example if you hear her out and what she is saying the problem is is too meaningless then there is a problem somewhere (we hope there isn't).

Somehow I'd love to hear your sister's side of the story

i have tried calling her on the phone so many times to talk with her but she doesnt pick my calls and when i tried calling her with a hidden number she droped the phone as soon as she heard my voice,the texts she sent to my phone,she called my wife a "a dirty smelling woman"called my two kids who are both under 5 years stupid,called me a pig and so many unprintable words,i almost had a heart attack when i first read her texts,i just couldnt belive what i was reading.she told my mum that my wife is an evil woman and so many things,it even came to a stage i almost had problem with my wife cause i was really insiting that something must have happend between them when i was not at home,she cried her heart out that she never did anything to my sister,a day before my sister left my house she told me that my wife and i are very close so u can imagine how i felt when she started sending those texts.
ok lets say for a moment she doesnt like my wife or my wife offended her in my absensewhy insulting me and the painfull part of it all why rain curses on innocent kids?what do the kids know?is she not supposed to be an aunt to them? but one thing i thank my stars is that i am alive to witness this,what if (GOD FORBID)i was no more and ihad entrusted the care of my kids to her,that is the part that would be difficult for us to ever come back as brother and sister again,to me children are the boundary,you dont wish kids evil whether they are yours or not
If you have a problem with me or wife,what has my kids gat to do with it?i dont know where all this hatred is coming from?even my mum had to beg me to be calm over it all.

How about your mum finding out for you what her grievances are, she too vex for you -o-o. Calm down brother man, make the issue no give you hypertension. Get a go-between to go hear her out if she refuses to talk to you, that way you can make sense out of what is making her behave like that.

Some people are like that, they are not always happy seeing people especially, couple in peace and harmony, such people are embittered, they are sadists, their problems is traceable to psychology, i.e they seems to be suffering from psychological trauma, so d op needs to help her as soon as possible, so that her case will not degenerate to something else.

You have time sha. You are still trying to reason with her. Just tell her, "when you finally agree that you need mental help, contact me and I will be glad to help you." You must like a lot of stories. Don't insult or engage her before she loses it completely. This is why I steer clear away from extremely negative people, its not just a behavioral problem. Its mental and one day, they will turn on you. Verbally or physically. Tell your parents to get their child mental help.

it is very obvious your sister hates you.your wife and your kids are just victims of this hatred.ask your mother more and find the answers from her,this is the reason some people dont allow family memebrs living with them.
Having said that dont allow her make your love for your wife wane ,even if your wife had done anything to her,she should have called you personally as a brother and i am sure you would have done the right thing,for me i dont support bad wives neither bad sisters or maybe it is a woman thing between ur wife and ur sister,you know some women can hate each other just on sight but when she included you in the insults then it means something else,take it from me bro your sister hates you or she doesnt just like seeing you being happy with your wife,if that is the case,guy forget her and contiune loving your woman jare

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Poster, I guess you are just trying to vent.
But as many people have said here it could be depression or Bi-polar disorder.
I appreciate the fact that you love your family but your sister has a real problem. I have a distant relative who acts this way, the only thing that excites her is news of someones ill luck or even death, you see her face light up, when something good is said about someone she brushes it aside. So many of us avoided her till my Dad interacted with her one day.
He immediately recommended to her parents that she be sent to see a therapist. Aaty first the parents were sceptical because in Nigeria anything that has to do with Physcuatric hospitals we avoid until it getss out of hand.
This lady is happy one minute and screaming her head of the next minute, nothing rational about her outbursts, you can say the most innocent thing and she translates it and gives it shocking meaning and leads to a huge scene.
My Daddy finally convinced them to get her help, she is on drugs which regulates her moods now and there is a huge improvement.
So when you are done venting please try to get her help before she atte$pts suicide or even harms someone, it has been known to happen in extreme cases

@Poster, another suggestion here. I know you are not in contact with her but you could get your mother to help. Try get your sister on Vitamin B and quickly. Speaking from experience, given than Vitamin deficiency is near common place in many parts of the country, loading up on supplements is a good way of making sure the body continues to function at tip top shape and that includes the mind.

HARDDON:


Arnge in paragraphs , den ïi might consider reading tru

are u Ok? Do u have to quote all dat to let him know he shld arrange his word's? U re a muntular!!

Thank you all so much for reponses,yesterday she sent me more hate texts and i responded with hate texts too cause i couldnt bear it again but this morning i felt bad about it,never in my dreams did i belive i and my sister would become sworn enemies!!but like you most have suggested i will try and look for a solution(that is if she is willing).
Thank you,you guys on nairaland are the best!!!!

frankkky: Thank you all so much for reponses,yesterday she sent me more hate texts and i responded with hate texts too cause i couldnt bear it again but this morning i felt bad about it,never in my dreams did i belive i and my sister would become sworn enemies!!but like you most have suggested i will try and look for a solution(that is if she is willing).
Thank you,you guys on nairaland are the best!!!!

Is frankkky = richard10?

frankkky: it is very obvious your sister hates you.your wife and your kids are just victims of this hatred.ask your mother more and find the answers from her,this is the reason some people dont allow family memebrs living with them.
Having said that dont allow her make your love for your wife wane ,even if your wife had done anything to her,she should have called you personally as a brother and i am sure you would have done the right thing,for me i dont support bad wives neither bad sisters or maybe it is a woman thing between ur wife and ur sister,you know some women can hate each other just on sight but when she included you in the insults then it means something else,take it from me bro your sister hates you or she doesnt just like seeing you being happy with your wife,if that is the case,guy forget her and contiune loving your woman jare

It seems that you are richard10.

frankkky: it is very obvious your sister hates you.your wife and your kids are just victims of this hatred.ask your mother more and find the answers from her,this is the reason some people dont allow family memebrs living with them.
Having said that dont allow her make your love for your wife wane ,even if your wife had done anything to her,she should have called you personally as a brother and i am sure you would have done the right thing,for me i dont support bad wives neither bad sisters or maybe it is a woman thing between ur wife and ur sister,you know some women can hate each other just on sight but when she included you in the insults then it means something else,take it from me bro your sister hates you or she doesnt just like seeing you being happy with your wife,if that is the case,guy forget her and contiune loving your woman jare

frankkky: Thank you all so much for reponses,yesterday she sent me more hate texts and i responded with hate texts too cause i couldnt bear it again but this morning i felt bad about it,never in my dreams did i belive i and my sister would become sworn enemies!!but like you most have suggested i will try and look for a solution(that is if she is willing).
Thank you,you guys on nairaland are the best!!!!

Why do some people waste their time constructing stuffs to post in the forum. You can do better things with your time Mr Frankky/Richard, don't you think so?

Alas, its the OP that needs the mental help. OP, I say you are a schizo. You need to get locked up in a mental airtight facility, in strait jackets all day. From the looks of it, you are the one with the issues.

lwkmd!!!! Were ti gbe gbagi! Wetin persin no go see for this nairaland.*laughing too hard*

were ! No wonder she's waging war against you !

'I wish I can wish' she'll kill you.

You are a waste of space - am laughing so so hard - You must be a really lunatic attention seeker !!

This has to be the most believable fake story I've read here in a while.

Ah

So this is another sensationalist thread. Why do people seek for fake thrills like this? Real schizos indeed. Can those who know please tell us about the doings of Richard10 who some suspect is the OP.