hello All,

seeing that communication in marriage/relationship is very crucial,can you all help me with tips on how to keep communication lines open in my marriage ,

how do i get my man to always open up with any issues wether regarding me or any other thing? any tips at all ?

thank you

my dear, communication is very important in any relationship. without it, love can begin to turn into hatred. try and be urself and discuss anything discussable with ur man. but really the most important thing is to have a man who appreciates ur effort by reciprocating ur gestures. cos if he doesnt, u may just find that u are the only one communicating, while he's busy with his life! it can be very annoying, frustrating and discouraging and u'll end up feeling like a fool and wanting to pack up and leave. but if u'r lucky to have someone who appreciates ur effort, u will surely have a blissful r/s or marriage. goodluck.

Never bottle things up.  Express your feelings as needed without nagging or bullying.

Always ask questions if you are not sure of what is up.

Never go to bed mad.

Never assume or jump to conclusions.

Do not hesitate to say "I am sorry" when you are wrong.

When your partner is upset, show concern, listen and wait for him or to cool off.  Never pooh-pooh him

Use a sense of humor mostly without trivializing issues.

Like with children, always correct with praise and love never with violence.

Find out what works for your man--sometimes, you need to "feed" him first before you approach him.

Never engage in a shouting march in front of the kids, friends, relatives.

Lastly, even where you can never forget--learn the power of forgiveness--it the greatest gift for love!



I would like to dedicate this song to you:



THE GAMBLER-----------------KENNY ROGERS.--I love country music.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kn481KcjvMo

Go listen to it and you will find out that it is very pertinent to marriage and all relationships!

Goodluck hon'
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On a warm summers evenin on a train bound for nowhere,
I met up with the gambler; we were both too tired to sleep.
So we took turns a starin out the window at the darkness
til boredom overtook us, and he began to speak.

He said, son, Ive made a life out of readin peoples faces,
And knowin what their cards were by the way they held their eyes.
So if you dont mind my sayin, I can see youre out of aces.
For a taste of your whiskey Ill give you some advice.

So I handed him my bottle and he drank down my last swallow.
Then he bummed a cigarette and asked me for a light.
And the night got deathly quiet, and his face lost all expression.
Said, if youre gonna play the game, boy, ya gotta learn to play it right.

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.

Now evry gambler knows that the secret to survivin
Is knowin what to throw away and knowing what to keep.
cause evry hands a winner and evry hands a loser,
And the best that you can hope for is to die in your sleep.

So when hed finished speakin, he turned back towards the window,
Crushed out his cigarette and faded off to sleep.
And somewhere in the darkness the gambler, he broke even.
But in his final words I found an ace that I could keep.

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count you r money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.

In every marriage-----YOU ARE THE GAMBLER!

lol wetin be "pooh pooh" him.

great list though.

almondjoy:

Never bottle things up.  Express your feelings as needed without nagging or bullying.

Always ask questions if you are not sure of what is up.

Never go to bed mad.

Never assume or jump to conclusions.

Do not hesitate to say "I am sorry" when you are wrong.

When your partner is upset, show concern, listen and wait for him or to cool off.  Never pooh-pooh him

Use a sense of humor mostly without trivializing issues.

Like with children, always correct with praise and love never with violence.

Find out what works for your man--sometimes, you need to "feed" him first before you approach him.

Never engage in a shouting march in front of the kids, friends, relatives.

Lastly, even where you can never forget--learn the power of forgiveness--it the greatest gift for love!



I would like to dedicate this song to you:



THE GAMBLER-----------------KENNY ROGERS.--I love country music.

Go listen to it and you will find out that it is very pertinent to marriage and all relationships!

Goodluck hon'

And I rest my case o,
dearie you have heard it from the best, now go and do as you have been told,

ermm Almond, I am a bit under, badasses kicking like crazy o, I am scheduling that C-section for next week. I want Storm and Stone out

D-reloaded:

lol wetin be "pooh pooh" him.

great list though.

Meaning do not diss him!

Islander:

And I rest my case o,
dearie you have heard it from the best, now go and do as you have been told,

ermm Almond, I am a bit under, badasses kicking like crazy o, I am scheduling that C-section for next week. I want Storm and Stone out

Islander, not to worry hon'! You will be just fine.

You mean Naira and Land!

You lazy gal! Wuz kinda expecting you to go "all natural" with 'em rascals!


_{Jeeeeeeeeeest like their daddy!}