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9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Realwvn(m): 1:44pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Thinking about when you were dating should bring a smile to your face. You were young (at least younger than you are now). You had fewer pressures in your life and you could focus more time on the one you loved. If there were other important things going on, they only seemed to get in the way of your dating relationship. Now, a few (or several) years later, it seems that everything is turned around. You have more pressures with work, hobbies, social activities and less time to spend with your spouse. Your marriage seems like it gets in the way of everything else you have to, or want to do. So today, Naijanewsrave will be giving 7 tips you can really use to ignite the spark in your marriage again 1. Ignite a flame in your relationship again. If a flame seems a little too ambitious to you, start with just a spark. After implementing these tips I hope you remember what attracted you to one another back those many years ago. 2. Respect When you first got married did you ever think that you would treat your spouse as poorly as you treat your own brothers or sisters—those people you were forced to live with and knew every fault they had? Yet here you are a few years down the road and find that you treat your own siblings with more respect than you have for your spouse. Your siblings come to visit and you offer to get them something to drink. You hold in your bodily noises when they are around. You call just to chat. What about your relationship with your spouse? Do you still show them the respect you did when you were dating? If not, get back to those days when you valued your spouse more than your own family. 3. Dress nicely when you go out. Let other people know it is an honor for you to be with the one you love. Speak kindly. Listen to one another again. 4. Spontaneity Do things just for fun. Be random. Play. You don’t always have to act your age. When was the last time you invited your spouse to the back seat of your car to kiss in the mall parking lot? As a complete surprise you can arrange with your friends to take the kids for a night and you sweep your spouse off to a hotel across town. 5. Communication That word communicate is a fancy word for talk. Remember when you used to do that without having to raise your voice? Pay attention to your spouse. Intentionally put your book down when they are speaking. Listen to what they have to say. Compliment one another. Find something nice to say to your spouse. Then find nice things to say about them to other people. This honors them and communicates to others your affection for the one you love. 6. Public Display of Affection It is perfectly acceptable to hold hands in most cultures. But have you held hands lately? When my wife and I were dating we were in an environment that did not allow dating couples to hold hands. How thrilling it was each time we did get a chance to sneak in a little squeeze. Sometimes we recreate that feeling by acting like it is taboo as we hold hands underneath our Bible during church. Why do we think it is cute for teenagers to act like a married couple out in public, but somehow think it is disgusting for a married couple to act like teenagers? There should certainly be limits to what is done in public as a sign of respect to other people, but maybe a little bit of public affection would do your marriage good. 7. Dating Again Plan some time alone with your spouse. A date doesn’t need to be expensive, but it does need to be intentional. If you just go out to eat at the same place you go every Thursday evening, that wouldn’t necessarily be a date. But if you would ramp up your wardrobe, show obvious respect to your spouse and throw in a little PDA (public display of affection) you could be surprised as to how exciting the local fast food joint can be once again. 8. Gift Giving Gifts don’t have to be elaborate. It could even be as simple as a random card with a nice note about how you are thinking about them. My wife was cleaning out some files yesterday when she found some cards that we had given each other years ago. Though these gifts didn’t have monetary value, they still brought a smile to our faces as she told about some of the things we wrote to one another. A gift can be something simple, but it should be well thought out and given with purpose. 9. Studying One Another I was around an older couple recently and witnessed a hilarious conversation. The wife said something about her husband liking a certain food. He said to me that he really didn’t like it, but he tolerated it for her sake because he thought she liked it so much. She was shocked and was genuinely surprised by this revelation. She hated the food but only made it because she thought he liked it. What things are you doing because you think your spouse likes it, but you never took the time to find out the truth? Of course you can’t know until you ask them and start studying them like you did when you first met. In fact, it can be a fun game to go to an event and pretend you don’t know one another. Ask each other questions like you are meeting for the first time. You might be surprised that what you thought was true, or what may have been true 20 years ago, isn’t the case any more. I hope these 9 tips for keeping the spark alive in your marriage will inspire you to spend some quality time with the one you love this week and for many years to come. If you are still single you can bookmark this page for the future http://www.naijanewsrave.com/9-tips-for-keeping-the-spark-alive-in-your-marriage/ 25 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 1:47pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
*bookmarked* 1 Like |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Mprex(f): 1:48pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
well said |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by peeparty(m): 1:54pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
#fanofcommunication. |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by sukkot: 2:18pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
ok |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by hemartins(m): 2:18pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Nice write up. It would come in handy in few months time. 3 Likes |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by ednut1(m): 2:18pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
hmmmm leave story. marriage no be easy tin. i don dey fear self chai |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by ademolasundayd(m): 2:19pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
a |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 2:20pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
noted |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by sweetp(f): 2:21pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
nice one op |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Ask4bigneyo(m): 2:21pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
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Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Berrymoss(f): 2:22pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
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Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by EmagNig(m): 2:22pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
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Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 2:25pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Ok...what man has experienced in the hands of PDP and Jonathan in the last 16years has affected the spark.... Wetin person go do 2 Likes |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by noblegrex: 2:27pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
KashyBaby:I no fit lafffffff |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by LEOSIRSIR(m): 2:28pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
God bless you OP, am learning and still learning to have a long lasting and happy relationship soon 1 Like |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 2:30pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Mscheew, personally. I don't follow these tips because relationships come in different varieties. The rules doesn't always apply 2 Likes |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by LastProphet: 2:30pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
as much as i wish what you said will work, it doesn't just work, just get married because its the right thing to do but as per release rekindling the fire forget it. at a point marriage is a real burden but prayer and commitment can keep it going. as per the spark please forget it, human biology suggests otherwise. better keep your mind mind off sparks and face the objectivity of raising your kids, saving for retirement, building a retirement home, helping others, social responsibility, etc. take your mind off sparks because after kids the sparks are on a natural decline and it will do you good to accept it as normal 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 2:31pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
ok. |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by petuniaevents(f): 2:34pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Ver Nice OP but above all Prayer is the key. 1 Like |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by hedonistic: 2:36pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
My wife has to be my b.it.ch... That's key to maintaining the sexual spark. She can't be all about that fake 'decent married woman' posture all the time which means it is 'inappropriate' to do certain pleasurable things with her... (that I can do with fresh young side chicks outside). Nothing kills a man's libido faster than such conservative nonsense... After only a few years of marriage, your dick would no longer be capable of erection when you think of sex with her. 2 Likes |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by adesegun121(m): 2:37pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Ok |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by pbs4real(m): 2:38pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
missbronze:hmmm! Why re u always in my trousers? |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 2:40pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
good points....very important points...if we can love our siblings each passing day why cant we continue to love our husbands and wives?..that point makes a lot of sense.. 1 Like |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by bukatyne(f): 2:41pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
Realwvn: @Bolded: Absolutely.on point |
Re: 9 Tips For Keeping The Spark Alive In Your Marriage by Nobody: 2:46pm On Aug 21, 2015 |
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