i really dont intend to get married but i want to have children..so what must i do in other not to offend religion?

Does the above question even make sense to you? @Poster

If you are trying to make your own rules, what do you need religion for?

your life, your choices.

Kobojunkie: Does the above question even make sense to you? @Poster

If you are trying to make your own rules, what do you need religion for?

poster wants to eat his cake and have it back

c'mon you're getting me wrong here...i posted on this forum a while ago about my doubt of ever getting married...seeing the people around me, family, friends, neighbours. i have hardly see people who are truly happy in their marriage....the percentage of those happy with their life after 3-5 years of their wedding is just too low...the religion factor comes into play becos as a christain not getting married and having children is totally against the teachings of the bible. thats why i ask the question

Ozegbe: c'mon you're getting me wrong here...i posted on this forum a while ago about my doubt of ever getting married...seeing the people around me, family, friends, neighbours. i have hardly see people who are truly happy in their marriage....the percentage of those happy with their life after 3-5 years of their wedding is just too low...[b]the religion factor comes into play becos as a christain not getting married and having children is totally against the teachings of the bible. thats why i ask the questio[/b]n

Again, you want to make our own rules, why do you need Christianity then? If Christianity says NO to what you are trying to do, doesn't common sense tell you that means you will probably have to drop Christianity completely so you can follow your own rules? Is this really hard to figure out?

Kobojunkie:

Again, you want to make our own rules, why do you need Christianity then? If Christianity says NO to what you are trying to do, doesn't common sense tell you that means you will probably have to drop Christianity completely so you can follow your own rules? Is this really hard to figure out?

You ain't helping

Ozegbe:
You ain't helping

How exactly do you need to be helped here?

Kobojunkie:

How exactly do you need to be helped here?

dont really know! but i was kind of hoping to get a well thought out advice from someone. Maybe you need to think about my post very well and get back to me.

Ozegbe:
dont really know! but i was kind of hoping to get a well thought out advice from someone. Maybe you need to think about my post very well and get back to me.

Advice on what? How you can re-write the Bible, and Christianity as a whole, to fit your life-style of choice?

Aww how I wish men could get pregnant. Women with your issues just go to the sperm bank, and voila baby surfaces.

You already know that your religion doesnt exactly support having children outside matrimony and you want to take the course and still not want to "offend" religion?
What's more important to you?
What your religion dictates or what you want?

It's your call OP , really nothing in life comes easy, everybody's just going with the flow and making the best out of life .... as per marriage Whatever rocks your boat but if you're willing to share opinions and decisions and responsibilities with another person from different background ( hubby) , then go for it but if not , think again

@op go and adopt.

you can do anything you want, as long as the other party know and understands fully the terms and conditions. Dont con anyone into your lifestyle.

There is a way, I dont think Ifa religion objects to what you want

or better still start your own new religion and make it a law.

But your current question barely makes sense, Its like asking how can I drive 100miles/hr on a road that states 65m/hr without offending the law

if tuface and k solo could do it, why cant you.

all you need is to not use a condom, find women, etc etc.

btw are you rich, or who pays for the children's expenses.

To me, its like you are avoiding the responsibility that is associated with wedding ceremony.

May i ask, is d woman(ur baby mama) living with u or not?
Who will be responsible for d care of d children?
If u are a woman, will u like to be treated like that?

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Ozegbe: c'mon you're getting me wrong here...i posted on this forum a while ago about my doubt of ever getting married...seeing the people around me, family, friends, neighbours. i have hardly see people who are truly happy in their marriage....the percentage of those happy with their life after 3-5 years of their wedding is just too low...the religion factor comes into play becos as a christain not getting married and having children is totally against the teachings of the bible. thats why i ask the question

Dear Ozegbe,

seeing many unhappy marriages around you should NOT be the reason to give up on marriage.

Who knows? Maybe YOUR marriage will be happy.

I understand why the idea of marriage is not desirable for you but you are forgetting HOW HAPPY some married couples are. I'm sure that the happiest single on earth cannot be as happy as a very happy couple. I have read that happily married people are healthier and tend to live longer. Isn't that something? Also, children who grow up with BOTH parents, in a nice and happy home, tend to develop much better. These are two good reasons to NOT give up on marriage EASILY.

All I'm saying is TRY to have a happy marriage. If it doesn'T work out, it doesn't work out. God will not send you to hell if you fail a marriage. That doesn't make you an evil person but it will possibly give you the children you want. Even if they have to grow up with divorced parents, you can still be the best parents ever. I neither think that OUR LORD would send you to hell for having children without marrying if you are else a good person. However, I think you could a least try to grow you and your children a happy family, which I think, is the best and most precious thing in the world if successful. So just set yourself a goal and give it a try. You may win

I wish you the best.

Carefreewannabe

Duplicate post!

Callotti: Duplicate post!

Please point to the other thread. Thanks

Ozegbe: c'mon you're getting me wrong here...i posted on this forum a while ago about my doubt of ever getting married...seeing the people around me, family, friends, neighbours. i have hardly see people who are truly happy in their marriage....the percentage of those happy with their life after 3-5 years of their wedding is just too low...the religion factor comes into play becos as a christain not getting married and having children is totally against the teachings of the bible. thats why i ask the question

it is not against the teachings of the bible,i have not seen anywhere in d bible that says you must get married,its a societal necessity and if you dont want to get married,but have kids thats cool,there are baby mamas out there and there are surrogate mothers out there too.afterall jesus was never married,yet he fulfilled his ministry,paul was never married,he fulfilled his ministry to,stephen,moses,etc,d list goes on,dont let society or peoples opininions stop you from doing whatever u want to do afterall whether u do it or not,people will still give both constructive and useless criticisms just because they want to talk,o i forgot,oprah winfrey isnt married,yet she's fulfilled as well.u better live your life o and make your own rules o

Ozegbe: c'mon you're getting me wrong here...i posted on this forum a while ago about my doubt of ever getting married...seeing the people around me, family, friends, neighbours. i have hardly see people who are truly happy in their marriage....the percentage of those happy with their life after 3-5 years of their wedding is just too low...the religion factor comes into play becos as a christain not getting married and having children is totally against the teachings of the bible. thats why i ask the question

it is not against the teachings of the bible,i have not seen anywhere in d bible that says you must get married,its a societal necessity and if you dont want to get married,but have kids thats cool,there are baby mamas out there and there are surrogate mothers out there too.afterall jesus was never married,yet he fulfilled his ministry,paul was never married,he fulfilled his ministry to,stephen,moses,etc,d list goes on,dont let society or peoples opininions stop you from doing whatever u want to do afterall whether u do it or not,people will still give both constructive and useless criticisms just because they want to talk,o i forgot,oprah winfrey isnt married,yet she's fulfilled as well.u better live your life o and make your own rules o