Understanding Today's Relationships.
My ears now itch whenever i hear guys complaining about how materialistic girls SEEM TO BE. It tells me that so many folks do not really understand what having a girlfriend in our today world entails.

Now im laughing my ass off as i write this
cos i can see the ripples its gonna cause...

Almost every guy is in search of
A woman who would love him for WHO HE IS
and not
WHAT HE IS.

They just dont get it.
It is not possible for someone to love you for who you are..... IMPOSSIBLE !!!

In philosophy,
who you are is your NOUMENA
while
what you are is your PHENOMENA.

The "noumena" is hidden from the grasp of the human mind.
All we see and know about ourselves and people is the PHENOMENA.

And what is our phenomena ?

*Your kind of job
*If you re a graduate or not
*Your family background
*Your earning power
*If you re a car owner
*If you re handsome
TO MENTION A FEW..

Your Noumena include;
* How lucky your star is, both present and future
* Your life span
* The personalities of your unborn children
* How wise you truely are, not how wise people think you are
* How healthy you are
*How much of an evil we carry in our minds, that is, How good and bad we really are * Our past lives
TO MENTION A FEW..

Now do you see how difficult it is for someone else to know who you are ?

By the above,
some of us dont even know who we are.
YES indeed !!

So coming back to relationships,
we see that women are only after the phenomena.
And do you blame them ?
Oh no, by now you shouldn't.

If you dont have a car and maybe you re managing a low income job, and you re dating a beautiful queen.
And on top of it,
you find it difficult to buy her cream, give her bulk money for her hair-do and help her sometimes financially. But in the long run when a car-owning-richer guy comes her way to give her all these and more, WHAT WOULD YOU REALLY EXPECT FROM HER ?

The truth has been told,
ROMANCE without FINANCE oftentimes turns out to be NUISANCE... Lmao

Sticking to reality, we ve realised that Relationship is not for broke guys. If you re broke, dont seek to have a girlfriend please.
Lest you experience something that would make you hate women forever. And you ll only be hurting yourselves and other innocent girls. Especially, In a time when boyfriends are now expected to completely TAKE CARE OF THEIR GIRLFRIENDS.

So do not be offended when ladies ask you,
WHAT DO YOU DO FOR A LIVING ?
That question is not a joke. Lol

I can hear someone yell,
MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING.
But then, the book of Ecclesiastes 10:19 says that MONEY ANSWERETH ALL THINGS.

After God almighty,
you see MONEY.

Therefore, dont ever under-estimate something that would make an old man to bow and call a young man like CANICE DIM, Sir !!! Lmao
- MONEY.

It is indispensable in relationships.
It is equally indispensable in marriages.

It gives power to the weak.
It bestows virtual wisdom to the foolish.
When acquired in an evil way, the acquiree does not know rest.
Yet,
they say it is the root of all evil.

Finally,
it is true that some women can love you truely without money.
But know it that Erotic Love does not last forever.
IT HAS AN EXPIRY DATE.
Infact, the cure for erotic love is Marriage.
Married men would explain that better. Lol
Only money can postpone this expiry date that goes with Erotic love and even keep extending it to the furthest possible time.

As a goodbye wave, i say . . . Shalom !!

But always remember,
If You Dont Take Care Of Her,
Someone will....

there is no romance without finance....

I read half of it and stopped.
I am tired of the topic dating and money.
Guys, not every woman thinks the same way.
When my brother was a student and didn't have much money, his BEAUTIFUL girlfriend didn't complain.
When my ex had financial problems, I didn't complain. I was trying to help as much as possible.

There is more to life than moni moni moni.

It's important you're willing to work hard so that you'll be able to take care of the family when your children are little because during that time your wife will have to stay at home but as long as you're dating it's NOT your responsibility to provide for MISS LAZY.

My opinion.

Have a lovely weekend.

Hmm...all these to prove a point? Ogologo akuko