engrtee: More responsible

kulyie: I am not yet a mother but i'll talk about my girlfriend.before she became a mother she would spend so lavishly on clothes,jwellries,shoes and hair accesories.she was always conscious of her looks and very fashionable.she had a beauty saloon and whenever nursin mothers come and their babies vomit or defecate,she would give them back their money that she cant do their hair again,they should find somewhere else to do it.she was always so touchy about kids messing up her clothes or urinating on her rug at home.when she gave birth i saw another different aisha.this girl will bring out her breast in the public and breastfeed her baby openly and i was like this isnt the aisha i know i said have you forgotten those days where you told your neighbour to come and carry her infant son for urinating on her bed and also gave her the bedsheet and told her not to bring her son to her house again,she said well she understands better now,she said she doesnt know how she will explain it but when i give birth,ill be more receptive with other peoples kids and even yours because you know the pain other mothers felt in birthing the child.

kulyie: I am not yet a mother but i'll talk about my girlfriend.before she became a mother she would spend so lavishly on clothes,jwellries,shoes and hair accesories.she was always conscious of her looks and very fashionable.she had a beauty saloon and whenever nursin mothers come and their babies vomit or defecate,she would give them back their money that she cant do their hair again,they should find somewhere else to do it.she was always so touchy about kids messing up her clothes or urinating on her rug at home.when she gave birth i saw another different aisha.this girl will bring out her breast in the public and breastfeed her baby openly and i was like this isnt the aisha i know i said have you forgotten those days where you told your neighbour to come and carry her infant son for urinating on her bed and also gave her the bedsheet and told her not to bring her son to her house again,she said well she understands better now,she said she doesnt know how she will explain it but when i give birth,ill be more receptive with other peoples kids and even yours because you know the pain other mothers felt in birthing the child.

zayhal: I didn't use to pay much attention to children around me, was rather impatient with them but now, I pay attention to every child that comes my way. I listen to them and pay a lot of attention to their needs even if I may not be able to satisfy those needs.

I was very quiet. I could decide not to talk a whole day. But now, for where? I talk and shout all of the time.

Freiburger: Taking lesser risk in whatever i do, coz someone is counting on me somewhere.

greatgod2012:

dt is exactly how many of us ladies are, by d time your kids start coming, u will understand better, but on d issue of flaunting bosoms openly, noooo, i dont do that, after 3 kids, no one can claim to have seen my bosms, except my hubby and my kids, i use nursing covers when im in public, and its even rare, unless very necessary to attend parties while nursing baby. So, talk to your friend to have more privacy as regards openly bossomfeeding in public. That is d essence of this thread........to learn from each other, to exchange ideas.........
Thanks.

kulyie: yeah,thanks dear.lol.i have told her to stop bringing out her breast in public but i for one i'm always irritable when i sit near nursing mothers and even in church.when they start crying,releasing catarrh,throwing buiscuits all over the floor,it pisses me off but i try to suppress my irritation,however if they start messing the place up and want to start staining my dress or touching my hand bag,that is when i get agressive.infact when i wear white,pink or any sensitive cloth i dont sit near nursing mothers.when i went to a wedding party,a child of like 3 was drinking fanta and the fanta was spilling all over his clothes,i ignored it but wen the child wanted to spill fanta on me i dragged the child to his mother,and the mother was like couldn't you help me clean up his mouth and body,i told her that you know i came to the party to babysit your son,she was now said in yoruba,you ladies of this days you act like you wont be mothers someday and of course i didnt hesitate to reply her that if you know you cannot take care of the child i dont know why you brought him to seyis wedding and i walked away.the thing is that i dont like kids messing up around me.the mere fact that dirts irritate me is what wont even make me not get irritable with nursing mothers nursing babies carelessly around me

greatgod2012:


hhhhhmmmmm....interesting.....
Im sure when d kids start coming, you will have other stories to tell, just like me.......may God spare our lives.

kulyie: lol,amen o.but wait o.men are not contributing,why na? Are there no fathers in the house?

greatgod2012: Let us share experience together, let us learn from one another, let us exchange ideas with one another, as regards parenthood. What has being a father or a mother(parenthood) changed about you?

As for me, before i became a mother, i spend anyhow, but now, not like so again, i now plan well b4 i spend, taking into cognizance that, emergency can spring up on d kids anytime and i wont like to leave everything for my hubby.
Next, before i became a mother, i can go to bed as early as 5/6pm, but now, who born me, when a lot of things are laid down for me to take care of, i cant believe i can be sleeping at d time i use to sleep now.
Again, before i became a mother, i was extremely neat to d extent of not wanting to have nursing mothers as visitors, because of d fear that d baby will mess up my room, but now, im more tolerant, its not that im no more neat, but i never believed i could tolerate what im tolerating with my kids and other pple's kids now.


As for hubby, before he became a father, once he determine that hes not going to spend a certain amount of money, there is nothing that can actually make him change his mind, if you like, bring heaven down, na so so look he go dey look you, but now, hes no more like that, he always want to satisfy his kids, d4, no special money he cant spend on d kids, especially when they are sick.

Pls, share yours, what has parenthood changed about you, be it positive or otherwise......let us learn from each other.
Thanks.

Flyboy Zee: I love children from the onset and even hi-fived children I see on the kerb walking home from school, while extending thumbs-up to others. I had no qualms hugging biscuit-eating, chocolate-nibbling or fanta-drinking children while wearing my best and most expensive suit on my chrismas shirt. You know what I mean!

So when my son arrived, it didn't change much for me since I was already used to playing with kids in the airports, bus stops, motor parks, schools, churches, markets, malls, stores, mama puts or where ever I meet them. I even allow some to donkey-ride me with no qualms. But, I noticed that I have become less quarrelsome and domineering. I now take everything je je le, no matter what happens in the house, I don't shout again. I just hold my wife's hand and drag her into our bedroom jocularly and then tell her how I feel. If na before, I no care whether na inside market, I go just raise my voice hala her like agbero wey dey load motor for park. I don't want my children growing up to become bullies and getting rude.

In all, I think becoming a father has made me more tolerant, patient and even more friendly with a new outlook to life that my time don pass and I have to prepare the young ones for their own time.

Lagos_Boi: I hate to stop by when coming home or going out, especially having a lylon or bag on my hands. I use to go out galant and back home galant but now i behave like housewives now, coming home and stopping by at different places buying this and that, imagine my daughter asking me to buy her local chicken that she loves to have them around and she kept disturbing for that, i had to go to agege market looking for hens and cocks to buy for her. I can't imagine myself doing that before but i enjoy doing it now, I can do anything to make my kids happy.