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Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by busolayemi: 11:00pm On Jan 31, 2013 |
I need suggestions as pa wat colours to use for ma trad weddin...any idea pls |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by whitefairy(f): 11:06pm On Jan 31, 2013 |
Babe u yab! Whaaaaaaaat!ur sis in law slap u twice u dey look,abeg u f:uck up big time.som1 u shud hav given d beating of her life,afta dat cari her go t-junction go give her beta community cleansing by flogging her 41 strokes,u com here com dey complain,abegi! |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jan 31, 2013 |
Op, are you married to your husband alone or you are married into the family? I guess you are a potential mother in law and a mother is always a mother more especially if she has a son. Now, you are depriving her of the love of his SON by owning him all to your self. We men tend to look after our parent especially our mothers when we are still single but when married, the support to family naturally slow down. Are you blocking the little flow to mama? Are you applying the western method of marriage in your home against the overwhelming traditional mindset of the average African woman like your mother in-law? Make her believe she is in control by doing those things her son use to do for her when he was still single all by yourself. The reason why they are fighting and stealing from you is because they believe you are sitting and squandering their SON's money whereas you might actually be earning your money. Tomorrow might be your turn to be a mother in-law but what puzzles me is how come majority of mothers-in-law is general term evil by their supposedly daughters-in-law nowadays? Can't you female folks hold a meeting and thrash this re-occurring problematic problem? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by ferhyntorlah(f): 12:32am On Feb 01, 2013 |
happynwa: This your suggestion is kinda funny sha; for how long will she keep hiding her things? Too much eye service and trying to please people inorder to be in their so called "good books" lead to the situation the poster is in right now. Na your husband I blame; na him cause all these katakata. These wouldn't have happened if he had laid out the rules of conduct on how his people should behave to his "immediate family". Yep I said it-immediate family because father, mother and siblings have become "extended family" once he starts a family. My mother told my brother that the success of his marriage to his wife lies in his hands. |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by ferhyntorlah(f): 12:43am On Feb 01, 2013 |
pattybf: Mrs, you no get rival! |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by Nobody: 2:16am On Feb 01, 2013 |
alakori:Your own big.....o.So na your first name abi make dem dey call you aunty be your problem?I was thinking your fuse was with the stealing and slapping.You must be one of this modern day tiny leg girls that was fortunate to get married.In most Nigerian cultures no matter how old your sister-inlaws or Brother-inlaws maybe younger to you U have to greet them no matter what and not the other way round.Your submission tends to make you look alittle bit innocent but i can stake my head you are not totally innocent because you did'nt tell us the whole story.Ignore the your trouble making inlaws not by keeping malice but keeping them at arms length.Dont mind if she calls you your name because i have never seen GTBank give money to one because of greetings or being called aunty or uncle |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by Nobody: 7:00am On Feb 01, 2013 |
Ujujoan: Lock your sister-in-law up for assault? That's if you don't value your home and your husband. Its things like this that makes them deal with you if your husband dies. Instead talk to your husband to confront his sister. Your going there to confront her wasn't even proper. Your husband is the link to his family. You can't handle his sister better than he can. If you love and value your home, always be at peace with your in-laws and let your husband do the fighting on your behalf. You stay out of it You want to send your sister in law to Jail and you expect to still sleep peacefully in your husband's house. What a joke! |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by Nadoson: 7:07am On Feb 01, 2013 |
alakori: Please nairalanders I need your advice. I am married to a man who is the first son of seven. I am older than all his siblings. One of his sisters was a frequent visitor to our home. I feel I did my best to make her feel at home. For instance I never asked her to do any house work to help me because I feel it is my home and I would do my house work anyway even if she was not around. I allowed her complete freedom in the kitchen to dish her own food and eat whatever she wanted.Madam, Aunt, i hav a litl qeustn 2 ask u. What was d name givin 2 u wen u were born? If Aunty, daa, mummy, sister den dnt take dem in but if a name minus title lik aunty, den 4gt it. |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by Nobody: 7:22am On Feb 01, 2013 |
Pele OP. I would have started with blaming you for crossing tribes to marry, giving too much liberty to this girl from the beginning and even being too familiar with your erratic in-laws. Now that is water under the bridge. Next step is to reduce your familiarity with them; no more visiting them on vacation( yeah, best thing), if your path ever crosses with your sister in-law greet her first and don't wait for the reply, avoid seeing your mother in-law too( she is indeed the drama queen) and all will be well. Still why would you marry the first(son) of seven children from an Igbo family? Don't you know you have married the DADDY of that family niyen? Once the drama of respect has calmed, be prepared for another dimension entirely. You better buckle up. |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by olekubaby: 8:35am On Feb 01, 2013 |
My dear sister, one thing i noticed we women do at the start of our relationship is permmiting/allowing what we should reject outrightly because we want to be accepted. i will say forget abt the name calling/adding aunty or mama(your child) name) beat her at her game and be extra nice to her.Any time she greets you, answer by saying MY DARLING SIs how are you, by so doing you checkmate her unruly behaviour. full stop. Your hubby will later commend you on your matured behavior. Marriage has different stages and diff experiences, the way you handle them has to do with the people involved. FOR STEALING,get a reliable safe to keep your jewelry. underbed is not ideal. God bless you as u make amend to work out your relationship with your inlaws. It wont be nice to be at logger heads with any of them. |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by drnoel: 8:43am On Feb 01, 2013 |
LastApostle:That would only work if u, ur wife and ur sister (even if she is the ada) are within the same age bracket. Since that is not the case, since ur wife is even 7 years older than ur own sister. It changes a lot of things especially when ur sister has been taking things belonging to your wife without asking (if u notice I thing want to call it stealing although that is what she did). |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by bukatyne(f): 9:05am On Feb 01, 2013 |
LastApostle: Op, are you married to your husband alone or you are married into the family?A mother that is not interested in letting her son be should as well marry him. Do you know that a lot of these MILs have daughters? How many of them that trouble their sons' wives trouble their daughters' husbands? Were the daughters not helping the mothers b/4 they married? When most mothers transferred the love they should feel for their husbands to their sons, why won't they start competing with their sons' wives? How many FILs disturb their DILs? The DIL should make the MIL feel in control of what? where? 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by daliki: 11:51am On Feb 01, 2013 |
Hmmm...wonders( will never end. Regardless of culture,yoruba or Igbo, any woman who marries one's elder brother must be accorded d respect u do that brother! For Christ's sake, where r we throwing culture? Not to even talk of a dashing "7year" age gap! Crap! M sure that in the 1st place ur husband's family ddnt want him to marry a non-igbo woman,hence d "ill-treating" from d MIL/SIL. But OP, not to worry,2 wrongs dnt make a right,if she decides to call u by name and her brother does not deem it fit to reprimand her,just take it as it is: greet her&let it not bother u d way she addresses u(she's a potential wife soonest too)a 100fold of what she does to u will be meted out to her by her own in-laws too!! D law of Karma! Most importantly, speak wth ur husband and make mutual decisions as to how to relate and handle his family. Under d culture,ur SIL should NEVER hit u,neither should ur husband hit his sister because of u, but as man and wife, u should register ur displeasure within d family over what d girl did& work towards its "not recurring". D onus lies on ur husband to stamp his feet as to how his wife should be related to! Does she go into ur bedroom or how does she have access to ur goods4sale?? Ur bedroom is strictly for u and ur hub and I don't think securing it should be an offence!! Ur MIL should know that this daughter of hers goes into a man's house someday to occupy a position like urs in their family and how ill she feel if she's treated d way they are doing u! Need I say mo' |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by thimbook2(m): 1:13pm On Feb 01, 2013 |
@Alakori U're perfectly right Bitchslap da ho; weight 4her 2come around when yo man aint home [cos i suspect he so gay he acting like a dickless fool]; wait fo him to be out, then pick a fight &beat up tha biatch so bad she walk with a limp...that'd teach tha thievin ho ahm sorry, cali chiqs aint big on therapy, if it was here, that bitch's ahss'd be fried! |
Re: My Sister In Law Slapped Me by jaydude(f): 12:55am On Feb 24, 2013 |
Geomac: You got two slaps from your SIL and you did not do anything? You should have slapped her 3 times. Was your husband there when she slapped you or he came after you have been awarded two resounding slaps? Anyway, it can not happen to my wife. You are a MAN!!! |
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